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Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by EriMma1: 5:20pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
There's this person I brought into my line of job. When I brought her in, I wanted her to learn the job very well for like 6 months or a year before she can launch out to get her own clients and be on her own but she left three weeks after following me a few times. She felt she has gotten the hang of the job and started getting her own clients and has been on her own since last year. I overlooked all that. She then started calling me along the line to teach or show her somethings on the job to which I refused because she left of her own accord knowing full well she has not learnt all there is to learn. Now, there was a place I submitted my proposal letter and after they called me. We had a chat and after a good bargain, they told me to resume the following week. Two days to resumption, they called and told me to hold on. So I felt they got a better bargain. It pained me and I told this person all that happened and what I charged them. After that, I got two other clients who paid the same amount I charged the one that flopped. So I used those ones to console myself and moved on but was still hoping that they would get back to me someday. Fast-forward to last week. This close pal of mine I trained on the job told me she got a call. In fact she went to that same place I told her I lost an opportunity and submitted a proposal. They now called her and she offered them lower charges and she was given the job. At first I felt stabbed because she knew about my ordeal with the same company. I just chose not to discuss it further. Ok, last year, I confided in her that I want to review my charges with my old clients. Like those I've been with for 4 , 5 years. Today, she called saying she reviewed her charges too with her clients. O boy! Because I reviewed, you too review? I mean something she started last year, she's already reviewing just because I told her I did and my clients have responded to it. These are clients I've had for years and you've only had yours for a few months, cos she started mid last year and she's already increasing fees. Is that how things are done? Anyways I didn't try to warn her of the implication of such act. Now, I feel this person is just trying to compete with me and I'm thinking it's high time I start concealing somethings from her. What do you think? Is it safe to continue divulging my plans to this person or am I overreacting? 23 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by madridguy(m): 5:24pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
Believe me you are not overreacting neither she is a bad person. Just have this at the back your mind, Water wey person go drink no go flow pass you. 198 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by Nobody: 5:28pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
You are not smart and you don’t learn from your mistakes, I guess you are this vulnerable because it’s a woman involved. Keep divulging your plans to her, you can as well save up your capital in her bank account. 517 Likes 25 Shares |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by EriMma1: 5:31pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
madridguy: Hmmm... I'm trying not to see her as a backstabber but she keeps doing things that make me suspicious of her. Now the clients are telling her the letter of increment came in late. These are the things I would have taught her about the job if she had stayed a few months with me but she said I was making too much and giving her little. This is someone who didn't pay for the training she was getting o still she was busy calculating how much was coming in and how much was getting to her. That was why she left out of annoyance and had been trying to compete with me in every way. Im shocked. 20 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by Nobody: 5:31pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
madridguy: But also remember, that unless it's by grace or miracle, as the water dey flow come, you gaz use your sense and ability hustle for the water make e reach you. 35 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by BMathew: 5:33pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
You have your life to live so also your friend. Forgive her and move on, then move in silence. If you're not looking for competition or validation from anyone, is there any reason for you to disclose some vital information about your job with her? Stay humble and be yourself. 57 Likes |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by EriMma1: 5:34pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
peepydelano: You won't understand. |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by madridguy(m): 5:35pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
I perfectly understood you bros. As a human, I will feel the same but be rest assured she will come back to her senses and also to apologize. Just be doing your business, your own customers will still be yours. EriMma1: 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by EriMma1: 5:36pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
BMathew: She's more like a family so in a bid to know how every one is faring in business and life generally, we end up disclosing somethings to each other but I don't know why she uses mine against me. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by EriMma1: 5:37pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
madridguy: Ok, bro. Thank you. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by Oloki: 5:58pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
Why do you keep telling her your mind? Can't you keep it to yourself? She is riding on your ideas to get what she wants. Since she is the manipulative type, put her at arms length. It is obvious she is after her own interest. 80 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by brain54(m): 6:06pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
Op you talk too much… Keep your cards close to your chest! Or what’s the essence of you telling your plans? 68 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by Rexymania(m): 6:08pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
What's the nature of the job? 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by JeffreyJunior: 6:12pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
