Should I Get Married To Her Now? - Family (4)

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Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by madampresh(f): 5:25am On Apr 12, 2023

You better run from this useless country.

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Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by olakan22: 5:32am On Apr 12, 2023

Apparently, your heart is not in this relationship. What happened to discussing your plans with her? You both can plan your relocation sontin together. If she is any good as you have insinuated she would gladly support a frugal wedding and you won't have to chew too much into your savings.

Slizzords:
Good day familylanders, i consider this part of nairaland as a place with lots of reasonable and mature people so i would like to table my matter here.

Am a 27yr old guy and I have been dating this girl of mine for the past 3years now, she's 24yrs and we have been good, she works in a corporate organization and i also hustle for my daily bread too. I have been able to save a good amount of money, though i don't have tertiary education but have got a very sound mind.

Recently she brought up the issue of marriage and asked me when i intend to come and do the needful, i have met her mom and siblings on a few occasions and the vibes i got from them looks positive. I know she loves me and i also share the same affections for her.

The issue is i don't know if i should relocate abroad with the funds at my disposal because of the situation of this country or remain in naija and proceed with marriage with her.

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by Mrhonesty: 5:48am On Apr 12, 2023

Questions from a sound mind.
ADDITIONAL: remember that the abroad option is 50/50 possibility

MrBrownJay1:
ask yourself these simple questions:
- whats more important in your life today?
- whats happiness/satisfaction for you?
- where do you see yourself in 5yrs?
- cant you marry someone without spending your saved money (why do you think that you cannot keep saving while being married, AND MAKE ABROAD PLANS WITH YOUR WHOLE FAMILY)?

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by dkenny4lyf(m): 6:43am On Apr 12, 2023

You may probably not get to see this ...

But if you see, don't ignore and learn .

In conscise,

1.) No need to go abroad, get things sorted out here and continue with your life.
2.) Reason along with your wife-to-be and get things sort out and prepare for next phase of life-

Keywords:

* Things
* Sort
*Sorted

WHAT TO AVOID:
1. Avoid too many advice, cos they often mislead

NOTE:
1. It's very wise to learn from mistakes of other inorder to retrace any erring steps of ours ...

EXPLANATION/DETAILS:

1. Abroad is a prepared level ground for certified fellow and non but former is advantaged more than latter,

Knowledge basically are of 3 types,
a. Education,
b. skill acquisition,
c. Bussiness.

In the above 3 categories, FULLY ENJOYED LIFE CAN BE EARNED ( Human is by default fit to all these categories with varied mind to perpetuate life orderliness) ....

You are doing well in life, I advise you to stay and make a living here..

" An African man on an American soil is a confused man" (dr damager)...

Life is up and down.....

Up of life - is often looked into,
Down of life -is always ignored.

But mind you, we are completed with both.

UP of life:
Self love;
You are young now, establish yourself to have passive income ..(bussiness, paying skills).

We all see today but oblivious of tomorrow.

Couple love;
Don't be mean , talk with her, iron things out and set things in motion.

DOWN of life:
Though unexpected, but it really comes....
we only need to plan ahead and be proactive to lessen the impact ....

It comes in financial challenge form, health form, bussiness form, relationship/relative inclined form etc..

We all ask for strength and it comes in form of challenges...

Overcoming these required a nurtured, doctored and stable soul with knowledge based( ethics and morals) and spiritual undertone ....

There are more to life, the higher you know(life lesson) the better you become.....

Am mrkenny,

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by jossytech(m): 7:20am On Apr 12, 2023

EriMma1:
Marriage will suck you dry in naija. So, relocate. Work hard and make more money then come back and marry her.

Make sure you do your research on which country to go to so you don't go and get stranded over there.

Sha don't go UK

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by Rochasstatue(f): 8:45am On Apr 12, 2023

Stay here and settle down.
Do a low-key wedding runs.
Use your remaining money to fund your hustling.
What are you going to do abroad?
What is the guarantee you will amass wealth abroad?
Settle down and plan to have your fist child a year or two after wedding so that your finances won't deplete.
Remain prudent.
Spend wisely.
Avoid bad influence.
Avoid obidients.

