GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.

All you need is prayer!.
Only God can make your wife yours forever.

GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.

It’s high time to let go, let her see what she wants to see outside fes and when her eye clears off and she makes a move to come back then you can now decide on the direction of your path (life)

GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.

Let her go,you can take care of the kids yourself ,get a beautiful curvy girl to satisfy your lustful desires,let your sister(same parents) join you in the house and take care of your kids ensure you take your sexual relationships far outside the house so your kids or sisters don't find out... you'll be good man, you'll but if you decide to beg her, she'll have you buy the balls 4ever

frozen70:


That's not the meaning of them having opinions

Women value their children than bleeping

Children are options?

Explain.

[quote author=GeorgWashinton.

Brother, a woman that would stay would stay; no matter what she sees in the relationship.
My suggestion for you is for you to get busy and behave as if you don't see what she is doing. Make out time for your kids and your mental peace. Allow her to explore the life she wants. She may realise her errors and come back (if you really love her as you claim, u let go of her doings and accept her back). If the time difference becomes so much, you move on if the need arises.

Lovelydaisies:



Exactly what I'm having!

That's great

Stay healthy!

If you stay abroad, then you have a major problem, cos she will take all you have.
If you stay in Nigeria, then better blank and man up. Certainly her mind is elsewhere. Nothing you can do about it. Why? If you start being good and seem to be like you are appeasing her, the more she will disrespect and despice you, Looking at you as a simp.
The best thing is to face her heads on. Behave as if you too are tired of the marriage. Start doing your own thing. Infact show that you too can be irresponsible. Stay out late, carry some hot chicks.
See, what will be will be. Take it with your head up high, if the marriage wants to scatter, so be it.

jimmychang:



Children are options?

Explain.

No mater how e bad for woman, so far she done born children she no loose

GeorgWashinton:
Thank you so much.

I will try this once my marriage gets on track.

She's not coming back, at least not immediately. Let her go!

jimmychang:


Sorry bro,are you still with her?

Trying to reconcile?

. Thank you. I'm still with her but she refused to change. You can't change them when they started sleeping around unless if they want to stop it which is very hard for them

efficiencie:


Your wife has been cajoled by someone else and she is dancing to that person's tune. I always warn. Never marry a lady that is not a virgin. Ladies that have extensive sexual experience are more likely to be disloyal, swayed by circumstances and become a thorn in the flesh. I can guess that you did not meet your wife a virgin and her marriage to you was conditional on circumstances. If she decides to leave, you have to let her go, heal, focus on your goals and never make the mistake of getting sexually involved with the leftover of other men.

Rest your virgin talk my gee.Na small pikin dey worry you.Virgins cheat too ; .One Bleep is all ot takes some turn nymphomaniacs.All these virginity na cap.Marry Virgin if she wan cheat she go cheat when she meets a man than has more game than you.What you need to is marry a mature wife or woman.Someone that has sense.

I am not saying you should marry a prostitute or harlot ooh but Virginity is not a criteria.

Ishilove:
Another episode of "Things That Never Happened"

ObamaMessi, you need to get a job and get busy.

Lol so you even know of that trolls capability

Thegoodone13:
. Thank you. I'm still with her but she refused to change. You can't change them when they started sleeping around unless if they want to stop it which is very hard for them

She refuses omo.If you are sure deep down you did everything a man should.I know no one is perfect but at least you go score 60 percent as a husband bro you have tried.

Bro,I don't know you but I just wanna say thank you for being a man for so long.E no easy.

Is it multiple affairs with different persons or a single person over a long period of time?

frozen70:


No mater how e bad for woman, so far she done born children she no loose

Babymama mentality.Why give birth to children when you know you will mess up their lives with your cheating.You think it is just to have children lol.No father figure in their life while you keep jumping from man to man.You think you are a good example to them.Lastly they will end up like you and show you pepper.


Lastly men too gain more.I get married to her in her twenties and she later leave in her 40. I WILL NEVER REGRET BEACAUSE I WAS THE ONE THAT ENJOYED HER YOUNDG BODY AND STANDING BREAST.whoever is with her is now is with the LEFTOVERS

amnesty7:
A terrible fiction.

I know a lady passing through same, 10 years of marriage also. This time, the man misbehaving, she have even moved out with 3 kids, after the last beating.

GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.

There's a ten years of experience you have and it not for jokes. Just take a hindsight and you'll know how to handle your wife.

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Ishilove:
Another episode of "Things That Never Happened"

ObamaMessi, you need to get a job and get busy.

That guy need deliverance

GeorgWashinton:
Although I sat her down and talked to her but seems to yield no fruit.

I'm going on the second idea. Thank you.

Wait, wait, you mean you saw those evidences of her cheating nature, and you're yet to divorce her yourself?

Why are you still keeping someone who do not want to be with you? Was there anything bad you did for her that is making you feel guilty?

GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.

