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Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by emmyN(m): 5:57pm On May 04, 2023
beekind:

Standing my ground will mean my dad, mom and other members of my own family will not attend the wedding cos my dad said he will not attend the wedding if she does not do a fertility test.
No I haven't met her physically yet, we have only been dating online for 10 months now and haven't had a chance to visit Naija but I am visiting naija and will spend 4 months in naija when I visit later this month.

You are not normal cheesy

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Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by AngelicBeing: 5:57pm On May 04, 2023
Raspberri:
If she refuses to carry out the test, I'm available o..very available for a relationship 😁
Hian, wetin person no go read for nairaland.com shocked
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by Debra911(f): 5:57pm On May 04, 2023
beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.
I think it's so common amongst the SS and SE. The parents always wanting to control their childrens marriage meanwhile during their own time, nobody disturbed them. Yoruba's don't behave like this .

Since your father wants fertility test from her,you can go ahead, that shouldn't change anything cos even after marriage, you'll still run these tests at some point especially when you're trying get a child.

So run the test, show him the results but whatever it may, positive or negative results, if you truly love the girl, don't change your stand.

lastly,don't give your parents room to run your home, it can ruin your home. Try to balance it, give your parents the required respect and also give your wife the required respect, cos both of them matter in your life but don't let any interference.
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by beekind: 5:57pm On May 04, 2023
lebron7:

Hey please can you clear something up for me?
I've seen a lot of posts where Nigerians abroad get married to women in Nigeria, what is your reason? Is there something wrong with the women there?
I'm asking respectfully please


And about your father's request, though it may sound strange to you its very reasonable (imo). Find a Way to make your potential wife do it.
The major reason why many of us abroad come back home to marry is that, majority of ladies abroad are old, some of us prefer younger women.
With that advanced age comes a lot of baggage, also you find cultural compatibility is also a huge part of marriage.

This is the reason why Indians and middle easterners abroad have the lowest divorce rate, marriage is deeper than just attraction for a marriage to stand the test of time, its advisable to marry someone with similar cultural values.

I have a few friends who have married here abroad but majority still go back to naija to marry just like me, I guess it all depends on how we see things.

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Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by korede181: 5:57pm On May 04, 2023
i am really amazed at the first comments i saw... as in you dont mean those comments were made by people born and of African origin... lets not even talk about the doctorate part of the father, lets talk about the father.. everyone has their own family settings and that should be respected. his question was like how can he go about it maybe he doesnt know how to tell his wife to be. this is where most of you get it wrong. if as a man, you cant instruct your woman then you have given her total control of your home in ignorance you will duel. this is the problem faced in so many marriage today.. that is father asked, is it a bad idea in any stand. fertility test. maybe his dad had worked on a research that shows that their is a serious fertility issue around the US which he doesnt want his child to experience. who know, his dad might even be a victim. if we cant think of all this possibilities then we are not thinking enough, this is an open discussion so why narrow it to saying the father has no business if the guy was a man enough.. can you be man enough to outgrow your father?
are we getting worse or better . i dont think we are getting better.
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by eglobalcafe: 5:58pm On May 04, 2023
Please listen to your father.
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by advanceDNA: 5:59pm On May 04, 2023
baralatie:

As in they way they are provoking on this thread is funny o!
You met a girl on Facebook gbam marriage

Shuu

Them must provoke naaa...abortion and high body count full everywhere
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by famzynet: 5:59pm On May 04, 2023
Your dad is right to advice you to do fertility test for her. Some of these ladies have done things that you can never imagine. A lady's careless act in the past should not be transferred to her husband without consent of the man and vice versa. Telling her to do the fertility test is easy. She should consent knowing you take the relationship serious and intend taking the relationship to the next level except she has something to hide.
A thorough medical check up should be a norm for couples who intend marrying especially in the Nigerian culture where we believe that marriage is for good and bad.
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by pacesetting: 5:59pm On May 04, 2023
He has started scattering the marriage even before they started. Like, he is even afraid and don't want to hurt her feelings. He will rather go into the marriage blind than make her feel bad. Just imagine oo
advanceDNA:


A goat cannot be a lion....a simp cant be bold....he's already afraid of his girl so much he cant see the benefit of what his father his suggesting....

tuehhh!!! I hate simps...they should all go and live in Antarctica
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by eroticecstasy: 6:00pm On May 04, 2023
Smartguyboy:
I wonder how some people reason sometimes as if you are not going to do it even without your father asking abi you plan to marry Facebook Nigeria girl without doing fertility test?

