It is no more news that marriages have lows and high time and several events take place that makes couples feel so much pressure and feel choked in marriage. And of course, the usual line of action is to find 'solace' in some available shoulders.

However, gone are the days when these available shoulders understand boundaries and even though they may be 'providing succour' to the wife or husband, they still at least understand certain boundaries. For instance, for no reason will I keep a married woman on the phone at night(especially anything from 8.30pm) when she is under her husband's roof no matter how close we are. It is a brocode law for me.

But how come these days, you will find another married man, engaging another married woman under the roof of her husband on calls deep into the hours of the night?

Here is my thought, if a woman were to be having issues with her husband(aside from physical attack o) and she calls me at night when she should be on bed with the husband ,is it not reasonable for me to encourage the woman to put efforts into resolving the issue rather than cowardly running into my arms for solace at least for that night by simply postponing our calls till day time?


Or even if there were to be no issues, does it not look odd to be deeply engaged in cozzy calls with a married fellow in the deep of the night?

I am just wondering if I am overthinking this or perhaps it is just that people don't care anymore about these things?

Some people don't respect boundary at all, there was a colleague of mine that called me on WhatsApp video around 9:30pm when I was preparing for bed o, I didn't pick, the next day in the office I made it clear to him that I don't do video call with non male relatives.

Ok

Lol Marriage Matter on Monday morning...

Cheating is now too much amongst women .

Nigerian men are like He-Goats. Always hórny and looking for whom to have sex with, be it an under age child, a married woman or even a mad woman. That's why many of them are so poor and wretched, cos the only thing they spend their money and time on is sex. Know this and have peace.

This I have seen.

Influence on social media

Social media and GenZ madness

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Fornication will evolve into adultery.

Until people learn to abstain from premarital sex, don't expect marriage to be a cure for lack of selfcontrol.

Dozie32:
Cheating is now too much amongst women .

Men are also not exempted...

There's nothing sane about marriage my guy.

The problem we have lately is that people no longer marry for love, they marry for different reasons so it’s hard to stay committed when those things they actually married for are fading away

Some married for money
Some for influence
Some to satisfy their family
Some for respect
Some for free sex
N many mor


So it’s only a matter of time before they start having problem in their marriage

Marriage.......


This morning, my neighbour who married just last March was in the Apartment before I left for house. I left him and his Sidechick.

Marriage underrated nowadays

duro4chang:
Influence on social media

or maybe social media just exposed it.The word "influence" seems to take the responsibility off individuals. It's like saying "blame it on the alcohol".

We have lose our africa way of life, so just expect the worst in the near future.
Though my wife don't try that rubbish in my present, because i marry u as a wife and not a competitor

Dozie32:
Cheating is now too much amongst women .

They have learnt well.

The bottom line is all 9ja girls are ashawo both the ones forming GF or church girl. They are all the same.

The fact that you have never caught your babe doing ashawo, doesn't mean she is not an ashawo

Most people marry for the wrong reasons.

The dignity that marriage entails has been bastardized long time ago... Married couples commiting adultery has been a norms in our society.

dahgifted:
The dignity that marriage entails has been bastardized long time ago... Married couples commiting adultery has been a norms in our society.

It's not just in our society.
Adultery has been the norm since tey tey.
Marriage as we define it na scam.

LadyTara:
or maybe social media just exposed it.The word "influence" seems to take the responsibility off individuals. It's like saying "blame it on the alcohol".

I think it promotes and also exposes it.

I once called 2 of my married male colleagues at night around 10pm when I was dying in the house and I needed someone with a ride to rush me to the hospital...

I was glad both responded and I was rushed and admitted to the hospital that night.

If they had this mentality, maybe I would have died that night.

jmoore:
Fornication will evolve into adultery.

Until people learn to abstain from premarital sex, don't expect marriage to be a cure for lack of selfcontrol.

co sign

duro4chang:
I think it promotes and also exposes it.

The internet is garbage in, garbage out. It's what you go looking for that you will find thanks to "the algorithm".
The internet made it easy for alot of things ,both good and bad. So whatever people choose to do on the internet is what they are.

Yet I'm single and I talk to my married female friend even at 1am in the night.

We chat even till 2 am.

Sometimes she will chat me up at that time with "U no dey sleep"?

And we both will start talking.

In my mind sometimes I will be like, "Wait o, is this lady not married?

I have come to understand that marriage is understanding and trust.

If u trust your wife and she trusts you and both of you understand each other, believe me, nothing and I repeat nothing can ever separate you both.

I'm out.