DaddyCoool:


Those are outliers. The vast majority of women, no matter how much money they have, want an exclusive monogamous relationship with ONE man they are attracted to. Men are wired differently

DaddyCoool:
■ Natural selection would mandate that men be polygamous by nature, while women are not. For a man, the best guarantee that his genes would be passed on is to spread them into several women. For a woman, the best way is to give the limited number she has the best chance at survival. So besides taking good care of them, she'd also give them the best genes possible by mating with a high-achieving man.
Nature could have made it so that once a man mates with a female, he'd only have eyes for her. It did not!

cococandy:
Are you a woman?

DaddyCoool:


I don't have to be. There are plenty rich women and women who have won lottery, inheritance, or other sudden wealth to observe from

Kobojunkie:
I am sorry, what? Are you certain that you clearly grasp the concept of Natural selection?

cococandy:
good to know you’re not a woman. Just speaking out of turn

DaddyCoool:
■ Does everything have to be typed out for you people?Why can't you draw a simple inference?! Doesn't the scenario I described make for selection of high-achieving genes??

Natural selection is a mechanism of evolution. Organisms that are more adapted to their environment are more likely to survive and pass on the genes that aided their success. This process causes species to change and diverge over time.

DaddyCoool:










You folks can fool yourselves all you want with all sorts of wishful thinking. Here is the TRUTH:
A young woman's dream is an EXCLUSIVE monogamous relationship with ONE man she is attracted to.
While for a young man the very thought of it is SUFFOCATING!!
The two sexes are simply wired differently.
(Of course there are the few outliers, but we are talking vast majority!)

Kobojunkie:
I am afraid you will probably have to explain this one to me since I don't see how natural selection is connected to the practice of polygamy?

Oyindamolah:
Go and sit your ass in the corner

DaddyCoool:
■ Ok, I'll patiently explain to you, my boy. I only ask you quietly LEARN and not argue.
Note the words that appear consistently:
success and passing on of genes.
The only way success genes of men (the genes that "aided their success" - I know if I don't spell it out you’ll still come back to ask a dumb question about it) is if two things are present:
1) Women must prefer successful men
2) Men must be POLYGAMOUS!!!!!!
Now run along and stop asking dumb, pretentious questions!

Kobojunkie:
What "success" genes? Why are you unable to clearly express this connection you claim exists between polygamy man and the concept of natural selection? This all may make sense inside of the confines of your noggin but you at least need to be able to communicate it to the world outside given we don't all have mind-reading abilities.

DaddyCoool:
■ But it has been clearly expressed - unless you are a total dummy!
For success genes to be selected for (that's a natural selection lingo ), successful men must have a desire to spread those genes in several women, not just one (that's what we call POLYGAMY!!); of course those women must also prefer those genes to those of unsuccessful men.Of course you can still pretend not to understand, rather than admit you've lost a fight you started!

Samantha124:
Some women are also chronic cheaters... Will we then say women are also polyandrous

Kobojunkie:
It is nothing but lack of self-control and self-discipline, nothing natural about that.

Hamachi:
Men aren’t monolithic group, some are polygamous and some are monogamous. The same is with women, some are polygamous and some are monogamous. Human nature is very complex and people tend to choose what works best for them. Monogamy works out best in the long run for both men and women, so monogamy dominates the human society.

Monogamy for the most part has been imposed on women then men. Ironically, in cultures such as African and Asian culture where polygyn is common, polyandry also tend to be common even though unlike polygyny, polyandry is illegal. Because if in a culture one men has multiple wives then it leaves other men who would have no wives unless they share.

In polygynous marriage where one men can have multiple wives, results in a large number of children per men but children also have high mortality rate than monogamous marriage because raising children is harder and require resources as well as individual attention, which is difficult. Women also have high mortality rate, stress and less rights in these marriages that increased the chances of abuse for women.

In polyandry, where one women can have multiple husbands results in lower number of children but offspring survive better with multiple men providing for the family and helping the wife raise the children. However, the problem is identity of the father is difficult to know in some cases and it may give men less incentive to provide for the children that aren’t theirs.

In monogamy, both men and women tend to get what they want the most in return. The man knows that the the children are biologically his so he can provide and pass his resources to the children and he doesn’t have to share his wife’s time with other men. The women don’t have to share the resources and the husbands time with other women, which ensures better survival for her and her offspring. It’s a good compromise that works out best for the men, women and the offspring in the long run.

