There is an adage that says a broke guy is not suppose to have a penis erection
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You have seen d picture of the future already so what are u waiting for?
Look for your kind of person and leave that material girl alone

Brokeandnolove:
Before now, I thought that not all Nigerian girls are materialistic like we are made to believe, but a recent experience with my girlfriend made me rethink that particular conception.

I've been dating her for a little over a year now, and asides from normal relationship disputes, we have been cool. I met her when I was jobless and broke, and the relationship wasn't meant to happen because neither of us wanted a relationship then. We somehow clicked and started dating.

I got a job that pays 150k soon after, plus other small side gigs. She never put a strain on my pocket because I give whatever I feel whenever I feel like it. She hardly demands stuff, and I felt l just found myself a gem.

Rich guys hover around her like vultures over a carcass, but she stayed faithful, or so I thought. My company started experiencing difficulties towards the end of last year, and my salary was no longer consistent. At one point, I was owed three months' pay.

Due to the cash crunch, I could no longer give even the changes I used to give her. A bestie of hers that wasn't in the picture suddenly appeared after he started doing fraud and picked some mega bucks. He started getting her gifts and promising her heaven and earth to get her.

She's currently about write her final exams, and she has a list of stuff that she needs for graduation, which I promised her that I would be able to get her just two out of her list. Recently she went out with two guys within four days, and they were all yahoo looking guys with Benz and the likes. When I tried cautioning her of the dangers of associating herself with such people and how I was uncomfortable with her going out with random guys, she angrily said that I couldn't sort her bills and was still stopping her from going out with people that could sort it out for her. She kept referencing how she was not gaining anything from being a good girl while other girls that weren't half as beautiful as she was cashing out from guys.

She came over for the weekend, and just yesterday, she asked if I could allow her to go for an Easter outing with a friend today; I told her it's insulting to go see a guy from my place, but she saw nothing wrong with it.

This morning she begged me to allow her to spend a day with a guy that has been sending her money, and he is willing to pay anything she wants to spend a day with him. She pleaded with me to understand because she had bills and didn't want to stress me.

I told her she was free to go and started dressing up to leave the house. I never felt so insulted in my life, I already ended the relationship in my mind for her to even have the effontry to make such a proposition.

She started complaining that I wanted to ruin her weekend by giving her attitude when I could have easily said no to her request. I just ignored her and left the house to see a friend.

I used to think that she was different but just realized that most girls aren't contended which pushes them to do all sort of rubbish cos of money. SMH

She was never yours, it's was just your turn and your turn is gradually come to an end, just like Buhari govt.

Just turn her to your fuckmate, no need for anything serious

emmaodet:


Lol
Sitting her down, advising etc are all qualities of a broke man.
In a relationship with a woman as a man, if you are broke, the headaches attached to it is much.
You will always be a philosopher in the relationship. Quietly receiving insults regularly while you try as much as possible to amend the relationship. Your partner will be giving the I don't care attitude of if the relationship crumble, it crumbles because she has many options.

In this life, the eyes of broke men will see shegeee in relationships.
They won't have a choice than to keep lowering their standards just to accommodate a woman's rubbish and enduring stupid stupid things.
They can't even afford to make mistakes or go out of track like having affairs outside. It will be a game over for them.

I encountered you first during the early days of the Great Reality Every Man Should Know Thread... And I have always likes your personality and if there is a list of 3 nairalanders I would like to meet one day... It is definitely You, Luminouz and CaveAdullam...

Bro.. Back to this thread .. all you said here is Facts... I remember back then as an undergraduate/Broke years..
I see shege... You see that "Philosopher" part you mentioned... I was one then, and despite all my epistles.. Dem girls always serve me breakfast...

The OP has now gotten his own rude awakening and the veil of "there are some good girls out there" is now off his eyes...
He should just work on his finances, take some Pills (preferably RED) and define his goals and wants from women going forward ..

Like a close buddy would say.... "We must learn a lesson" ...

Nice to see your comments again... Have a nice day bro .

FORWARDEVERLY:


I encountered you first during the early days of the Great Reality Every Man Should Know Thread... And I have always likes your personality and if there is a list of 3 nairalanders I would like to meet one day... It is definitely You, Luminouz and CaveAdullam...

Bro.. Back to this thread .. all you said here is Facts... I remember back then as an undergraduate/Broke years..
I see shege... You see that "Philosopher" part you mentioned... I was one then, and despite all my epistles.. Dem girls always serve me breakfast...

