You guys bashing the op don't have Sense.. it shows you have not learnt anything about marriage,, dating or relationship in this new system of things..a guy met a virgin and disvirgined,, with his write up he's even ready to Marry her and you are here saying he took advantage of her? Iam a lady.. if the guy I first had sex with stayed with me and didn't bleeped up,,do you think I will ever leave him? Giving out your virginity to a guy creates a strong bond that can't be broken.the young girl will have no choice than love the op more than anybody in this world.. And I pray the op stays with her.. virgins are scarce these days..

Seagodess:
You guys bashing the op don't have Sense.. it shows you have not learnt anything about marriage,, dating or relationship in this new system of things..a guy met a virgin and disvirgined,, with his write up he's even ready to Marry her and you are here saying he took advantage of her? Iam a lady.. if the guy I first had sex with stayed with me and didn't bleeped up,,do you think I will ever leave him? Giving out your virginity to a guy creates a strong bond that can't be broken.the young girl will have no choice than love the op more than anybody in this world.. And I pray the op stays with her.. virgins are scarce these days..

ha..nawao... Thanks ma...I really appreciate ur words..

2canplay1000:
she's even crying at the moment begging me not to leave her.. she's from a strong Christian home.. her parents are pastors.. I won't do her any bad

Na she go leave you.

We don undertake this yeye journey before. Don't get attached. It will end in tears for you if you do.

ModCaller:


Na she go leave you.

We don undertake this yeye journey before. Don't get attached. It will end in tears for you if you do.

that's why I Bleep her....it a win win for me..we move

2canplay1000:
some girls at that age already know what they want and I believe she's one. And iam ready to marry her whenever she's ready and if she's willing to stay with me

2canplay1000:
that's why I Bleep her....it a win win for me..we move

You don't have to justify your acts at your age. If you love her enough to marry her, then you should have cherished what she had and wait till then. No need to shalaye, everyone knows you are selfish. Interestingly, you can tell yourself that you are self-centered and irresponsible. Your second post I quoted reminds me that truly, age is just a number and doesn't in any way depict maturity.

GboyegaD:




You don't have to justify your acts at your age. If you love her enough to marry her, then you should have cherished what she had and wait till then. No need to shalaye, everyone knows you are selfish. Interestingly, you can tell yourself that you are self-centered and irresponsible. Your second post I quoted reminds me that truly, age is just a number and doesn't in any way depict maturity.

na mumu dey train virgin these days.. you guys don't learn. I did the Best thing any right thinking guy would have done

Seagodess:
You guys bashing the op don't have Sense.. it shows you have not learnt anything about marriage,, dating or relationship in this new system of things..a guy met a virgin and disvirgined,, with his write up he's even ready to Marry her and you are here saying he took advantage of her? Iam a lady.. if the guy I first had sex with stayed with me and didn't bleeped up,,do you think I will ever leave him? Giving out your virginity to a guy creates a strong bond that can't be broken.the young girl will have no choice than love the op more than anybody in this world.. And I pray the op stays with her.. virgins are scarce these days..

You don't need to shalaye. If truly it creates a bond, then irrespective of what the guy you gave it to did, you would have forgiven. True love they say keeps no record of wrongdoing. Encourage what is right and I for one am not condemning the lady cos it is her choice but for the guy coming to make announcement, it is because he wants his ego praised although he's admitted he did it for his selfish purpose.

GboyegaD:




You don't have to justify your acts at your age. If you love her enough to marry her, then you should have cherished what she had and wait till then. No need to shalaye, everyone knows you are selfish. Interestingly, you can tell yourself that you are self-centered and irresponsible. Your second post I quoted reminds me that truly, age is just a number and doesn't in any way depict maturity.

the guy said she's going to leave me And I said fine... so what's imature about that... most of you are simps on nairaland

2canplay1000:
na mumu dey train virgin these days.. you guys don't learn. I did the Best thing any right thinking guy would have done

I don't need to share my story and you here who think because you robbed a teenager of her virginity is wise is the most "MUMU" on earth. That said, I am not sure anyone is asking any guy/man to train a lady because they are dating and he intends marrying her. If you must do, do it for the sake of the person needing that help and make it a help so that you do not look forward to anything in return other than the person's success.

2canplay1000:
the guy said she's going to leave me And I said fine... so what's imature about that... most of you are simps on nairaland

If anyone is a simp, it is you who came on nairaland to announce you had sex with your girlfriend. Learn the meaning of the word and stop using it like someone who can't think things through.

GboyegaD:


You don't need to shalaye. If truly it creates a bond, then irrespective of what the guy you gave it to did, you would have forgiven. True love they say keeps no record of wrongdoing. Encourage what is right and I for one am not condemning the lady cos it is her choice but for the guy coming to make announcement, it is because he wants his ego praised although he's admitted he did it for his selfish purpose.

you guys were telling him the girl would leave him that was y the op was like fine.. it would be a win win for him. I like guys like the op.hes smart And I can bet you.. that girl will never leave him

Seagodess:
you guys were telling him the girl would leave him that was y the op was like fine.. it would be a win win for him. I like guys like the op.hes smart And I can bet you.. that girl will never leave him

Whether or not she leaves him, her choice to make and vice versa. Neither the OP nor her is really ready for marriage and now that they've gotten what each other seeks, it is their choice to either stay or leave.

