Before you beg that brother or uncle for money to solve your problems, please sit quietly and think about the problems he may also be facing?

I'm not trying to justify some actions but we all have problems. While you call that rich uncle for help, he may also be calling someone to help him solve his own problems.

The man in your story sent ambulance to take his dead brother to the village, do you know if he had money to pay for it or if someone just returned him a favor?

Don't lump everyone together and judge them because we are not in people's shoes.

Those rich family members, are they your father or mother?

If not they are not responsible for you so quit the entitlement mentality and go get a job.

Their money or wealth does not belong to you or the lazy "poor" relatives.

I have adult relatives who are willfully poor and have refused to take up a job or learn a skill.
I sent some to the universities and after graduation have refused to work but want me to place them on monthly salaries.

I even got a job in a multinational company for one and he left the job without letting me know.

Do i fucking look like an ATM machine?

There is nothing wrong in being poor if it is by indolent choice.

I will rather help friends or a serious stranger than some useless relatives.

Moh247:


No family is obligated to help you, help only who helped you... You are not God

I totally agree with you.

The op still has this entitlement mentality that drives me crazy.

Why does a family member feel entitled to my money when they never gave me a dime?

You are only entitled to your parents money until you become an adult.

Skyview01:


I totally agree with you.

The op still has this entitlement mentality that drives me crazy.

Why does a family member feel entitled to my money when they never gave me a dime?

You are only entitled to your parents money until you become an adult.

No one is entitled to anybody's money. Not even your parents.

I'm only viewing it from a different perspective.

Family members should be there for each other. Period.

Darlingme:
No one is entitled to anybody's money. Not even your parents.

I'm only viewing it from a different perspective.

Family members should be there for each other. Period.

I have been there for more than 10 years for some of them and none has been there for me.

That is why i learned to be selfish with my resources.

Darlingme:
No one is entitled to anybody's money. Not even your parents.

I'm only viewing it from a different perspective.

Family members should be there for each other. Period.

Your parents brought you into this world and are directly responsible for you.

They can use protection during sex if they don't want to be responsible for any child.

Its that simple.

Skyview01:


Your parents brought you into this world and are directly responsible for you.

They can use protection during sex if they don't want to be responsible for any child.

Its that simple.

Your opinion and view anyway.
It's cool.

Darlingme:
Your opinion and view anyway.
It's cool.

It is not an opinion but a fact that parents give birth to children. It is also not an opinion but a fact that parents should be responsible for their children.

Skyview01:


It is not an opinion but a fact that parents give birth to children. It is also not an opinion but a fact that parents should be responsible for their children.

What about those who have no parents? Who should take care of them?

Moh247:


No family is obligated to help you, help only who helped you... You are not God

Baba some family members one helped will still not help when one is in need of their help.

Wickedness .. The heart of some humans is wickedness. That's all..

Moh247:


No family is obligated to help you, help only who helped you... You are not God

My brother

The greatest of all these na love

Love people as you love yourself

Truth is that nobody is supposed to help anyone but what makes us human? Why are we brothers?

Except the person you helped or want to help is misbehaving, or wasteful etc.. den it's fine

Maybe because you only die once. Cost of living is high. Could that be a reason?

Moh247:
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Forced to take it down right? Lol

Moh247:


No family is obligated to help you, help only who helped you... You are not God

No wonder why Jesus said:

And a man's foes shall be they of his own household.
— Matthew 10:36

True family isn't obligated to help you, but many times our toughest enemies come from our families.

I guess that's why help isn't rendered as due.

Nitoriolohun1:
Black folks love unnecessary competition and couple with the fact that human are naturally wicked ... It is well !!!

must u be racist?

These days the number one defense of selfish people is to claim others have entitlement mentality

As for me, my mum has always been there for us during hard times.My father left us and now I am the more financially buoyant in the family even though I am the third born because we are four in number.Even they all feel entitled to my money.I don't joke with my mum so, I make sure she is always comfortable.My siblings do take advantage of that and sometimes lie that my mom needs this and that just to collect from me

Moh247:


No family is obligated to help you, help only who helped you... You are not God

Heartless soul. learn to love at least.

