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Jewessgratitud3:
Story.

Na singlehood na em Dey worry you. Leave Husband and Wife alone.

If you’re too good why you never see husband? How old are you?

Mercylike:
But ur sister sef is very stewpid and I'm sorry to say..

She born 1, ẹ no change, born 2, ẹ no change.. Still born 3

Haba

I feel so sorry for her

That's how you know this story is flawed. Whenever financial problems lie, the man must be blamed and ridiculed.

cjudy:
Na singlehood na em Dey worry you. Leave Husband and Wife alone.

If you’re too good why you never see husband? How old are you?

Wey the husband kwanu? Shey na you wey no get head abi your kind wey never stand well na him be the husband? Hahahahaha... Abeg,make i see road.

Jewessgratitud3:
Yeah I get your standpoint and you have every right to how you treat such people. I remember sometime last year when the guy fell sick and she started caring for him again and I said after all he did to you you still went caring for him on the sick bed? She picked quarrel with me and told me to stop coming to their house.

So I understand you but my church mind any time she calls no dey allow me

will u prefer her a widow..?

She should go and marry you or marry her father because your family is the best in the whole world.

Jewessgratitud3:
Wey the husband kwanu? Shey na you wey no get head abi your kind wey never stand well na him be the husband? Hahahahaha... Abeg,make i see road.

See Mumu. Faceless forum. Well I’m well married with kids and we are living now comfortable in Canada.
I’m not useless like you.

Go and marry, you’re getting old. Maybe my son will marry you but my fear is that you’re already evening newspaper

cjudy:
See Mumu. Faceless forum. Well I’m well married with kids and we are living now comfortable in Canada.
I’m not useless like you.

Go and marry, you’re getting old. Maybe my son will marry you but my fear is that you’re already evening newspaper

True true na faceless forum and so anybody can take full advantage of that to claim to be anything.

Please I'm outta here

That's what happens when a woman falls in love with a big prick and sex. She got carried away by good sex.


Midehi3 I'm hungry

Jewessgratitud3:
Resent him because he went for my sis? You're high. If this is all you could pick from the story then you're no different from the lazy blob

U are a bitter feminist and will end up with ur cats.... bitter soul

Kingcalls:
U are a bitter feminist and will end up with ur cats.... bitter soul

Back to sender in Jesus name.

Jewessgratitud3:
Right now she needs advice on what to do and I'm also going to be sharing what I have advised her so far.

This man has used his foolishness to implicate my sister and their lovely kids. Before I go into details of what happened recently, I'll like to give a quick backstory of how all these came to be and how she even got herself into this mess

Backtrack to 2014 when she broke the news that someone was coming to see the family for her hand, I asked her who the person was but she refused to tell me saying I'll meet him when he comes. I was now like ha... This one you're hiding it. I never knew it was one useless guy that was living in our former area in the early 2000s that all he does then was stand at junctions disturbing girls. He also disturbed me one period like that and I so much dislike him because of his behavior plus he's fair and I dont fancy fair guys.

The day came and we started cooking. Already I had gotten a hint from my eldest sister that it's the guy and I said was that why she was hiding it? What's my own there. We move. As the day was approaching, my idowus husband called and told me to warn my sister that that guy she's pulling with is not it. That if she's trying to have something serious with him she'll be making a big mistake. I said, she's an adult and can make choices for herself.


He came with his people and we did everything and she moved in with him. Now, this guy doesn't do anything. He claims he's a lawyer but never goes to work. Most times he'll go for early morning training by 6am and after everyone has gone to work, he'll come home and be sleeping. initially my sister was covering him up that he's doing something but anytime I visit after school, I'll always meet him at home sleeping. I knew my sis was just covering him.

Before they married my sister owned a school that was doing well. After her first child the school was still doing well but they started having issues because she was the one bearing most of the financial burden in the house. Sometimes she would come to school with bruises on her face. Since she refused to talk, me I didn't bother asking because if I do she'll bark at me.it continue like that until she could no longer bear it and started opening up to me that the guy doesn't do anything. Just goes about from one junction to the other.

