No long thing, as seen from the question. Straight to the point.

How long should a lady stay in a relationship before asking her partner for money?
Immediately, a week later or months?

Most guys do pretend they don't spend a dime on a girl they are dating. It's a big LIE!

After we have your name and your stats

If she has to ask first, then she's arrived at the wrong destination.

Help her to draft a CV or review the current one. So she can get a job.

HudaIna:



After we have your name and your stats

Why do u look like Hausa witch

5 minutes after I cum.

Help her to draft a CV or review the current one. So she can get a job.[quote] you mean computer village

Easyincome24:
■No long thing, as seen from the question. Straight to the point.
How long should a lady stay in a relationship before asking her partner for money?
Immediately, a week later or months? Most guys do pretend they don't spend a dime on a girl they are dating. It's a big LIE!

1. Why do said men date women of economic status that is below theirs? It is so they can have power and control in such relationships, coupled with their having some sort of "messiah" complex. So does it really matter how long a woman stays before she starts billing her messiah?

Ten years!

It depends.

If she need financial help even on the very first day of the relationship, let her ask.

She should go to the bank to obtain a loan and start a business.
The boyfriend is not an ATM.

imagrg:
She should go to the bank to obtain a loan and start a business.
The boyfriend is not an ATM.

Why should she when her boyfriend's goal is power and control over her in the relationship in exchange for her depending on him for her needs and wants?

Easyincome24:
No long thing, as seen from the question. Straight to the point.

How long should a lady stay in a relationship before asking her partner for money?
Immediately, a week later or months?

Most guys do pretend they don't spend a dime on a girl they are dating. It's a big LIE!

Imagine meeting a lady, she prefers to use her money at any slightest occasion. Most men feel terrified, such ladies end up being served breakfast. But you see those ones that bill guys, they don't feel too hurt when the relationship crash.

Money is important in every relationship, either you meet today, tomorrow or whatever. The motive of demanding for the money is what should call for attention rather than just billing.

Hommies prefer the bad gurls as the gentle gurls ain't usually lucky having guys who will reciprocate good for what they do rather they get served breakfast.

Easyincome24:
No long thing, as seen from the question. Straight to the point.

How long should a lady stay in a relationship before asking her partner for money?
Immediately, a week later or months?

Most guys do pretend they don't spend a dime on a girl they are dating. It's a big LIE!

Must u ask for money

Why should a lady ask for money ?
Once you ask me for money, you have become a glorified escort in my eyes.
If you are asking for money to cook lets say N10,000 and I give you N6000 and do not add the balance, you've become a glorified escort in my eyes.

rickleye:
Why should a lady ask for money ?
Once you ask me for money, you have become a glorified escort in my eyes.
If you are asking for money to cook lets say N10,000 and I give you N6000 and do not add the balance, you've become a glorified escort in my eyes.

What if she asked to know if you are a stingy type? She may be a responsible girl and in her last relationship, she spent most on the guy. This time, she just wants to play a prank on you. Imagine she asked you for #100k. You could talk her down that you could afford #20k. To such lady, you already passed her test as you have shown a concern. But a stingy fellow will look over without offering shishi.

Easyincome24:
No long thing, as seen from the question. Straight to the point.

How long should a lady stay in a relationship before asking her partner for money?
Immediately, a week later or months?

Most guys do pretend they don't spend a dime on a girl they are dating. It's a big LIE!

Few minutes after the start of the relationship if there's need for money.

Easyincome24:

What if she asked to know if you are a stingy type? She may be a responsible girl and in her last relationship, she spent most on the guy. This time, she just wants to play a prank on you. Imagine she asked you for #100k. You could talk her down that you could afford #20k. To such lady, you already passed her test as you have shown a concern. But a stingy fellow will look over without offering shishi.

All these things are red herrings

1. Do not bring baggage from a previous relationship to a new one.
2. Do not play pranks - are we kids now ?
3. Do not " test" a partner unless the parameters are the same. By " asking " for money you might have failed his. When you ask, It has to be for a common goal. Example - Honey I need to get groceries, the list is 50,000, I have 20K could you give me 30K? What is his response, I do not have money or don't worry honey, I have got this, you cover petrol for the vehicle.

