Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏

Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.

Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.

My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.

My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation

When ur pman Kpai of HBP na that time ur malee eyes go open, I just pray you would be able to forgive ur malee

Bro you really need to intervene oo before she will kill him for you people. Men are not speaking out in marriages. But also don't rush in confronting your mother ooo, just talk to her because maybe your father did something that is making her behave like that.

Why would a woman be bullying her husband?

Is she taking advantage of his gentleness?

But I will advise you not act rashly....

Tell your mum/dad to divorce since there's no love between them anymore.

she is just plain tired of him.

she has her eyes on anothr man but i guess the impact of it is whats holding her back hence reason why she is pouring her anger and frustration on the poor man.

she will push him into high blood pressure so he will die and give her the space and freedom she so badly want.

very very evil gender.

DenreleDave:

Durojaiye kokumo Denreledave, why showing your 32?

Wetin make some men live long..na the things wey dem see throwaway their face .
If your dad hasn't complained to you or siblings on same issue.comot body.cos anyday it starts to affect him,he will bring it to your know.but,for now.let it slide till she raises her hand on him.

obiekunie01:
she is just plain tired of him.

she has her eyes on anothr man but i guess the impact of it is whats holding her back hence reason why she is pouring her anger and frustration on the poor man.

she will push him into high blood pressure so he will die and give her the space and freedom she so badly want.

very very evil gender.

She or him should divorce the other and allow the poor guy marry someone he can relate with. How long will they live in such condition?

donbachi:
Wetin make some men live long..na the things wey dem see throwaway their face .
If your dad hasn't complained to you or siblings on same issue.comot body.cos anyday it starts to affect him,he will bring it to your know.but,for now.let it slide till she raises her hand on him.

You expected the dad to tell his children that his beloved wife is maltreating and bullying him?

The son should take action now before it's late. A woman that does not respect and value her husband deserves no respect from her children!

donbachi:
Wetin make some men live long..na the things wey dem see throwaway their face .
If your dad hasn't complained to you or siblings on same issue.comot body.cos anyday it starts to affect him,he will bring it to your know.but,for now.let it slide till she raises her hand on him.

.. till she raises her hand? Emotional torture kills in installment. It must not get to that stage because it could quickly become fatal.

Zonefree:

You expected the dad to tell his children that his beloved wife is maltreating and bullying him?

'Beloved" is out of this case. Nobody can continue to love someone who treats them wrong.

BeardedmeatR:
.. till she raises her hand? Emotional torture kills in installment. It must not get to that stage because it could quickly become fatal.

the man must be handling it

Zonefree:

You expected the dad to tell his children that his beloved wife is maltreating and bullying him?

The son should take action now before it's late. A woman that does not respect and value her husband deserves no respect from her children!

it's a matter of her expectations not met...there is a limit she can go

They will soon be hear to label your dad a Simp without first walking in his shoes.

Once things fall apart and the center cannot hold anymore, separation is the only way out.

As a child stay out of your parents relationship

Your dad may be poisoning your mind against your mum.

What did your father do? Something must have brought it on.

donbachi:
it's a matter of her expectations not met...there is a limit she can go

She should meet her expectations by herself! She get two hands and leg abi she's crippled ni

aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏

Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.

Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.

My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.

My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation

I will advise you discuss this with your dad first of all to find out why he gave her so much power to bully him

Am sure your dad knows what to say to you

However, if you don't like his response then you tell him that you want to confront your mum

As you are confronting your mum, be very calm and ask her why she is hostile on dad

Listen to her reply, if it makes no sense, then tell her politely to stop that attitude on your dad that you feel ashame of everything

With time be observing her and see if she is adjusting to your advice and warning

But if she responds harshly then be prepared to be her enemy

frozen70:


I will advise you discuss this with your dad first of all to find out why he gave her so much power to bully him

Am sure your dad knows what to say to you

However, if you don't like his response then you tell him that you want to confront your mum

As you are confronting your mum, be very calm and ask her why she is hostile on dad

Listen to her reply, if it makes no sense, then tell her politely to stop that attitude on your dad that you feel ashame of everything

With time be observing her and see if she is adjusting to your advice and warning

But if she responds harshly then be prepared to be her enemy

Nice take from you brotherly, I appreciate 🙏

BeardedmeatR:
Tell your mum/dad to divorce since there's no love between them anymore.

So this is the only advice you can give .abi? Thank God you are not beside me I would have given you a dirty slap

1Sharon:
As a child stay out of your parents relationship

Your dad may be poisoning your mind against your mum.

What did your father do? Something must have brought it on.

If it was his dad dt was doing this to his mom, u wud nt say is mum is poisoning his mind against him of which most women do..

Stop this act.. Sharon....

Why at first wud a woman be bullying her husband

Men are passing through a lot of difficult situations but they dare not say it out. That is one of the reasons why men die earlier than women.

You mean your dad doesn't know how to manage his wife and so needs to be rescued by his children? Is he incapable of being his own man? Biko stay out of their affairs. If he chose to allow the abuse, so be it.

You don't see abuse and overlook it. Talk to your siblings and get other family members involved if you must. She is abusing him and you also said he doesn't walk well like before, hence for the sake of his health and longevity, y'all should stand up for him. You said no one has warned her sternly, which is probably why she hasn't stopped. She can't bully all of you join, can she? Speak up and put a stop to it asap.

Na through the bullying them take born you…


Leave your dad alone.

He enjoys being bullied!

aidameoryou:


Nice take from you brotherly, I appreciate 🙏

Sister pls
You are welcome

Many men are in your dad’s shoes unfortunately

But the problem is that nobody will hear about it, but let your dad shout on your mom, ara adugbo go hear about am

This gives credence to the saying that a man is loved because of what he can provide, or by the value he can give.

I won't be surprised if your mum is bringing little or nothing to the table, yet she's not under pressure, she's just loved.

This exactly scenerio is playing out in most families, many married men are dying in silence, especially those of them who tend to live a quiet life.

You need to talk to your mum, don't be too light with it, and neither be too harsh with it but be very serious about it.

U can guarantee you that the only thing still keeping the family is you- the children, that is how it is in most family, blame poverty!

To the young man out there, know this; apart from God, your parents and siblings, nobody loves you unconditionally, the love you get is pegged at the value you offer.

Neither your wife, children or even the society love you, they only love what you offer, take it away and it's just a matter of time, you'll see your "loving" wife and children disrespect or treat you with disdain, moreover, the wife/ mother may be a housewife or even uneducated, but is loved unconditionally by the children and even you, I don't know why it's so, I'm even a victim of this biased love, I blame nature!

Men are endangered specie, Men please stay woke, do everything possible to marry atleast a woman that respects God, that even if she hated you, but for God's sake will force herself to love you, if it's even possible.

The world is not fair to men, but I'll still rather choose to be a man in my next life, if their is.

I think it's high time men should stand up for themselves in relationship and marriages.
A lot of men are going through this but it is very hard for them to speak out because it will look as if they are not man enough.
They rather keep it to themselves and that will kill them faster through high BP.

Imagine what women and even some guys are saying here supporting the woman indirectly with different excuses

Some women become devil when the husband couldn't provide as before.

A man will be taking care of the family for over 20 years without any issue but if he have a problem and unable to provide for at least 1 year, you'll see the devil in the wife