She took in for her second child and fell sick. The school suffered mismanagement and folded up. That was when the guy showed her his true color. They fought to the extent she left her kids and went to my sister's house. My elder sisters husband settled them and she went back.

She had her third child and the guy started his madness again. This time he would leave them and go for hours without food. When he's coming at night he'll buy food and call his children to come eat and leave my sister hungry. So anytime I go there I'll just find her something to eat. Sometimes not always.
The day I said enough is enough and decided to pull her out of that nonsense was the day she called me, I was in a bus and she said for two days now she has not eaten anything and she's having headache. That the guy said he'll deal with her. I told her to hold on and sent her the little I could that I'll come and see her.

I got there and told her she can't continue like this . I told her to start following me to school to learn how to do what I'm doing and I'll be giving her small small daily pay any day she goes with me and later she can start sourcing for her own schools and be making her own money. I put her through and took her to a school immediately and assigned her to some classes after watching me for a few mins.

We did that for a few weeks and I was giving her the small thing I could after each day. She started going out to look for schools and two schools called her. She now said she can't be following me again , I said no problem. God helped her, She now got more schools and started selling books too and making money.
When this guy saw it, he left feeding and only buys food for the children once in a while. Meanwhile their fighting continued.

Fast-forward to last year, the landlord called my sister that he has given the husband quit notice, not because he was owing but because he was always disrespecting the landlord. My sister tried to plead but he said it's not because of my sister but the husband. Now this guy's is so troublesome and brags a lot. He quarrels with the landlord a lot and always goes against the rules of the compound. I on the other hand have been telling my twin now that she has the money to get her own apartment and leave the lazy thing but she remained there.


Last two weeks Tuesday. during that heavy downpour, the landlord came with some police men and threw their things out in the rain as she was preparing her children for school. It was one of the police men that now had pity on her and said they should leave the things in the compound instead of throwing outside in the rain and helped my sister to bring then inside the gate. The husband ran away. After everything he called my sister to bring the children somewhere. When she got there it was a friend's house. He begged them to let his family stay the night and till now he's still there. I told my sister, shey I've been warning you about this guy. Bett look for a place and move in before this one's change their mind. Could you believe this man continued his laziness there? When everyone has gone out he'll go there and start sleeping till they come back from work and meet him. My sister said he has started quarrelling the man's wife . Someone who's squatting you you're challenging them.

he's talking about moving them to Mowe but my sister is not buying the idea and says she wants to get an apartment here on the mainland because of her job and move with only her children but I'm of the opinion that she should leave the children with him because if she goes with the children he'll run from his responsibility and never pay their school fees again.

What should she do because the guy travelled for his brothers burial now and the owner of the house was heard asking the wife why the guy and my sister are still in their house and said let him come back first . Meaning they are tired.

I've told her to get an apartment now o.

Why is this news here. Is there nothing else to put on this platform? Let her divorce him Marriage no be by force.

Jewessgratitud3:
Right now she needs advice on what to do and I'm also going to be sharing what I have advised her so far.

This man has used his foolishness to implicate my sister and their lovely kids. Before I go into details of what happened recently, I'll like to give a quick backstory of how all these came to be and how she even got herself into this mess

Backtrack to 2014 when she broke the news that someone was coming to see the family for her hand, I asked her who the person was but she refused to tell me saying I'll meet him when he comes. I was now like ha... This one you're hiding it. I never knew it was one useless guy that was living in our former area in the early 2000s that all he does then was stand at junctions disturbing girls. He also disturbed me one period like that and I so much dislike him because of his behavior plus he's fair and I dont fancy fair guys.

The day came and we started cooking. Already I had gotten a hint from my eldest sister that it's the guy and I said was that why she was hiding it? What's my own there. We move. As the day was approaching, my idowus husband called and told me to warn my sister that that guy she's pulling with is not it. That if she's trying to have something serious with him she'll be making a big mistake. I said, she's an adult and can make choices for herself.


