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Vinnie2000:
In Every Romantic Affairs that Last for long, Attractions is bound to GRADUALLY disappear.

Dat's why couples Must Re-invent themselves and change with the times.

As a Man, try different Hairstyles, lifestyles and Spoil ur Wife with Surprises.

For women, Maintain ur Figure, Dress sexy most times and be Spontaneous in the Oza room.
Buy African Roots for ur Husband and Give him Cowgirls, Doggy, Monkey, Angle 90 Sex styles, ,etc..

With Better Doccking b/w a Couple, Their Marriage MUST last.

Dis man na proffessor. I hail thee!

Indispensable85:
People get married just because they think they're in love, but in marriage love is not just enough. There are elements that keep couples going in marriages when love begins to fade over time. How compatible are you?

All this one no matter. Marriage is simple. Women respect your man , man love your wife shikena. No body is compatible

spiceadole:
Reality sets in.
"See finish syndrome ".

Personally,I can stay for weeks to months without seeing my husband and I'm fine.
I even prefer his absence.

There are more important things to bother about,abeg

.do you know your husband wish you are dead. So he can have everlasting peace

pocohantas:
Hahahahahahahaha! With their pot bellies and tiny waist. You would think it is not them wearing singlets that have holes and big hideous shorts. It just has to be women.

You are right. But women don't look half of what they post. The truth is that you will still pull and wash , so y the fakeness when I will still see the reality

LarochelE:
Women marry solely for look. Men, on the contrary , marry cuz they think it's the fastest way to unending sex. Men aren't attracted to these women they marry in the first place. You'll see a very good looking man with an ugly woman. People should only marry for look,not for commitment, compatibility ot anything,but for look. If a woman marry a good looking man, the marriage will work and it will last

Jesus!!. Primary 1 reasoning

LarochelE:
But Men are generally good looking than women. I've never seen a woman dating an ugly man, but 95% of women are ugly and they date better men.

Marriage should Only revolve around look. Women should stop looking at any other requirements in a man other than handsome face and good body. It doesn't matter whether the man is a good man, respectful or not. If he's good looking and disrespectful, it's okay.

Guy go marriage school abeg

vickydevoka:
.do you know your husband wish you are dead. So he can have everlasting peace

He can even kill me,if he has the chance to.
Marriage is a major scam.
Any opportunity he gives me,I will divorce him

spiceadole:
He can even kill me,if he has the chance to.
Marriage is a major scam.
Any opportunity he gives me,I will divorce him

Is a scam yet ladies go to shilo n do several dry fasting to have a man

Alot of women start nagging when money stops flowing like before thereby making dat home inhabitable for thier husband, the start being dirty,keeping smelly hairs,tying wrappers ,moving around with saggy breasts and putting no makeups,some go dey even forgot to brush teeth or say sweet words to thier husband..most ladies call thier various church pastors and daddy g.o sweet names and reporting thier husband to them frequently, all d respect they have will be given to the men of God thereby neglecting thier husband..infact d list long I swear..my prayer for all men is that they will never lack plenty money in this life if na love women never love men genuinely u can quote me anywhere

EriMma1:
It's a normal thing especially with those who go into relationship for money or physical body features like facial beauty and body shape. When the beauty is no longer as sparkling as it was, the interest drops. When the shape is no longer there due to child birth or lack of control of what you eat, the interest also drops.

This is the reason I will never date because of looks because looks fade. For money? Yes I'll date for money because money is very very essential for a healthy relationship and marriage.

I prefer the likeness to come naturally without attaching it to anything I can see. Let it flow from within and it's such likeness/love that lasts forever.

As for couples getting bored of each other, I too have seen it and even though I know the probable cause of such, it disturbs me a lot whenever I see it playing out
Just last week, it happened in my presence between my pastor and his wife and I began to wonder about this whole marriage thing. I went to their place to do something. The man just went outside to sit down while the woman was inside. Not like she was busy o. I was now saying, why does it look like he just wants to be by himself? Why are they not sitting inside together and honeying with each other. This was just going on in my head as I was looking at the pastor engrossed in his phone. I just concluded in my heart that they are prolly bored with the others presence. God forgive me.

Of all the guys I ever dated, I only got tired of one and that's because he didn't have money and after bearing with him to see if things would change for the better, nothing happened. I just lost interest in him and jejely took a walk.

In summary, don't go after looks. Looks will fade and there'll be nothing to look forward to in that marriage hence the loss of interest. Marry for natural likeness.

