₦airaland Forum

ideamonster:
there's opportunity for everyone if you search for it. you can't live in your village and hope that opportunity will find you

Now you're sounding like a motigbetional speaker

Dimaya:
Now you're sounding like a motigbetional speaker

I'm not. I'm sick and tired of these men all dumping on women because they can't compete in the intellectual marketplace. Last time I checked, there isn't affirmative action for women in Nigeria. It's the same cut-off marks for men and women in JAMB. Same postings in NYSC and same labour market. Men and women in NIgeria are unemployed at the same rates. So, what are you guys complaining about?

A woman’s first marriage is for love. Her second marriage is for money. They, in time, learn love don’t pay the bills. Really what they learn is that after having a home and kids you also want nice cars, nice clothes and luxury vacations.

Three things rich men can provide and middle class men cannot. You get one life (women know this better than men and squeeze life for at that it is worth, they squeeze men for all they are worth in the process too), if you had the option to live rich or poor which will you pick? Duh, rich. Money solves all your problems. You are never late on your bills. You eat good food. You take luxury vacations. it is nice when you can afford anything your heart desires. My God if your an adult and your living a life below the means you desire, that is just awful. Of course you need to be doctor or lawyer to make good money. And not everyone is a doctor or lawyer or can be one. Thereby, turn to entrepreneurship which involves a lot of sacrifices. The work involve in being rich is long and hard. This is why women turn to rich men who can give them this without themselves doing the work

Hope this help.

After spurning all the genuine desires of the good suitors, then the go to shiloh to start blaming God.

Marriage is not a meal ticket , there is nothing wrong with women providing for family too

Between a man and a woman, any of them that has more money is simply the head of the house. Know this and receive peace!

Zigzagman:
this is hard to follow.

It is very simple, if I want to know the real you I will only observe how you treat people around you, especially those below you. You cannot disrespect people and then respect me because I am your man, one day that breakfast go reach my table

If you are not ten steps ahead of your woman in all aspect, she will definitely try to control and take charge ✊

Had to leave this lady alone when I realize the hypergamy in her head was too much

Claims she’s ahead of me in life just because she’s a corper 😂😂

Zigzagman:
you have to have the money conversation. Ask her what share of the family bills will she want to take? Negotiate hard

Anything less than 60-40 should tell you that you'll have problems if your income takes a hit

This sort of relationship sounds very transactional.

Usually, when you meet a man or lady for your heart, it won't even cross your mind to discuss stuffs like who pays for this or that.

You just want to do the best for each other.

Anyway, love is rarely at the top of the list of why people get married these days.

Dimaya:
How can you tell whether a woman will disrespect you before you marry her?

The signs are always there.

Nonsense. I've always maintained that in Nigeria especially, women should not be given jobs, contracts, etc on the basis of just being women. It is unfortunate and socially incongruous. If a woman is smart enough to earn a highly technical job or sharp enough to make herself rich (without easy passes from men) in Nigeria's capitalist setting, no problem.

But economically empowering some useless girls who have basic skills and basic abilities is damaging to the social fabric of this country.

If you are a randy oga who can give someone a high paying job, rather than give that your useless girlfriend or potential conquest, give her brother instead. He needs it more, and would distribute the benefits more.

Bottom line is: Women shouldn't be unnecessarily and unfairly empowered economically. It is a waste and only creates social distortions.

When you people will not vote for good government.

Next 4 years is coming, if spinsters don't vote wisely, bachelor's that have money will decrease by half their current number.

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Flee from any lady whose importance and essence of living is tied to finance.

No man lives his full life on earth without challenges. If and when such challenges come, a money conscious lady will abandon him to his fate. So why would a man contemplate keeping such lady around? The word I am looking for is stupidity.

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There's no money naw, so women and parents should learn & start giving out their daughters to who they love and not for money, and also advice them to work hard, collaborate and work with their husbands if they don't have...

No be the same women I see around? Which money Dem get?...

