Everything is wrong with it..

Rokiat:
One of my love languages is physical touch so nope not for me.

I need morning spooning and occasional cuddles through the night.

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Lifewasgood:
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Maybe one room for personal space/office but no bed in it cus I love me some personal space

No. That's why you have master bedroom, madam bedroom and children's bedroom. Most times the wife sneaks in and sleeps in her husband's room.

farous:
Please is there anything wrong that husband,wife and children all have and sleep separately in their respective rooms and bed.

Must husband and wife share same bed and room to define intimacy/closeness and bond between them or what can be called martal bed.

There is nothing wrong with that... Just do what works for you.

[quote author=Rubbiish post=122559690]There is nothing wrong with it
That way everyone can have their own space & personal time. Even in marriage we still need personal ....

Rokiat:
One of my love languages is physical touch so nope not for me.

I need morning spooning and occasional cuddles through the night.

You must be a sensuous but clingy lover.

EriMma1:
Even though some religious settings kick against it, I don't really see anything wrong there. If you truly love and care for each other, it won't affect your relationship.or marriage or even encourage any form of drifting or cheating. After all, when you guys were dating, you were sleeping apart for the most part of it, yet you got married.

I'm big on personal space and privacy especially when sleeping. Most times before I finally retire for the night, Im usually on the phone for hours and this might disturb the other person or means I'll have to adjust and drop the habit which may not sit well with me, like sort of inconveniencing myself. So, I'll rather just be apart.

Another reason I don't really fancy the idea of a shared space is because, some men don't know how to sleep. some just want to use you as pillow, holding you while sleeping and at the end of the day you don't get to sleep well or even sleep at all. That's not bonding, you're depriving yourself of good quality sleep which will take a toll on your health in the long run. If you want to bond, during the day, we could cuddle each other and have our lovey dovey moments ( not sex) It could even be at the beach. So there should be time and space for everything.

I remember the last time I visited my guy. He wouldn't let me sleep and I just hated him for it. He wanted to use me as pillow. Go now oga, he just wants to rest his big head on my tommy and chest. Na so I push am go one corner. Sofri go for ground on cold tiles and slept off like a baby. Next morning baba dey tell me say, "I was just looking at you last night" huh.. I said "and so? Make person no sleep because she come visit you. Abeg park well. Even if we were married, I would have still done the same thing.
I love my sleep!

Lastly, whether you sleep in the same room in each other's arms o, or sleep in separate rooms, person wey wan cheat go still cheat. A man will remove his wife's hand from his body and still go meet Ekaete for her room sleep with her. So why deprive myself of natures beautiful gift for one yeye bonding wey no work? Bondfire!

Lol... Nice anecdotes.

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Divoc19:
Having your own space while still married can strengthen your union. It's also called Respect my Space

Sounds like an asexual's fetish

suckmedownthere:
When both of them are too proud to come for sex then they become strangers to themselves...

The wife who feels proud to come for sex last last the gateman will bleep her ..

Your experience is different from others

SWATMan:


Pure lie. Guess you are not married if you are and believe what you just posted, then you do not understand the real meaning of marriage. Sleeping together has more advantages than being apart. Talking from experience.

No. I said the reality and what works for others

qtguru:


Sounds like an asexual's fetish

Anything with advantage will also have disadvantage...

That will creat space for infidelity and lack of trust ...


For me is unacceptable, we sleep both on the same bed in the same room I bleep you anytime I feel like . I was the one who used my money to bought that private place of bleeping

Toks2008:


I think you all are missing the point.

That they have separate rooms does not mean they must sleep apart every night.

Ladies need space sometimes and even one big room is not enough for ladies in most cases.

We all need space sometimes but I want me and my man in the same room thank you.

It's kinda weird we keep saying we need our space in marriage. If you need your space you shouldn't have gotten married and have children in the first place. So just enjoy your space with your spouse and children and quit complaining about space and privacy. I'd rather you get a study rather than a room.

LastProphet:


Did science say you must bond with your wife because your life depends on it? Must you bond with your wife? Is that your destiny? Is that the only achievement you came to this world to achieve? Do you not have other dreams and ambitions that give you sleepless nights just thinking and planning on it? Is your wife or husband all there is to life? No wonder black countries are poor

Why do you get married if you're not ready to bond with someone? Why do you want to take over a woman's life and deny her what she craves? Why don't you just get Baby Mama and face your riches?
If you're sleepless, you have no business in the bedroom, go to your sitting room or study, and think about your life. Like I said earlier, every couple will do what works for them both and find a common ground.
Besides, you're even wrong! Sharing beds is western idea, we Africans (check with your parents or grandparents and great-grandparents) used separate rooms and all we knew was poverty.

Rokiat:


We all need space sometimes but I want me and my man in the same room thank you.

Exactly, that some times you need space is the reason I love separate rooms.

I may not sleep in my room for a whole month but the idea that I have my own room will add sparkle.

You know the feeling you get when it looks like you are sneaking into a room mate's room 😏

For me I love separate room
Sometimes I may need my space

farous:
Please is there anything wrong that husband,wife and children all have and sleep separately in their respective rooms and bed.

Must husband and wife share same bed and room to define intimacy/closeness and bond between them or what can be called martal bed.