I will tell you a closely related story.

I have been dating this single mom who is in let say Abuja. I drove from Lagos to abj to see her for a few days. Stayed in a hotel so as not to confuse the child. So travel cost back and forth, Hotel stay, Misc expenses all covered by me. I asked her to cook some dishes I could store in my fridge in Lagos. I had asked her during my stay how much the dishes would cost, she said not to worry that she would not tax me. I said okay.
A day after I returned home, I get a long text - the nitty gritty of the text contained the following - She felt used, that I didn't leave any money for her for the food she cooked. And that what I even bought for her even though it was useful was not a necessity. I had a panic attack. So I calmly asked her again - How much would be enough to cover the expenses ? she said she doesn't have to tax me but that whatever I feel I should give her or if not I should leave it alone.
So I sent her N100k, the next text was that she was sorry, It was too much money.

Couldn't she have covered the cost of the meal ?

I told her I have sent what I have sent . Now she is wondering why the relationship isn't like before. She's soiled the bed and I can't lay in it.

rickleye:
■I have been dating this single mom who is in let say Abuja. I drove from Lagos to abj to see her for a few days. Stayed in a hotel so as not to confuse the child. So travel cost back and forth, Hotel stay, Misc expenses all covered by me. I asked her to cook some dishes I could store in my fridge in Lagos. I had asked her during my stay how much the dishes would cost, she said not to worry that she would not tax me. I said okay. A day after I returned home, I get a long text - the nitty gritty of the text contained the following - She felt used, that I didn't leave any money for her for the food she cooked.
■And that what I even bought for her even though it was useful was not a necessity. I had a panic attack. So I calmly asked her again - How much would be enough to cover the expenses ? she said she doesn't have to tax me but that whatever I feel I should give her or if not I should leave it alone.
■So I sent her N100k, the next text was that she was sorry, It was too much money. Couldn't she have covered the cost of the meal ? I told her I have sent what I have sent . Now she is wondering why the relationship isn't like before. She's soiled the bed and I can't lay in it.

1. You are both dating, so why didn't you instead consider going with her to do the grocery shopping, paying for it there, then heading back together to cook and pack the food for you to take back with you? I understand how she would feel used by you in the arrangement you both had.

2. As for her billing you for food she prepared for you, recall that you asked her to cook for you, and it wasn't that she offered to do it for you.. So, I don't see anything wrong in her asking you to reimburse her for expenses. I mean if you had enlisted a caterer for that very purpose, you would have had to pay up, right?

3. At least she is not overbilling you. You asked her to cook for you, remember? She didn't offer so if you make a demand of that sort, the understanding should be you at least cover the cost of groceries even if the labor she gives for free. You are partly to blame for the state of the relationship. That you are dating someone doesn't mean the person because a tool for you to use anyhow you like.

rickleye:
■Why should a lady ask for money ? Once you ask me for money, you have become a glorified escort in my eyes.
■ If you are asking for money to cook lets say N10,000 and I give you N6000 and do not add the balance, you've become a glorified escort in my eyes.

1. Well, if you asked a close friend of yours to get you a book or a shirt, don't you think you should at least pay for that shirt, even if your friend does not charge you for transportation?

2. If you are asking someone to cook for you, be sure to give enough to cover the total cost, or don't ask at all.

Kobojunkie:
1. Well, if you asked a close friend of yours to get you a book or a shirt, don't you think you should at least pay for that shirt, even if your friend does not charge you for transportation?

2. If you are asking someone to cook for you, be sure to give enough to cover the total cost, or don't ask at all.

It’s none of the aforementioned it’s implied money for personal stuff

rickleye:
It’s none of the aforementioned it’s implied money for personal stuff

Implied? How so? How is it implied if it is not magic money that is used in obtaining these things?

Kobojunkie:
1. You are both dating, so why didn't you instead consider going with her to do the grocery shopping, paying for it there, then heading back together to cook and pack the food for you to take back with you? I understand how she would feel used by you in the arrangement you both had.

