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GetMeRight:
May be, I wouldn't know that for sure.
But what I was saying is that men in their late 30s stand better chances of finding ladies of great spec than ladies in their late 30s finding men with that kind of spec.

Now, why do you think that is?

1Sharon:
Don't men in their late 30s want a woman with snatched waist and smooth skin?

Why do married men cheat again?

Take note, not only you men are visual!

Women and all this their equivalency and dick measuring contest with men is such a huge pet peeve of mine

You guys should lobby God to give u prick if u want 1 so bad.

Always like "women can too". Ok yall just do it at stfu fgs

1Sharon:
Now, why do you think that is?

Nobody generally wants a wrinkled punany. Even women don't love ugly. But the kinda way women manage ugly men with money is a sight to behold

Just look at ned nwoko and Regina Daniel or okoya and sade....then since u like this your Mrs. Me too brand of feminism, show us one old married/single woman in Nigeriia that a young man has agreed to bed in holy matrimony

Nonsense and ingredients...when trannys full naija and una no even see the few olosho politicians and daddy's again

Maybe then una go finally get sense. We will see if it's feminists or bible that is lying. Rubbish generation

My experience with single ladies as a married man?

Purely transactional and nothing more.

Still can't believe one aspiring crackhead said women are visual too as if there's nothing money can't do to change their mind

See if that fa.t sexual predator lizzo, una idol offer 1m$ to nack her, even with paper bag over her head, I won't do it...but many of u women would for 10k$ and that should be telling u, all u need to know

scribble:
Nobody generally wants a wrinkled punany. Even women don't love ugly. But the kinda way women manage ugly men with money is a sight to behold

Just look at ned nwoko and Regina Daniel or okoya and sade....then since u like this your Mrs. Me too brand of feminism, show us one old married/single woman in Nigeriia that a young man has agreed to bed in holy matrimony

Nonsense and ingredients...when trannys full naija and una no even see the few olosho politicians and daddy's again

Maybe then una go finally get sense. We will see if it's feminists or bible that is lying. Rubbish generation

Most men in Nigeria do not have money. There are not enough rich men to go around. Yet there are still weddings every Saturday.

I'm sure you know an ugly poor man that is married.

1Sharon:
Now, why do you think that is?

You don't need any explanation. So, let's pretend like you didn't ask this question. Laughing.

The question is what is the right thing to do
How do u battle this sin of lust as a married man
What does it do to you


Answers
It is wrong
2 . It is not lust easy but any opportunity flee from every appearance of evil to be honest it is not easy especially when you are surrounded by this beautiful woman Oga it is not easy as a man the urge is too much after a year or two years but is not easy finally
3 it drains you , it destroys your family , u lack concentration, you hide , you hurt your partner if she finds out
But the most important is that it takes you away from God grace , if you dwell too long in it it consumes you
But it is what it is

Solution when you feel you are under attack of lust fast and pray
God will help you but you need to flee first for God to help
You can not stand in front of beautiful and be calling God to help you

1Sharon:
Now, why do you think that is?

Because they are more confident and secure and know what they want. Its way easier for me to get a younger single lady now than when i was younger. Also financial security is a big factor at play.

When I introduce myself, I always let them know I'm married. Surprisingly, most don't care.

When their tactics are not working, they offer u friendship just to milk you still.

I tot one that I met will be sensible until we got talking about life. I told her I don't like money(I'm not materialistic) but I love making money. She replied "Let me be spending your money for you"..

lionlee216:
..... She replied "Let me be spending your money for you"..

Anwons:
It is obvious that this topic is not new, in fact, it has become so common that many married women no longer feel secured in their marriages due to rapid increase of the trend.

Some people tends to blame the married men, while others blame the singles ladies. Nevertheless, the fact remains and the rampage episode continues to increase.

Knowing or having an idea on how most of this unfriendly relationship starts can actually give make some people to draw their lines and also, make others realize who to blame.

The question is for married men, what has been your experience so far? Particularly, has any single young lady found it so easy to approach you? Or is it actually that the married men are always the ones that makes the move?

From my experience as a married man, I can authoritatively say, most single ladies today don't see anything wrong in dating married men. In fact, they see it as norm and can approach married men themselves.

They are just disturbing me here and there and I don’t want any of them. Once u give them a lift the will want to collect ur number. Some will even ask you if she can hang out with you. Most especially this lekki very irritating.

bolademi:
They are just disturbing me here and there and I don’t want any of them. Once u give them a lift the will want to collect ur number. Some will even ask you if she can hang out with you. Most especially this lekki very irritating.

Stop giving them lift!

mukthar2000:
Nice bro , I they follow ur foot step as well.

No time for leach bro

SAMBARRY:
this is one of the few wise men that make marriage attractive and make men get honoured not all these immature and unstable men without character and self respect making marriage look like a joke

Thanks boss

modernWays:
There is wisdom in your post, fornication by married men is an expensive exercise. These girls accepted you for only one reason " Money" or probably connections. If you really love yourself, priotize your wife and children because they will be the ones that will remain with you at old age.

Though men at a particular point in their lives will cheat or attempted to cheat but make sure you cheat with sense. If you must cheat at all, make sure you do it with a classy woman who only want good sex from you and nothing more.

You are not far from the truth bro

Jewessgratitud3:
What else would it be than to have slept with them and it's only dumb ladies that fall prey to their evil traps.

Yeah before you remind me that I'm not a married man yes, I know I'm not but let me help a married man I once encountered share his experience.