Drag am come here make she con tell us her own side of the matter. We wan know wetin she see for soup wey come make am hang her hand.

jimmychang:


She refuses omo.If you are sure deep down you did everything a man should.I know no one is perfect but at least you go score 60 percent as a husband bro you have tried.

Bro,I don't know you but I just wanna say thank you for being a man for so long.E no easy.

Is it multiple affairs with different persons or a single person over a long period of time?

. Four men

Its simple,you are cheating on your wife and she caught and that's why she is doing this,women hardly do this in marriage unless on an account of cheating.
She don't see you as a husband again,she sees you like a hostel mate.
Lots of you exist, doing things and later blames their wives .

OlawaleBammie:


Reason she's holding u ransom...

As a man, even if u re weak or desperate never show it to Ur wife, always act like u dont care so much, act like psychos.. believe me Ur marriage will always go well, just don't maltreat or beat Ur woman, treat her right and give her what u re capable of...then add small small weyreyism to the equation and see how Ur marriage will be balanced.

You nailed it bro but he already made that mistake of Simping b4 her to his detriment. At this point I think the lady has gone far into the extra marital dealings. Try both families and a Priest she revers much, then if it fails allow her to go to avoid stories that touches, cos she might kill you if you want to force her down. Just apply wisdom.

GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.

Dem no dey advice person wey dey in love

Thegoodone13:
. Four men

Serial cheater!!!!!!!!

Ahhhhhhh.You have kids with her?

Omo,you dey try ooh.

GeorgWashinton:
Although I sat her down and talked to her but seems to yield no fruit.

I'm going on the second idea. Thank you.

All I can tell you is you are lucky to still be alive . I hope you have stopped eating at home oo,because if you haven't ,bro you may not last long o

Oga your wife no be slave, u no get hand to help out sometimes in the kitchen?
Oga another man want take over, pray for your family, make sure are not cheating on her so that God go answer your prayer!

Thegoodone13:
. Thank you. I'm still with her but she refused to change. You can't change them when they started sleeping around unless if they want to stop it which is very hard for them

You know she's still cheating and you are still with her. I'm not married but I can say you are a weak man that's the character of a weak man. She's looking for excuse to leave? Who cares? I wouldn't even give her the excuse before i throw her out, unless it's her house or she's taking most of the responsibility at home even if it's that what you should have used the opportunity to grow financially stable so you can walk out on her. A wife's cheating is the worst form of disrespect to her man.

jimmychang:


Babymama mentality.Why give birth to children when you know you will mess up their lives with your cheating.You think it is just to have children lol.No father figure in their life while you keep jumping from man to man.You think you are a good example to them.Lastly they will end up like you and show you pepper.


Lastly men too gain more.I get married to her in her twenties and she later leave in her 40. I WILL NEVER REGRET BEACAUSE I WAS THE ONE THAT ENJOYED HER YOUNDG BODY AND STANDING BREAST.whoever is with her is now is with the LEFTOVERS

One bottle of Hennessy for you

silvoclaira:





I Have always said that the devil (lucifer) is a very smart guy that knows how to Distract humans. He Invents evil, Modifies Iniquity, Flash it to humans in their homes through his agents, Make it look harmless and ordinary, Watch humans without knowledge engage in it in the Name of Fun. Land them into Eternal Damnation and Destruction in Hell. Finally Laugh and Mock them in Hell. Never give that guy a chance, he will smash your destiny and throw you into hell.


A good Marriage counseling will help tremendously.



Best of Luck!!

If your wife is already cheating from you, just conclude that the marriage has ended. Except that you want to share your partner with another man.

However, if all is about suspicion, then you have to sit her down and talk. Also the issue of your wife coming home late will depend on the nature of her job. All these could be talked about.

Concerning the love letter you saw, has she been writing it before now? How old is she because she can still write using other medium if she really meant it.

GeorgWashinton:
Although I sat her down and talked to her but seems to yield no fruit.

I'm going on the second idea. Thank you.

I am glad she is making a divorce move rather that what some do. They don't want the title of divorcee and would rather kill off the obstacle and legally remarry as a widow.

Her mind is no more with you nor the kids. Normally, the kids would be in her plans but if she's neglecting the kids, there's really fire on the mountain. She's not thinking logically anymore. Don't stay in her way.

Surely there's someone she's cheating on you with at least emotionally. To win her back, you have to let her go. Let her have a return ticket after being with the guy for like three months when all the lovey dovey looks will also see the reality that not all is a bed of roses. If she later compares and finds him a better fit, let her be.

She's thinking her right now and not us. If she's yours, she'll be back. If not, count your losses and move on. Discuss with her but recommend safe sex practices and she has the guy tested for STDs first. You have to be mature and take heart on this. It won't be easy.

The divorce is waaay better than Ota Pia Pia served warmly for dinner. Better alive and heartbroken than dead.

Wishing you well - Teemy

There are times a man changes from a loving and caring husband to a responsible father to his children.......

Guess you should start doing the later , the other one will later come back ....