You will be fine.

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by tiger2080: 8:53am On Apr 12, 2023

DONT BE A FOOL.DO NOT LET A BITCH TRICK YOU INTO MARRIAGE WHEN U ARENT CAPABLE AN READY.YOU WANT TO USE UR ENTIRE SAVING TO MARRY FALL BACK TO SQUARE ONE LIVE THE LIFE OF REGRET.NOTIN LIKE LOVE BOY.THEY ARE FAKE.WHEN THERE IS MONEY WOMAN SHOW U FAKE LOVE,WHEN THERE IS NO MONEY NO LOVE.SHE CAN Bleep OTHER MEN ONTOP UR MATRIMONIAL BED AN GIVES U PROBLEM,TROUBLE.DONT SAY U WERE NOT WARN BEFORE U INHERIT LIABILITY.IF I JAPA 10YRS WHEN I HAD THE FUNDS BY NOW I WOULD HAVE BE A BILLONAIRE.

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by yungwilly(m): 9:00am On Apr 12, 2023

As for me marriage ain’t in my head, I hate the other gender stressing me.

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by Awise09(m): 9:01am On Apr 12, 2023

Nice2023:
They are telling u to relocate abroad and they are in Nigeria making money.

U had better not listen to them oh.

See,before u marry that lady,discuss her role in the marriage,your role and most importantly,your individual financial responsibilities.

How many children u want to have,investments,extended families and many more I may not fathom here.

Marriage and wedding aren't the same,it is in the definition u will understand me better.

Don't rush into it but ask yourself if u can muster all the financial implications that comes with it.

Wish u all the best.

@OP the best advice you could ever get

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by Somope: 9:22am On Apr 12, 2023

Slizzords:
Good day familylanders, i consider this part of nairaland as a place with lots of reasonable and mature people so i would like to table my matter here.

Am a 27yr old guy and I have been dating this girl of mine for the past 3years now, she's 24yrs and we have been good, she works in a corporate organization and i also hustle for my daily bread too. I have been able to save a good amount of money, though i don't have tertiary education but have got a very sound mind.

Recently she brought up the issue of marriage and asked me when i intend to come and do the needful, i have met her mom and siblings on a few occasions and the vibes i got from them looks positive. I know she loves me and i also share the same affections for her.

The issue is i don't know if i should relocate abroad with the funds at my disposal because of the situation of this country or remain in naija and proceed with marriage with her.

My brother , talk to her about your traveling plans and if she sounded positive, plan it together

If she sounded otherwise, plan it alone and go for greener pasture first. You are still young to be tied down in marriage

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by okoloto: 9:33am On Apr 12, 2023

Bro, this is the best advise you can get here.

Odin13:
Relocate with the funds you have bro.. dollar is going up and won’t stop..
No job guarantee in Nigeria .. especially for hustlers .. maybe except you’re managing yours and know too well the secret of that business..

Love is an illusion.. is never real.. it always fade with time .. beside she’s still young.. make she gather experience of life .. while faithfully waiting for you..
give your self a year or two and build develop yourself outside the shores .. learn new things and stabilize..

If she’s still available.. you can make the commitment..if she’s not .. you’re a lucky being.

Is yourself first.. self first… stable family.. then you can add another family .. before your “ own” family.. I mean kids ..

Good luck

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by Babydaddymateri(m): 9:39am On Apr 12, 2023

You can do small no noise intro on head; please be meticulous in your spending in such a way that the way funds would be enough for you to Japa. Don't make the mistake of impregnating during your travelling process unless you're sure that your travelling documents have successfully dropped - e geh why.

