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Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by christopher123(m): 2:52pm On Jan 15, 2021
Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids to Our Daughters?
By Grace Essen

I was talking with a mum of 5 the other day. She hadn’t planned to have five children; she wanted a baby girl so badly and after four boys her baby girl finally came. What a joy! Many years have passed and her children are all grown up. But the interesting thing about it all is that her boys are amazing helpers around the house. They do practically all chores in the home and same goes for her girl. They cook all kinds of food except when she wants to cook the soup herself! Not many mums can boast of their children like she did, when in most homes today children are ‘spoiled’ and wouldn’t lift a finger, boys and girls alike.

She told me she runs classes on baking and cooking and in the course of working with young girls she discovered most of them have no idea what to do around the kitchen. She said with so much pain that we mothers have become so ‘busy’ we have no time to train our children especially our girls. Unlike in our own days, a teenage girl today can’t go to the market, buy food stuff and prepare a decent meal for the family. No thanks to makers of all kinds of instant foods particularly noodles, all she needs do is walk down the street grab a few packs of noodles and there you have a meal! *Sigh.

Who is to blame for this anomaly? The girl? I don’t think so. We mothers should take the blame for abandoning our responsibility to bring up the child the way she should go. We often assume that somehow our daughters will get to know how to do these things, but can they learn if they are not taught, and then given a chance to try, to make mistakes and learn from them?

We see in local movies and commercials scenes where a young woman would call her mother on the phone to guide her through a meal she is preparing for her husband, and we just laugh it off when that should be a huge cause for concern because that is our reality.

A mum shared the following write up on social media and I thought to share:

Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids To Our Daughters For Marriage Why not?
Yes, it happens because we devote time in training the maids on how to cook well, how to clean the house and on good mannerisms while leaving our own daughters untrained.
We overwork the maids and they adjust with equanimity because they need us to survive.
The maids turn out to manage the indignation and insolence we and our children subject them to. All these make the maids better wives who can manage even the angriest of men.

Our precious daughters are pampered through nursery and primary schools. They speak the English we want and know all the cartoon slangs by heart. We beat the maids blue black if they ever ask our girls to help out in domestic duties. They see kitchen things as maids’ things.

The girls move from boarding schools to the university, do their NYSC, Masters and get a job. Of course, they are ripe for marriage and you wish that to happen soon.

From one relationship to another, the same story. The guys would parade and dump them. They are only good in outings and red carpet functions.

The boys de-commit when they notice that the possible wife cannot cook, arrange things and are very domestically untrained. The rich guys can manage as they would mitigate the handicap by hiring a domestic help. Not all guys can afford this for a start.

The upcoming and very sensitive guys who would make good husbands, fathers and leaders would not manage these parents’ inflicted shortcomings. They would settle for well trained ones. They know the value and the pride in hosting friends at home to delicious delicacies prepared by a wife.

Not all your maids would remain your servants forever. Some of them would finally do part-time studies and like a train, get to their God ordained destinations sooner or later.

Like a perfume, good guys perceive well trained wife materials from afar and dump the daughters of the bourgeois like hot iron. Long time happiness is at stake. No explanation is given. Sometimes, the sack message is made through a social medium.

Let your daughters learn what you teach your maids to make them compete for the few available good men if marriage is important to them. There are few guys who believe that marriage is for better for worse.

Don’t be deceived; love is an active verb. Yes it is. You love; you loved; and you used to love. You can also hate who you used to love. Therefore, some men are immune to pre-marital love blindness.

In practice, love can’t cover the stench of bad early formation of our daughters.

Right now, educated former maids are now cornering better men on offer because they possess the requisite or set skills the highly perceptible and ready husband materials need.
Mothers please take note.

Grace Essen is an author, speaker and host of Super Mum Makeover workshop.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.thenewsnigeria.com.ng/2017/03/06/suitors-now-prefer-our-maids-to-our-daughters/amp/

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by TruthHurts1(m): 2:56pm On Jan 15, 2021
Maybe the maids are more endowed...........


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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by chatinent(m): 2:58pm On Jan 15, 2021
Because we need wives not daughters.


We find wives in ladies whether maids, orphans, or the homeless.

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by SocialJustice: 2:59pm On Jan 15, 2021
Lala your attention is needed here.

Most parents these days fail at everything. I have friends who let their kids do whatever they want, I mean whatever. It is crazy. People think the girls above 20 are bad, just wait for the babies to turn into young women.

That said, there are beacons of light in this perpetual darkness-properly trained girls who know their place, abhor feminism and see no reason why they shouldn't be able to manage their homes.

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Derrylatei: 3:10pm On Jan 15, 2021
Well written article. It's an unarguable facts that most parent makes their maid better wife material than their beloved daughters. Parent needs not to over pampered their daughter.

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by RedPanthar: 3:14pm On Jan 15, 2021
E be like say one Bobo Don carry Zzor go. This one we nor dey too see her break light tongue

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Righteousness2(m): 4:22pm On Jan 15, 2021
Are the maids not Human beings?