Why do all women lie that child birth changes women shape?
They are just too lazy to work out it's simple...
You will hardly see any Nigerian married woman take God care of her body... They don't care... Just like my mom she will say that who is looking at me... But it's very wrong...
Is Jessica alba not a female... Same as omotola, same as yul edochie wife same as jenevieve and so on without surgery they look take away after child birth...

Napata77:
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mumu.

Perfect description of your parents.

Me and my baby at 85 just remarried last night. EMEFIELE was the CHIEF PRIEST. AND BUHARI WAS THERE.

vickydevoka:
All this one no matter. Marriage is simple. Women respect your man , man love your wife shikena. No body is compatible

This topic is not for kids. It's not a waec class. Marriages still crash even when the woman has immense respect for the hubby. The man still goes out in search of something extra. Women still cheat on their loving hubby even with all the love. And the marriage go apart.

[img][/img] Because he was pretending to love her and now he had seen someone more beautiful than her.

omooba969:
You will be shocked that the nigga you mentioned has his own conjugal challenges.

Enu dùn ròfó !

no one go fit rule that one out but the fact is that he make valid points which everybody should take note of.

DaddyCoool:
Hole not food. 10 years not days
You really misunderstood or you just kidding?

Guy I said ten days not 10 years, do you want me to die because due to lack of dietary supplement?

Marriage is a different ball game to food , if for better for worst while food is for choice for taste..

DaddyCoool:
Yeah, but humans like variety by nature. Unless you are forced to, it's human to want to sample different dishes while maintaining your staple

Yeah humans like verities by nature, but when it comes to marriage is a different story to tell .
If you are not ready for marriage just keep sampling different dishes till you get satisfied then you hold on to one dishe.. marriage is for better for worst while dishes is for choice and taste..

Indispensable85:
This topic is not for kids. It's not a waec class. Marriages still crash even when the woman has immense respect for the hubby. The man still goes out in search of something extra. Women still cheat on their loving hubby even with all the love. And the marriage go apart.

Please grow up before coming to talk to me. Brat

handsomeyitayo:
Hello Nairalanders

I do observe that most married couples don't find their selves attractive unlike when they started their relationship before marriage.

I have experienced three married couples like that.

I remember when this my neighbor brought her wife to be then, this man is very jelous and he always challenge her when he sees her chatting with guys in the compound but some years later, they did wedding and she gave birth to two lovely girls but now all those jealousy of those days, he is not doing that again even if he comes from work he will just over look the person chatting with his wife and he comes back late in the night.. weekend he will be indoor not minding the wife is outside still conversating with neighbors I mean male neighbors,but then who dares go near to interact with her before marriage.

Even the other couples they will be doing as if they don't know each other .. I learnt that he said he doesn't find her attractive no more but what made him marry her? Didn't he see the signs she is not attractive. How

Even also it happens to ladies that will later say she is tired of her husband.

how come you her everything?

vickydevoka:
Is a scam yet ladies go to shilo n do several dry fasting to have a man

Because of societal expectations.

Most of them just want to answer Mrs.Somebody

The truth remains that if society can stop mounting pressure on women,many of them would not want to get married.

uuzba:
Make sure the person, loves you back.
A guy will be shifting heaven and earth to get one babe. Unknown to him, he is also keeping score/records..
When he finally marries the girl after all the challenges, he drops her in the collection box. He doesn't chase her again because he feels he has suffered enough to chase her the first time. Then he just starts using her to satisfy he needs and if she complains or starts talking about validation and her feelings, guy will land her heavy slap. Beatings commence from there
As I said, the guy was unknowing keeping records of her shakara and forming, during the premarital stage and is now revenging.

Gbam!

spiceadole:
Because of societal expectations.

Most of them just want to answer Mrs.Somebody

The truth remains that if society can stop mounting pressure on women,many of them would not want to get married.

Wic dirty societal expectation. Life is a function of individual. The finest gal in my class choose to be single. Why will you marry to make another man's life hell for him. Nothing like that abeg. That's their excuse. My cousin is extremely rich but choose to be single n he is a man. If someone pressure you as u say block him. If the society is unliveable you travel to UK, or Canada or better still Australia.

nick50:
Alot of women start nagging when money stops flowing like before thereby making dat home inhabitable for thier husband, the start being dirty,keeping smelly hairs,tying wrappers ,moving around with saggy breasts and putting no makeups,some go dey even forgot to brush teeth or say sweet words to thier husband..most ladies call thier various church pastors and daddy g.o sweet names and reporting thier husband to them frequently, all d respect they have will be given to the men of God thereby neglecting thier husband..infact d list long I swear..my prayer for all men is that they will never lack plenty money in this life if na love women never love men genuinely u can quote me anywhere

God bless you

spiceadole:
Because of societal expectations.

