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marlow1962:
For how long will that small change in your hand take care of your family. Don't depend on that $20k in your hand, it means nothing the moment you get married.
Forget marriage now, no need to rush.

Thanks

CrownOfClay724:
Where is your father, though?
And your older relatives.
Na their work you dey give strangers so.

Hmmm

narite:
Getting married at the age of 25, I find it worrisome. Early marriage is great for a Lady but can’t say the same for a Guy. Not trying to discourage you here but I just need to take this off my heart. Wish you the best mate.

so at what age should a man settle down

Just give your babe belle


Na dem go come see you for your house.

marlow1962:
What Infrastructures do you have on ground before thinking of marriage?

this is how I was thinking about having wealth first before marriage.. now, I don reach 37yrs I Neva marry. My brother there is no rule in Marriage. Just get consistent income and supportive wife and you are good to go.

Postinor:
so at what age should a man settle down

at 40yrs

ufotty2001:
at 40yrs

dey play

Postinor:
so at what age should a man settle down

When a man is at his peak, having a deep intelligent which only can be obtained from life experiences along with genetic self maturity preferably at the age of 35.

It is this experiences coupled with newly acquired brain power (seeing and understanding things in a completely different way) that will successfully help him navigate one of the rough many terrains he will set out to embark on in life, one of such is marriage.

A man has a high chance of failing when he set out too fast. It is good to fail in life but in some certain things it is not as it not only affect you but it affects the lives of those who are around you, those who you unknowingly drag into something I will call an experiment.

Been financially buoyant is not a sign to go get married, getting married goes beyond that.

narite:
When a man is at his peak, having a deep intelligent which only can be obtained from life experiences along with genetic self maturity preferably at the age of 35.

It is this experiences coupled with newly acquired brain power (seeing and understanding things in a completely different way) that will successfully help him navigate one of the rough many terrains he will set out to embark on in life, one of such is marriage.

A man has a high chance of failing when he set out too fast. It is good to fail in life but in some certain things it is not as it not only affect you but it affects the lives of those who are around you, those who you unknowingly drag into something I will call an experiment.

Been financially buoyant is not a sign to go get married, getting married goes beyond that.

as for me,I believe 30 yrs is a very good age for getting married for men

Forrkke:
Hi, everyone.

My girlfriend and I intend to settle down by the end of the year or early next year.

The problem now is I need to meet her parents to make my intentions known, but I don’t know how to do that, neither does she.

She’s 23, and I’m 25.


What do I take along with me? What are the thing I need? I do I approach them? I honestly have no idea what to do.


She asked one of her cousins, and that one said I should go with two envelopes, one for the mother and another for the father. And that I need to go with Schnapps, wine, and kola nut or something, and that I’ll drop 1k on the table before talking. And she said I must go with a friend or relative. Is this necessary for the first meeting?


Also, which one is envelope again? How much do I need to drop in each one? Why is this even necessary? Is that how it’s done?

My intention is to go and make my intentions known, know the brides list, and what to do going forward.

My girl actually wanted to me to get her pregnant, so that everything can be easy to process. But I prefer to do the right thing


Suggestions are welcomed

Oga your 25 wetin u dey hurry for

At 25 I was still in school battling with getting
My degree

25, dating a 23yr old girl, when you're old she will be old too, who is going to take care of you

I don't see an happy ending with this your union
First you're too young, and the lady is too old for you

Postinor:
so at what age should a man settle down

30 above

Thebadpolitican:
Oga your 25 wetin u dey hurry for

At 25 I was still in school battling with getting
My degree

25, dating a 23yr old girl, when you're old she will be old too, who is going to take care of you

I don't see an happy ending with this your union
First you're too young, and the lady is too old for you

How’s a 23 year-old girl too old?

Forrkke:
How’s a 23 year-old girl too old?

Am talking about when compared to your age she is too old for you

A 23yr lady is too smart for you my guy, understand that both gender live in parrel time space, consider yourself at old age she will also be too old to take care of you, allow her go, you shouldn't have thought of engagement in the first place I don't blame you you're still young the reason why


A 30yr old man marrying a 23 yr old lady is ideal not a 23-25 yr old difference

Anyway good luck with your early marriage

Thebadpolitican:
Am talking about when compared to your age she is too old for you

A 23yr lady is too smart for you my guy, understand that both gender live in parrel time space, consider yourself at old age she will also be too old to take care of you, allow her go, you shouldn't have thought of engagement in the first place I don't blame you you're still young the reason why


A 30yr old man marrying a 23 yr old lady is ideal not a 23-25 yr old difference

Anyway good luck with your early marriage

Shuuu! See matter o

Anyways, I appreciate the kind advice, boss.

farano, Rocktation, dominique, Lalasticlala


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marlow1962:
For how long will that small change in your hand take care of your family. Don't depend on that $20k in your hand, it means nothing the moment you get married.
Forget marriage now, no need to rush.

