ExudeLoveToAll:
■ 3k per day is approximately 100k per month, how much does she contribute ? If she does 1500k per day in a month it will amount to 45k making it a total of145k per month.
People who don't contribute to family welfare find it very hard to decicer what the other party goes through to make sure food is on the table for the family.....They always feel like the other party isn't doing enough even when they are trying.

If we assume the traditional marriage configuration, the man is supposed to be the sole provider. If she is to contribute then the man ought also equally to share in homemaking responsibilities. Is he ready for that to happen?

Kobojunkie:
The 2 children should happily go hungry each day because their father who saw fit to birth them does not make enough to even feed them properly?

how.much do you earn daily? Any woman that can't use 90k to feed herself and two little children in a month should be able to provide the balance. After all What a man can do, a woman can do better. This is Nigeria not America.

Phantom233:
■ how.much do you earn daily? Any woman that can't use 90k to feed herself and two little children in a month should be able to provide the balance. After all What a man can do, a woman can do better. This is Nigeria not America.

Well, if she has to resort to that then it means the provider in the marriage is not doing a good enough job providing. If your family no fit belleful with wetin you dey bring in, it means you are not doing an adequate job providing. In the case that the woman has to become a provider in the household, it should follow that the man should also share homemaker duties as well. This is simple logic here.
https://www.upworthy.com/dad-takes-seven-week-paternity-leave

You would be surprised to learn that she is doing daily contribution of 1k out of the money to do something stupid at the end. Probably why the husband would rather give her daily funds and not in bulk

Kobojunkie:
Well, if she has to resort to that then it means the provider in the marriage is not doing a good enough job providing. If your family no fit belleful with wetin you dey bring in, it means you are not doing an adequate job providing. In the case that the woman has to become a provider in the household, it should follow that the man should also share homemaker duties as well. This is simple logic here.
https://www.upworthy.com/dad-takes-seven-week-paternity-leave

How many women de fit do home chores in dis jet age? No be housemaid de cook, wash ,go market and even babysit? Let's face fact, how many Nigerians are earning 100k in a month? Women should be prudent and also resourceful marriage is for better or worse and not a cures on the husband.

Kobojunkie:
The 2 children should happily go hungry each day because their father who saw fit to birth them does not make enough to even feed them properly?

Where was it mentioned in the post that the children are hungry.

Kobojunkie:
Good idea! Now if she seeks employment then it must also follow that the man equally shares in her former duties as a homemaker, right? With the economy as it is, traditional marriage settings ought to be thrown out the window completely for families to survive.

The OP is just 2 sentences yet you are already jumping to conclusion. Do you stay with them in the same house? Do you know if the husband is already taking part in the "homemaking" duty?

MatrixReloaded:

You are a foolish human being.
Idk if you are using a figurative statement here but you see that 20k per hour means u want her to turn into oloshoshim. Stupid comment flying around this forum everyday.

Don't you know sarcasm?
Must you course?
Nawa o

dmostcheerful:

Don't you know sarcasm?
Must you course?
Nawa o

Shatap. Can't u read my sentence. Even its figurative statement
Sarcasm ko simcast ni

Phantom233:
■ How many women de fit do home chores in dis jet age? No be housemaid de cook, wash ,go market and even babysit? Let's face fact, how many Nigerians are earning 100k in a month? Women should be prudent and also resourceful marriage is for better or worse and not a cures on the husband.

We are not here to wonder how many women take care of house duties. The traditional marriage configuration has the woman taking on the responsibility of house help, cook, nanny, etc. Should she then be required to add to the list the role of provider, then commonsense would be that the man equally shares in her previous responsibilities — democracy. Basically, traditional configuration thrown out the window.

MatrixReloaded:

Shatap. Can't u read my sentence. Even its figurative statement
Sarcasm ko simcast ni

You are definitely insane and rude.
I don't see what warrant an outburst.
Unfortunately you have a runny mouth.
I will leave you with your mádñess

I despise the idea of a full-time housewife!

The lady should always have a job before the arrival of the children. That is why I am a huge advocate of family planning for one or two years after the wedding for the couple to get their finances intact before the arrival of the children.

If you are single and planning to wed, be intentional and plan accordingly.

There is no love in abject poverty.

