fobiflex:

Geez, what’s all these here? For real? Are you guys really from a family?

Answer my question

Mrdonadefe:


Answer my question

Please what’s your question?

fobiflex:

Please what’s your question?

What if the elder brother is killed, can he not survive? Now if he can survive without the elder brother, what is stopping him from taking that step now?

I intentionally didn't comment at first. See people's advice na. As if it's easy.

MS247:


This kind of entitlement mentality is very very wrong

Na waoh! What's the entitlement to helping your blood brother pending when he will stand on his own? He just came from the village, what and where do you think he should go and raise money since he is an apprentice? Even after learning, it will take time before he starts getting customers. Let's try and show empathy at times ns. I can't do this to a friend, much more my blood. Humans these days really lack natural affection.

ibinaboonline:
The comments here, unbelievable. What has life done to us? Chai! Is this really the mindset you all have towards your family members or are you just using the OP to catch a cruise? That's your blood brother, damn it. Chai. Unbelievable.

Am shocked at people's comments too my brother. No wonder we have a high rate of ritual killing amongst families because they don't care and have no natural affection again. Their comments here show how depraved they are. How can anyone feel comfortable seeing his younger sibling who just arrived from the village and does not have the means to survive hungry and don't care ? Fear dey catch meoo😩😱

Calm Down and bear d Pain. Hope u not Given him RM pertime or Steal from dose few repair u do when he his not around. Dont Leave his house or d learning. Just stay Focus and Put ur eye in d repair. This time next year u will be balling. cheer

iralanders.

Please permit me to share this thing my brother is doing to me.

As my life was about to become useless in the village, I came to the city to stay with my older brother and learn phone repairs.

My plan is to have this handwork so that when i gain admission, i wont rely totally only on education which has failed many in the country.

But my blood brother I'm staying with is behaving unkind to me as though i am a total stranger to him. Even total strangers deserve better treatment.

I'm only an apprenctice and yet to start making money. Most of the days, i trek to the place and return because I dont have transport.

He leave house first before me and return before me too. Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me.

Except there's another way for me, that is how I would go hungry throughout the night and as early as possible in the morning, he would leave the house without reasoning anything food.

I'm seriously starving. I thought he would share the little he has with me till I also start making money. Is this how a senior brother should behave with the junior one?

He's being unkind to me and now I feel like hiding the Garri I brought from the village from him.

But is this how we should behave as blood brothers?

He can't even be there for me to free from this apprenticeship.[/quote]

Mrdonadefe:


What if the elder brother is killed, can he not survive? Now if he can survive without the elder brother, what is stopping him from taking that step now?

Bro, what’s this illustration with death, why would he think his an elder bro he came to stay with as death. If he was dead as you want him to think, he won’t come over to stay with him in the 1st place

fobiflex:

Bro, what’s this illustration with death, why would he think his an elder bro he came to stay with as death. If he was dead as you want him to think, he won’t come over to stay with him in the 1st place

Fobiflex, maybe that is too extreme. Lets say his elder brother decided to travel abroad tomorrow, how then will he survive or will the elder brother be mandated to leave him upkeep before travelling?

See, if the young man was a teenager lets say under 18, i will understand. But if he is 18 and above, then he should be a man and plan his Life around himself and the elder brother can help only if he want to.

I personally do not expect my elder brother and sister to feed me. I will go out and look for daily pay job to do and will buy foodstuffs for the house because that is the least i could do.

Next if the elder bro get girlfriend na, then it will be more problems.

Mrdonadefe:


If you financially save for both of them till they become adult, there will be no rivary. The problem with Africans is that the parent do not save for their children and expect the eldest to play parent. Listen, if you want to play parent, that is okay but if someone else dont, that is also okay. We all must not think the same.

I don't think anything I stated has to do with being a substitute parent. Being there for each other is not necessarily about being a substitute parent.

Don’t mind this wicked set of people with their evil selfish mindset, no man has seen God and God will not come from heaven to help anyone it’s man that God will use to help man.. and every man that succeed today was help by someone , I don’t know where people get this evil mindset from.

Mindlog:


Dropping something for younger ones according to your capacity, is not entitlement mentality. If Nigerian police pick any of them up, no be the other one go run around abi is their parents with them in the city?

Reality is that time flies so fast, 5 years from now the stupidity of this moments will look so infantile.