Or you think since you been dating her online she stop having sex with her ex or current Nigerian boyfriend

Reading his post.... He isn't matured enough for marriage, irrespective of his age and location.

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Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by ednut1(m): 6:00pm On May 04, 2023
lebron7:

Hey please can you clear something up for me?
I've seen a lot of posts where Nigerians abroad get married to women in Nigeria, what is your reason? Is there something wrong with the women there?
I'm asking respectfully please


And about your father's request, though it may sound strange to you its very reasonable (imo). Find a Way to make your potential wife do it.
many are toxic feminists, don’t want to do chores or raise kids, many are not family oriented etc. Nigerian babes based in Nigeria are also easy to impress or maybe they are pretending so they can japa. but the babe u bring from Nigeria will eventually learn all this and be like them.

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Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by AlphaHakimi: 6:00pm On May 04, 2023
beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.


Why do Nigerians hate accountability?
Your dad as a medical doctor thinks doing a fertility test is a step in the right direction to prevent a possible fertility problem from occurring in the future. He even asked you to go for the test as his son. In as much as we require HIV, hepatitis, blood group and genotype tests to get married, we should also require fertility tests from both man and woman for marriage. Also to prevent the worst kind of fraud in human history which is paternity fraud, EVERY CHILD born should also undergo paternity test.
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by deavicky(m): 6:00pm On May 04, 2023
beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.
tell her that both of u need to a fertility test simple. Do not make know or feel is ur dad's idea
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by baralatie(m): 6:00pm On May 04, 2023
beekind:

Standing my ground will mean my dad, mom and other members of my own family will not attend the wedding cos my dad said he will not attend the wedding if she does not do a fertility test.
No I haven't met her physically yet, we have only been dating online for 10 months now and haven't had a chance to visit Naija but I am visiting naija and will spend 4 months in naija when I visit later this month.

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Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by descarado: 6:01pm On May 04, 2023
Goes both ways kiss
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by Sunisonflex39(m): 6:01pm On May 04, 2023
ednut1:
red flag. How can you be planning marriage with someone you have never met or even know if you guys are compatible 🤣🤣. Even if you decide to marry her all you need is court marriage your parents are not required to be there

Leave am..e dey play..e just dey play

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Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by Ofadaman(m): 6:01pm On May 04, 2023
What's wrong in doing a fertility test,
I think it's something that should be done before marriage , this isn't really a problem ,
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by pansophist(m): 6:02pm On May 04, 2023
How can you upgrade an online relationship straight to marriage? No where in your write up I saw that you've met her in person. Anybody can be good online, but not offline.

Also, you must know the person you want to marry from multiple channel. E.g, you should know in person her friends, workplace, siblings, parents, and spend physical time with her.

To your question, she should do the test. You don't have to tell her it's because your father asked for it, instead, she should do it since you've done yours. What's hard there?

And honestly you can't find a woman there in America to marry? All these cross-border relationships are very risky, and more riskier to the one who carries the burden of relocation, which is you.

Look well well, you no come life come suffer. Marry responsibly, and make sure any sacrifice you make partaining this situation worths it.

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Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by DonDozzytex: 6:03pm On May 04, 2023
Have you done DNA with your Dad before telling a woman to do some kind of fertility test for him[b][/b]
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by Advocate1810(m): 6:03pm On May 04, 2023
beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Tell her bro 😎 it important, your Dad wants good things for you
Thanks.
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by Sharz: 6:03pm On May 04, 2023
Nonsense post, hope your father will tell you how and when to have sex with her too, also tell you how to romance her, how to sent her money. You are 38years but try to grow up to the level of handling your home if you want to be a man
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by gbolswag(m): 6:04pm On May 04, 2023
It's not your dad's business...but it's fine to do it
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by eroticecstasy: 6:04pm On May 04, 2023
beekind:

The major reason why many of us abroad come back home to marry is that, majority of ladies abroad are old, some of us prefer younger women.
With that advanced age comes a lot of baggage, also you find cultural compatibility is also a huge part of marriage.