You shot yourself in the leg by sharing your plans, your strength and your failures with her. Must you tell someone your every move in this world where people now take advantage of each other? In my profession, there are certain skills I still keep to myself. I've instructed in several training sessions and lots of people say I'm a good instructor but I still manage to keep those skills private because I acquired them privately. I know no one is indispensable but giving them away in a platter will take away the little leverage I still manage to have over some issues. Learn from your mistakes and good luck. 55 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by dochenaj: 7:04pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
This post reads like a redacted page. So much obfuscation. Anyway, do as you deem fit. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by EriMma1: 7:07pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
Oloki: She's just like a family and a close confidant. I'll learn to keep things to myself. Thank you. JeffreyJunior:Thanks for this. I've learnt a thing from your contribution. I'll adjust. Thank you. Rexymania: Educational Consultancy. brain54: Ok. I've heard. I've learnt my lessons. 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by EriMma1: 8:03am On Jan 17, 2023 |
Thanks everyone for your wise contributions. Ill make necessary adjustments and learn to be more discreet henceforth. 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by Lance03: 9:31am On Jan 17, 2023 |
Don't tell such person ur plans 1 Like |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by Richy4(m): 11:15am On Jan 17, 2023 |
Honestly, I don't see any thing wrong here ...You are the master, and she is learning from you.. If u have a review, she too will follow the master's footsteps... The only Issue I believe you were struggling with was because you were not so grounded yet in your business or let's say you have not arrived yet... If not, the kind of good heart I believe you have, u will not be scared if she picks the crumbs under your table..I believe she did not even pay to learn from you... As some said, just reduce the information shared, keep casting your net into the Ocean with hope that you will catch a bigger fish... With that, you won't see her as a competitor but a girl you trained who can pick left overs that you overlooked.. Good luck buddy.. 14 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by Divay22(f): 11:21am On Jan 17, 2023 |
EriMma1:What are you doing, if i may ask please? |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by Nobody: 11:23am On Jan 17, 2023 |
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Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by Esales(m): 4:29pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
I suppose wipe you USB cord before replying you Guy, she obviously sees you as a competition which is why she refused to be under you even when she only spent 3weeks in training. Do you think she has forgotten that you refused to reach her some stuffs after she left you? Open your eyes bro. Meanwhile, to dey browse for interesting posts no dey Taya you? Save yourself the stress and time, Join my WhatsApp TV for hilarious content right on WhatsApp. Check my signature for the phone number. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by seanwilliam(m): 4:29pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
Be five steps ahead |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by Aloof: 4:29pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
At first I felt stabbed because she knew about my ordeal with the same company. I just chose not to discuss it further. Your ordeal with the company is non of her Business, its an open world out there, and free for all. Do you feed her? Do you pay her bills? Why feel stabbed? You sounded like a woman on that, are you a woman? That's childish.
She's not competing with you, she's just a fast learner. Aren't you the one that taught her how to? Why feel sad if she follows your footsteps? A good learner is the one that learns from people, not the one that sits and wait for experiences to teach them. If you want to start concealing things from her, that's fine, you don't owe her your business secrets, neither does she owe you the way she wishes to do the business. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by MANNABBQGRILLS: 4:29pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
TheGoodAmerican:Listen to the good American advice. He's said it all. 7 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by ImoleNaija: 4:31pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
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Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by LordReed(m): 4:31pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
EriMma1: Why are you telling your business information to a competitor? You are being naive is what is happening here. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by SirJerrie(m): 4:32pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
A WISE MAN ONCE SAID: "LOOSE LIPS SINK SHIPS" "Those who talk too much expose themselves to danger." -Proverbs 14:23 LEARN TO KEEP YOUR BUSINESS TO YOURSELF!!! THAT'S THE ONLY ADVICE YOU NEED 10 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by Sheistoopretty(f): 4:33pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
I didn't know it will be dis long I don't have time to read all dis please |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by Sweetvie: 4:33pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
EriMma1:You spill too much for a guy That's your problem 5 Likes |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by Dbegining: 4:34pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
My own question is one, not two. All these things you did for this girl and according to you is not your babe, can you do the same for your fellow guyman?. Guys can be very funny 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Overreacting Or Is This Person Wrong In What She Did?? by HydraFeeds(m): 4:34pm On Jan 17, 2023 |
Most people you help are in competition with you. I’m talking from experience. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
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