Kayceenaz:
Whenever news filters in online/offline about a man either alleged or proved to have cheated on his wife, abundant outbursts follow. Often, "Men are polygamous in nature" is argued. It is believed recognizing this reality by the man's wife and other women (single/married) prepares them to accept cheating, ridding the matter of seriousness critics give. I disagree. Men are neither polygamous (nor monogamous) in nature.

First, a man's polygamous tendencies are from nurture, not nature. This habit of justifying marital unfaithfulness, in the Christian context, by citing African culture is misplaced. Here, African men in the remote past chose to be with or marry more than one woman for social and economic reasons. To highlight their affluence to society and have more hands to help in their farming/subsistent agriculture venture.

A husband who cheats on his wife makes a choice to succumb to temptation. If polygamy is actually natural to men, then we would have no cases of monogamous men.

Second, every man contains reason and instincts according to neurology and biology. Reason is a human being's edge over lower animals like dogs, goats, sheep, lions and so on, although we share trait of instincts with them. Someone may argue our bodily instincts, a biological feature passed from parents to offspring, push us toward pleasure and preservation of the human specie. This can extend to being with more than one woman, hence men are polygamous. This view is myopic. True, our instincts

can suggest such but our reason can say no when we've intentionally developed it to morally serve us that way. Thus, a man chooses to be polygamous when he develops his reason to serve him accordingly. Humans, men are not the at the mercy of their instincts, as promoters of "Men are polygamous in nature" opine. A man can choose to obey or disobey his instincts courtesy of his reason.

Clearly, idea of "Men are polygamous in nature" is used by men who have a women weakness

, refuse to take personal responsibility

and work on it. They hide under culture and science unintelligently to secure tolerance of their bad behaviour (in Christian view) by women and society.


©Kelechi O. Naze (KON)

cococandy:
good to know you’re not a woman. Just speaking out of turn

Samantha124:
Some women are also chronic cheaters... Will we then say women are also polyandrous

DaddyCoool:



You get sense pass most of them






You folks can fool yourselves all you want with all sorts of wishful thinking. Here is the TRUTH:
A young woman's dream is an EXCLUSIVE monogamous relationship with ONE man she is attracted to.
While for a young man the very thought of it is SUFFOCATING!!
The two sexes are simply wired differently.
(Of course there are the few outliers, but we are talking vast majority!)

Samantha124:
Some women are also chronic cheaters... Will we then say women are also polyandrous

lavylilly:
Multiple signs show that humans are mostly monogamous by design. Males and females are roughly the same size (the small difference seems to have been inherited from Australopithecus, and has decreased steadily since), we seem to mostly share the inherent emotion of jealousy which makes no sense for us to have otherwise, most human societies have been monogamous, and so on.

But humans are also infinitely inventive, and in situations with shortages of men or women, societies have adapted and allowed polygamy or polyandry; up until very recently, it has been much more difficult or even outright impossible to be successful outside a family, so an excess of either sex was a problem to be solved.

And, of course, some people are born without any sense of sexual jealousy; those are today known as polyamorous. It seems to work fine, too, so that's obviously also part of our nature.

There were men who decided to be monogamous. They would have been religious men, so the the impetus would have been religious in nature.

My answer is based on the facts that:

1. Historically, men in general would never have allowed a woman to make this or any other decision, most especially if it affected the law or their sex life.
2. Religion has historically been behind most cultural ideologies.
So, to answer the question, many but not all human beings may desire to have sex with more than one person. Many but not all men may wish to have more than one spouse.

Men, who historically were in charge of everything while women stayed home, chose to institute monogamy. Other men decided to move their families into these societies. Sometimes human beings had these ideologies forced upon them by other men. As time passed, monogamy became the cultural norm for many nations and states.

DaddyCoool:


Those are outliers. The vast majority of women, no matter how much money they have, want an exclusive monogamous relationship with ONE man they are attracted to. Men are wired differently

WhisperedNoise:
Men are not polygamous.

Nazgul:
Men aren't polygamous, some of them just lack discipline.

advanceDNA:


The evidence is everywhere... women too like to fvck and explore plenty dícks just like men fvck around......
But their stingyness, brokeness, and inability to approach men makes them choose control over being rejected or seen as a LovePeddler... even the wife wey dey house pr babe wey una don fvck 100million times still forms she doesnt want sex

But just let the opportunity present itself... u will realize women are not different from men....many of them even want multiple dickś at the same time...

pocohantas:


This your anger can generate more electricity than Kainji Dam. It couldn't even make you articulate your post well. I wonder which opportunity needs to present itself and where in the world do women need money to fck men? In your head maybe.

blingxx:


Discipline? Lol.. Who wrote the law that all men must stay with one woman...sweety that doesn't apply to the blackman

DaddyCoool:




You folks can fool yourselves all you want with all sorts of wishful thinking. Here is the TRUTH:
A young woman's dream is an EXCLUSIVE monogamous relationship with ONE man she is attracted to.
While for a young man the very thought of it is SUFFOCATING!!
The two sexes are simply wired differently.
(Of course there are the few outliers, but we are talking vast majority!)

blingxx:


Discipline? Lol.. Who wrote the law that all men must stay with one woman...sweety that doesn't apply to the blackman

advanceDNA:


Anger..?? All this nairaland pple seff...
U nor get my comment...na u go tell me how i wan present my comment...
abeg.....i nor too like dey waste time with your gender....everything is hatred and bashing to you people

Nazgul:
Men aren't polygamous, some of them just lack discipline.

Cromagnon:
some women vs all men