He came with his people and we did everything and she moved in with him. Now, this guy doesn't do anything. He claims he's a lawyer but never goes to work. Most times he'll go for early morning training by 6am and after everyone has gone to work, he'll come home and be sleeping. initially my sister was covering him up that he's doing something but anytime I visit after school, I'll always meet him at home sleeping. I knew my sis was just covering him.

Before they married my sister owned a school that was doing well. After her first child the school was still doing well but they started having issues because she was the one bearing most of the financial burden in the house. Sometimes she would come to school with bruises on her face. Since she refused to talk, me I didn't bother asking because if I do she'll bark at me.it continue like that until she could no longer bear it and started opening up to me that the guy doesn't do anything. Just goes about from one junction to the other.

She took in for her second child and fell sick. The school suffered mismanagement and folded up. That was when the guy showed her his true color. They fought to the extent she left her kids and went to my sister's house. My elder sisters husband settled them and she went back.

She had her third child and the guy started his madness again. This time he would leave them and go for hours without food. When he's coming at night he'll buy food and call his children to come eat and leave my sister hungry. So anytime I go there I'll just find her something to eat. Sometimes not always.
The day I said enough is enough and decided to pull her out of that nonsense was the day she called me, I was in a bus and she said for two days now she has not eaten anything and she's having headache. That the guy said he'll deal with her. I told her to hold on and sent her the little I could that I'll come and see her.

I got there and told her she can't continue like this . I told her to start following me to school to learn how to do what I'm doing and I'll be giving her small small daily pay any day she goes with me and later she can start sourcing for her own schools and be making her own money. I put her through and took her to a school immediately and assigned her to some classes after watching me for a few mins.

We did that for a few weeks and I was giving her the small thing I could after each day. She started going out to look for schools and two schools called her. She now said she can't be following me again , I said no problem. God helped her, She now got more schools and started selling books too and making money.
When this guy saw it, he left feeding and only buys food for the children once in a while. Meanwhile their fighting continued.

Fast-forward to last year, the landlord called my sister that he has given the husband quit notice, not because he was owing but because he was always disrespecting the landlord. My sister tried to plead but he said it's not because of my sister but the husband. Now this guy's is so troublesome and brags a lot. He quarrels with the landlord a lot and always goes against the rules of the compound. I on the other hand have been telling my twin now that she has the money to get her own apartment and leave the lazy thing but she remained there.


Last two weeks Tuesday. during that heavy downpour, the landlord came with some police men and threw their things out in the rain as she was preparing her children for school. It was one of the police men that now had pity on her and said they should leave the things in the compound instead of throwing outside in the rain and helped my sister to bring then inside the gate. The husband ran away. After everything he called my sister to bring the children somewhere. When she got there it was a friend's house. He begged them to let his family stay the night and till now he's still there. I told my sister, shey I've been warning you about this guy. Bett look for a place and move in before this one's change their mind. Could you believe this man continued his laziness there? When everyone has gone out he'll go there and start sleeping till they come back from work and meet him. My sister said he has started quarrelling the man's wife . Someone who's squatting you you're challenging them.

he's talking about moving them to Mowe but my sister is not buying the idea and says she wants to get an apartment here on the mainland because of her job and move with only her children but I'm of the opinion that she should leave the children with him because if she goes with the children he'll run from his responsibility and never pay their school fees again.

What should she do because the guy travelled for his brothers burial now and the owner of the house was heard asking the wife why the guy and my sister are still in their house and said let him come back first . Meaning they are tired.

I've told her to get an apartment now o.

are you married? If not, go and marry first before insulting someone. Secondly we have not had from the guy side of the story so we can't judge.

Jewessgratitud3:
My dear I'm telling you. It's one of the reasons I'm finding it difficult to even settle down with any struggling man. Before them turn me to one haggard old woman with responsibilities.

Don't u have hands legs and a brain...aren't u educated....y wait for a man to be providing for ur needs ...while u sit doing nothing like a family dog

This man will bounce back again because he still loves his family. Do you think he is happy the way thing is going?

