pleasureosondu:
So, explain to us why a man will wake up on a good day and beat his wife plus ask kids to do same? You focus on the reaction but ignored the cause or action?

So you're saying that, no matter the cause or action, the husband is right to beat his wife, and prompt his children to beat their mother right?

Romanoff:


So what happens to your daughter after you've found out your wife (her mother) is a serial adulterer?

80% of divorce cases are filed by women ... if my wife cheats , I will most likely divorce her and keep the kids because that's the only reason y divorce can be allowed ... men raise better kids, statistics have shown... but because of the kids , I might not divorce her till the kids get married , but she will just be more like an official wife

Kingcalls:


80% of divorce cases are filed by women ... if my wife cheats , I will most likely divorce her and keep the kids because that's the only reason y divorce can be allowed ... men raise better kids, statistics have shown... but because of the kids , I might not divorce her till the kids get married , but she will just be more like an official wife

So it's okay for a man to marry your daughter cause you as a single parent raised her.

Lol. Sadly, the post said "single parent" irrespective of if it's a man or woman.

Romanoff:


So it's okay for a man to marry your daughter cause you as a single parent raised her.

Lol. Sadly, the post said "single parent" irrespective of if it's a man or woman.

That's y I said I might just chill till they get married b4 I divorce her ... Divorce kind of ruins the future of the kids

pleasureosondu:
With the increase in the number of divorce in Nigeria, it's clear that kids from separated homes will increase. For those born in the early 1990's, many witnessed their parents live together even when they were clearly incompatible. You learn by observing how they "managed" themselves but today, people divorce with flimsy excuses rather than to look for practical solutions to the problem.

If parents continue with this divorce trend, they are indirectly setting a new standard- that divorce is the easy way out of a marriage. So, how will their kids (when they become adults) know how to manage their families since they didn't learn the qualities that holds marriage due to the fact that their parents were separated? As a guy, will you be comfortable marrying a girl with such family background?

I don’t see the issue. All these stigmas we keep attaching to females Nawa

Kingcalls:


That's y I said I might just chill till they get married b4 I divorce her ... Divorce kind of ruins the future of the kids

Easier said than done.

Jovialjune1:



So you're saying that, no matter the cause or action, the husband is right to beat his wife, and prompt his children to beat their mother right?

if you ignore the action, why shouldn't I do same to the reaction? Are you tryna play emotional blackmail here? Pls, I'm a gadamn realist.

No man deliberately chooses to hurt his wife. But disrespect us, and see real toxicity. Respect us and you'd get all the love you want. That's how men are wired.

Romanoff:


Easier said than done.

When married, and u hv kids , its now the kids first ...reason y a man should not wife a hoe , to avoid a cheating wife ... a wife that really has fear of God ... most women don't consider the kids , that's y they fike for divorce anyhow

Romanoff:


Easier said than done.

Baba, you still dey here? I hail o . Some of Dem ladies wan play emotional blackmail here but e no go work.

Half of the ladies I've met, their parents are separated

deebrownneymar:


I don’t see the issue. All these stigmas we keep attaching to females Nawa

I pray you meet the good ones but if you're outta luck, you go see shege

Romanoff:


Haba, so all members of the family died?

Are all divorcees from single parent household?

you just go around visiting family members, ever been hacked by a knife?

Immatex:


Let me say this: Marry only if you truly love a person, not their parents. Isaac set a good example because Genesis 10 informs us he married Rebekah because he 'fell in love'.

If you show your spouse love as defined at 1 Cor. 13:4-8, they will love you in return and won't divorce even if their parents were divorced.

But if you treat your partner with contempt, He or She will leave.

Honour and love your wives, love and respect your husbands and have no fear, your marriage will make a success!

You lot just use bible to cover everything, if you don't understand the question, read it again.

Even if you love the person, there are things you don't take or can't.

Even Isaacs choice destroyed his home set two brothers against themselves and you know what.

Marriage is a complicated issue, any child raised by only one of the parents has an issue already, it takes an intelligent child to see beyond what one of the parents believes.

A child raised by a single mom, like that nonsense Nairaland female that hate everything about a man, but will gladly take his money, they always have trust issues, many not from personal experience but from idea they were taught from a very tender age.

Runnnnnnnnnnn. Runnnnnn for dear life

pleasureosondu:
if you ignore the action, why shouldn't I do same to the reaction? Are you tryna play emotional blackmail here? Pls, I'm a gadamn realist.

No man deliberately chooses to hurt his wife. But disrespect us, and see real toxicity. Respect us and you'd get all the love you want. That's how men are wired.

You claim to be a realist and I'm sure logical, yet the basic fact about respect skipped your mind or you choose to be ignorant

No women will respect any man simply because you have a phallus between your legs, respect is earned not forced, respect is reciprocal not demanded, do unto others what you want them to do to you, nobody wired men with some special personality to suit your dead egos, no where in your body system does it say so, you online specimens will spring up blatant rubbish at any given time as a baseless counter point to suit your narrative

You men will do or say anything as an excuse to beat up women, but when faced with your fellow men, you will quickly cower in fear because you know they will beat the shiit out of you and redesign your face in the process, women are the only one that brings out the beating power of cowards in men's body

If a woman provoke you with words of mouth and actions, dish her back same words and much more, keep your freaking hands to yourselves, or join boxing gangs if your hand itches you to beat someone.

Kingcalls:


When married, and u hv kids , its now the kids first ...reason y a man should not wife a hoe , to avoid a cheating wife ... a wife that really has fear of God ... most women don't consider the kids , that's y they fike for divorce anyhow

It's if you put the kids first that you'll leave. Imagine your kids knowing their mother is an adulterer or imagine them seeing your wife abuse you verbally. How do you think it will affect them?