The OP has now gotten his own rude awakening and the veil of "there are some good girls out there" is now off his eyes...
He should just work on his finances, take some Pills (preferably RED) and define his goals and wants from women going forward ..

Like a close buddy would say.... "We must learn a lesson" ...

Nice to see your comments again... Have a nice day bro .

Thanks bro for the good appraisal you gave me. Really delighted.
To the topic - When i make comments, it is mostly from past experiences so it is quiet normal for people to understand and relate with it.
Going forward, any man that is not financially stable should avoid long time relationships or marriage, if not, na that thing go kill am.
Just like the way nature has partitioned life into classes and what we should get at each level, today's marriage is designed for the rich and middle class.
If you are poor, it will be advisable to stay away from it but there are more pocket-friendly packages for the poor and struggling like Co-habiting, Bed-mates, Hook-ups etc that are specifically Tailored for the poor but dem no go gree. All of them wan marry
mtcheeeew

1. In this world, loyalty is based on benefits. People don't choose to be loyal for the sake of loyalty. They are loyal when you're at the top and they have something to gain.

Yes, there's true loyalty. But it's like a black swan. Or a needle in a haystack. True loyal people are rare. They are outliers who have bypassed selfish human tendencies just for the sake of benefits.

2. The average human sees other persons as goods priced in the market. If you don't worth it, they don't touch it. Like tools to be used to their advantage.

It's this selfish tendency, this myopic trait that continues to plummet a society. When we see each other as tools, we engaged in various schemes to con and manipulate ourselves. The smartest con wins.

3. Many people that claim loyalty will run with the wind when things are no longer rosy for you. Nobody wants to go through the dark with a lowborn.

To finagle with the man at the bottom as he scurries his way to the top is a gamble. Hence, better to fly from him and pitch a tent in the corridor of a shining man.

4. The grandmothers and mothers we are proud of today, who stick to their poor husbands did so because of religious and cultural backlash, shame, the uncertainty of the future, lack of social media exposure, and low sexual market value.

Many of them aren't loyal for the sake of loyalty. They were not tested with other opportunities and were scared of the rebuttals and criticisms, hence, their withdrawal from open infidelity.
Some that remained faithful are contemptuous towards their husbands. There's an internal battle going in their minds that passes off as subtle insults, ridicule, and low respect for the man.

5. As a man, if you're at the bottom of life, nobody cares about you. If you think you can win true loyalty and a true companion you're outrightly deceiving yourself. The highest you will get are motivation or pretentious love and care.

6. Women based on their evolutionary and biological makeup can't submit to broke, poor, and lowborn men. It's a dangerous mission. A gamble that affects her sexual market value, her age, and fertility if the said man never turns green.

Women desire strong, rich, and powerful men because their womanly nature is weak, fragile, tender, and scared. Submitting to a broke man increases her fears.

7. However, this doesn't means a woman can't use her cerebral to judge matters. Wisdom is profitable to all. But women are sentimental and myopic.

It takes a courageous woman to struggle with a man at the bottom and remain faithful and loyal, and retain her feminity; such women occur as the periodic appearance of an eclipse. They take the gamble because they are banking on your ambitions.

We all want to benefit from each other. But this companionship at the bottom is because she loves you and wants to see both of you fruitful and multiply. Not what she will gain per se.

8. As a poor, broke man, you need to understand the way of women.
However, the first lesson you must know: romance is a facade until proven otherwise.

Since romance is a facade, you must not become obsessed with romantic feelings and lust toward your spouse.

Your major concern should not be how to keep this woman, though you need to know how to mold and keep a woman. Your concern should be how to move from bottom to top, unhindered by the presence or absence of a woman.
Reason: to avoid unnecessary distractions, and the halving of your time, energy, and resources between your goal and a woman.

9. These are some ways you can deal with this ungrateful myopic weak leech:

a. As a gentleman, end the relationship and everything with her.

b. Don't complain about her latest form of prostitution. Wear a smile. Use her as your sexual partner to relieve your libido. When you're satisfied, gaslight and dump her.

c. Use her as leverage to get some resources and money that can help you + option 2 above.

d. You can become her p!mp. Kill the emotions and go get your money.

Note: option b, c, and d, may not end up well or come back with a malicious attack as revenge. So, option a is better.