Bitches

dmostcheerful:

You are definitely insane and rude.
I don't see what warrant an outburst.
Unfortunately you have a runny mouth.
I will leave you with your mádñess

Kobojunkie:
Why should she have to do that if her place in the marriage is as a homemaker and not as a provider? If she is to resort to taking on part of the husband's responsibility as the sole provider in the household, shouldn't it equally follow that the man shares in her responsibilities as a home maker?

she has to state the further facts to paint the full story if indeed she needs advise. providing half a story is being clever by half.
meanwhile i did not at any point say she is to become a provider. i merely asked for other details that would help in making an informed balanced judgment. Abi did you read me saying she should become provider or cover any costs? or you are just shooting from the hip?

before I would condemn the man or her for that matter i would like the benefit of a complete narrative.

Patented:
■ she has to state the further facts to paint the full story if indeed she needs advise. providing half a story is being clever by half.
meanwhile i did not at any point say she is to become a provider. i merely asked for other details that would help in making an informed balanced judgment. Abi did you read me saying she should become provider or cover any costs? or you are just shooting from the hip?
before I would condemn the man or her for that matter i would like the benefit of a complete narrative.

You made what seemed a case for the man's inadequate contribution to be considered all he can bring to the table. Commonsense should then follow that the other adult in the household should equally go out and do their to bring in any extra, or is this not an acceptable resolve when the provider is not able ti meet demands?

Kobojunkie:
You made what seemed a case for the man's inadequate contribution to be considered all he can bring to the table. Commonsense should then follow that the other adult in the household should equally go out and do their to bring in any extra, or is this not an acceptable resolve when the provider is not able ti meet demands?

Seems there is some emotion in your reaction. I said she should state how much he earns and whether he provides for adequate food stuff at home. I justified this request by syaing there is a tendency to skew testimony to favour oneself.
I made no conclusion whatsoever. possible scenarios are, he provides all that is needed at home and gives her 3k to do whatever with or he provides her with 3k and says make it work. both scenarios are clearly different and would elicit different reactions. Also how much he actually earns puts a significant spin on things. having all that info makes for an informed judgment....so to speak.
no sensible advise can be given without all the facts

Patented:
■ Seems[b] there is some emotion in your reaction. I said she should state how much he earns and whether he provides for adequate food stuff at home. I justified this request by syaing there is a tendency to skew testimony to favour oneself. [/b]
I made no conclusion whatsoever. possible scenarios are, he provides all that is needed at home and gives her 3k to do whatever with or he provides her with 3k and says make it work. both scenarios are clearly different and would elicit different reactions. Also how much he actually earns puts a significant spin on things. having all that info makes for an informed judgment....so to speak.
no sensible advise can be given without all the facts

My Mistake! I mistook you for another poster.

Phantom233:

How many women de fit do home chores in dis jet age? No be housemaid de cook, wash ,go market and even babysit? Let's face fact, how many Nigerians are earning 100k in a month? Women should be prudent and also resourceful marriage is for better or worse and not a cures on the husband.

no wahala

Kobojunkie:
My Mistake! I mistook you for another poster.

Kobojunkie:
Good idea! Now if she seeks employment then it must also follow that the man equally shares in her former duties as a homemaker, right? With the economy as it is, traditional marriage settings ought to be thrown out the window completely for families to survive.

For me chores in the house is supposed to be shared responsibility, aside from cooking cause I don't like to cook but I can help in cooking prep.

eventainment:
■ For me chores in the house is supposed to be shared responsibility, aside from cooking cause I don't like to cook but I can help in cooking prep.

The ego of the Nigerian man never ceases to amaze me really.

Kobojunkie:
The ego of the Nigerian man never ceases to amaze me really.

Well this is my flaw but I do other chores good, so complimenting each others flaws works.

Kobojunkie:
The 2 children should happily go hungry each day because their father who saw fit to birth them does not make enough to even feed them properly?

to conclude 3k isn't enough, you should have idea of their daily routine and the city they live at minimum. The OP doesn't state those but here you are talking like your usual deranged self in your bid to oppose people like you can't help doing.

CodeTemplar:
■ to conclude 3k isn't enough, you should have idea of their daily routine and the city they live at minimum. The OP doesn't state those but here you are talking like your usual deranged self in your bid to oppose people like you can't help doing.

Rubbish! The woman complaining says it is not enough for 3 of them, yet you reject her stance? Na to go impose your own standards on her you think go make better sense?