MrBrownJay1:
whether a man has money or not is IRRELEVANT to who has control in a r/ship... African society/culture and religion is very adamant about it. if you are a man, then you are the head of the family, whether you earn more than your wife and/or you are unemployed.



nobody, and i repeat, NOBODY should ever date/marry a woman who is A) disrespectful and or B) abusive physicaly/verbally to her man.... whether you are rich or broke. if that woman has a problem with you being the head of the family, tell her to go argue her case with Nigerian culture/society/religion.



you look for women who are respectful, caring, understanding etc and stop dating/marrying these liability women who value men upon how much money they have. if your woman's respect for you and your family is down to how much money you can bring, then that woman is a liability and should be discarded asap!

you are so wise and a true African man. I have screenshot this picture and post it in a place I can never forget.

Entitled ladies.
Na crime for them to be financially stable?

ceejayluv:
No be the same women I see around? Which money Dem get?...

Abi o..

timiade446:
If you are not ten steps ahead of your woman in all aspect, she will definitely try to control and take charge ✊

Had to leave this lady alone when I realize the hypergamy in her head was too much

Claims she’s ahead of me in life just because she’s a corper 😂😂

Laughing.. That gurl mentality and exposure is 0%..

Where una dey see this kind girls

QuinModah:
A woman’s first marriage is for love. Her second marriage is for money. They, in time, learn love don’t pay the bills. Really what they learn is that after having a home and kids you also want nice cars, nice clothes and luxury vacations.

Three things rich men can provide and middle class men cannot. You get one life (women know this better than men and squeeze life for at that it is worth, they squeeze men for all they are worth in the process too), if you had the option to live rich or poor which will you pick? Duh, rich. Money solves all your problems. You are never late on your bills. You eat good food. You take luxury vacations. it is nice when you can afford anything your heart desires. My God if your an adult and your living a life below the means you desire, that is just awful. Of course you need to be doctor or lawyer to make good money. And not everyone is a doctor or lawyer or can be one. Thereby, turn to entrepreneurship which involves a lot of sacrifices. The work involve in being rich is long and hard. This is why women turn to rich men who can give them this without themselves doing the work

Hope this help.

This is not true but I resist the urge to shalaye

Na so I see am boss😂

NeoWanZaeed:
Laughing.. That gurl mentality and exposure is 0%..

Where una dey see this kind girls

ideamonster:
I'm not. I'm sick and tired of these men all dumping on women because they can't compete in the intellectual marketplace. Last time I checked, there isn't affirmative action for women in Nigeria. It's the same cut-off marks for men and women in JAMB. Same postings in NYSC and same labour market. Men and women in NIgeria are unemployed at the same rates. So, what are you guys complaining about?

U think if the gender equality stuff wasn't hypocritical and the same percentage of women looking for job was same percentage with men...who do u think it will favor?

One fine opeke for him and you as well🤗

Ebubu2:
you are so wise and a true African man. I have screenshot this picture and post it in a place I can never forget.

Another dumb thread and report!

If the man you desire is not financially available, then help upgrade him to your level, or fvcking stay SINGLE!!!

Dimaya:
How can you tell whether a woman will disrespect you before you marry her?

The Red flags are always there for every observant man to see...!

Bad character is very difficult to hide in the long term! Except you guys hastily marry!

This guy own sef better 😂😂

I trek for like two haars for inside one university like that wey be say I Dey help her find her faculty😂

I don chop breakfast like this o cos this babe after she don settle down to start her ppa, she con Dey think say nysc Na achievement and she big pass me for the level wey she dey😂

Zigzagman:
why you sef dey try help ex house hunt? Na you cause am naa

Let these bitches be I beg

Any man who can not comfortably send 200k to his mum/dad/sibling(s)/relative(s) is not in my league. I don't need a man's money to date him, but I won't give a man my money to solve his family problems. For his personal needs when necessary, I can give him money. But for his family...
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