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ikeno:
You still very young na,they should stop pestering your life.at this age your still getting to understand your body and explore more..

True Talk

JASONjnr:
I raised my siblings and sponsored two through university...

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JASONjnr:
I know what it takes to raise a kid....

Not yours
So, get my msg right.
When you become a Father, then come back to reply the msg. Okay?

Berrityga:
Please throw away your phone, check yourself into a physiatrist home. You belong with other people that are not mentally stable.

Did you once asked her out n she refused?
Becos..

Vijuchoco:
Kpele, my own sef worse. I introduced someone to my family around May, last year but I later noticed something I didn't like and would not be able to live with, so the relationship ended.. I didn't bother telling them about it because explaining some kind of things gets me annoyed. Since then, they've not stopped asking about him.
Just this evening, I was with my aunt on the phone. The call was already over 45mins, the moment she said "wey Raymond nar", I just told her good night and she started laughing..

In my opinion, I think you should minimize the rate at which you give them audience..

Yeah, it's good to discover yourself my sister. Know what shit to take n what's unnecessary.
How to love sbdy without fear or thoughts of betrayal such that come what may, you're happy n ready to move your life + those around you - kid(s), husband, siblings.. forward

Then, you're ready to get married.

Nazgul:
This is a very common practice in most Nigerian homes. Some parents (most especially mother's) get worried once their daughter starts clocking 25 and above and isn't showing any sign of settling down anytime soon.

In as much as their nagging might be annoying and embarrassing, you must understand that it's bore out of geninue care about your well-being.

For starters, I'll recommend you sit your dad and mom down and have a heart-to-heart conversation with them. Tell them what their constant nagging is doing to your mental health and threaten to commit suicide if they don't let you be.

You should work on yourself as well. During my university days my ICH lecturer would say "if 5 people tells you that you're drunk, even if you've never tasted alcohol before, check yourself something is wrong with you"

If you've had above 3 serious relationships in the past, and none worked out, I'll recommend you take a break a reflect inwardly, ask yourself certain questions like where am I getting it wrong, should I be more patient, do I overreact to irrelevant issues, am I trustworthy, am I honest, do I talk too much...etc.

If you can truthfully do an honest assessment on yourself this way, and change or adjust where necessary, I believe that your next relationship would be great.

You gave the best (advice) so far, I'm impressed..

The OP is funny

Was watching a TV Programme sometimes ago when a woman called in, n we all heard the depth her husband had gone betraying his wife n family.

Yeah, she called in to tell the whole world how so much she pain she passed through. The presenter (female) was shocked at the strength of this v.woman. She stood by him even at his seemingly death bed.

But truth always prevail. These secrets all never happened in the house. But by itself, one day the truth walked into their home. Yet she never gave up. It's her home. She defended what's hers.

She said, with technology available to most of us today, she one by one, invited and monitored these pretty lovelies, to take care of their sugar daddy who could only shed tears of apology cos he couldn't even talk.

Mind you, she continued the funding of these girls oooo. Alert dey entr evn as baba dey bedridden.

She loves him. Who knows if he was her first.

But when he fully recovered ehn, she said he tried everything to apologize n evn swore never to do such.

Ideservebetter:
I understand that most parents want the best for their children but at the same time, they should understand certain things that are beyond one's control.

My parents, relatives even family friends won't stop troubling me about marriage. I can't have healthy conversations with my people without them bringing up the marriage topic and worse off in a controversial manner. They always accuse me of being too selective and other talks like that, making me feel awful.

I desire to get married someday even though I don't see it as a "do or die" thing. I've been in relationships that didn't work out and I'm being blamed for it or asked why I didn't just manage. My God!

I've been thinking of how to get away from all these talk, maybe leaving home or changing my line. I really don't know what to do.
I'm someone people know as happy and bubbly outside but when I'm with my people, it's the complete opposite, minimal joy because they won't stop stressing me. For now, I've stopped attending family events since they'll be gathered there and I don't want anyone messing with my mental health.

I'm fed up, I need advice from matured minds please.

The issue here is, what age are you

Are you set for marriage

Do you have anything doing that generates income for you

Seat your parents down and discuss with them about this issue and how you want them to give you time to sort yourself

Ideservebetter:
I understand that most parents want the best for their children but at the same time, they should understand certain things that are beyond one's control.