For those who can afford it, it's okay if they already have grown up children. But at the beginning, they should be in one room.

Children are not supposed to know what goes on between Daddy and Mummy when they are sleeping. So separate rooms takes their mind off. But the room should be connected so one can cross to the other when the children are asleep.

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farous:
Please is there anything wrong that husband,wife and children all have and sleep separately in their respective rooms and bed.

Must husband and wife share same bed and room to define intimacy/closeness and bond between them or what can be called martal bed.

Sometimes, what causes sleeping separately in their respective rooms could be case of snoring. Believe me, am talking from experience.

olamoses75:
I would advice you plan your life beyond your marriage. Obviously she doesn't rate you, and that's normal for a security guard. As long as you're not a government licensed security agent, almost everyone will look down on you, including your wife. I worked as a private security officer for months and I know what I saw. It's possible she has gotten a better option, as a lady below 30 is still in her prime and hustling for a better life. Focus on your life, and plan on how to get your daughter. She has moved on already. It's time for you to move on as well. If you beg her to come back to you, she's most likely gonna give you conditions which might not align with your progress. I wish you luck in whatever decision you make.

I think u quoted the wrong person sir

farous:
Please is there anything wrong that husband,wife and children all have and sleep separately in their respective rooms and bed.

Must husband and wife share same bed and room to define intimacy/closeness and bond between them or what can be called martal bed.

Separate rooms ke. ...the two shall become one flesh.
If someone should ask you when last you had sex as a couple you'll tell the person its your private life. Shared privacy, Single bedroom is best.

frozen70:


When you see husband and wife sleeping in the same room and same bed all the night
Despite the wife having separate room

They must have been relating like friends and lovers that always wants to be together

It still give them room to bond with each other and love each other more

While those who sleeps in separate rooms don't really bond like the other

That doesn't mean they don't love themselves, they do but they just want space

Well said.
Couples can have separate rooms, as in for formality sake. Eg, you build your house, have oga, madam and kids rooms. Cloths, relaxing time, thinking time, chilling time etc can be in those separate rooms.
When it comes to sleeping at night, there should not be separate rooms. Couples should sleep on the same bed. It is not all about sex. Afterall, after so many years it cannot be like before. Then imagine how worse it will even be if couples sleep apart? Quarrel nko? Plans too. It is said, big decisions have been in the bedroom.
When you fight, the fact that you must sleep on the same bed has solved 50% of the issue.

josh005:

Sometimes, what causes sleeping separately in their respective rooms could be case of snoring. Believe me, am talking from experience.

Thats true, snoring is a major factor. But I think that could be sorted out. Does either party overbooze before bedtime? Have inflamed airway eg cataar, cough, excess weight etc,
Meanwhile, sometimes, you adjust a snoring person's sleeping position it stops.
Deep sleep out of tiredness or stress causes it. One time madam complained I snore ( I always take criticism in good faith and act on it). I then bought nose rings, one for her and one for me. She said she does not need as she no de snore. The next morning, I played her a tune recorded on my phone of her snoring, I even made commentry during the recording. Lol
Snoring even good, lady I dated in the late 90s, relocated abroad. I visited her early 2000 to chill and make plans. Omo guess what pursued me? Fart! Ie mess. Staying alone for so long, she was used to passing gas without concern say persin de around, especially while asleep. And that was the days of tummy sliming tea. Meanwhile, it was winter period and windows could not be opened be cause of cold! By morning my belle for don swell with gas I don inhale! I was getting fat from inhaling mess! Omo, I japa!
She later got married, when I see on fb the handsome hubby, in my mind I feel for the Bros. People no go know watin him de go through.

nedekid:

Well said.
Couples can have separate rooms, as in for formality sake. Eg, you build your house, have oga, madam and kids rooms. Cloths, relaxing time, thinking time, chilling time etc can be in those separate rooms.
When it comes to sleeping at night, there should not be separate rooms. Couples should sleep on the same bed. It is not all about sex. Afterall, after so many years it cannot be like before. Then imagine how worse it will even be if couples sleep apart? Quarrel nko? Plans too. It is said, big decisions have been in the bedroom.
When you fight, the fact that you must sleep on the same bed has solved 50% of the issue.

Exactly

GorgeousAF:
I can never share separate rooms with my husband.. NEVER
We can have different rooms where we put our stuff but we must sleep on the same bed..me wey like cuddling and gum body
There's nothing as personal space and privacy in marriage...two of you shall become one....
No be only separate rooms . mtchwww

Your no like gum body pass me I like to gum body my babe before I slept off naso I date a lady back then she hate that gum body stuff she's always complaining about that naso I break up with her jejely

everything is wrong,
cause it can weaken their bond.
I hear most people say for privacy, but you can still be in same room and enjoy it.

Nothing is wrong, but why should they do that in the first place?

farous:
Please is there anything wrong that husband,wife and children all have and sleep separately in their respective rooms and bed.

Must husband and wife share same bed and room to define intimacy/closeness and bond between them or what can be called martal bed.

if its agreed by both parties snd not forced on any of them or if there's a well explained reason for the separate rooms then it cud be fine bt for a man having only 1 wife not multiple wives sleeping in separate rooms isn't ideal.