What really touched me is this "Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me".......your own blood, your younger sibling goes to bed hungry after trekking back from where he is learning a skill, while you have eaten.....Schizoid Personality Disorder no pass this one o.

I honestly don't like people who feel entitled. In this harsh economy he gave you a roof over your head you're still expecting him to feed you.

Hello, head back to the village.

Oga just shut up if you don’t know what to say, no man has seen God and everyone that succeeded today was help by someone, no one is an island we are inter-independent we need each other to grow, I don’t reasons why a brother can’t help a brother… you mst be a very wicked and heartless person. You mean you have not gotten Favour from anyone except you parent?

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

Hahahaha, you guys are so unbelievable, he should also lay his clothes on the floor for the brother to walk on, less I forget he should also wash the brother’s foot every morning and night and also fan him whenever there is no light at night, wicked and selfish people everywhere… I’m very sure the foolish brother will be giving his girlfriend money to do hair lol.

Nazgul:
Your problem with your brother is over familiarity and entitlement mentality. Like someone rightfully pointed out, he doesn't owe you anything, cos he didn't bring you into this world.

If you want your current predicament with him to come to an end, do the following...

1. See him as your oga and see yourself as an apprentice in his shop, stop seeing him as your equal.

2. Call him sir whenever he calls you. And run errands for him without grumbling.

3. Wash his clothes, polish his shoes, clean the house and sweep the shop whenever you get there. Make cleanliness your best friend. A lazy person cannot succeeded as an apprentice.

4. Respectfully beg him for lunch, eg. Good afternoon sir, please I'm hungry. Don't ever call him by his name.

Mindlog:


Fact is that OP is his younger brother, assisting him while he is still carving out his own path in life with food and the occasional transport fare is not out of place. When he starts earning something from the phone repairs he is learning, then he can contribute.

In the future when they are both married and this present issue becomes the root of their acrimonious relationship, na wife whey no know how the problem take start na im dey go dey blame for causing disunity between brothers.

My brother, at some point reading through the comments, I thought that we had all lost our abilities to reason, until I read your comment.

People kept commenting as if they were Europeans. We are Africans. Looking after our younger siblings is part of our culture. The angle of feeling entitled is arrant nonsense. When you can afford it, tell the person you can't. We are not Americans.

For me, I think it is wrong for his older brother not to care about how he feeds. It is even more worrisome that he'd cook and clean up everywhere and not put his kid brother into account. It is utterly irresponsible and immature.

How can your younger sibling live in your house and you don't find out if he eats or not? I guess OP is from a region in the South. Wetin people dey see food as sef?

Like you rightly pointed out, when tomorrow strange things start playing out in their relationship, na their wives go take head carry am.

purples25:


I don't think anything I stated has to do with being a substitute parent. Being there for each other is not necessarily about being a substitute parent.

Understood, my question is this;

Is it a must for siblings to be there for each other?

For me i believe it is a good thing to do but its not a must.

Mrdonadefe:


Understood, my question is this;

Is it a must for siblings to be there for each other?

For me i believe it is a good thing to do but its not a must.

It depends on your belief. I am not foisting my belief on anybody. I believe in being there for one's sibling. I practice that. For anyone else, it's up to what they choose to believe.

vincenteger:


Still checking where you asked for his account number

Abi you didn't read what he wrote

you dey mind that one? He presses phone upsidedown

Housing him is being there for him

He should be grateful
These are the kind of lazy men that will sit at home and eat while their older sisters go out to do olosho and bring money for them to gamble and smoke weed with

Openfortruth:


Be richly blessed as you do this for me. I will appreciate it so so much.

6019680 815, Keystone Bank, Victor Monday

I have a big problem with this If this is your real identity

It is either you are telling us a scam story or you have no respect for your family because with this you are also revealing your brothers identity
And somehow this can get back to your brother
The solution is not begging for money because that money will finish but to sit down with your brother and talk. Or find a job
The country is hard for everyone including your brother

This idea that your brother is doing you bad is very wrong

I am distrustful of this your yarn.
If you want to ask for money do so direct no dey follow corner

purples25:


It depends on your belief. I am not foisting my belief on anybody. I believe in being there for one's sibling. I practice that. For anyone else, it's up to what they choose to believe.