My parents, relatives even family friends won't stop troubling me about marriage. I can't have healthy conversations with my people without them bringing up the marriage topic and worse off in a controversial manner. They always accuse me of being too selective and other talks like that, making me feel awful.

I desire to get married someday even though I don't see it as a "do or die" thing. I've been in relationships that didn't work out and I'm being blamed for it or asked why I didn't just manage. My God!

I've been thinking of how to get away from all these talk, maybe leaving home or changing my line. I really don't know what to do.
I'm someone people know as happy and bubbly outside but when I'm with my people, it's the complete opposite, minimal joy because they won't stop stressing me. For now, I've stopped attending family events since they'll be gathered there and I don't want anyone messing with my mental health.

I'm fed up, I need advice from matured minds please.

You came to the wrong place na!

Better go and get the advice you need from your mother

Ideservebetter:
I understand that most parents want the best for their children but at the same time, they should understand certain things that are beyond one's control.

My parents, relatives even family friends won't stop troubling me about marriage. I can't have healthy conversations with my people without them bringing up the marriage topic and worse off in a controversial manner. They always accuse me of being too selective and other talks like that, making me feel awful.

I desire to get married someday even though I don't see it as a "do or die" thing. I've been in relationships that didn't work out and I'm being blamed for it or asked why I didn't just manage. My God!

I've been thinking of how to get away from all these talk, maybe leaving home or changing my line. I really don't know what to do.
I'm someone people know as happy and bubbly outside but when I'm with my people, it's the complete opposite, minimal joy because they won't stop stressing me. For now, I've stopped attending family events since they'll be gathered there and I don't want anyone messing with my mental health.

I'm fed up, I need advice from matured minds please.

If marriage is not for you then better stay off ...

When you eventually succumb to their stupid pressure then you will understand why sometimes you need to give zero ears to others opinions and choices.

NutFunny:
Congratulations 🎉 Nairaland founder has a gift for you after this discussion.

Not yours So, get my msg right. When you become a Father, then come back to reply the msg. Okay?

Tell me the difference?
To raise a child you birthed or adopted or took a responsibility upon?
Una just the claim nonsense for this forum....

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Be assertive in your response to them that "I will get married when I feel the time is right.

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Ideservebetter:
I understand that most parents want the best for their children but at the same time, they should understand certain things that are beyond one's control.

My parents, relatives even family friends won't stop troubling me about marriage. I can't have healthy conversations with my people without them bringing up the marriage topic and worse off in a controversial manner. They always accuse me of being too selective and other talks like that, making me feel awful.

I desire to get married someday even though I don't see it as a "do or die" thing. I've been in relationships that didn't work out and I'm being blamed for it or asked why I didn't just manage. My God!

I've been thinking of how to get away from all these talk, maybe leaving home or changing my line. I really don't know what to do.
I'm someone people know as happy and bubbly outside but when I'm with my people, it's the complete opposite, minimal joy because they won't stop stressing me. For now, I've stopped attending family events since they'll be gathered there and I don't want anyone messing with my mental health.

I'm fed up, I need advice from matured minds please.

Are you still PURE?

If yes, then I am available

Ideservebetter:
I understand that most parents want the best for their children but at the same time, they should understand certain things that are beyond one's control.

My parents, relatives even family friends won't stop troubling me about marriage. I can't have healthy conversations with my people without them bringing up the marriage topic and worse off in a controversial manner. They always accuse me of being too selective and other talks like that, making me feel awful.

I desire to get married someday even though I don't see it as a "do or die" thing. I've been in relationships that didn't work out and I'm being blamed for it or asked why I didn't just manage. My God!

I've been thinking of how to get away from all these talk, maybe leaving home or changing my line. I really don't know what to do.
I'm someone people know as happy and bubbly outside but when I'm with my people, it's the complete opposite, minimal joy because they won't stop stressing me. For now, I've stopped attending family events since they'll be gathered there and I don't want anyone messing with my mental health.

I'm fed up, I need advice from matured minds please.

Better marry and wipe away the shame from ya family.
Na ya family dey feel the shame nor be you
besides you may have become an evening newspaper and still selecting upandan when you aren't a virgin.
Only young virgins has the privilege and pride to 'select" men when it comes to marriage.
So marry that widower,hustler or farmer seeking ya hand in marriage now when you still can.