Do you think that kind of environment will have a positive impact on them?

Or a woman staying with a man who beats her while her kids watch. How does staying "for the kids" benefit those kids?

Those kids will still blame you for staying if they don't see it as normal to abuse their own spouses too.

The late Osinachi probably stayed because of her children and what people will say, where did it land her.

It's life first then the children's well being(they are better off being removed from an unhealthy environment) if you you ask me.

Jovialjune1:



You claim to be a realist and I'm sure logical, yet the basic fact about respect skipped your mind or you choose to be ignorant

No women will respect any man simply because you have a phallus between your legs, respect is earned not forced, respect is reciprocal not demanded, do unto others what you want them to do to you, nobody wired men with some special personality to suit your dead egos, no where in your body system does it say so, you online specimens will spring up blatant rubbish at any given time as a baseless counter point to suit your narrative

You men will do or say anything as an excuse to beat up women, but when faced with your fellow men, you will quickly cower in fear because you know they will beat the shiit out of you and redesign your face in the process, women are the only one that brings out the beating power of cowards in men's body

If a woman provoke you with words of her or actions, dish her back same words and much more, keep your freaking hands to yourselves, or join boxing gangs if your hand itches you to beat someone.

First, I don't support physical abuse in any form. But answer this question; who's supposed to show that respect first, man or woman?

A man approaches you, after some time, he proposes marriage even if he may still be rejected. And if he doesn't, he shoulders the wedding responsibilities and other key decision to ensure his family survives. Sometimes, he wins, other times he loses. If you think that such a man doesn't deserve respect, I wonder who should. And if you expects a man to be loved by his wife coz he has a big dick, you must be joking.

From what I have seen and experience so far in life ..for me not to be a victim of divorce I will start by avoiding ladies that their parents are divorced.

Reason being that 95% of such ladies don't listen to advise and has no respect for anybody.

They can insult your parents without remorse!


I avoid them like a plague �

We all have them in our neighborhood their life style is always different.

pleasureosondu:
If this thread makes front-page, I'll open one for the ladies but before then, a 625sqm piece of land located at Phase 3 Zone 4 Behind the Police station, Gwagwalada, Abuja is up for sale. All documents are valid and verifiable. Accessible road plus water. Price #5million

You mean N55Million?

Immatex:


Just help ask these set of wicked people in Nigeria.

You stigmatize people for their ethic nationality, their dialect and even their family make-up as if any was their fault.

We are more Racist to ourselves than Europeans are to us!

Na Today?

Una go dey alright.

If she was raised by her father, yes I can.

Romanoff:


It's if you put the kids first that you'll leave. Imagine your kids knowing their wife is an adulterer or imagine them seeing your wife abuse you verbally. How do you think it will affect them?

Do you think that kind of environment will have a positive impact on them?

Or a woman staying with a man who beats her while her kids watch. How does staying "for the kids" benefit those kids?

Those kids will still blame you for staying if they don't see it as normal to abuse their own spouses too.

The late Osinachi probably stayed because of her children and what people will say, where did it land her.

It's life first then the children's well being(they are better off being removed from an unhealthy environment) if you you ask me.

Again, that's y we sud know who we are marrying...most people see the signs but due to selfishness, they overlook ...

No man just beats a woman just like that...most women are verbally and emotionally abusive and it leads to physical violence... women of these days are not taught to respect their husbands , no matter what he does to u ... most women insult their husbands and some men will never take insults by a woman that he fends for and is way older than ... I'm not saying that this is always the case, but majorly... Marry someone with sense not a fool , whether man or woman

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Fvckin NO

Majority of dem have mental and behavioral problems(the few I’ve come across) they should just die with their psychological baggage and stop looking and hoping for one idiot to stress

Evolutionlove:


You mean N55Million?

No, #5million only. If you're in Abuja, better. I prefer in-person deals, not via proxies. All documents are valid and verifiable from the Gwagwalada Area Council.

If you can avoid it, pls do. Many birds in the sky. I got burnt doesn't mean u'll get burnt.

Kingcalls:


Again, that's y we sud know who we are marrying...most people see the signs but due to selfishness, they overlook ...

No man just beats a woman just like that...most women are verbally and emotionally abusive and it leads to physical violence... women of these days are not taught to respect their husbands , no matter what he does to u ... most women insult their husbands and some men will never take insults by a woman that he fends for and is way older than ... I'm not saying that this is always the case, but majorly... Marry someone with sense not a fool , whether man or woman

No sane person will open eyes and marry someone who will hurt them.

Shit happens, life happens and that's why we have to be kind.

Not to go about stigmatizing single parents. Untill you've walked in their shoes, you can't tell.

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Questions like this don't add up.

Klass99:


As in ehn!!! It's unbelievable the kind of junk one reads on this forum. That MalignantGuest thread will go down in NL history as one of the most memorable threads ever.

@bolded: Memorable in a don't be a shameless misogynist pest like malignant guest way. He is a subject for any student who wishes to dissect online personas.

If aliens come to Earth and access the website, they will wonder what sort of prehistoric mono-dendritic primitive slime balls typed the sort of things that make front page threads.

Klass99:


The question was simple. How do you detoxify a toxic marriage? You haven't answered the question posed to you, since you claimed a toxic marriage can be detoxified and what's worse you have turned the issue into a gender war.

There's only one way he will expect it to be detoxified, but he knows that if he posts it, it will expose him for what he truly is: capitulate to the man.

It is their only solution for the ages.

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