aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏

Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.

Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.You are telling my story NOW- NOW ! I used to be Oil worker with Private Oil Depot in Apapa . My wife has never been appreciative since inception to the extent that my children have created a slogan "MY MUMMY DOES NOT LIKE MY DAD AT ALL". Sometimes,some men that are in this shoe ask why is it like that ?
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.

My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.

My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation

Dancebreaker:

It may be that your mum never loved you dad but condition made her to marry him. She doesn't feel fulfilled in the marriage and there is really nothing your dad can do about it. She's pouring all the frustration on him.

A major silent killer of men is marital maltreatment but nobody discusses it. A man is expected to be strong and be in control. If you are harsh you are a wife abuser and you are a gentlemen trained to overlook women's shenanigans, you are a simp.

A man really can't win. I hope you are learning from your dad's experience.
It's very difficult for most men to admit that own mother is far from the type of woman they pray to marry. Because mother is supposed to be "iya ni waura". What her hubby goes through doesn't matter.

Bintasukai:


a woman's existence is threatened by her man's inability to provide & some women don't know how to react than to be ungrateful. I wish you wisdom & all the best.

There, I fixed it for you

cmikel:





@op are u a man or a toddler?


U see something cretically wrong and you are seeking for advice .

Maybe you are waiting till she gives your dad hrt attack.


It's a pity how men suffer all the years for their children but don't get more benefits or appreciation from same children, instead children show it to the mother .

All bc maybe the father is always in the feild lookn for what family will survive with.


















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aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏

Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.

Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.

My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.

My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation

aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏

Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.

Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.

My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.

My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation

frozen70:


I will advise you discuss this with your dad first of all to find out why he gave her so much power to bully him

Am sure your dad knows what to say to you

However, if you don't like his response then you tell him that you want to confront your mum

As you are confronting your mum, be very calm and ask her why she is hostile on dad

Listen to her reply, if it makes no sense, then tell her politely to stop that attitude on your dad that you feel ashame of everything

With time be observing her and see if she is adjusting to your advice and warning

But if she responds harshly then be prepared to be her enemy

okoroemeka:
most times it is not good to be a gentleman always when living with a woman,sometimes you need to be unpredictable and crazy at times to keep her on her toes,that your father does not smoke,drink or womanize does not make him a perfect husband,I do rather smoke,drink,womanize with other assorted general misbehaviours and control my family than be a puppet.

Amumaigwe:


See the way your mouth is running like a tap gushing out nonsense. Wait until you get married or if you are already married, wait until your wife finishes giving birth and all your children grown. You will understand what the female gender really is. You will then feel like apologizing to your father who must have died of heartache. Then you then will reap exactly what you sow.

1Sharon:
As a child stay out of your parents relationship

Your dad may be poisoning your mind against your mum.

What did your father do? Something must have brought it on.

BeardedmeatR:
Tell your mum/dad to divorce since there's no love between them anymore.

1Sharon:
As a child stay out of your parents relationship

Your dad may be poisoning your mind against your mum.

What did your father do? Something must have brought it on.

frozen70:


I will advise you discuss this with your dad first of all to find out why he gave her so much power to bully him

Am sure your dad knows what to say to you

However, if you don't like his response then you tell him that you want to confront your mum

As you are confronting your mum, be very calm and ask her why she is hostile on dad

Listen to her reply, if it makes no sense, then tell her politely to stop that attitude on your dad that you feel ashame of everything

With time be observing her and see if she is adjusting to your advice and warning

But if she responds harshly then be prepared to be her enemy

duro4chang:
Men are passing through a lot of difficult situations but they dare not say it out. That is one of the reasons why men die earlier than women.

Exodus15v11:
You don't see abuse and overlook it. Talk to your siblings and get other family members involved if you must. She is abusing him and you also said he doesn't walk well like before, hence for the sake of his health and longevity, y'all should stand up for him. You said no one has warned her sternly, which is probably why she hasn't stopped. She can't bully all of you join, can she? Speak up and put a stop to it asap.

Codes151:
minus sentiments , he said nothing.
The post is vague.
So even you shouldn’t draw conclusions.

Gadafii:
Many men are in your dad’s shoes unfortunately

But the problem is that nobody will hear about it, but let your dad shout on your mom, ara adugbo go hear about am

frozen70:


I will advise you discuss this with your dad first of all to find out why he gave her so much power to bully him

Am sure your dad knows what to say to you

However, if you don't like his response then you tell him that you want to confront your mum

As you are confronting your mum, be very calm and ask her why she is hostile on dad

Listen to her reply, if it makes no sense, then tell her politely to stop that attitude on your dad that you feel ashame of everything

With time be observing her and see if she is adjusting to your advice and warning

But if she responds harshly then be prepared to be her enemy

Smartguyboy:


HBP will kill the man very soon if you don’t act.
That what men get when they are not able to provide for the family God forbid.

frozen70:


Sister pls
You are welcome

aidameoryou:


Never talked bout it with her

WantsandMore:
lmao ...unnecessary but ok

SawD007:


Bro, you've got the best advice and inssight s from @frozen70... When u already read a wise advice like that, don't go look further for more confusion. As she said, talk to your Dad about your observation, you'll get more insights.