This is the reason why Indians and middle easterners abroad have the lowest divorce rate, marriage is deeper than just attraction for a marriage to stand the test of time, its advisable to marry someone with similar cultural values.

I have a few friends who have married here abroad but majority still go back to naija to marry just like me, I guess it all depends on how we see things.

One of the major reason men are scared of marrying women abroad is weakness. Weak men are scared of marrying a well informed and independent lady. Marrying a Nigerian hasn't been my thing, right here in Brazil I'm cool with my Brazilian.

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Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by Jackbaur88: 6:04pm On May 04, 2023
If this guy knows what most ladies do these days he won't be arguing with his dad. Many young people are reckless when it comes to sex in the process having all sort of STDs and for the female, damaging their reproductive organs through abortions
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by lebron7(m): 6:04pm On May 04, 2023
beekind:

The major reason why many of us abroad come back home to marry is that, ]majority of ladies abroad are old, some of us prefer younger women.
With that advanced age comes a lot of baggage, also you find cultural compatibility is also a huge part of marriage.

This is the reason why Indians and middle easterners abroad have the lowest divorce rate, marriage is deeper than just attraction for a marriage to stand the test of time, its advisable to marry someone with similar cultural values.

I have a few friends who have married here abroad but majority still go back to naija to marry just like me, I guess it all depends on how we see things.
Lmao
Your answer is very very funny
You're in USA not Japan, how is the majority of females there old 😂😂😂
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by litaninja(m): 6:04pm On May 04, 2023
You brought your story to him, you can't tell him how to respond

beekind:

Guy please don't address my dad like that.
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by advanceDNA: 6:05pm On May 04, 2023
emmyN:


You are not normal cheesy
I support this post with 10 bags of rice, and goat meat
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by lebron7(m): 6:05pm On May 04, 2023
eroticecstasy:


One of the major reason men are scared of marrying women abroad is weakness. Weak men are scared of marrying a well informed and independent lady. Marrying a Nigerian hasn't been my thing, right here in Brazil I'm cool with my Brazilian.
Exactly!
Look at his response lmao
He said the ladies there are old

I believe most of them want women that are naive

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Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by slam7000(m): 6:05pm On May 04, 2023
beekind:

Guy please don't address my dad like that.

Why did you bring this matter here then if you are sensitive about people’s opinions?

You should’ve just called your dad and sort it out with him?

Why would your dad insisting that the lady perform fertility test?
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by Enemyofpeace: 6:06pm On May 04, 2023
bmd10mix:
u dey mind am, lol godly 26 Facebook lol
his father that requested for fertility test knows that Nigerian girls of today cannot be trusted. God fearing my yansh
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by simfrost90210: 6:07pm On May 04, 2023
eroticecstasy:


Your dad is a medical doctor practicing in Nigeria, Port Harcourt precisely. Whatever advice he's giving you is out of his experience as a doctor. Most of our girls have destroyed their representative system with alcohol, had drugs and contraceptives.

You're only 30+ and you're feeling too big to be advised by your dad. This is the reason why we have serious marital breakdown everywhere, children of today feels they're wiser than their parents, what a lost generation?


We live in the age of babies getting married to babies, then giving birth to babies.


grin grin grin grin
Representative system, abi?
Oti da ... Oti da .... Ekushe ....
Re: My Dad Insists That My Fiancée Must Take Fertility Test Before Marriage by eroticecstasy: 6:07pm On May 04, 2023
ednut1:
many are toxic feminists, don’t want to do chores or raise kids, many are not family oriented etc. Nigerian babes based in Nigeria are also easy to impress or maybe they are pretending so they can japa. but the babe u bring from Nigeria will eventually learn all this and
be like them
worst than them.

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