Jewessgratitud3:
Ggbam!

It's certain that u are an angry woman...its certain that u are in ur 30s and u know getting married for u now is a dead dream... so now u want to feel happy with urself by thinking that all married women are unhappy... ... keep on deceiving urself.... ur sister is in a way better position than u... she already has kids and a husband... be forming what i don't know... IVF is very expensive these days

Tayorshd87:
I read some phrases in your tense where you wrote he buys food when coming back for only the children and not the wife and sometimes pay school fees 🤔

Can you tell me this statement is vague ??

Since you said he is not working and sleep all day

That's Nigerians for you. Even the landlord, that's the sole reason he sent him packing not that he is not paying the rent as at when due. But because he doesn't go out to work like other people does

I can relate with your story.
I have a friend just like this.

He is just lazy. He gives excuses for everything and is too proud to hustle.

He manages to pay the bills but his laziness and indecisiveness puts his family into avoidable hardship.

My advice is, I think it is too late for your sister to get it right as long as she can't cut the dead weight of a husband off her. He will get worse as he ages, I have such uncle.

It will get to a time, he will even take loans and your sister will be the guarantor, further driving her into the hole she can never escape.

She should move on now! And forget him. That means she should go and bear all responsibilities of her kids. That man is gone.

My people say "You cannot teach an adult to use left hand in his old age".

Curse777:




*and I so much dislike him because he's fair and I can't stand fair guys.

*they started having issues because she was the one bearing most of the financial burden in the house.

Summary of this long epistle

1: He first asked you out and you rejected, as a man he moved on to your sister and you resented him deeply

2: He is currently financially handicap and he irritates you, you hate poor men and poor men neither deserve marriage, or children

3: To you financial burden of a family is exclusive responsibility of a man


PS:

Dear Men, stay completely away from marriage if you are not financially bouyant as you are only rated for your financial strength by Women



.

Great 👍

are you male or female? why can't your sister divorce the guy?

So what do you want us to do?

Help you hate the jobless guy that still provides for his children and pays their school fees?

A lazy man providing and paying children's school fees?

Some of you should be avoided at all cost.

Anything to hang the dog even if it requires giving it a bad name.

OCHKESTINE:
I can relate with your story.
I have a friend just like this.

He is just lazy. He gives excuses for everything and is too proud to hustle.

He manages to pay the bills but his laziness and indecisiveness puts his family into avoidable hardship.

My advice is, I think it is too late for your sister to get it right as long as she can't cut the dead weight of a husband off her. He will get worse as he ages, I have such uncle.

It will get to a time, he will even take loans and your sister will be the guarantor, further driving her into the hole she can never escape.

She should move on now! And forget him. That means she should go and bear all responsibilities of her kids. That man is gone.

My people say "You cannot teach an adult to use left hand in his old age".

Exactly. He's just like you described. Very proud and refuses to listen to anyone's advice..

brutustech:
You are a MAN, use your head. From her narration, the MAN looks like the victim

Exactly

The Op hates the man with passion

The twin sister needs to b very careful

Jewessgratitud3:
Right now she needs advice on what to do and I'm also going to be sharing what I have advised her so far.

This man has used his foolishness to implicate my sister and their lovely kids. Before I go into details of what happened recently, I'll like to give a quick backstory of how all these came to be and how she even got herself into this mess

Backtrack to 2014 when she broke the news that someone was coming to see the family for her hand, I asked her who the person was but she refused to tell me saying I'll meet him when he comes. I was now like ha... This one you're hiding it. I never knew it was one useless guy that was living in our former area in the early 2000s that all he does then was stand at junctions disturbing girls. He also disturbed me one period like that and I so much dislike him because of his behavior plus he's fair and I dont fancy fair guys.

The day came and we started cooking. Already I had gotten a hint from my eldest sister that it's the guy and I said was that why she was hiding it? What's my own there. We move. As the day was approaching, my idowus husband called and told me to warn my sister that that guy she's pulling with is not it. That if she's trying to have something serious with him she'll be making a big mistake. I said, she's an adult and can make choices for herself.


