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SPAMBOX7:
Keep helping them. Your reward is in heaven

Stop talking nonsense when someone is in need of your advice

Qatar2022:
That's Nigeria girls mentality for you, find friend or some space In your place work to stay for now

Thanks bro.

Blupen969:
Do you really have a choice??

Some of you guys here think like a fool I swear

Qatar2022:
That money you bring from your salary from the first month is the problem they thought you have more than enough, they shouldn't have known the day you received salary

I even told them what I was gonna use the money for.
Anytime I bring the money, they are always happy dt day, then after dat we become something else.

SonOfHercules:
What if I save 10k per month while staying with them and still look for another job that pays at least 40,won't dat be a better option?

Op breath.....try to save enough and get a place to stay, they are not your God you can live alone, pay rent alone and still feed yourself, just start looking for your own place even if it's a one room apartment......don't put all your eggs in one basket even if the eggs no good

Qatar2022:
Some of you guys here think like a fool I swear

Na me just like your comment oga

SonOfHercules:
What if I save 10k per month while staying with them and still look for another job that pays at least 40,won't dat be a better option?

Look for a small accommodation and pack out for them

Most difficult best solution: Leave that house.

If you aren't the eldest, you don't have any say. You will remain subservient to their wills and demands.

There's hardly any strategy you can use to maneuver this current environment. Even if you decide to play the nice brother role, it will end in consistent failure. Proximity will make your manipulative cards fail. You can't please them.

They are nonchalant and comprise weak characters. They are deviants. The more you stay close to them, the more polluted your soul will become. They are energy parasites - they will drain you mentally, emotionally and physically.

What you need to do is to look for a better job that'll take you far from them. You can get another accommodation in that new location.

Stay on your heels as you think of the fastest way to fly high away from them. Don't think of how you can survive with them any longer. Your escape from their snare should be paramount right now. You need peace and rest to plan effectively as a young man.

And whether you later become successful in future or not, they are people you must relate with from afar and with a long stick.

Don't fret. This too shall pass away.

Thanks.

CaveAdullam:
Most difficult best solution: Leave that house.

If you aren't the eldest, you don't have any say. You will remain subservient to their wills and demands.

There's hardly any strategy you can use to maneuver this current environment. Even if you decide to play the nice brother role, it will end in consistent failure. Proximity will make your manipulative cards fail. You can't please them.

They are nonchalant and comprise weak characters. They are deviants. The more you stay close to them, the more polluted your soul will become. They are energy parasites - they will drain you mentally, emotionally and physically.

What you need to do is to look for a better job that'll take you far from them. You can get another accommodation in that new location.

Stay on your heels as you think of the fastest way to fly high away from them. Don't think of how you can survive with them any longer. Your escape from their snare should be paramount right now. You need peace and rest to plan effectively as a young man.

And whether you later become successful in future or not, they are people you must relate with from afar and with a long stick.

Don't fret. This too shall pass away.

Thanks.

Sorry bro.. I wanted to mention you too.
I think dats the best idea. Cos today I didn't give them the 2k for food.
They were just showing themselves attitude.

SonOfHercules:
Sorry bro.. I wanted to mention you too.
I think that's the best idea. Cos today I didn't give them the 2k for food.
They were just showing their attitude.

1. Another good reason many Nigerians suffer much today is because of the weak family bond holding them together. When we were young, we could go extra mile for blood brothers and blood sisters. We suffer together to get things done and enjoy our transient pleasantness in peace.

2. The whole situation changes when we become adults and start positioning ourselves in new terrains, meeting new people, and learning new things.

This new beginning taints our bloodline relationship. Strangers become our brothers and sisters. Our best friends are people who value us for the incentives we provide them instead of genuine bonds created from loving each other.

3. I'm saying this because family is met to grow together. If that childhood and teenage bond is allowed to continue, many young and old Nigerians won't have been suffering uselessly today.

Because in every family, there's at least one person who has climbed farther on the ladder of life. You only see a unanimous collaboration in burial or wedding ceremonies. In times of suffering and hopelessness, you are a noisy pest to their ears that disturbs that comfort.

4. Nobody owes us anything. People struggle to get there by sheer will and luck. But what's the essence of the family? A dynasty? An empire? Isn't it for a lineage to remain firm and stay long on earth? If we abandon our father, mother, brother, and sisters, how can we build a dynasty?

5. Many people don't see the essence of helping or working with their siblings, hence, suffering is harsher. You see people begging in every corner as if they fell from the sky and dissociated from any family in real life. This is unfair.

6. I know of the exceptions: Family can abandon you; siblings can betray you; some friends have proved themselves better than family members.

But in the grand scheme of our human lives, the family is the first and only place a man can find real protection and genuine love when he is being treated harshly outside. Ask the prodigal son.

It is so bad your sisters are acting this way. And it is worrisome.

You'll be fine. It is just a matter of time.

Take care.

CaveAdullam:
1. Another good reason many Nigerians suffer much today is because of the weak family bond holding them together. When we were young, we could go extra mile for blood brothers and blood sisters. We suffer together to get things done and enjoy our transient pleasantness in peace.

2. The whole situation changes when we become adults and start positioning ourselves in new terrains, meeting new people, and learning new things.

This new beginning taints our bloodline relationship. Strangers become our brothers and sisters. Our best friends are people who value us for the incentives we provide them instead of genuine bonds created from loving each other.

3. I'm saying this because family is met to grow together. If that childhood and teenage bond is allowed to continue, many young and old Nigerians won't have been suffering uselessly today.

Because in every family, there's at least one person who has climbed farther on the ladder of life. You only see a unanimous collaboration in burial or wedding ceremonies. In times of suffering and hopelessness, you are a noisy pest to their ears that disturbs that comfort.

4. Nobody owes us anything. People struggle to get there by sheer will and luck. But what's the essence of the family? A dynasty? An empire? Isn't it for a lineage to remain firm and stay long on earth? If we abandon our father, mother, brother, and sisters, how can we build a dynasty?

5. Many people don't see the essence of helping or working with their siblings, hence, suffering is harsher. You see people begging in every corner as if they fell from the sky and dissociated from any family in real life. This is unfair.

6. I know of the exceptions: Family can abandon you; siblings can betray you; some friends have proved themselves better than family members.

But in the grand scheme of our human lives, the family is the first and only place a man can find real protection and genuine love when he is being treated harshly outside. Ask the prodigal son.

It is so bad your sisters are acting this way. And it is worrisome.

You'll be fine. It is just a matter of time.

Take care.

Thanks alot big bro...
I wish I could know you personally cos I'm at a point where I need lot of mentors...
People like you and pansophist are people I admire a lot..
Thanks once more👏👏👏
PS: even WhatsApp no. Will be accepted.