If the daughters are busy slaying themselves in Immorality and emptiness , what do you Expect?

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Richiebee2: 10:03pm On Jan 15, 2021
Maids are also human being

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by TeemahBeddings: 10:04pm On Jan 15, 2021
Okkkk. Come and buy bedsheets

If you want someone who will do all your chores for you. Hire a maid. You are your partner helper. Simply because you are the man doesn't mean you should turn your wife into a slave. During our forefather's time, the sole responsibility of the woman is to hold the home front and help on the farm once in a while, the man brings the food and money to the table. But now, you want a maid and someone who brings money to the house.

Shameless bunch of men tongue

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Gerrard59(m): 10:04pm On Jan 15, 2021
This article has been recycled countless times on the FP. Don't you guys get tired?

BTW, like in most Nigerian written articles, no surveys or peer-reviewed studies on how they came about the outcome. Just vibes, cobwebs and coconut in their heads.

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Sonnobax15(m): 10:04pm On Jan 15, 2021
shocked


I'd rather opt for a very responsible maid with whom my peace of mind would be more guaranteed than marry the daughter of one madam who'd stresslessly turn my home to "ONE WEEK,ONE TROUBLE"...

Come to think of it, isn't a maid a human being too ?Abi e get somewhere for the holy books wey talk say "man should not marry a maid"?

The earlier these rich people start seeing and treating maids as fellow humans,the better for them..... because karma may be a bitch....but nature isn't,but can be so ready to remind you of your today misdeeds in the future...

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Fidelismaria: 10:04pm On Jan 15, 2021
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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by tolumizzy(m): 10:04pm On Jan 15, 2021
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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by womenareapes: 10:04pm On Jan 15, 2021
christopher123:


https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.thenewsnigeria.com.ng/2017/03/06/suitors-now-prefer-our-maids-to-our-daughters/amp/
undecided

when your daughters will be busy riding diiicks from one person to another like monkey looking for banana!

to be honest! Naija girls are not good for marriage! not even good for fvcking undecided

there are just wasting earth space!

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by kingvon16: 10:05pm On Jan 15, 2021
chatinent:
Because we need wives not daughters.

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by teacherbim(f): 10:05pm On Jan 15, 2021
TruthHurts1:
Maybe the maids are more endowed...........


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Do you think is all about endowed? Wise men don't give a shit about that

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by ngeneukwuewuGOAT: 10:05pm On Jan 15, 2021
grin

Because some of your daughters are wayward, disrespectful, lazy and wicked

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Dididrumz(m): 10:05pm On Jan 15, 2021
Just imagine Tonto Dike giving birth to a girl child, what does she want to teach her?

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Nobody: 10:05pm On Jan 15, 2021
Thank God, mum did a good job on us in the domestic area and both parents ensured we had a good and sound education.

Imagine being made to cook at the age of 10 for the whole house.. mum made sure of that and we still lived the best aje butter life ever. Now, everyone is a pro in everything.

Oga, loud it!

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by LordIsaac(m): 10:05pm On Jan 15, 2021
Fact!
Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by richie240: 10:05pm On Jan 15, 2021
Simple stuvv: they (maids) show d true submissive nature of wives!
No sane man wants a combative woman as wife!

Ephesians 5:22
"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord".
Feminism
"Me and my husband are mates, equals!"

All ye 'equality' crusaders, '50-50' chanters, sebi una see una life for bus-stop now.
Ndo!
cool

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by FreezedIced: 10:05pm On Jan 15, 2021
The men that are getting married to the maids just because they are not good at doing house chores have siblings (sisters) that maid would be preferred to them also. You watched you parents pampered your sister then want another man daughter to be your slave all in the name of housewife.

Being smart, caring and intelligent is enough to have a good home

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by chinchonglee(m): 10:06pm On Jan 15, 2021
Knowing how to cook and clean to me can never be a criteria to marry a girl.
What turns me on is smartness!

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by honest1480(m): 10:06pm On Jan 15, 2021
Why won't they prefer maids for marriage while they are the ones that do all the house chores perfectly. Men love women that take care of home and their stomachs with right delicacies.

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Kobicove(m): 10:06pm On Jan 15, 2021
cheesy

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by FuckThaMod: 10:06pm On Jan 15, 2021
I've seen many maids get married before their oga daughters. They are hardworking, better cook and very submissive.
Let ogas keep allowing their fat lazy daughters to be pressing phones and rubbing make upandan.

chinchonglee:
Knowing how to cook and clean to me can never be a criteria to marry a girl.
What turns me on is smartness!

You're right tho.. The girl i wanted to marry initially was a good cook, very nice, obedient, very sexy and good in bed.. But was extremely dumb!! Omo i had to break up with her cos it was becoming very frustrating.. God forgive me cry

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Nobody: 10:06pm On Jan 15, 2021
Why won't they when you all train your maids while your daughters lazy about and turn to leeches that live off men when they grow up.

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