Darlingme:
What about those who have no parents? Who should take care of them?

life is an accident. The world is not a planned

It’s my opinion that it all boils down to lack of trust. People hate being taken advantage of so unless they are sure that you are truly in need of help and not slacking they wouldn’t help.

Some family members will leave you to carry the whole responsibility of your entire lineage if they think you are well to do. Even though some of them can put in some effort they’ll rather put the load on you if they feel your are richer.

Again once you help one and other family members see that you are capable, hmm be ready to be bombarded with request from everywhere. And when you don’t help bad blood begins to build which will be difficult to shied yourself from because family is involved and you cannot distance yourself as you would a friend/strangers. That’s why it easier to help strangers than family

Darlingme:
This has nothing to do with entitlement mentality.

No one is an island and we all need each other to live peacefully.
So, a man died in my neighborhood and his children has forbidden their rich and wealthy uncles from contributing to the burial. Accordingly to the children, their poor father died of starvation, which they have been appealing to relatives, also his only brother who works in an oil company in PH for assistant and he has always promised to help, but never did. This uncle happens to be the first person to send an ambulance to convey the corpse to the village, and the children rejected his offer.
I don't understand. Why do we have rich family members, friends, yet we suffer poverty?
Why is it always easy for people who can save their fellow humans from death, starvation, depression always ignore them, but once he/she dies, it's easy to raise money for burial.

Even on social media, we bully, humiliate each other, push some people into depression with our words and write up, but once the person commit succid, we tend to start posting pics with lovely write ups. Condemning their suicidal action and blaming them for not voicing out?
why? Is it our environment, social way of behaving?

Have you ever experience any of this? Can you share such experience?
What's your general opinion about this?

Coz that's the debt we owe a dead person, burial.

In life is all for himself, survival of the fittest

Their dad died of starvation? So what did the kids do about it?

Darlingme:
This has nothing to do with entitlement mentality.

No one is an island and we all need each other to live peacefully.
So, a man died in my neighborhood and his children has forbidden their rich and wealthy uncles from contributing to the burial. Accordingly to the children, their poor father died of starvation, which they have been appealing to relatives, also his only brother who works in an oil company in PH for assistant and he has always promised to help, but never did. This uncle happens to be the first person to send an ambulance to convey the corpse to the village, and the children rejected his offer.
I don't understand. Why do we have rich family members, friends, yet we suffer poverty?
Why is it always easy for people who can save their fellow humans from death, starvation, depression always ignore them, but once he/she dies, it's easy to raise money for burial.

Even on social media, we bully, humiliate each other, push some people into depression with our words and write up, but once the person commit succid, we tend to start posting pics with lovely write ups. Condemning their suicidal action and blaming them for not voicing out?
why? Is it our environment, social way of behaving?

Have you ever experience any of this? Can you share such experience?
What's your general opinion about this?

Hahahaha. Because it is cheaper than keeping him and giving him money. You give him 30k today, next month he asks for 50k, next 100k. He keeps coming back. And when you have given him so much, that man will forget he was starving and starts chasing other women. He may even go take a second wife, or chieftaincy title - on top other people money o. But if he dies, which will happen to all eventually, then you can spend for the burial just once.

Those people rejecting the contributions for burial, where were they when their father died of hunger? Is it not shameful? Are his brothers his parents? This entitlement mentality sef. They don't owe you or your father jack. If they have and are disposed, fine. Afterall, you didn't lost what your father did for the brothers when he had money. If they were wicked to have let your father die of hunger, then you are devil himself for not feeding your father. you think they don't have mouths to feed themselves. He works in an oil company in PH so? You have calculated his salary and assumed a percentage of that salary should be coming to your father every month. yeye people.

Darlingme:
This has nothing to do with entitlement mentality.

