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Openfortruth:
I'm 21 and he's 28

I don't want to be harsh to you because most of what I might say will seem like that

Also I realise it is easy for me to criticise when I have not walked in your shoes.
You need to talk to your brother. The way I see it your brother is telling you be cannot feed you
So talk to him about helping you find work that will bring in money
This phone repair thing sound somehow,will it bring money in the end
If your brother is acting that way then the atmosphere in the house will be awkward and I imagine there is no smiling or laughing
How is your brothers work or business is it going well
Sometimes a family member can move in and things start to go downhill and Nigerians will read spiritual meanings

You need to communicate to your brother that you are not lazy and you are not a liability.
That you want to contribute if there is a way to do so
Even in marriage money is the thing that brings quarrel
If things are not great your brother might not know how to tell you.

But this attitude of your brother is starving you and he is responsible is wrong maybe he is sensing that and reacting to counter that to let you know you are a man. And not his responsibility. He is old enough to marry
When he left the village do you know what he went through and how he survived
You need to dialogue with your brother
He is housing you show you are thankful
It is not your right

uvie66:
Yes, i am very serious if you are under 18 your parents is responsible for your upkeep, and over 18 you are an adult and should fend for yourself, your brother did not bring you to this world.

interesting

Me i owe my siblings both uder and over 18. I also owe my good loyal friends.

To hell with me and my money if the loved ones around me are suffering.

EruditeSupport:
Talk about your brother and mother please.

I'm an elderly man too. Not a kid. We don't do that in my family.

Why will I talk about my mother and brother?
Is your head correct?

Gajagojo:
That is exactly how Nigeria got to 200 million
Having babies anyhow,not educating them and hoping first born will train them

So a man will not marry till he is 40 because he has brothers

You are free to make that choice for yourself not everyone

who told you getting married at 40 or whatever age is a crime? Is there a law backing age limit in marriage? I don't understand you guys seriously. Must everyone get married?

Openfortruth:
I greet you all Nairalanders.

Please permit me to share this thing my brother is doing to me.

As my life was about to become useless in the village, I came to the city to stay with my older brother and learn phone repairs.

My plan is to have this handwork so that when i gain admission, i wont rely totally only on education which has failed many in the country.

But my blood brother I'm staying with is behaving unkind to me as though i am a total stranger to him. Even total strangers deserve better treatment.

I'm only an apprenctice and yet to start making money. Most of the days, i trek to the place and return because I dont have transport.

He leave house first before me and return before me too. Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me.

Except there's another way for me, that is how I would go hungry throughout the night and as early as possible in the morning, he would leave the house without reasoning anything food.

I'm seriously starving. I thought he would share the little he has with me till I also start making money. Is this how a senior brother should behave with the junior one?

He's being unkind to me and now I feel like hiding the Garri I brought from the village from him.

But is this how we should behave as blood brothers?

He can't even be there for me to free from this apprenticeship.

eya, your story really touched me. Where do you reside?

Gajagojo:
Why will I talk about my mother and brother?
Is your head correct?

I said it already. You come from a dysfunctional home and expect every home to be like yours.

You're not worth my time, so get off!
I'll ignore you henceforth. The mistake I made was to dignify someone like you with a mention followed by responses. Your insults upon insults show you have a fundamental problem.

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

where do you want him to see the money? Didn't you hear he is an apprentice

UnfairLife7:
who told you getting married at 40 or whatever age is a crime? Is there a law backing age limit in marriage? I don't understand you guys seriously. Must everyone get married?

That Is a tangential argument
I never said anything Is a crime and so to That extent that is an irrelevant and stupid question
That is not the subject of this thread

If you want to talk about that create a thread for that

EruditeSupport:
I said it already. You come from a dysfunctional home and expect every home to be like yours.

You're not worth my time, so get off!
I'll ignore you henceforth. The mistake I made was to dignify someone like you with a mention followed by responses. Your insults upon insults show you have a fundamental problem.

Any idiot is free to come to Nairaland to practice English

Gajagojo:
That Is a tangential argument
I never said anything Is a crime and so to That extent that is an irrelevant and stupid question
That is not the subject of this thread

If you want to talk about that create a thread for that

you raised the issue of marriage yourself, claiming someone will not get married by 40 because of their younger siblings right? And i am asking you where did you see it as a crime if they didn't get married at 40? What makes you think you're better than those who got married at 50?

If you cannot support your younger brother with food and little pockets money should such kind of person be talking about marriage? When ordinary feeding is still a problem

I took my time to read all your comments and there's one thing common to them all...."complete lack of sense".

How could an elder brother be comfortable with his younger bro sleeping hungry? If he could do that to his own blood brother, imagine how he'd treat a step brother. Now imagine how he'd treat a total stranger.

And you as a person, MS247, support madness. I pity your family.

I pity your parents, your siblings, your children and your wife. You're just as useless as NOTHING.

MS247:
This kind of entitlement mentality is very very wrong

Prove me wrong!
I dont think any senile yoruba man would write that crap. Family is priority for us and we dont see everything as transaction

talented321:
When i'm communicating i don't involve tribe, if you don't understand my writeup then have a good day..

UnfairLife7:
you raised the issue of marriage yourself, claiming someone will not get married by 40 because of their younger siblings right? And i am asking you where did you see it as a crime if they didn't get married at 40? What makes you think you're better than those who got married at 50?

If you cannot support your younger brother with food and little pockets money should such kind of person be talking about marriage? When ordinary feeding is still a problem

Did I say it is a crime?
Look I have no patience for stupid talk

If that is so important to you create a thread and invite me
Stick to the topic

Gajagojo:
Did I say it is a crime?
Look I have no patience for stupid talk

If that is so important to you create a thread and invite me
Stick to the topic

It is a crime to you reason why you raised it up. So in your warped mentality you believe it is a must for a man to get married before 40 whether poor, rich or average? I wonder when you guys will change with una old people mentality.

