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I'm struggling to move on from a broken relationship....I loved and still in love with my ex but since he made it pretty clear that he is marrying someone else, I have to move on. I cut all contacts with him tho I still miss him a lot. One funny thing is he likes my younger ones and they love him too. In fact, they call him and all that. I'm tRying so haRd to be cool about it..... ShoulD I let them be friends or banish him from our lives? How can I be cool about this without meddling? Pls guys help me out .....

Since the mere thought of him hurts you so much, then Yes, stop them. IMO anyway, an ex should be one in every sense of the word. Good thing he's being crystal clear now that he finds you unworthy of him. It makes it a lot easier to understand why he isn't worthy of remaining in your fam's good graces...whether it was you that faulted willfully or not.

Tell your siblings to suck it up with the friends they have already, or go look for new ones. Every sensible sibling should understand this even without being told anything. Where will the tabs-keeping lead to anyway? Will they be happy to be BFF with him and whoever his wife will be?

You on your part, just chill alright. Don't regret anything. He's indeed a part of this life's stage, that you were meant to pass through. And that's exactly what you're doing---passing through. You'll be fine in no time, if you don't give up on yourself. Don't give on yourself.

vivian chinaza: I'm struggling to move on from a broken relationship....I loved and still in love with my ex but since he made it pretty clear that he is marrying someone else, I have to move on. I cut all contacts with him tho I still miss him a lot. One funny thing is he likes my younger ones and they love him too. In fact, they call him and all that. I'm tRying so haRd to be cool about it..... ShoulD I let them be friends or banish him from our lives? How can I be cool about this without meddling? Pls guys help me out .....

I know how it feels because I have been there. I didn't want to be in the relationship and he was trying to be close to me in anyway possible. To make this worse he was sort of a family friend. I tried to act ignorant and not let it bother me because the conditions surrounding the break up, but after a few weeks I had to say something to my sibling and I did. After that day, he was cut off completely and I could get him out of my mind.
Its not easy to let go and move on when you are constantly reminded of ur ex and your family should be more sensitive to your situation!
I'm sure after a while you'll get over him and his friendship with your siblings won't bother you, but till then you have every right to talk to your siblings about it and make them understand how this is affecting you.
Good luck.

Rocktation: Since the mere thought of him hurts you so much, then Yes, stop them. IMO anyway, an ex should be one in every sense of the word. Good thing he's being crystal clear now that he finds you unworthy of him. It makes it a lot easier to understand why he isn't worthy of remaining in your fam's good graces...whether it was you that faulted willfully or not.

Tell your siblings to suck it up with the friends they have already, or go look for new ones. Every sensible sibling should understand this even without being told anything. Where will the tabs-keeping lead to anyway? Will they be happy to be BFF with him and whoever his wife will be?

You on your part, just chill alright. Don't regret anything. He's indeed a part of this life's stage, that you were meant to pass through. And that's exactly what you're doing---passing through. You'll be fine in no time, if you don't give up on yourself. Don't give on yourself.

i totally disagree with the bolded above...i respect the fact its your opinion but an EX shouldnt be thrown to de trash cos dey once existed...

@op,
do u have some irreconcilable differences with your ex? i mean, u tried and it aint workin again?
as well, i dont think its a bad idea he is keeping a relationship with your family members but do u have a younger sister? if yes, do u think he is tryin to be funny?
i am not a party to anythin dat will cost yu your happiness, ...DO THE NEEDFUL and be HAPPY

It is a subjective decision, really. I just don't know what I'll be looking to gain by keeping in touch with all my exs. I have the lessons I learned inclusive of moving on, from my experiences with them. And that's as much a part of each of them that I'll ever dream of keeping.

that's why i never subscribe to acquainting one's family with a boyfriend/girlfriend when the future isnt sure..
It just complicates everything!
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Op,do what you have to do to make your sibs understand why they can't keep being friends with ur ex...and hope they listen/accept it!

slimyem: that's why i never subscribe to acquainting one's family with a boyfriend/girlfriend when the future isnt sure..
It just complicates everything!
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Op,do what you have to do to make your sibs understand why they can't keep being friends with ur ex...and hope they listen/accept it!

i subscrib 2 dis.Your siblings shudnt even be relating with someone dat broke your heart.

I no get any contribution.. In other words, i'm passing by.

The matter get as e be sef...
Well as a guy,I think the guy is trying to leave a lasting impression like"for the fact we are not together doesn't mean I can't be friends with your family" but I will advise you cut him off totally because like play like play anoda tin go happen.

Do you hv to instigate hatred? It wl be a witch-mentality to deprive others of something (friendship) that did not work for you. BTW, you didn't tell us y he would not marry u. I

An ex is an ex. Whatever will make me leave you, I am leaving you totaly and in every aspect of the word. But in this case of my siblings being friends with you, they are people in with minds of their own but if i see that your association with them makes me uncomfortable, there i not much I can do cos they is a little thing called freewill

I really appReciate all of u that contributed, thank you all. Well, to answeR some of ur questions, the guy was a jerk, he lied to me about something about himself, I got mad, we broke up but instead of him to try and make it right with me no matter what he chose to jump right into another lady who he claims is already pregnant for him. I really love this guy to bits so I rejected his offeR of fRiendship, he says he still wants to be in my life for as long as it takes, that's cRap and we know iR and moReoveR I deserve more than that. I'm not gonna be a footmat for some jerk of a guy no matter how much I love him. But beside all this he is really nice person,,,he Really caRes about my youngeR ones who are kids by the way. They Really Really love him and all get excited about him hence my confusion about booting him out of our lives. I have heard all u said and I'm gonna do the right thing. Its just a matteR of time right?

slimyem: that's why i never subscribe to acquainting one's family with a boyfriend/girlfriend when the future isnt sure..
It just complicates everything!
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Op,do what you have to do to make your sibs understand why they can't keep being friends with ur ex...and hope they listen/accept it!

lwkmd,una no want make una siblings becum insurance company.
No advice sis

vivianc:
I really appReciate all of u that contributed, thank you all. Well, to answeR some of ur questions, the guy was a jerk, he lied to me about something about himself, I got mad, we broke up but instead of him to try and make it right with me no matter what he chose to jump right into another lady who he claims is already pregnant for him. I really love this guy to bits so I rejected his offeR of fRiendship, he says he still wants to be in my life for as long as it takes, that's cRap and we know iR and moReoveR I deserve more than that. I'm not gonna be a footmat for some jerk of a guy no matter how much I love him. But beside all this he is really nice person,,,he Really caRes about my youngeR ones who are kids by the way. They Really Really love him and all get excited about him hence my confusion about booting him out of our lives. I have heard all u said and I'm gonna do the right thing. Its just a matteR of time right?

How did it go eventually?

Luckysbab:
How did it go eventually?

Sadly the poster you quoted is dead.
She’s an old nl member
You can do a little search

Cut the idiot out of your life

corisande:
Sadly the poster you quoted is dead.
She’s an old nl member
You can do a little search

Oh! That’s sad. I’m sorry. May God comfort her family and loved ones.