2. As for her billing you for food she prepared for you, recall that you asked her to cook for you, and it wasn't that she offered to do it for you.. So, I don't see anything wrong in her asking you to reimburse her for expenses. I mean if you had enlisted a caterer for that very purpose, you would have had to pay up, right?

3. At least she is not overbilling you. You asked her to cook for you, remember? She didn't offer so if you make a demand of that sort, the understanding should be you at least cover the cost of groceries even if the labor she gives for free. You are partly to blame for the state of the relationship. That you are dating someone doesn't mean the person because a tool for you to use anyhow you like.

She insisted on going herself. Prior to me arriving.
In a relationship there is give and take . If I am bearing the responsibility of travelling up to see her , I expect something in return without having to pay for every expense.
Perhaps I should have insisted strongly but the way she carried about , I felt it was love but I guess it wasn’t .

rickleye:
■She insisted on going herself. Prior to me arriving.
■In a relationship there is give and take . If I am bearing the responsibility of travelling up to see her , I expect something in return without having to pay for every expense.
■Perhaps I should have insisted strongly but the way she carried about , I felt it was love but I guess it wasn’t .

1. Did you at least insist on paying for the food items yourself? In relationships, these back-and-forths matter.

2. You don't get to decide though what the take should be for your give. You let the other decide instead, and they give as they are able to. Did you inform her that you were going to bill her for your traveling out to see her? Did you make this expectation known to her and what the price you were charging her was beforehand?

3. Insisted strongly on what?

Jennyclay:
It depends.

If she need financial help even on the very first day of the relationship, let her ask.

Infact, immediately the man shows interest in her!

Easyincome24:
No long thing, as seen from the question. Straight to the point.

How long should a lady stay in a relationship before asking her partner for money?
Immediately, a week later or months?

Most guys do pretend they don't spend a dime on a girl they are dating. It's a big LIE!

I thought she is an independent and strong woman, she don't need a man in her life.
Period.

Telegram234:
■I thought she is an independent and strong woman, she don't need a man in her life.
Period.

1. Well, the fact that the man introduced his way into her life should change that assumption of yours about her obviously.

Kobojunkie:
1. Did you at least insist on paying for the food items yourself? In relationships, these back-and-forths matter.

2. You don't get to decide though what the take should be for your give. You let the other decide instead, and they give as they are able to. Did you inform her that you were going to bill her for your traveling out to see her? Did you make this expectation known to her and what the price you were charging her was beforehand?

3. Insisted strongly on what?

To clarify some Issues
1. It isn't the first time I have asked her to make some dishes for me. So this caught me off guard. When I ask an aunt who lives close by to cook for me. This is how the convo goes. Aunty I am running out of food stuffs. Okay, dear - Fried and Jollof Rice are free but your stews will cost 50K. Thanks Aunty. I send her the money and tells when to pick things up.
When someone says - don't worry. It means "Do not worry to me ". I've got this.. I will take care of this. If a person cannot tell the other person they care about point blank - that they need money but I am suppose to anticipate divinely, I have an Issue with that. But as you have said . I am at fault and so I have brought the relationship to an end.

rickleye:
To clarify some Issues
1. It isn't the first time I have asked her to make some dishes for me. So this caught me off guard. When I ask an aunt who lives close by to cook for me. This is how the convo goes. Aunty I am running out of food stuffs. Okay, dear - Fried and Jollof Rice are free but your stews will cost 50K. Thanks Aunty. I send her the money and tells when to pick things up. When someone says - don't worry. It means "Do not worry to me ". I've got this.. I will take care of this. If a person cannot tell the other person they care about point blank - that they need money but I am suppose to anticipate divinely, I have an Issue with that. But as you have said . I am at fault and so I have brought the relationship to an end.

Yeah, no! The fact that your own flesh and blood charges you money for this favor you ask means you are aware of the possible cost of this thing. So for you to assume, without clarifying mind you, that "Don't worry" means the same as "I will bear the cost of both labor and cooking for you so no need to send me any money at all" means you are being disingenuous.