It happens that he comes around a bar near my sister's school and always saw me whenever I went to chill with my sister watching over her pupils doing after school hours. So he always plays with the kids and bought them goodies a few times. I didn't know I was his target. He later asked me out but deep down I suspected he was a married guy.

Long story short. We exchanged numbers and started talking over the phone. I inquired about his marital status and he said he was married but he wants to make me his smally. That I look like and Indian girl that's why he likes and wants to keep me for himself. I just laughed within me. This one thought I was a small girl. So I planned to eat his money and dump him.

He invited me out with his friends to go and chop ugba and okporoko at Army barracks Senior officers mess. Omoh.. you can't enter there if you don't have a pass. In fact we had to stop by at the one senior Ogas office before going there. That was my first time of eating ugba. He kept ordering for more and more plates and me I was just chewing away until my cheek bones began to hurt lol.. same with drinks but I told him I don't take alcohol and he was so happy and was boasting to his friends that "this my smally doesn't drink" and that he's so lucky to have me.

When uncle wanted to start pressing my hand ( the guy is very fat and hefty) I told him I want to go home that my aunt will be looking for me. ( For where, me that was already in my mid to late 30s living alone.
I got home that day and saved his number as "don't pick".. he called and called I never picked and for that period, I stopped going to my sister's school. He'll go there and be peeping inside the school but can not ask my sister about me. Shame on such married men.

See eh.. nothing dey for married man apart from the fact that they'll spend on you, they don't look appealing like the a single guy. They'll try o but they can't be like single guys that still have six packs, smooth skin and snatched waist.

You say wetin(at the bolded). I laughhhh

1Sharon:
Ride on.

As long as you tell your wife you're polygamous from the get go, that would be nice.

Views can change. One may not be attracted to polygamy today but would be tomorrow. What would you do about that?

Sweet experience.

It all depend on the partners involves. But first and foremost: every married woman should learn how to dress well both during the day and good nighty dress. The woman must know how to play, not talkative and most know the man best food. Every married man and woman must create time to play match if not single out there will hack your wife or husband.

emmyN:
Views can change. One may not be attracted to polygamy today but would be tomorrow. What would you do about that?

You still need to tell your wife about the update.

1Sharon:
You still need to tell your wife about the update.

That's fair. But you know most women would put up a fight. So I wonder if saying it before hand would change the outcome.

Obviously, this is an interesting topic.

When it comes to married men and single ladies...

You'd agree with me that two things are involved.

For one, provision.

For two, pleasure.

Now, as it is with our current society, hardship and a whole lot of factors has helped shaped our views.

Single ladies would be comfortable flirting with married men and wouldn't mind been in a relationship.

Because her provisions need to be met.

And for some men, it's just pleasure,

So they find no harm in it.

Tired of their wives?

Well, not really..

Different factors bring this.

However, we can't rule out the fact that if provisions wouldn't be involved.

Most ladies wouldn't even consider this option.

Because in the end.

Everyone of us know what we're doing..

texannaija:
You say wetin(at the bolded). I laughhhh

It's true now. A married man can never be like a single guy when it comes to physic. Body wen don hustle for family can never remain the same. .

Married men should just stay in their lane.

Must u tag my tribe to your statements always' is davido and yul from ijaw? After you will say igbo people are tribalists while it is u people that started the thing'
Any way i saw your m*s**ge' no waha '

IconicR:
Ijaw men knows no boundaries when it comes to sex. Please share your story

Nehyooh:
Hmmmm; "as long as he has a car" I can relate bro
Those girls don't just get shame at all, hungry lions

you go dey shock how beautiful babe will be that hungry

bastien:
you go dey shock how beautiful babe will be that hungry

It's so surprising

Nehyooh:
It's so surprising

yes bro

Wether single or married,Most ladies nowadays follow who can assist them financially.A lady will hardly hangout with a poor married man.But a rich married man is more appealing .Marriage is no longer fun,everyone cheats now.Both men and women.I met a woman on tinder,she told me she is divorced,we started hanging out and she has good money,after 1 month she told me she is Married to a Ghanian,I weak because I tot she is divorced.i just stopped seeing her.my morale just fall.

I think the real question is why would a married man leave the comfort of his house for a single woman .
Lack of attention
Nagging
No communication
Wife body issues
Excuse and the list goes on .

I am yet to find a married man whose wife worships him and gives him sex that wants to leave the house to have sex outside the comforts of his home.
I find most women’s attitude towards sex wanes as they grow older. They don’t “ clean “ up anymore or spice things up. They mostly lay like wood and ask you are finished ?. Most young ladies are more active in bed and hence the lure to a younger model.
The same goes for married woman who looks outside of the home for sex. ( this is really rare but occurs )
Now society as a whole is changing - with LGBTQ etc. most of the women who played at the WWC are in relationship with other women , some are bi. And divorce that used to be sacred can easily be issued . So Married men no longer have the stamina to talk things through - it’s easier to date the younger lady than trying to teach and old dog new tricks.
My 2 cents

Say hi to a single lady, and you have unofficially adopted a crippled orphan who begs for a living.

Some married ladies are even worse.

Nothing about cheating is right. But there is a thin line between trying to socialize with the other gender, and actually cheating.

But be that as it may. A lady has a choice to say No, I am not interested. But if she is interested in the short-term or medium-term extra marital affair, it should not be just for his money.

That is why ladies will say to one married man, I do not date married men, but in reality she sleeps around with several married men who she considers rich and wealthy.

As much as one always try to dignify ladies above the tag society has created for them which is a gender created only for the sexual satisfaction of men, they the ladies continue to prove that tag right day in day out.

Zero affection. Zero self worth. Always pretending. Yet always available for the highest bidders.