2canplay1000:
that's why I Bleep her....it a win win for me..we move

Na man you be. Just don't get attached.

GboyegaD:


I don't need to share my story and you here who think because you robbed a teenager of her virginity is wise is the most "MUMU" on earth. That said, I am not sure anyone is asking any guy/man to train a lady because they are dating and he intends marrying her. If you must do, do it for the sake of the person needing that help and make it a help so that you do not look forward to anything in return other than the person's success.



If anyone is a simp, it is you who came on nairaland to announce you had sex with your girlfriend. Learn the meaning of the word and stop using it like someone who can't think things through.

what's your problem exactly? I came here seeking for advice because she was bleeding as at when I posted... Who told you plans are not on ground to make her my wife if she's willing?

ModCaller:


Na man you be. Just don't get attached.

sure

GboyegaD:


You don't need to shalaye. If truly it creates a bond, then irrespective of what the guy you gave it to did, you would have forgiven. True love they say keeps no record of wrongdoing. Encourage what is right and I for one am not condemning the lady cos it is her choice but for the guy coming to make announcement, it is because he wants his ego praised although he's admitted he did it for his selfish purpose.

there's no need forcing love oga.. my ex wasn't feeling us anymore and he left... no need begging him back..I really wished we got married because he was my first guy and he disflowered me

Seagodess:
there's no need forcing love oga.. my ex wasn't feeling us anymore and he left... no need begging him back..I really wished we got married because he was my first guy and he disflowered me

Which implies same can happen to her thus, there is no reason to support the OP with the point of him been the first means she can't leave him because OP as well can get tired of her.

GboyegaD:


Whether or not she leaves him, her choice to make and vice versa. Neither the OP nor her is really ready for marriage and now that they've gotten what each other seeks, it is their choice to either stay or leave.

you can't sit in your room and assume u know their plans... I insist the op did no wrong... The Best Lady to Marry is a lady you were her first.. iam a lady so I know what iam saying.

GboyegaD:


Which implies same can happen to her thus, there is no reason to support the OP with the point of him been the first means she can't leave him because OP as well can get tired of her.

you can't assume that.. the op is 28 he's no more a kid

2canplay1000:
what's your problem exactly? I came here seeking for advice because she was bleeding as at when I posted... Who told you plans are not on ground to make her my wife if she's willing?

You are the confused lot here. I responded to your thoughts on men training women and here you are acting the good guy. Oga, you no need shalaye oooo.

Seagodess:
you can't sit in your room and assume u know their plans... I insist the op did no wrong... The Best Lady to Marry is a lady you were her first.. iam a lady so I know what iam saying.

We are both sure people marry for reasons best known to them and not necessarily because they were 1st at something. Cos there will always be many 1st in life and marriage goes way beyond sex.

Seagodess:
you can't assume that.. the op is 28 he's no more a kid

I never made any assumption as my statement were never definite on what is going to happen. I just responded to your line of thought on the first guy thing.

GboyegaD:


You are the confused lot here. I responded to your thoughts on men training women and here you are acting the good guy. Oga, you no need shalaye oooo.

we spoke extensively before we agreed to have sex. I never forced her and i promised not to do her wrong if she respect our relationship.. so how IAM i a bad person? Ok..i should tell her I won't touch her till she's ready? Noo that's not right

2canplay1000:
you are a simp.. only simps would see a beautiful young virgin and try training her till another smart guy disflowers her and exposes her to danger.. I told her before the deed..we agreed with me giving her the assurance I won't leave her.. she gave it to me as a gift of pure love and nothing else.. na mumu dey train virgin these days.. when you see a young girl that her hearth has not been battered by guys
. All you do is to make sure u grab her fast and keep her glued.

says a man who doesn't even know what he wants. I already told you not to quote me, and I am not moved by that simp shit that you typed up there. if disvirgining a girl makes you feel like an alpha man, congrats on your win.

Congrats on what you brought upon yourself. Enjoy your life.

merrymike47:
says a man who doesn't even know what he wants. I already told you not to quote me, and I am not moved by that simp shit that you typed up there. if disvirgining a girl makes you feel like an alpha man, congrats on your win.

Congrats on what you brought upon yourself. Enjoy your life.

it really not easy to find a virgin these days.. Good nite

GboyegaD:


We are both sure people marry for reasons best known to them and not necessarily because they were 1st at something. Cos there will always be many 1st in life and marriage goes way beyond sex.



I never made any assumption as my statement were never definite on what is going to happen. I just responded to your line of thought on the first guy thing.

FIRST guy shapes a ladies life.. if you see any bad girl out there today
. ask her about her first experience with a Man.. even God placed a seal there because he knows the Best time to open it it during marriage when there's commitments. But then the op Said he's going to be committed with her.. why castigate him?

illicit:
As soon as d bleeding stop

Do it again

That's how gs do

what? This is wicked advice, you wnt him to damage the girl's engine today?

piyoo91:
what? This is wicked advice, you wnt him to damage the girl's engine today?