If you care to listen, i owe my siblings, parents and good loyal friends. I owe complete strangers that i know he/she is suffering.

God abeg o

UnfairLife7:
It is a crime to you reason why you raised it up. So in your warped mentality you believe it is a must for a man to get married before 40 whether poor, rich or average? I wonder when you guys will change with una old people mentality.

If you care to listen, i owe my siblings, parents and good loyal friends. I owe complete strangers that i know he/she is suffering.

God abeg o

Your question is stupid
I never said it is a crime
For me you need energy to raise kids
A 70 year old man does not have energy to raise teenagers
The chances are then that such children will lose their father when they are still young.


If it is so important to you create a thread and invite me
It hat is not the subject matter here

Pk01 good evening sir, saw your post. Please I am out of job and pennyless.
I have had to sell some of my things to just to have money to eat and search for job. Unfortunately non of my application has been fruitful yet. Things have been very difficult for me.
Please if anyone can see this, please help me. I hope this phase will be temporary, and hope to give back one day

owunabastard:
bros this is Nigeria settings not the western world family has been destroyed . You are the bigger mumu here

That is why your Nigeria remains a hell hole while you and your family will not last one-day without services from the western world

Let me guess you are using a western world 'iphone or Android' to post on Nairaland? Foolish boy.

Openfortruth:
Thank you for this sir. I would appreciate it a lot. This would come at a point of my need, but I cannot find your email to send it. If you permit me, I can drop the details here. Please my email:
johndan4you@gmail.com, if you are not comfortable to drop your own.

I will hit you up very soon.

Cheers!

Gajagojo:
Your question is stupid
I never said it is a crime

If it is so important to you create a thread and invite me
It hat is not the subject matter here

Stop lying it is a crime to you. For you to have said,"a man will not get married till 40 because of his younger brother"

You see it as a crime not to get married before 40, stop lying.

UnfairLife7:
Stop lying it is a crime to you. For you to have said,"a man will not get married till 40 because of his younger brother"

You see it as a crime not to get married before 40, stop lying.

Can you shut up please?

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

You must be high on "Colors"😁😁😁

Gajagojo:
Your question is stupid
I never said it is a crime
For me you need energy to raise kids
A 70 year old man does not have energy to raise teenagers
The chances are then that such children will lose their father when they are still young.


If it is so important to you create a thread and invite me
It hat is not the subject matter here

you talk like a kid.

Our fathers, grandfather's and great grandfather's had been raising there kids before 40 right? Yet, Nigeria still remain the poverty capital in the world. What have they achieved with their so called energy?

Ned should be in his 70s right? Any child he has at that age has much more prospect and secured future than 95% of children with their energy father 🤣

UnfairLife7:
you talk like a kid.

Our fathers, grandfather's and great grandfather's had been raising there kids before 40 right? Yet, Nigeria still remain the poverty capital in the world. What have they achieved with their so called energy?

Ned should be in his 70s right? Any child he has at that age has much more prospect and secured future than 95% of children with their energy father 🤣

Can you shut up
I am not discussing that on this thread

So stick to the topic

Gajagojo:
Can you shut up
I am not discussing that on this thread

So stick to the topic

I saw someone accusing you that you're from a dysfunctional home. Is that true?

UnfairLife7:
I saw someone accusing you that you're from a dysfunctional home. Is that true?

Ask your mother

ThiefnubuBandit:
Are you from Uvwie in Delta State?

Yes why do you ask, are you also from there?

Openfortruth:
I greet you all Nairalanders.

Please permit me to share this thing my brother is doing to me.

As my life was about to become useless in the village, I came to the city to stay with my older brother and learn phone repairs.

My plan is to have this handwork so that when i gain admission, i wont rely totally only on education which has failed many in the country.

But my blood brother I'm staying with is behaving unkind to me as though i am a total stranger to him. Even total strangers deserve better treatment.

I'm only an apprenctice and yet to start making money. Most of the days, i trek to the place and return because I dont have transport.

He leave house first before me and return before me too. Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me.

Except there's another way for me, that is how I would go hungry throughout the night and as early as possible in the morning, he would leave the house without reasoning anything food.

I'm seriously starving. I thought he would share the little he has with me till I also start making money. Is this how a senior brother should behave with the junior one?

He's being unkind to me and now I feel like hiding the Garri I brought from the village from him.

But is this how we should behave as blood brothers?

He can't even be there for me to free from this apprenticeship.

1) Did he just suddenly change or was he like that from the very first day you came to his house?

I have a younger brother that have this entitlement mentality. He will never add any valve to you life. He will there will I go watch my car, cloth and even clean his room. He just comes back and sleep and eat only. So tell me if I start behaving same to him will anyone blame me. People are attracted to someone that add value if not it will be the opposite. All I could say is try to be adding some value to him, do things, services in the house. He can only be a wicked brother if you respect and do all chores and he still starves you.

Mindlog:
If you are the elder brother, will you be confident enough to sit down and eat the served Eba and Okro soup?

LOOL . That's the point. Except the brother has no conscience , he'll realize he's not being treating the younger bro well and hopefully adjust

Gajagojo:
Ask your mother

everything about you was incoherent.
40
Energy
🤣🤣

Father4all:
eya, your story really touched me. Where do you reside?

That will mean so much for me. In fact, it will be like you have taken care of me from now till next month. God bless you.

6019 680815, Keystone Bank, Victor Monday

UnfairLife7:
everything about you was incoherent.
40
Energy
🤣🤣

Back to topic

UnfairLife7:
everything about you was incoherent.
40
Energy
🤣🤣

Impotent ment will always try to justify their failure to have children