Don't allow ungrateful people to roam freely.
Treat everyone accordingly.
Don't throw pearls before swine.
Give to God what belongs to God. Give to Caesar what belongs to Caesar.

Thanks.

Brokeandnolove:


Baba...na break up, I've sat her down and advised her like a sister about the dangers of the path she's about to tow, but her head is turned, it's only a matter of time before she starts doing it behind my back, that's if she's not doing that already.

do you fvvck with your sister??

emmaodet:


Thanks bro for the good appraisal you gave me. Really delighted.
To the topic - When i make comments, it is mostly from past experiences so it is quiet normal for people to understand and relate with it.
Going forward, any man that is not financially stable should avoid long time relationships or marriage, if not, na that thing go kill am.
Just like the way nature has partitioned life into classes and what we should get at each level, today's marriage is designed for the rich and middle class.
If you are poor, it will be advisable to stay away from it but there are more pocket-friendly packages for the poor and struggling like Co-habiting, Bed-mates, Hook-ups etc that are specifically Tailored for the poor but dem no go gree. All of them wan marry
mtcheeeew

In fairness, na poor people need marriage pass.

Poor guys just have to accept infidelity as an occupational hazard. It is what it is.

It is difficult, probably impossible for many. But poor people gain so much from marriages to abandon it completely. I include co-habitation in this category.

Here's why I say so. If you want to put a price tag on a cook, egg donors, surrogate, child minder, laundry, housekeeper, estate manager (keep things going, represent you at a family or social function) for years; it's outrageous for the poor. But when you find a partner, you get all that at far lower than market rate. Sometimes, they even pitch in.

Infidelity is the sticking point for most men. Per disrespect, let her vent. Private schoolteachers in Nigeria are not the happiest workers in Nigeria for a reason.

-Lord

LordAdam16:


In fairness, na poor people need marriage pass.

Poor guys just have to accept infidelity as an occupational hazard. It is what it is.

It is difficult, probably impossible for many. But poor people gain so much from marriages to abandon it completely. I include co-habitation in this category.

Here's why I say so. If you want to put a price tag on a cook, egg donors, surrogate, child minder, laundry, housekeeper, estate manager (keep things going, represent you at a family or social function) for years; it's outrageous for the poor. But when you find a partner, you get all that at far lower than market rate. Sometimes, they even pitch in.

Infidelity is the sticking point for most men. Per disrespect, let her vent. Private schoolteachers in Nigeria are not the happiest workers in Nigeria for a reason.

-Lord

Lord Adam, Lord Adam my friend
Na this your big big grammars they burst my head pass.
Occupational hazard, Market rate inside relationship matter. Chaii
I have seen so many women tired of being married to poor men.
If not for societal rebuttal and a little bit of home training/family they came from won't agree with their decision, they would have all gone from the so called marriages.
Many relationships and marriages will go down the drain in this era. No be curse, it is what it is.
While marriage remains the cheapest for of inter-relationship between man and woman, of recent, it is becoming so toxic for poor men that questions are now been raised if cheapness should be raised above sanity or sanity/rest of mind should be above an affordable relationship in the form of marriage.
I know how many married women are in my WhatsApp who have told me they are tired with the poor marriage and won't hesitate to leave the man if the opportunity comes.
Even one last month, a pastor Mrs in the church secretly told me she wants to do passport and process UK teachers visa that is opened now and if it clicks, she will pick her kids and leave the pastor unknown to the man.
We are living in a perilous time bro.
Let me show you the one that even happened last weekend

Break up with her,before she break up with you.i have being in your shoes when I was a broke ass,and I stayed ,endured,but at the end ,I lost her to that life and she abandoned me.Thank God I pushed further to succeed.

emmaodet:



Lord Adam, Lord Adam my friend
Na this your big big grammars they burst my head pass.
Occupational hazard, Market rate inside relationship matter. Chaii
I have seen so many women tired of being married to poor men.
If not for societal rebuttal and a little bit of home training/family they came from won't agree with their decision, they would have all gone from the so called marriages.
Many relationships and marriages will go down the drain in this era. No be curse, it is what it is.
While marriage remains the cheapest for of inter-relationship between man and woman, of recent, it is becoming so toxic for poor men that questions are now been raised if cheapness should be raised above sanity or sanity/rest of mind should be above an affordable relationship in the form of marriage.
I know how many married women are in my WhatsApp who have told me they are tired with the poor marriage and won't hesitate to leave the man if the opportunity comes.
Even one last month, a pastor Mrs in the church secretly told me she wants to do passport and process UK teachers visa that is opened now and if it clicks, she will pick her kids and leave the pastor unknown to the man.
We are living in a perilous time bro.
Let me show you the one that even happened last weekend

I agree that lots of (maybe most?) women married to poor men are beyond tired of the marriages.

