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Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by lovediehatelive(m): 9:49am On May 14, 2023
I met this pretty homely girl sometimes ago.

She was reluctant the first time I toasted her and won't want to date me. However, I persisted till she succumbed.

She's everything I want in a lady. She didn't want to visit me when we started dating until one day I promised that I won't touch her.

She visited and was so graceful that I thanked the heavens for sending my soul mate to me.

We discussed a bit and I made her feel comfortable because she was really uneasy.

As promised, I didn't touch her. She felt so free that she rested her head on my chest.

The urge to kiss her became so strong, but I resisted.

What's the use of spoiling things now when she can be mine forever?

She later left and we became really close from then.

I was happy because she's madly beautiful yet so down to earth.

I was thinking she is a virgin but I needed to clarify.

So one day, I used talk to bring talk and stylishly told her a bit about some rough life of my past for her to feel uncomfortable.

She later opened up to me about her first kiss and how the guy went on to have sex with her even though he promised her nothing will happen.

She was 19 years then.

Since then she stopped visiting guys and is no longer in contact with the guy.

She swore that she hasn't kissed or had sex since then.

Now she's 23.

The thing is I really deeply love this girl because she's just exactly what I needed. But I promise myself that I will marry a virgin and nothing else.

My love for this girl is beginning to affect my thinking.

Should I ditch her and keep looking for a virgin?

Or should I continue with her?

I'm planning to see her people this December.
Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by Lucaski: 9:50am On May 14, 2023
grin
Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by chatinent: 10:02am On May 14, 2023
She swore that she hasn't kissed or had sex since then.

She later opened up to me about her first kiss and how the guy went on to have sex with her even though he promised her nothing will happen.

Should I ditch her and keep looking for a virgin?






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Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by shortgun(m): 10:09am On May 14, 2023
grin
Should we tell him?

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Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by Dogalmighty17: 10:50am On May 14, 2023
Borehole come dey claim virgin again? Why are you allowing that girl run you format? Your woman has been dickmatized severally by different men. Once a woman has tasted the D she wants to keep tasting it. No allow anybody use you play. Chop your own then free her for the long line of dicks waiting.

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Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by Mindlog: 11:15am On May 14, 2023
You "promised" yourself to marry a virgin, have you been sexually active before this relationship?

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Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by kkins25(m): 12:05pm On May 14, 2023
lovediehatelive:
I met this pretty homely girl sometimes ago.

She was reluctant the first time I toasted her and won't want to date me. However, I persisted till she succumbed.

She's everything I want in a lady. She didn't want to visit me when we started dating until one day I promised that I won't touch her.

She visited and was so graceful that I thanked the heavens for sending my soul mate to me.

We discussed a bit and I made her feel comfortable because she was really uneasy.

As promised, I didn't touch her. She felt so free that she rested her head on my chest.

The urge to kiss her became so strong, but I resisted.

What's the use of spoiling things now when she can be mine forever?

She later left and we became really close from then.

I was happy because she's madly beautiful yet so down to earth.

I was thinking she is a virgin but I needed to clarify.
πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚

My fellow man.. First, if you're not a virgin, you have no right to be demanding virgin pkekus.

second, If she succumb to you because you were pressuring her, then bro, you just shot yourself in the foot. Na your type they need to do Paternity test because, guys like me who don't pressurize are the ones knacking your wifes for backstage,and giving you our children to raise..πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚

Mr pressure cooker! You better start to remove love.. and open your eyes.

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Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by Kobojunkie: 12:11pm On May 14, 2023
lovediehatelive:
β–  The thing is I really deeply love this girl because she's just exactly what I needed. But I promise myself that I will marry a virgin and nothing else. My love for this girl is beginning to affect my thinking.
Should I ditch her and keep looking for a virgin? Or should I continue with her? I'm planning to see her people this December.
Please ditch her immediately so you can continue looking for a virgin, your true heart's desire. undecided

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Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by GboyegaD(m): 12:51pm On May 14, 2023
If she's everything you want in a woman, don't let her non virgin status affect you provided you have enough information about her past and you are comfortable with it.

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Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by Tayorshd87: 12:59pm On May 14, 2023
lovediehatelive:
I met this pretty homely girl sometimes ago.

She was reluctant the first time I toasted her and won't want to date me. However, I persisted till she succumbed.

She's everything I want in a lady. She didn't want to visit me when we started dating until one day I promised that I won't touch her.

She visited and was so graceful that I thanked the heavens for sending my soul mate to me.

We discussed a bit and I made her feel comfortable because she was really uneasy.

