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Hello uncles and aunties. Please I need your opinion on this issue.
First of all, I'm a married woman. Where I work presently, I have two colleagues i relate the most with. Mr A and Mr B. Both single. These two men are quite close, they go to bars at night to drink. I'm actually closer to Mr A than Mr B because he's facing some serious life challenges and has stepped in to help settle some issues I had with my hubby. Hubby even knows Mr A. Mr B is always complaining about my close rapport with Mr A, always asking Mr A if he wants to marry me. Mr B at one of our discussions told me that I'm attractive and someone would like to profess their love for me but would hesitate because not only was I married, I'm a strict, principled character. I can't help being that way. He likes dancing in front of me so much that I find it funny lol.
We were having a discussion one-day at work about the best sex education to give youngsters. I was on the side of abstinence but Mr B was insisting on teaching youngsters to use contraceptives. Mr A remained neutral. I never condemned anyone's opinion and I'm entitled to mine also. Mr B got so angry and walked out on us. Since that day he has been keeping serious malice with me. It would have been ok if he did it with only me. But he also extended it to Mr A. Innocent Mr A oooo.
Mr A and I kept wondering what exactly we did to offend him but no response. I kept asking him, but he said nothing. After like a month, he resumed talking to Mr A, but he dey bone me till date. Almost 6 months now.
My question is: what reason can make a guy just bone a lady like that, because I still try to replay the events but it doesn't still make any sense to me.

Can I be ur Mr C if you don't mind?

This is why some women should not be allowed to work. I bet you're closer to and having better conversation with Mr A than your own husband. Women are emotional beings and they easily overreact. Only a matter of time before you have a small issue with yourman and you run to Mr A because he's the one who understands you.

What's wrong with that?😄😄

Care to tell me more?😅😅

burp18:
This is why some women should not be allowed to work. I bet you're closer to and having better conversation with Mr A than your own husband. Women are emotional beings and they easily overreact. Only a matter of time before you have a small issue with yourman and you run to Mr A because he's the one who understands you.

Samantha124:
What's wrong with that?😄😄

Care to tell me more?😅😅

see this right here is the problem. You don't see nothing wrong with it. It starts from just colleagues at work to them appealing to each other, she starts to find her husband irritating and before you know it, they're having an affair.

Daniel7543:
Can I be ur Mr C if you don't mind?

i would like to be the Mr D

Come on, that's not always the case.

I have two male friends from high school, they too would discuss their relationship troubles with me just so I could give them that female perspective and we've never for once crossed the line, or tried to cross the line... I'd also ask them for advice where I need one.

Sometimes some male strangers will also open up to me about their relationship problems and I'd advice them where I can and we'd eventually go our separate ways without even introducing each other to one another.

If you're a woman and you have a man that loves and cares about you and gives you the attention and affection that you need, you wouldn't think of double crossing him even during your lowest moments in your relationship, not even male friends can break your bond.

burp18:
see this right here is the problem. You don't see nothing wrong with it. It starts from just colleagues at work to them appealing to each other, she starts to find her husband irritating and before you know it, they're having an affair.

why would a married woman be close to niggas like that 🤦

Samantha124:
Come on, that's not always the case.

I have two male friends from high school, they too would discuss their relationship troubles with me just so I could give them that female perspective and we've never for once crossed the line, or tried to cross the line... I'd also ask them for advice where I need one.

Sometimes some male strangers will also open up to me about their relationship problems and I'd advice them where I can and we'd eventually go our separate ways without even introducing each other to one another.

If you're a woman and you have a man that loves and cares about you and gives you the attention and affection that you need, you wouldn't think of double crossing him even during your lowest moments in your relationship, not even male friends can break your bond.

You are not married,the woman is. That's the difference

I'm in a committed relationship and engaged.

What's the difference?

odinson1:
You are not married,the woman is. That's the difference

Samantha124:
I'm in a committed relationship and engaged.

What's the difference?