But they're trapped. Combination of societal and practical factors make a lot of them remain in the marriages. There are simply not enough men out there to "rescue" these women, even if they agree to share the well to do men.

And that is the boon for the poor men. And they get all of those services that a middle (and higher) class men spend through his nose for almost free.

It is why I brought up the analogy of private school teachers. Chat with any teacher in these mushroom private schools. All of them don tire for their employer. Na every time dem go remind you say dem get CV, if you get connect to anything better. They all want to leave and have lots of complaints about their employer. But they can't leave. They're trapped.

Unemployment rate will rise to 41% next year according to KPMG. The proprietors and owners of these schools are making money hand over fist. And the trapped workers have to show up. And teach. And prepare lesson notes. While they're resentful. Who send your papa! If you get mind resign, owu go knack you akpako.

Poor men should give up looking for "happy" marriages. That age when a woman will endure and enter "War room" is gone and never coming back. When you're poor, they'd cheat with reckless abandon. They'd disrespect you. The issues no dey finish. But you see those benefits I listed, they're still available to everyone including the collectors that rummage through bins for metals.

I get it that you think the cons outweigh the pros. But for a lot of these men, having failed at a lot of the stuff we use as milestones. Having a nuclear family is one of the few things they look at and are like "I still try". And as we've both agreed, you can't beat the affordability of marriage for the lower classes. Nothing comes close.

About those married women in your Whatsapp and in wider society. Na d koko b that. Everybody dey find escape hatch. Suffer for Nigeria no b anybody mate. Unfortunately for them, no b all of them go succeed. Like the private school teachers, they'll show attitude and be disrespectful and all that; but them go still find way carry out some of their "wifely duties". Since they're trapped.

And for the ones that leave. Replacement dey bench dey wait. As seen in your screen shot. The way some dey marriage don tire, na so others dey beg their deity say "man na man". I just think that everyone should accept the implicit terms and conditions of whatever they choose. That lady in the screenshot has to accept that the guy she'd meet is most likely coming for just the kpomo. So she may have to kiss one or more frogs to find her "helper". The poor husband has to know his wife will spread for anyone with a pulse that offers her an out.

-Lord

LordAdam16:


I agree that lots of (maybe most?) women married to poor men are beyond tired of the marriages.

But they're trapped. Combination of societal and practical factors make a lot of them remain in the marriages. There are simply not enough men out there to "rescue" these women, even if they agree to share the well to do men.

And that is the boon for the poor men. And they get all of those services that a middle (and higher) class men spend through his nose for almost free.

It is why I brought up the analogy of private school teachers. Chat with any teacher in these mushroom private schools. All of them don tire for their employer. Na every time dem go remind you say dem get CV, if you get connect to anything better. They all want to leave and have lots of complaints about their employer. But they can't leave. They're trapped.

Unemployment rate will rise to 41% next year according to KPMG. The proprietors and owners of these schools are making money hand over fist. And the trapped workers have to show up. And teach. And prepare lesson notes. While they're resentful. Who send your papa! If you get mind resign, owu go knack you akpako.

Poor men should give up looking for "happy" marriages. That age when a woman will endure and enter "War room" is gone and never coming back. When you're poor, they'd cheat with reckless abandon. They'd disrespect you. The issues no dey finish. But you see those benefits I listed, they're still available to everyone including the collectors that rummage through bins for metals.

I get it that you think the cons outweigh the pros. But for a lot of these men, having failed at a lot of the stuff we use as milestones. Having a nuclear family is one of the few things they look at and are like "I still try". And as we've both agreed, you can't beat the affordability of marriage for the lower classes. Nothing comes close.

About those married women in your Whatsapp and in wider society. Na d koko b that. Everybody dey find escape hatch. Suffer for Nigeria no b anybody mate. Unfortunately for them, no b all of them go succeed. Like the private school teachers, they'll show attitude and be disrespectful and all that; but them go still find way carry out some of their "wifely duties". Since they're trapped.