She's gonna like it

2canplay1000:
virgin scarce....if she behaves well and keep being good i will marry her..

Now your commitment is a case of 'if' right? But when it was time to break her hymen, it was a matter of urgency.

You mentioned that she was begging you to stay, which you won't see if not that you have put her at your mercy by taking her virginity, her pride. You have temporarily rendered her your slave emotionally, putting you in full control of everything. You claim you wanted to do things right. Then why not follow a fair process. Why put yourself in control of her emotionally, and physically as the first guy.

You want to marry the girl in three years time. You have opened the road of sex to her now. Now, you will be sleeping with her, and have her glued to you because now she fears she has sacrificed something, plus she wouldn't be valued by any other man as brand new. Also you will have her on a dog leash as a girl now prone to sexual temptations, yet not married. You want to be jacking her back anytime she feels urges, for your sadistic enjoyment.

I believe if you wanted a fair relationship, and not power play, you would have dated decently. But you don't want to be on the receiving end, wondering and sweating fearfully over whether she has had sex or she won't get married to you. You don't want to feel bad that you didn't gain if the relationship ends.

So you devalued her.
Congratulations, shey you have made yourself the winner by all means. Even if it means taking her down.

Seagodess:
you can't sit in your room and assume u know their plans... I insist the op did no wrong... The Best Lady to Marry is a lady you were her first.. iam a lady so I know what iam saying.

then go and marry the one that disflower you. You dnt have shame at all, may God never allow me to meet somone like you that can be easily decieve by men.

purples25:


Now your commitment is a case of 'if' right? But when it was time to break her hymen, it was a matter of urgency.

You mentioned that she was begging you to stay, which you won't see if not that you have put her at your mercy by taking her virginity, her pride. You have temporarily rendered her your slave emotionally, putting you in full control of everything. You claim you wanted to do things right. Then why not follow a fair process. Why put yourself in control of her emotionally, and physically as the first guy.

You want to marry the girl in three years time. You have opened the road of sex to her now. Now, you will be sleeping with her, and have her glued to you because now she fears she has sacrificed something, plus she wouldn't be valued by any other man as brand new. Also you will have her on a dog leash as a girl now prone to sexual temptations, yet not married. You want to be jacking her back anytime she feels urges, for your sadistic enjoyment.

I believe if you wanted a fair relationship, and not power play, you would have dated decently. But you don't want to be on the receiving end, wondering and sweating fearfully over whether she has had sex or she won't get married to you. You don't want to feel bad that you didn't gain if the relationship ends.

So you devalued her.
Congratulations, shey you have made yourself the winner by all means. Even if it means taking her down.

well.. life is like that atymes.. if that's what you think.. but I love her

Seagodess:
You guys bashing the op don't have Sense.. it shows you have not learnt anything about marriage,, dating or relationship in this new system of things..a guy met a virgin and disvirgined,, with his write up he's even ready to Marry her and you are here saying he took advantage of her? Iam a lady.. if the guy I first had sex with stayed with me and didn't bleeped up,,do you think I will ever leave him? Giving out your virginity to a guy creates a strong bond that can't be broken.the young girl will have no choice than love the op more than anybody in this world.. And I pray the op stays with her.. virgins are scarce these days..

can I expect less from a marine spirit? Are you shocked that I know what you are mermaid? Sorry that the guy that disvirgined you opened you up for some other guys to penetrate, sorry that you never recovered from the trauma that you got after he left you, sorry he made you become a shadow of yourself, sorry that more guys will still use and dump you. But the little girl that the op disvirgined do not have to go through all of those things, that's all we are saying, who cares about how you live your life in the first place?

purples25:


Now your commitment is a case of 'if' right? But when it was time to break her hymen, it was a matter of urgency.

You mentioned that she was begging you to stay, which you won't see if not that you have put her at your mercy by taking her virginity, her pride. You have temporarily rendered her your slave emotionally, putting you in full control of everything. You claim you wanted to do things right. Then why not follow a fair process. Why put yourself in control of her emotionally, and physically as the first guy.

You want to marry the girl in three years time. You have opened the road of sex to her now. Now, you will be sleeping with her, and have her glued to you because now she fears she has sacrificed something, plus she wouldn't be valued by any other man as brand new. Also you will have her on a dog leash as a girl now prone to sexual temptations, yet not married. You want to be jacking her back anytime she feels urges, for your sadistic enjoyment.

I believe if you wanted a fair relationship, and not power play, you would have dated decently. But you don't want to be on the receiving end, wondering and sweating fearfully over whether she has had sex or she won't get married to you. You don't want to feel bad that you didn't gain if the relationship ends.

So you devalued her.
Congratulations, shey you have made yourself the winner by all means. Even if it means taking her down.

I need to quote u again... do you know some people just love naturally? She loves me even before falllin for her.. she told me about her feelings when she was 17 and I waited till today.. see go sleep

2canplay1000:
it really not easy to find a virgin these days.. Good nite

That thing is no longer a virgin, you took it, it can't be rebranded, it is now used, it now has a second hand value. The best that you can do for her and yourself is to marry her. Good night