As promised, I didn't touch her. She felt so free that she rested her head on my chest.

The urge to kiss her became so strong, but I resisted.

What's the use of spoiling things now when she can be mine forever?

She later left and we became really close from then.

I was happy because she's madly beautiful yet so down to earth.

I was thinking she is a virgin but I needed to clarify.

So one day, I used talk to bring talk and stylishly told her a bit about some rough life of my past for her to feel uncomfortable.

She later opened up to me about her first kiss and how the guy went on to have sex with her even though he promised her nothing will happen.

She was 19 years then.

Since then she stopped visiting guys and is no longer in contact with the guy.

She swore that she hasn't kissed or had sex since then.

Now she's 23.

The thing is I really deeply love this girl because she's just exactly what I needed. But I promise myself that I will marry a virgin and nothing else.

My love for this girl is beginning to affect my thinking.

Should I ditch her and keep looking for a virgin?

Or should I continue with her?

I'm planning to see her people this December.

Is like u are a kid too 🀣

I guess since she is 23 maybe u are 15 cos ur level of thinking Abt Virginity as a criteria to marry is something else mtheew

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Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by TreasureJunky: 12:59pm On May 14, 2023
When you think of marriage, virgin should be the least thing to think about. Being a virgin is not a guarantee for a happy home. Character and homeliness, plus other good qualities should be your priority. What if she's a virgin but not well behaved.
Virgin is good, but it doesn't make a good wife material

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Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by ItisWell22(f): 1:06pm On May 14, 2023
Keep looking for your virgin…

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Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by Foodqueen(f): 1:58pm On May 14, 2023
Keep looking

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Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by Autobot05: 3:32pm On May 14, 2023
First things first .. there is nothing like soulmate .
You both have to put effort to make it work .

Offence no 2: mr rough past... are you a virgin ?

Make i nor go far make e nor be like say i dey spoil the girl show but she could be lying yunno wink

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Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by JeffreyJunior: 3:46pm On May 14, 2023
This one too believe say he don ready to marry.

Okay naaπŸ˜„

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Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by nicerod(m): 4:38pm On May 14, 2023
U were never in love with her in the first place

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Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by visaclick: 5:08pm On May 14, 2023
This is a farm tool

Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by A305: 5:22pm On May 14, 2023
lovediehatelive:
I met this pretty homely girl sometimes ago.

She was reluctant the first time I toasted her and won't want to date me. However, I persisted till she succumbed.

She's everything I want in a lady. She didn't want to visit me when we started dating until one day I promised that I won't touch her.

She visited and was so graceful that I thanked the heavens for sending my soul mate to me.

We discussed a bit and I made her feel comfortable because she was really uneasy.

As promised, I didn't touch her. She felt so free that she rested her head on my chest.

The urge to kiss her became so strong, but I resisted.

What's the use of spoiling things now when she can be mine forever?

She later left and we became really close from then.

I was happy because she's madly beautiful yet so down to earth.

I was thinking she is a virgin but I needed to clarify.

So one day, I used talk to bring talk and stylishly told her a bit about some rough life of my past for her to feel uncomfortable.

She later opened up to me about her first kiss and how the guy went on to have sex with her even though he promised her nothing will happen.

She was 19 years then.

Since then she stopped visiting guys and is no longer in contact with the guy.

She swore that she hasn't kissed or had sex since then.

Now she's 23.

The thing is I really deeply love this girl because she's just exactly what I needed. But I promise myself that I will marry a virgin and nothing else.

My love for this girl is beginning to affect my thinking.

Should I ditch her and keep looking for a virgin?

Or should I continue with her?

I'm planning to see her people this December.


My guy:

Sex first before relationship.

If you commit to her without sex, she has that leverage over you and risk hoarding sex till after marriage or worst still, manipulate you with it.


Your first show of weakness is letting her know you deeply in love with her. And now you want to adhere to NO SEX. Dude wake up.

Listen Son. After sex and the post-nut clarity, you would make better decision to be with her or not.

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Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by Kobojunkie: 5:24pm On May 14, 2023
visaclick:
This is a farm tool
That is a tool of torture. This is instead a farm tool.

Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by JovialJune(f): 5:28pm On May 14, 2023
So many immature people getting married these days, no wonder divorce rates are extremely high.

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Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by lovediehatelive(m): 6:54pm On May 14, 2023
shortgun:
grin
Should we tell him?

I've thought of all possibilities.

However, it seems like I've been following my head too much.