I have got three questions bruv
1. Do you know Op personally in real life?
2. Why are you deviating from Op subject?
3. Do you have any idea or share in Op life goal? ..
Cos some people can be funny with advice. Some 25 year old dude can be as wise to manage his home.

[quote author=Forrkke post=123377972]Hi, everyone.

My girlfriend and I intend to settle down by the end of the year or early next year.

The problem now is I need to meet her parents to make my intentions known, but I don’t know how to do that, neither does she.

She’s 23, and I’m 25.


What do I take along with me? What are the thing I need? I do I approach them? I honestly have no idea what to do.


She asked one of her cousins, and that one said I should go with two envelopes, one for the mother and another for the father. And that I need to go with Schnapps, wine, and kola nut or something, and that I’ll drop 1k on the table before talking. And she said I must go with a friend or relative. Is this necessary for the first meeting?


Also, which one is envelope again? How much do I need to drop in each one? Why is this even necessary? Is that how it’s done?

My intention is to go and make my intentions known, know the brides list, and what to do going forward.

My girl actually wanted to me to get her pregnant, so that everything can be easy to process. But I prefer to do the right thing


No need to rush things at first, just go alone.My advise, don't buy anything pls.Entertain them with drinks when you get there, could be soft, beer or wine depending on what they want after you have exchange greeting and pleasantry.Tell d parents that you like their daughter and you to marry her if God willing. Expect some questions and answer.

Guy I like your courage and determination,he goes to show how serious and responsible you want to be in life.
Pls Just ensure she is d right girl (submissive,supportive,mature,intelligent,etc) for you because marriage comes with a lot of responsibility, especially when d kids set in.

For those talking of age. Since the lady is above 18yrs and d guy in question is above 21yrs and can feed himself and take care of his family, age is out of d question.

narite:
When a man is at his peak, having a deep intelligent which only can be obtained from life experiences along with genetic self maturity preferably at the age of 35.

It is this experiences coupled with newly acquired brain power (seeing and understanding things in a completely different way) that will successfully help him navigate one of the rough many terrains he will set out to embark on in life, one of such is marriage.

A man has a high chance of failing when he set out too fast. It is good to fail in life but in some certain things it is not as it not only affect you but it affects the lives of those who are around you, those who you unknowingly drag into something I will call an experiment.

Been financially buoyant is not a sign to go get married, getting married goes beyond that.

If one is to follow what you just said, the best age to get married is never.
A man's life is full of challenges, hurdles and experiences then it never ends till he dies, reason why a good virtuous woman is important in his life.
For some the best age to get married is as early as 20-25, for some it could be 30s, 40s.

You want to marry a 23yr old Nigerian girl?

Oga the lover, wait till your 30's. Your 23yr old gf too should make good use of her 20's. Unless you've bleeped someone's daughter and she is pregy pregy, what is the rush about?

Marriage is not for people in their 20's. If you are so much in love, how about you live together awhile without tieing the knot, that will make you understand each other better.

Trust me, you will see life clearer when you start living with your rushy rushy gf. People are not what you always assume them to be, open your eyes, open them wide the trap is real.

diogo23:
At the age 25 you want to rush into marriage, good luck on that

You guys haven’t answered his request, you’re telling him why he shouldn’t get married.

Op, it’s not hard. It’s just a first time visit for them to see you or assess who their daughter is dating. No need for kolanut/relative/envelope. Buy wine (NOT fruit wine, but maybe low alcohol), buy fruits, and maybe bread.

Also dress well. Don’t act timid, and don’t talk too much there. Just be calm, listen more than talk. That’s all. You can go with an uncle/relative the next time when you want to collect the marriage list.

[quote author=1234ben post=123417538][/quote]Thanks for the kind advice, I appreciate

SmithRussell:
You guys haven’t answered his request, you’re telling him why he shouldn’t get married.

Op, it’s not hard. It’s just a first time visit for them to see you or assess who their daughter is dating. No need for kolanut/relative/envelope. Buy wine (NOT fruit wine, but maybe low alcohol), buy fruits, and maybe bread.

Also dress well. Don’t act timid, and don’t talk too much there. Just be calm, listen more than talk. That’s all. You can go with an uncle/relative the next time when you want to collect the marriage list.

Thanks, Sir

I’m lauffing.