☮️

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by Montaque(m): 9:54am On Apr 12, 2023

I had a friend who was in your situation just last year. I advised him several times but he did what was best for him. He is in the UK now and he is regretting his decision of letting his girl go. Abroad is a lonely place, and if you are planning of going to the UK, you need your relationship. Don't leave your girl, tell her your plans and plan together. Infact, the money you think you will spend to get married here may not happen that way, if you are with a wise girl. Registry wedding will not cost you more than 50k and you are done. Traditional marriage can also be done in a simple way, just explain to your inlaws. At the end, you still have your money, a wife and the abroad plans still in full gear. You can go and bring her over or you both go together. You can always go abroad today and in future. But you may never find another good woman (assuming she is all that).

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Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by HellVictorinho6(m): 10:03am On Apr 12, 2023

Slizzords:
Good day familylanders, i consider this part of nairaland as a place with lots of reasonable and mature people so i would like to table my matter here.

Am a 27yr old guy and I have been dating this girl of mine for the past 3years now, she's 24yrs and we have been good, she works in a corporate organization and i also hustle for my daily bread too. I have been able to save a good amount of money, though i don't have tertiary education but have got a very sound mind.

Recently she brought up the issue of marriage and asked me when i intend to come and do the needful, i have met her mom and siblings on a few occasions and the vibes i got from them looks positive. I know she loves me and i also share the same affections for her.

The issue is i don't know if i should relocate abroad with the funds at my disposal because of the situation of this country or remain in naija and proceed with marriage with her.

WHY NOT ASK HER? AS 4 ME, I WANT U TO WAIT FOR 27 MORE YEARS.

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by emmyN(m): 10:17am On Apr 12, 2023

Slizzords:
Good day familylanders, i consider this part of nairaland as a place with lots of reasonable and mature people so i would like to table my matter here.

Am a 27yr old guy and I have been dating this girl of mine for the past 3years now, she's 24yrs and we have been good, she works in a corporate organization and i also hustle for my daily bread too. I have been able to save a good amount of money, though i don't have tertiary education but have got a very sound mind.

Recently she brought up the issue of marriage and asked me when i intend to come and do the needful, i have met her mom and siblings on a few occasions and the vibes i got from them looks positive. I know she loves me and i also share the same affections for her.

The issue is i don't know if i should relocate abroad with the funds at my disposal because of the situation of this country or remain in naija and proceed with marriage with her.

How do you intend to relocate abroad since you don't have tertiary education? Most people that relocate go through the study route

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by Jwens(m): 10:27am On Apr 12, 2023

Tonalphs:
those people saying relocate seem not to watch the news. I think soonest Africa will be the safest place to have a family and train kids with this transgender and LGBTQ stuffs the world is consuming.
I will advise you to invest online rather than travel. Shey the other day one guy want to run back to naija just three months after he japa, na still una tell am to come back home or be a man. Imo, you can make it anywhere.

pls How can one invest online ?

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by eleniyan2020: 12:38pm On Apr 12, 2023

Odin13:
Relocate with the funds you have bro.. dollar is going up and won’t stop..
No job guarantee in Nigeria .. especially for hustlers .. maybe except you’re managing yours and know too well the secret of that business..

Love is an illusion.. is never real.. it always fade with time .. beside she’s still young.. make she gather experience of life .. while faithfully waiting for you..
give your self a year or two and build develop yourself outside the shores .. learn new things and stabilize..

If she’s still available.. you can make the commitment..if she’s not .. you’re a lucky being.

Is yourself first.. self first… stable family.. then you can add another family .. before your “ own” family.. I mean kids ..

Good luck

love is an illusion... I love that part!

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by Braga90(m): 1:27pm On Apr 12, 2023

Slizzords:
Good day familylanders, i consider this part of nairaland as a place with lots of reasonable and mature people so i would like to table my matter here.

Am a 27yr old guy and I have been dating this girl of mine for the past 3years now, she's 24yrs and we have been good, she works in a corporate organization and i also hustle for my daily bread too. I have been able to save a good amount of money, though i don't have tertiary education but have got a very sound mind.