Kayceenaz:
Whenever news filters in online/offline about a man either alleged or proved to have cheated on his wife, abundant outbursts follow. Often, "Men are polygamous in nature" is argued. It is believed recognizing this reality by the man's wife and other women (single/married) prepares them to accept cheating, ridding the matter of seriousness critics give. I disagree. Men are neither polygamous (nor monogamous) in nature.

First, a man's polygamous tendencies are from nurture, not nature. This habit of justifying marital unfaithfulness, in the Christian context, by citing African culture is misplaced. Here, African men in the remote past chose to be with or marry more than one woman for social and economic reasons. To highlight their affluence to society and have more hands to help in their farming/subsistent agriculture venture. A husband who cheats on his wife makes a choice to succumb to temptation. If polygamy is actually natural to men, then we would have no cases of monogamous men.

Second, every man contains reason and instincts according to neurology and biology. Reason is a human being's edge over lower animals like dogs, goats, sheep, lions and so on, although we share trait of instincts with them. Someone may argue our bodily instincts, a biological feature passed from parents to offspring, push us toward pleasure and preservation of the human specie. This can extend to being with more than one woman, hence men are polygamous. This view is myopic. True, our instincts can suggest such but our reason can say no when we've intentionally developed it to morally serve us that way. Thus, a man chooses to be polygamous when he develops his reason to serve him accordingly. Humans, men are not the at the mercy of their instincts, as promoters of "Men are polygamous in nature" opine. A man can choose to obey or disobey his instincts courtesy of his reason.

Clearly, idea of "Men are polygamous in nature" is used by men who have a women weakness, refuse to take personal responsibility and work on it. They hide under culture and science unintelligently to secure tolerance of their bad behaviour (in Christian view) by women and society.


©Kelechi O. Naze (KON)

Samantha124:
Some women are also chronic cheaters... Will we then say women are also polyandrous

Kayceenaz:
Whenever news filters in online/offline about a man either alleged or proved to have cheated on his wife, abundant outbursts follow. Often, "Men are polygamous in nature" is argued. It is believed recognizing this reality by the man's wife and other women (single/married) prepares them to accept cheating, ridding the matter of seriousness critics give. I disagree. Men are neither polygamous (nor monogamous) in nature.

[b]First, a man's polygamous tendencies are from nurture, not nature. This habit of justifying marital unfaithfulness, in the Christian context, by citing African culture is misplaced. [/b]Here, African men in the remote past chose to be with or marry more than one woman for social and economic reasons. To highlight their affluence to society and have more hands to help in their farming/subsistent agriculture venture. A husband who cheats on his wife makes a choice to succumb to temptation. If polygamy is actually natural to men, then we would have no cases of monogamous men.

Second, every man contains reason and instincts according to neurology and biology. Reason is a human being's edge over lower animals like dogs, goats, sheep, lions and so on, although we share trait of instincts with them. Someone may argue our bodily instincts, a biological feature passed from parents to offspring, push us toward pleasure and preservation of the human specie. This can extend to being with more than one woman, hence men are polygamous. This view is myopic. True, our instincts can suggest such but our reason can say no when we've intentionally developed it to morally serve us that way. Thus, a man chooses to be polygamous when he develops his reason to serve him accordingly. Humans, men are not the at the mercy of their instincts, as promoters of "Men are polygamous in nature" opine. A man can choose to obey or disobey his instincts courtesy of his reason.

Clearly, idea of "Men are polygamous in nature" is used by men who have a women weakness, refuse to take personal responsibility and work on it. They hide under culture and science unintelligently to secure tolerance of their bad behaviour (in Christian view) by women and society.


©Kelechi O. Naze (KON)

Samantha124:
Sure, women want an exclusive monogamous relationship, but you'll be shocked to find out that most of those women in long distance relationships or marriages also have side dudes and in most cases, their boyfriends or husbands never get to find out about it.

Most men who are in long distance relationships or marriages keep fathering children that are not biologically theirs...

So if men are polygamous in nature, then it also means that women are polyandrous in nature too and you guys should respect that...

DaddyCoool:


Those are outliers. The vast majority of women, no matter how much money they have, want an exclusive monogamous relationship with ONE man they are attracted to. Men are wired differently

cococandy:
Are you a woman?

DaddyCoool:


Those are outliers. The vast majority of women, no matter how much money they have, want an exclusive monogamous relationship with ONE man they are attracted to. Men are wired differently