My heart is just weak that's why I don't want to follow it
Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by lovediehatelive(m): 6:57pm On May 14, 2023
Dogalmighty17:
Borehole come dey claim virgin again? Why are you allowing that girl run you format? Your woman has been dickmatized severally by different men. Once a woman has tasted the D she wants to keep tasting it. No allow anybody use you play. Chop your own then free her for the long line of dicks waiting.

That's my fear.

It's like I'll still keep an eye on her like running background checks.

At the meantime, I've started looking for more suitable candidates to match at least the virginity criteria
Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by lovediehatelive(m): 6:58pm On May 14, 2023
kkins25:
πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚

My fellow man.. First, if you're not a virgin, you have no right to be demanding virgin pkekus.

second, If she succumb to you because you were pressuring her, then bro, you just shot yourself in the foot. Na your type they need to do Paternity test because, guys like me who don't pressurize are the ones knacking your wifes for backstage,and giving you our children to raise..πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚

Mr pressure cooker! You better start to remove love.. and open your eyes.

I don't really get you.

If a girl falls too easily, we term her to be cheap.

So what do you mean by you don't pressurize them
Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by lovediehatelive(m): 7:01pm On May 14, 2023
GboyegaD:
If she's everything you want in a woman, don't let her non virgin status affect you provided you have enough information about her past and you are comfortable with it.

My soul just can't accept that.

That's just the number one criteria, like a prequsite to other factors
Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by lovediehatelive(m): 7:02pm On May 14, 2023
Tayorshd87:


Is like u are a kid too 🀣

I guess since she is 23 maybe u are 15 cos ur level of thinking Abt Virginity as a criteria to marry is something else mtheew

I'm 7 , not 15.

On a serious note, my soul just can't accept settling down with a lady that's not a virgin
Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by lovediehatelive(m): 7:04pm On May 14, 2023
TreasureJunky:
When you think of marriage, virgin should be the least thing to think about. Being a virgin is not a guarantee for a happy home. Character and homeliness, plus other good qualities should be your priority. What if she's a virgin but not well behaved.
Virgin is good, but it doesn't make a good wife material

She has all these good qualities already.

And besides the chances of a virgin remaining faithful is very high than a girl that has been entered countless times by different folks.
Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by lovediehatelive(m): 7:05pm On May 14, 2023
Autobot05:
First things first .. there is nothing like soulmate .
You both have to put effort to make it work .

Offence no 2: mr rough past... are you a virgin ?

Make i nor go far make e nor be like say i dey spoil the girl show but she could be lying yunno wink

The virginity test is for females not males.

They come with a seal
Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by lovediehatelive(m): 7:07pm On May 14, 2023
A305:



My guy:

Sex first before relationship.

If you commit to her without sex, she has that leverage over you and risk hoarding sex till after marriage or worst still, manipulate you with it.


Your first show of weakness is letting her know you deeply in love with her. And now you want to adhere to NO SEX. Dude wake up.

Listen Son. After sex and the post-nut clarity, you would make better decision to be with her or not.

True.

You have valid points.

You already know My next target wink
Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by kkins25(m): 7:10pm On May 14, 2023
lovediehatelive:


I don't really get you.

If a girl falls too easily, we term her to be cheap.

So what do you mean by you don't pressurize them
If a guy is into you, you'd certainly know after some time. there are instance where Men don't take no for an answer..So, they resort to verbal force, and manipulation. Girl tells you NO, her body language says the same thing, but you constantly continue to demand, demand, and demand.
Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by lovediehatelive(m): 7:10pm On May 14, 2023
JovialJune:
So many immature people getting married these days, no wonder divorce rates are extremely high.

Divorce rates are high because people no longer want to keep themselves chaste before marriage all in the name of freedom.

When they get married they start comparing their spouse to the numerous individuals they have slept with in the past.
Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by Houseofglam7(f): 7:32pm On May 14, 2023
Mtchewwwwwwwww
Re: Advice Me Please. I Want To Marry Her But Discovered That by TheCongo2: 7:47pm On May 14, 2023
kkins25:
πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚

My fellow man.. First, if you're not a virgin, you have no right to be demanding virgin pkekus.

second, If she succumb to you because you were pressuring her, then bro, you just shot yourself in the foot. Na your type they need to do Paternity test because, guys like me who don't pressurize are the ones knacking your wifes for backstage,and giving you our children to raise..πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚

Mr pressure cooker! You better start to remove love.. and open your eyes.

That is his choice to marry a virgin. Who are you to tell him he can't demand virginity on the lady he wants to marry

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