Recently she brought up the issue of marriage and asked me when i intend to come and do the needful, i have met her mom and siblings on a few occasions and the vibes i got from them looks positive. I know she loves me and i also share the same affections for her.

The issue is i don't know if i should relocate abroad with the funds at my disposal because of the situation of this country or remain in naija and proceed with marriage with her.

At 27 , you're still a young man, and your future is ahead of you, intensify what you got going on financially, get your life and plans in order. As for your little lady, make her wait in an understandable manner, that is if you're not out here looking for an inspiration to break her heart. Love without the essential resources of life fades overtime. Goodluck.

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by DrDunamis(m): 3:38pm On Apr 12, 2023

Slizzords:
Good day familylanders, i consider this part of nairaland as a place with lots of reasonable and mature people so i would like to table my matter here.

Am a 27yr old guy and I have been dating this girl of mine for the past 3years now, she's 24yrs and we have been good, she works in a corporate organization and i also hustle for my daily bread too. I have been able to save a good amount of money, though i don't have tertiary education but have got a very sound mind.

Recently she brought up the issue of marriage and asked me when i intend to come and do the needful, i have met her mom and siblings on a few occasions and the vibes i got from them looks positive. I know she loves me and i also share the same affections for her.

The issue is i don't know if i should relocate abroad with the funds at my disposal because of the situation of this country or remain in naija and proceed with marriage with her.

Discuss with her and do both.
If she's working you said, she's got cash somewhere saved.
Don't do a lavished budget wedding. Do something within your means and plan to leave with her after the wedding.

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by paul300scarlet: 4:37pm On Apr 12, 2023

Pray and ask God for permission, Jer29 vs 11
you might do your plan but how sure are you that it will be successful.. the race is not by the swift

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by isabi2lof: 8:28pm On Apr 12, 2023

Pls if you know she won't be included in your plans to travel to abroad , don't marry her and keep her in Naija .

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by hotsuavity(m): 1:52pm On Apr 15, 2023

advanceDNA:
Why is marriage and relocating not happening together.?? Why u wan abandon wedding for travelling
....tell her ur plans.... do small wedding for registry.....japa together.... e go pay una working together making the money...

Bro sense full your head

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by Slizzords(op): 6:54am On May 23, 2023*

Rubbiish:
Pls can u give us an idea of your savings amount u are talking about? If the money no big, no reason abroad oh

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by Kobicove(m): 10:06pm On May 25, 2023

Slizzords:
Good day familylanders, i consider this part of nairaland as a place with lots of reasonable and mature people so i would like to table my matter here.

Am a 27yr old guy and I have been dating this girl of mine for the past 3years now, she's 24yrs and we have been good, she works in a corporate organization and i also hustle for my daily bread too. I have been able to save a good amount of money, though i don't have tertiary education but have got a very sound mind.

Recently she brought up the issue of marriage and asked me when i intend to come and do the needful, i have met her mom and siblings on a few occasions and the vibes i got from them looks positive. I know she loves me and i also share the same affections for her.

The issue is i don't know if i should relocate abroad with the funds at my disposal because of the situation of this country or remain in naija and proceed with marriage with her.

Now I know why you are so pained because the UK blocked japa route grin

Odé oshi

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by Slizzords(op): 9:38am On May 30, 2023

Kobicove:
Now I know why you are so pained because the UK blocked japa route

Odé oshi

Get a life and get out of mentions, i am not the source of your frustrations

Re: Should I Get Married To Her Now? by Kobicove(m): 4:17pm On May 31, 2023

Slizzords:
Get a life and get out of mentions, i am not the source of your frustrations

Between you and I who sounds frustrated?

I have never said anywhere that I want to japa, you can go and check all my posts on Nairaland from 2011 to 2023.

You on the other hand has gone into a state of depression simply because the UK banned students from migrating with dependents; you can't even vex and go on your own for further studies because ordinary Bsc certificate you don't have! grin

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