-Lord

Hmmmmmmmm

Soooooo true

Just pray for Grace.


Money is still very important in relationship

2 important things a young broke man must have:

1. Self respect
2. Standards


OP, from your post it seems you lack both. She doesn't respect you because you don't respect yourself. If she wants to go out woth other men, offer to drive her there and leave her there. That should be the last time you ever speak to each other. Block her everywhere. If she comes to your house uninvited, give her the warning of her life.

Secondly, you have no standards. Your woman is freely already going out woth other men, of course she's a hoe. What are you doing with a hoe, even calling her girlfriend.

Bin the trash and move on.

It is better to be single and having knacks with random women than to just date anything in the name of girlfriend.

Now listen, you don't owe her any money. Any kobo you give her is a privilege not your responsibility. If you send her a dime, she should express extreme gratitude and show love and respect because you being charitable to her is sacrificial on your part. Your 'girlfriend' is showing disdain for your sacrifices and instead of getting angry and kicking her prostitution aśs out you're forming sad. If I light you.

My friend respect yourself and have some standards. Get yourself a woman that automatically makes herself exclusive to only you, only that kind of woman is worthy of your commitment and your resources. Girlfriend is not a requirement to be successful in life. Give yourself brain

Brokeandnolove:
Before now, I thought that not all Nigerian girls are materialistic like we are made to believe, but a recent experience with my girlfriend made me rethink that particular conception.

I've been dating her for a little over a year now, and asides from normal relationship disputes, we have been cool. I met her when I was jobless and broke, and the relationship wasn't meant to happen because neither of us wanted a relationship then. We somehow clicked and started dating.

I got a job that pays 150k soon after, plus other small side gigs. She never put a strain on my pocket because I give whatever I feel whenever I feel like it. She hardly demands stuff, and I felt l just found myself a gem.

Rich guys hover around her like vultures over a carcass, but she stayed faithful, or so I thought. My company started experiencing difficulties towards the end of last year, and my salary was no longer consistent. At one point, I was owed three months' pay.

Due to the cash crunch, I could no longer give even the changes I used to give her. A bestie of hers that wasn't in the picture suddenly appeared after he started doing fraud and picked some mega bucks. He started getting her gifts and promising her heaven and earth to get her.

She's currently about write her final exams, and she has a list of stuff that she needs for graduation, which I promised her that I would be able to get her just two out of her list. Recently she went out with two guys within four days, and they were all yahoo looking guys with Benz and the likes. When I tried cautioning her of the dangers of associating herself with such people and how I was uncomfortable with her going out with random guys, she angrily said that I couldn't sort her bills and was still stopping her from going out with people that could sort it out for her. She kept referencing how she was not gaining anything from being a good girl while other girls that weren't half as beautiful as she was cashing out from guys.

She came over for the weekend, and just yesterday, she asked if I could allow her to go for an Easter outing with a friend today; I told her it's insulting to go see a guy from my place, but she saw nothing wrong with it.

This morning she begged me to allow her to spend a day with a guy that has been sending her money, and he is willing to pay anything she wants to spend a day with him. She pleaded with me to understand because she had bills and didn't want to stress me.

I told her she was free to go and started dressing up to leave the house. I never felt so insulted in my life, I already ended the relationship in my mind for her to even have the effontry to make such a proposition.

She started complaining that I wanted to ruin her weekend by giving her attitude when I could have easily said no to her request. I just ignored her and left the house to see a friend.

I used to think that she was different but just realized that most girls aren't contended which pushes them to do all sort of rubbish cos of money. SMH

It's not fair to generalize all Nigerian girls as materialistic based on one experience with your girlfriend. It's important to remember that individuals have their own values and behaviors, and it's unfair to paint an entire group based on one person's actions. However, if you feel disrespected and insulted by your girlfriend's behavior, it's within your right to end the relationship. Communication and mutual respect are important in any relationship, and if those values are not being upheld, it may be best to move on.

Kriss216:

I love that you didn't stop her from Hoeing. It shows you're three steps ahead of her.

She may think she's playing smart with you but she didn't know she's only fooling herself.

Just focus only on your hustle. When there's need to change oil and she's available, use her to quench your konji. Please don't allow her to stay past a night in your place again. She's only your cumhole henceforth, don't give her the benefits of a girlfriend.

When you balance, kick her like a used tissue paper out of your precious life.

Console yourselves