Vijuchoco:
Kpele, my own sef worse. I introduced someone to my family around May, last year but I later noticed something I didn't like and would not be able to live with, so the relationship ended.. I didn't bother telling them about it because explaining some kind of things gets me annoyed. Since then, they've not stopped asking about him.
Just this evening, I was with my aunt on the phone. The call was already over 45mins, the moment she said "wey Raymond nar", I just told her good night and she started laughing..

In my opinion, I think you should minimize the rate at which you give them audience..

U re making a big mistake, let them know you aren't dating the guy anymore. A suitor may come from your relatives, so let it be open to them that u re a single babe.

Well, marriage is certainly a thing to look at for, but one must be very careful, speaking as someone who believes marriage should be forever

First, I'll advice you to leave and be on your own if you still stay with your family

In addition, your mental health is important. Guide it with all jealousy.

Furthermore, don't lower your boxes on the type or kind of guy you want. Stick to your boxes, be prayerful and very sensitive. Surely, the right person will come

Peace!

Ideservebetter:
I understand that most parents want the best for their children but at the same time, they should understand certain things that are beyond one's control.

My parents, relatives even family friends won't stop troubling me about marriage. I can't have healthy conversations with my people without them bringing up the marriage topic and worse off in a controversial manner. They always accuse me of being too selective and other talks like that, making me feel awful.

I desire to get married someday even though I don't see it as a "do or die" thing. I've been in relationships that didn't work out and I'm being blamed for it or asked why I didn't just manage. My God!

I've been thinking of how to get away from all these talk, maybe leaving home or changing my line. I really don't know what to do.
I'm someone people know as happy and bubbly outside but when I'm with my people, it's the complete opposite, minimal joy because they won't stop stressing me. For now, I've stopped attending family events since they'll be gathered there and I don't want anyone messing with my mental health.

I'm fed up, I need advice from matured minds please.

Could you send me a text on this number :- +14706940370 ?

Maybe we can work something out.

Ideservebetter:
I understand that most parents want the best for their children but at the same time, they should understand certain things that are beyond one's control.

My parents, relatives even family friends won't stop troubling me about marriage. I can't have healthy conversations with my people without them bringing up the marriage topic and worse off in a controversial manner. They always accuse me of being too selective and other talks like that, making me feel awful.

I desire to get married someday even though I don't see it as a "do or die" thing. I've been in relationships that didn't work out and I'm being blamed for it or asked why I didn't just manage. My God!

I've been thinking of how to get away from all these talk, maybe leaving home or changing my line. I really don't know what to do.
I'm someone people know as happy and bubbly outside but when I'm with my people, it's the complete opposite, minimal joy because they won't stop stressing me. For now, I've stopped attending family events since they'll be gathered there and I don't want anyone messing with my mental health.

I'm fed up, I need advice from matured minds please.

1. Do not be pressured into getting married, only you will deal with the consequences, those pressuring you won't!
2. Do not rush marriage, it is not a big deal at all. Follow your will
3. Marriage is not a must, it is just traditional and cultural nonsense that makes people feel so.

Lastly, it's your call, but don't let people push you around, it is your life.

Uncle go and marry

tiswell:
Better marry and wipe away the shame from ya family.
Na ya family dey feel the shame nor be you
besides you may have become an evening newspaper and still selecting upandan when you aren't a virgin.
Only young virgins has the privilege and pride to 'select" men when it comes to marriage.
So marry that widower,hustler or farmer seeking ya hand in marriage now when you still can.

Any family feeling shame because one of them isn't married is a useless family.

Ideservebetter:
I understand that most parents want the best for their children but at the same time, they should understand certain things that are beyond one's control.

My parents, relatives even family friends won't stop troubling me about marriage. I can't have healthy conversations with my people without them bringing up the marriage topic and worse off in a controversial manner. They always accuse me of being too selective and other talks like that, making me feel awful.

I desire to get married someday even though I don't see it as a "do or die" thing. I've been in relationships that didn't work out and I'm being blamed for it or asked why I didn't just manage. My God!

I've been thinking of how to get away from all these talk, maybe leaving home or changing my line. I really don't know what to do.
I'm someone people know as happy and bubbly outside but when I'm with my people, it's the complete opposite, minimal joy because they won't stop stressing me. For now, I've stopped attending family events since they'll be gathered there and I don't want anyone messing with my mental health.

I'm fed up, I need advice from matured minds please.

simple honest advice, go and marry,lol. just messing with you. truth is there's never a perfect one or a perfect time to get married to or het married in. we all just have to choose our poisons and stay with it. its a fate we all are condenmed to.