Oh and that even makes it worse. You shouldn't be having deep and intimate conversations with people of the opposite sex if you're in a committed relationships. It can lead to someone falling for the other,but you women refuse to see anything wrong with it

Samantha124:
Come on, that's not always the case.

I have two male friends from high school, they too would discuss their relationship troubles with me just so I could give them that female perspective and we've never for once crossed the line, or tried to cross the line... I'd also ask them for advice where I need one.

Sometimes some male strangers will also open up to me about their relationship problems and I'd advice them where I can and we'd eventually go our separate ways without even introducing each other to one another.

If you're a woman and you have a man that loves and cares about you and gives you the attention and affection that you need, you wouldn't think of double crossing him even during your lowest moments in your relationship, not even male friends can break your bond.

That's not the point. A man might not necessarily be romantically involved with you, it may be a just friends sort of relationship but the minute the opportunity presents itself, he'd sleep with you. It is going to happen eventually. She's already ascribing how much Mr B loves her and wants to marry her and sooner or later, she'll let her guard down.

You guys should STOP derailing this thread.

Most of the time it's you men who end up catching feelings and get Friend zoned, not the other way around.

You can still be friends with the opposite sex and not share any deep intimate conversations with each other... But you can advise each other where necessary.

odinson1:
Oh and that even makes it worse. You shouldn't be having deep and intimate conversations with people of the opposite sex if you're in a committed relationships. It can lead to someone falling for the other,but you women refuse to see anything wrong with it

It's her job to set boundaries between the two.

burp18:
That's not the point. A man might not necessarily be romantically involved with you, it may be a just friends sort of relationship but the minute the opportunity presents itself, he'd sleep with you. It is going to happen eventually. She's already ascribing how much Mr B loves her and wants to marry her and sooner or later, she'll let her guard down.

Samantha124:
It's her job to set boundaries between the two.

Most times, people can't help it the situations they find themselves in. Humans are weak. They'd have a small argument with her husband over something not worth fighting over and will she'll need someone to talk to, a shoulder to cry on. Mr B comes to the rescue. And the next thing you know they're bed buddies.

I like the fact that you said most times, meaning you still do believe that there are some people who can be just platonic friends with nothing else attached to it...

burp18:
Most times, people can't help it the situations they find themselves in. Humans are weak. They'd have a small argument with her husband over something not worth fighting over and will she'll need someone to talk to, a shoulder to cry on. Mr B comes to the rescue. And the next thing you know they're bed buddies.

Samantha124:
I like the fact that you said most times, meaning you still do believe that there are some people who can be just platonic friends with nothing else attached to it...

It is going to happen eventually. Two adults of opposite sexes. What do you think their conversations will be centered around. Mr B is already telling her how highly he thinks of her, and women love compliments. Think of it this way, maybe her husband doesn't compliment her too often and they're not communicating well. It is going to happen alright. And Mr B doesn't even need to force it. She'll bring herself to him.

That's why I said as a woman, as long as your man is giving you the love, the care, affection, and attention, you wouldn't see a reason to look outside of the relationship even when the two of you are going through a rough patch.

And I like the fact that you men already know us very well, so if you don't want me to look outside of the relationship, give me what I need, which is love, care, affection, and attention... If you give me those things, I wouldn't even think of double crossing you even when I'm with my male friends.

Rather than always buying me expensive gifts, tell me that you love me every day because a relationship is an everyday work.

burp18:
It is going to happen eventually. Two adults of opposite sexes. What do you think their conversations will be centered around. Mr B is already telling her how highly he thinks of her, and women love compliments. Think of it this way, maybe her husband doesn't compliment her too often and they're not communicating well. It is going to happen alright. And Mr B doesn't even need to force it. She'll bring herself to him.

why would this woman care so much about this? a colleague is upset with you therefore you move on with your life and do your job.
how can we know what goes on in this yeye colleague of her's head?

Samantha124:
I'm in a committed relationship and engaged.