No one is an island and we all need each other to live peacefully.
So, a man died in my neighborhood and his children has forbidden their rich and wealthy uncles from contributing to the burial. Accordingly to the children, their poor father died of starvation, which they have been appealing to relatives, also his only brother who works in an oil company in PH for assistant and he has always promised to help, but never did. This uncle happens to be the first person to send an ambulance to convey the corpse to the village, and the children rejected his offer.
I don't understand. Why do we have rich family members, friends, yet we suffer poverty?
Why is it always easy for people who can save their fellow humans from death, starvation, depression always ignore them, but once he/she dies, it's easy to raise money for burial.

Even on social media, we bully, humiliate each other, push some people into depression with our words and write up, but once the person commit succid, we tend to start posting pics with lovely write ups. Condemning their suicidal action and blaming them for not voicing out?
why? Is it our environment, social way of behaving?

Have you ever experience any of this? Can you share such experience?
What's your general opinion about this?

Reminds me of this old movie titled DIED WRETCHED when he was
alive, he begged his nephew whom he trained and was doing well for assistance which he refused but when he died, he was burried with the most expensive casket and clothes
Just like Patoranking, Celebrate me, now when I dey alive

Pushing a motor that can not start is wasting of time. Before you see most people ignoring their relatives, you don't know the efforts they might have put up to help them.
But there should be no neglect at death, that is why people come around to pay their last respect.
If I tell you about my story in trying to help people to succeed, you will know the problems I have caused to myself.
May God Guide us.

Darlingme:
This has nothing to do with entitlement mentality.

No one is an island and we all need each other to live peacefully.
So, a man died in my neighborhood and his children has forbidden their rich and wealthy uncles from contributing to the burial. Accordingly to the children, their poor father died of starvation, which they have been appealing to relatives, also his only brother who works in an oil company in PH for assistant and he has always promised to help, but never did. This uncle happens to be the first person to send an ambulance to convey the corpse to the village, and the children rejected his offer.
I don't understand. Why do we have rich family members, friends, yet we suffer poverty?
Why is it always easy for people who can save their fellow humans from death, starvation, depression always ignore them, but once he/she dies, it's easy to raise money for burial.


Have you ever experience any of this? Can you share such experience?
What's your general opinion about this?

Yeah my mom was down with stroke, at the time my siblings and I did all we could, but our struggles then couldn't even give her medical support 🥺💔

We reached out to her family in Ghana for support but none of them turn up.

After she passed, they said we shouldn't bury her that they'll travel all the way down here to Lagos and take her body back to Ghana for burial. I grabbed the phone from my dad, screamed at them never to reach out to us again and banged the call. I bury my momsy here...till eternity, I don cut off those useless village people called family. My family na the 9ja friends I made here, them always got my back and have never made me felt like a Ghanian for once! This is home to me. After all family na who show up for you, no be by blood.

Samantha124:
So? What does you going to church to ask for financial assistance has to do with every member of the church coming from a family?

If you don't want to go to the church to ask for help, then keep quiet and stop expecting those who wake up every morning to go to work to give you free money just because you feel entitled to it.

Them being your family members does not mean that they'll always be there because they too have their own lives and challenges they face on a daily basis.

Its this mentality that we are talking of, what is the essence of having a family when they can't help you in the time of need when they are capable of it.

The spirit in Africans .especially Nigerians is that of wickedness pure and simple.
If peoples didn't help tge rich folks they too won't be rich but whrn they become rich they want to be tge alpha & omega.
Well hustle and pray for your own.

Moh247:
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Nobody is obligated to help you... Not your family, friends or relatives

If you make human Investment, you will get human to pick you back up

I have a very wealthy uncle in the 80s and 90s who married a woman our grandmother opposed their marriage because several spiritualist warned strongly against it.

Due to this fact my uncle neglected his own mother and their last born who was just finishing secondary school.

My mother and Father a federal civil servants took my other uncle in and my grandma visited from time to time and we all survived on the Fed civil servants salary..

Soon after school my little uncle got a Job in a fed ministry, met a wife also working and started his life

But do you think his mother did the right thing to oppose his marriage to that girl? Of course the girl will make him dissociate from those who hate her because they are now one flesh. It is possible other people supported his mother too, the reason he blanked everyone. people want to be happy on another person's life at the detriment of the main actor. Funny, isn't it?