I agree with you. Just wanted to understand your thoughts.

vikkogg:
I took my time to read all your comments and there's one thing common to them all...."complete lack of sense".

How could an elder brother be comfortable with his younger bro sleeping hungry? If he could do that to his own blood brother, imagine how he'd treat a step brother. Now imagine how he'd treat a total stranger.

And you as a person, MS247, support madness. I pity your family.

I pity your parents, your siblings, your children and your wife. You're just as useless as NOTHING.

I honestly do not think it is right to tell someone how to leave their life, especially if it is not against the Law.

The fact that you can sacrifice your meal for your siblings does not mean everyone must do the same. The young man is 21, the elder brother is just 28 and also struggling.

What do you expected a 28 year old to own in this life stage? He is way too you young to feed a 21 year old. They can both work together

Just my humble opine

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

Thumbs-up 👍
Abeg which one be okporoko?

Also op might not get up to 1k for aza o.
Help am well abeg.

deathmen12:
Don’t mind this wicked set of people with their evil selfish mindset, no man has seen God and God will not come from heaven to help anyone it’s man that God will use to help man.. and every man that succeed today was help by someone , I don’t know where people get this evil mindset from.

So anyone with a different viewpoint from yours is evil? You don post *evil and wicked* like 1 million times on this thread.
Baba shift and get sense.

Mrdonadefe:


I honestly do not think it is right to tell someone how to leave their life, especially if it is not against the Law.

The fact that you can sacrifice your meal for your siblings does not mean everyone must do the same. The young man is 21, the elder brother is just 28 and also struggling.

What do you expected a 28 year old to own in this life stage? He is way too you young to feed a 21 year old. They can both work together

Just my humble opine

Apparently none of em read the part about the elder brother still living on noodles.

Gajagojo:


I have a big problem with this If this is your real identity

It is either you are telling us a scam story or you have no respect for your family because with this you are also revealing your brothers identity
And somehow this can get back to your brother
The solution is not begging for money because that money will finish but to sit down with your brother and talk. Or find a job
The country is hard for everyone including your brother

This idea that your brother is doing you had is very wrong

I am distrustful of this your yarn.
If you want to ask for money do so direct no dey follow corner

I could see so many people condemning your comments on the thread. It's ok this is coming from you.

Gajagojo:
Housing him is being there for him

He should be grateful
These are the kind of lazy men that will sit at home and eat while their older sisters go out to do olosho and bring money for them to gamble and smoke weed with

I have been reading your comments on thread and if this is the real you, brother, you are a very terrible somebody. Your type is what the family would regret giving birth to because you have no usefulness to the family.

AsaBlackheart:


Apparently none of em read the part about the elder brother still living on noodles.

Noodles is not shareable?

donsheddy1:
I honestly don't like people who feel entitled. I'm this harsh economy he gave you a roof over your head you're still expecting him to feed you.

Hello, head back to the village.

He should head back to the village and waste away? Would that be your wish for your brother?

AsaBlackheart:


Apparently none of em read the part about the elder brother still living on noodles.

The thing surprise me. These people dont care about the elder brother's age. They are expecting too much from a 28 year old. He is too young to start feeding a grown man.

TheBillyonaire:


If your small sister dey team up with your own daughter dey fire you, then you need more help than the Op. The system has got you. You dey find answers from the universe and you do not even know the dynamics of warfare on of your own bloodline?

You just have to tag along and learn what is going on in the universe and the reason you have those 'distractions; around you without you even knowing the war.

Sorry about the tone, but you need to break down this stuff about your sis and daughter. So you can understand the nature of the virus hiding on your DNA tree. Your tree of life and consciousness.

Nah..

My kinda talk on the site seems misleading.

Fire me no mean say we get any beef or any serious matters like that.

No mind my nonsense. I'm just trying to let people know the freedom I allow my siblings even though I'm responsible for their upkeep.

And plus they really dey fire me when it comes to my insistence on remaining a bachelor o...

Morning

That is, eh. Not one person o. Several comments. Really broke my heart. It's a scary world right now.

loliapoopy2013:


Am shocked at people's comments too my brother. No wonder we have a high rate of ritual killing amongst families because they don't care and have no natural affection again. Their comments here show how depraved they are. How can anyone feel comfortable seeing his younger sibling who just arrived from the village and does not have the means to survive hungry and don't care ? Fear dey catch meoo😩😱