What's the difference?

Stfu, in a relationship with who

You told me to STFU, so let me STFU.

SPAMBOX7:
Stfu, in a relationship with who

Samantha124:
You told me to STFU, so let me STFU.

Thank your stars we don't live in the same hood. I for scatter that thing you call committed relationship then dump you so you'd come become a full time evening newspaper on NL like dem sofra and Co. Go down on your knees and thank whatever you serve

Wait, I thought you're a female..🤣🤣🤣

SPAMBOX7:
Thank your stars we don't live in the same hood. I for scatter that thing you call committed relationship then dump you so you'd come become a full time evening newspaper on NL like dem sofra and Co. Go down on your knees and thank whatever you serve

MsJackson:
■ My question is: what reason can make a guy just bone a lady like that, because I still try to replay the events but it doesn't still make any sense to me.

1. It's not just guys. Even some women do the same. It has to do with temperament and personality. You can't force individuals to be friends with you abeg! Let it go and move on.

Samantha124:
That's why I said as a woman, as long as your man is giving you the love, the care, affection, and attention, you wouldn't see a reason to look outside of the relationship even when the two of you are going through a rough patch.

And I like the fact that you men already know us very well, so if you don't want me to look outside of the relationship, give me what I need, which is love, care, affection, and attention... If you give me those things, I wouldn't even think of double crossing you even when I'm with my male friends.

Rather than always buying me expensive gifts, tell me that you love me every day because a relationship is an everyday work.

Wrong. Sooner or later she's going to out grow all that love and affection thingy and she's going to want more. Sacrifice and Tolerance is what keeps a marriage. To be able to tolerate your partners excesses and be patient with them. Give a woman the whole world and she'd still cheat on you the second she gets the chance. There's no such thing as a working class woman who can cooks and clean and still respects your husband. Most working class women are arrogant. It is embedded in them. They feel they're working and they can cater for their every need their husbands should worship them.

Well, you're entitled to your own opinion..

burp18:
Wrong. Sooner or later she's going to out grow all that love and affection thingy and she's going to want more. Sacrifice and Tolerance is what keeps a marriage. To be able to tolerate your partners excesses and be patient with them. Give a woman the whole world and she'd still cheat on you the second she gets the chance. There's no such thing as a working class woman who can cooks and clean and still respects your husband. Most working class women are arrogant. It is embedded in them. They feel they're working and they can cater for their every need their husbands should worship them.

Well, you're entitled to your own opinion...

burp18:
Wrong. Sooner or later she's going to out grow all that love and affection thingy and she's going to want more. Sacrifice and Tolerance is what keeps a marriage. To be able to tolerate your partners excesses and be patient with them. Give a woman the whole world and she'd still cheat on you the second she gets the chance. There's no such thing as a working class woman who can cooks and clean and still respects your husband. Most working class women are arrogant. It is embedded in them. They feel they're working and they can cater for their every need their husbands should worship them.

Samantha124:
Well, you're entitled to your own opinion...

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Samantha124:
Come on, that's not always the case.

I have two male friends from high school, they too would discuss their relationship troubles with me just so I could give them that female perspective and we've never for once crossed the line, or tried to cross the line... I'd also ask them for advice where I need one.

Sometimes some male strangers will also open up to me about their relationship problems and I'd advice them where I can and we'd eventually go our separate ways without even introducing each other to one another.

If you're a woman and you have a man that loves and cares about you and gives you the attention and affection that you need, you wouldn't think of double crossing him even during your lowest moments in your relationship, not even male friends can break your bond.

He knows what he is saying.
I can break into any woman's heart even if you are with a man that gives you money and everything your heart wants.
If you don't want this to happen don't let me get close.

Lol... Oohhhw! I'm scared..🤣🤣🤣

davillian:
He knows what he is saying.
I can break into any woman's heart even if you are with a man that gives you money and everything your heart wants.
If you don't want this to happen don't let me get close.