Most of them just want to answer Mrs.Somebody

The truth remains that if society can stop mounting pressure on women,many of them would not want to get married.

Women are the ones mounting pressure on themselves. I am 32 year old. Since I was 27 they have been mounting pressure on me. So it's not gender based. If you tell me ladies a move by what the hear, I will agree. If you tell me the have biological time as well I will agree.

No gal no want marry. But they want their dream men. But how many under 30 men get pass 10 million Naira for account.

As I wowor reach I know how many lady de toast me make I marry dem. Forget 90 percent are after money especially our igbo gals those ones raised in eastern part fear them

The more elaborate our communication system is, the less we use it

Men like to conquer and tick the boxes of (women) achievements. We like varieties. That’s the bitter truth. Man needs, at least, 3 women in his life for his love life to be balanced just that he needs financial might to accomplish this.

Goodlady:
Marriage is good n I look forward ⏩⏩⏩ to it.
Why couples don't find themselves attractive is based on desire. Once you decide this is who you ll be with forever, it's sealed.
If it's looks that attracts you, the looks ll fade. If it's money, money fit finish. But the desire to stick to your partner keeps you going when it appear to be rough.
Just like when you buy new gadget, it's so new at first but becomes old gradually. Humans aren't objects though so that's why you v to maintain each other.

Exactly my dear.


Many people fail to understand that marriage entails alot, they think is just having sex and giving birth, or is about fine face and big nyash. You'll definitely get tired of those things, but once you've made up your mind to stick with the person you love, no matter what you won't leave this marriage, and continue to work and support each other, and also continue to pray for God's grace in your marriage, then it will surely last.


This days many people are getting married because of material things and fine shape without having love for each other.

Some people can stay long in marriage because of their Toxic/Narccissistic
https://m.youtube.com/shorts/gNkD9O6uWqw

It takes both partner to genuinely love each other for the marriage to work. When one sided love is involved, it is just a facade

https://m.youtube.com/shorts/4CZn5-nbyIU


Some people lack good character. Some one that is not accountable for his actions in a relationship can never have a lasting relationship
https://m.youtube.com/shorts/IrVhjq9k49c

naijapikin2:
I can only speak about what I've heard the men say:
Some women just tend to lower their guard after marriage. They now begin to tie wrapper Instead of putting on bum shorts for your man. Just generally leave themselves unkempt. Hair undone, teeth not brushed, hey ladies your men also like to see you do make up.

I'll be back with more...

especially their inability to wear make up when going to work. They now be looking the same as men.

Tycyborg:
Why do all women lie that child birth changes women shape?
They are just too lazy to work out it's simple...
You will hardly see any Nigerian married woman take God care of her body... They don't care... Just like my mom she will say that who is looking at me... But it's very wrong...
Is Jessica alba not a female... Same as omotola, same as yul edochie wife same as jenevieve and so on without surgery they look take away after child birth...

So a woman should do surgery because of her husband? And how many will the man do for her? Any woman who does that is a fool.

The May edochie you mentioned, how far? The yeye man still went and married an amoeba even though his wife maintained her figure.

Abeg!

omooba969:
What's not easy?

Are you married yet? 🤷🏾‍♂️

EriMma1:
So a woman should do surgery because of her husband? And how many will the man do for her? Any woman who does that is a fool.

The May edochie you mentioned, how far? The yeye man still went and married an amoeba even though his wife maintained her figure.

Abeg!

See I didn't say anyone should do surgery be it man or woman but working on your body like exercising and watching the food you eat is not just only beneficial to human but will make you look attractive as well because you will be looking more healthy...
May edochie marriage case is not something I can debate on because many things can cause a man to act... I have seen a man who left his wife because he said he is the only one initiating sex or rather asking she never ask him nor talk to him concerning sex unless he brings it up... To him now he see it as less romantic and when he confronted the wife about it, her response is " whenever you ask don't I always allow you do it" but that's not the case for the man because he too wants to feel wanted not just him wanting his wife everytime... So different strocks for different flocks... But my point still remain we shouldn't give excuses for not taking care of our body.... That's my point... Is it not the same Nigerian woman who brags about getting fat? Or about nigerian men who brags about fat stomach or fat neck and body to show they are living fine...?

Una don sabi each other inside and out. That person you once swore fell from heaven becomes more human the longer you both co-exist.