NutFunny:
Was watching a TV Programme sometimes ago when a woman called in, n we all heard the depth her husband had gone betraying his wife n family.

Yeah, she called in to tell the whole world how so much she pain she passed through. The presenter (female) was shocked at the strength of this v.woman. She stood by him even at his seemingly death bed.

But truth always prevail. These secrets all never happened in the house. But by itself, one day the truth walked into their home. Yet she never gave up. It's her home. She defended what's hers.

She said, with technology available to most of us today, she one by one, invited and monitored these pretty lovelies, to take care of their sugar daddy who could only shed tears of apology cos he couldn't even talk.

Mind you, she continued the funding of these girls oooo. Alert dey entr evn as baba dey bedridden.

She loves him. Who knows if he was her first.

But when he fully recovered ehn, she said he tried everything to apologize n evn swore never to do such.

You write as if you were thinking out loud and writing to yourself.
Write to the understanding of your audience.

frozen70:
The issue here is, what age are you

Are you set for marriage

Do you have anything doing that generates income for you

Seat your parents down and discuss with them about this issue and how you want them to give you time to sort yourself

What age is set for marriage exactly?

You need to discuss your challenges in getting a marriageable person with them

Perhaps they can arrange one for you.

They are concerned out of love.

YoungLionken:
You gave the best (advice) so far, I'm impressed..

The OP is funny

There is nothing good about that advice, lwkmd

Tell your papa, ur mama, aunts, just everybody that,it is your decision to make.
Tell them all, you want to marry by 2092, it will be okay with them

Op, how old are you? And are you the only son?

Ideservebetter:
I understand that most parents want the best for their children but at the same time, they should understand certain things that are beyond one's control.

My parents, relatives even family friends won't stop troubling me about marriage. I can't have healthy conversations with my people without them bringing up the marriage topic and worse off in a controversial manner. They always accuse me of being too selective and other talks like that, making me feel awful.

I desire to get married someday even though I don't see it as a "do or die" thing. I've been in relationships that didn't work out and I'm being blamed for it or asked why I didn't just manage. My God!

I've been thinking of how to get away from all these talk, maybe leaving home or changing my line. I really don't know what to do.
I'm someone people know as happy and bubbly outside but when I'm with my people, it's the complete opposite, minimal joy because they won't stop stressing me. For now, I've stopped attending family events since they'll be gathered there and I don't want anyone messing with my mental health.

I'm fed up, I need advice from matured minds please.

Ideservebetter:
I'm 31

loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool aunty u be 31? Ur family suppose bring down the roof on ur head self, how many years remain for you to enter menopause? U na evening newspaper levels u don dey enter so o.. Madam abeg no let dis year Shiloh pass u by... Na Dem Sofria, candidlady Dem gang...

Akin1212:
Any family feeling shame because one of them isn't married is a useless family.

You are still a kid.


Experience will teach you,son!

Nazgul:
This is a very common practice in most Nigerian homes. Some parents (most especially mother's) get worried once their daughter starts clocking 25 and above and isn't showing any sign of settling down anytime soon.

In as much as their nagging might be annoying and embarrassing, you must understand that it's bore out of geninue care about your well-being.

For starters, I'll recommend you sit your dad and mom down and have a heart-to-heart conversation with them. Tell them what their constant nagging is doing to your mental health and threaten to commit suicide if they don't let you be.

You should work on yourself as well. During my university days my ICH lecturer would say "if 5 people tells you that you're drunk, even if you've never tasted alcohol before, check yourself something is wrong with you"

If you've had above 3 serious relationships in the past, and none worked out, I'll recommend you take a break a reflect inwardly, ask yourself certain questions like where am I getting it wrong, should I be more patient, do I overreact to irrelevant issues, am I trustworthy, am I honest, do I talk too much...etc.

If you can truthfully do an honest assessment on yourself this way, and change or adjust where necessary, I believe that your next relationship would be great.

Threaten suicide? Na wa o

Your ICH lecturer has poor philosophy, the majority or 5 people can also be wrong. If 5 people say you are drunk, it doesn't mean something is wrong with you, because they may all be blind. Life is bigger than this.

Despite the fact that parents may have a genuine interest and care about their children and want the best for them, pressuring them to get married is wrong! Parents should let their children live their lives how the children want it, not how they want them to live.

The aim of living life is not to get married or be in relationships, there is more to life than that.