He came with his people and we did everything and she moved in with him. Now, this guy doesn't do anything. He claims he's a lawyer but never goes to work. Most times he'll go for early morning training by 6am and after everyone has gone to work, he'll come home and be sleeping. initially my sister was covering him up that he's doing something but anytime I visit after school, I'll always meet him at home sleeping. I knew my sis was just covering him.

Before they married my sister owned a school that was doing well. After her first child the school was still doing well but they started having issues because she was the one bearing most of the financial burden in the house. Sometimes she would come to school with bruises on her face. Since she refused to talk, me I didn't bother asking because if I do she'll bark at me.it continue like that until she could no longer bear it and started opening up to me that the guy doesn't do anything. Just goes about from one junction to the other.

She took in for her second child and fell sick. The school suffered mismanagement and folded up. That was when the guy showed her his true color. They fought to the extent she left her kids and went to my sister's house. My elder sisters husband settled them and she went back.

She had her third child and the guy started his madness again. This time he would leave them and go for hours without food. When he's coming at night he'll buy food and call his children to come eat and leave my sister hungry. So anytime I go there I'll just find her something to eat. Sometimes not always.
The day I said enough is enough and decided to pull her out of that nonsense was the day she called me, I was in a bus and she said for two days now she has not eaten anything and she's having headache. That the guy said he'll deal with her. I told her to hold on and sent her the little I could that I'll come and see her.

I got there and told her she can't continue like this . I told her to start following me to school to learn how to do what I'm doing and I'll be giving her small small daily pay any day she goes with me and later she can start sourcing for her own schools and be making her own money. I put her through and took her to a school immediately and assigned her to some classes after watching me for a few mins.

We did that for a few weeks and I was giving her the small thing I could after each day. She started going out to look for schools and two schools called her. She now said she can't be following me again , I said no problem. God helped her, She now got more schools and started selling books too and making money.
When this guy saw it, he left feeding and only buys food for the children once in a while. Meanwhile their fighting continued.

Fast-forward to last year, the landlord called my sister that he has given the husband quit notice, not because he was owing but because he was always disrespecting the landlord. My sister tried to plead but he said it's not because of my sister but the husband. Now this guy's is so troublesome and brags a lot. He quarrels with the landlord a lot and always goes against the rules of the compound. I on the other hand have been telling my twin now that she has the money to get her own apartment and leave the lazy thing but she remained there.


Last two weeks Tuesday. during that heavy downpour, the landlord came with some police men and threw their things out in the rain as she was preparing her children for school. It was one of the police men that now had pity on her and said they should leave the things in the compound instead of throwing outside in the rain and helped my sister to bring then inside the gate. The husband ran away. After everything he called my sister to bring the children somewhere. When she got there it was a friend's house. He begged them to let his family stay the night and till now he's still there. I told my sister, shey I've been warning you about this guy. Bett look for a place and move in before this one's change their mind. Could you believe this man continued his laziness there? When everyone has gone out he'll go there and start sleeping till they come back from work and meet him. My sister said he has started quarrelling the man's wife . Someone who's squatting you you're challenging them.

he's talking about moving them to Mowe but my sister is not buying the idea and says she wants to get an apartment here on the mainland because of her job and move with only her children but I'm of the opinion that she should leave the children with him because if she goes with the children he'll run from his responsibility and never pay their school fees again.

What should she do because the guy travelled for his brothers burial now and the owner of the house was heard asking the wife why the guy and my sister are still in their house and said let him come back first . Meaning they are tired.

I've told her to get an apartment now o.

from what u said so far, you just hate the young man. The man that paysrent, pays children fees and feed them occasionally is rying. You problem is that u see him sleeping all the time. Have u asked urself where he gets money to take care of some of the bills.
He has also looked for a place to stay instead of u to advise his wife to go with him, u are suggesting different thing for them. Good luck to u. I just hope u are married too.

Let me be very brief...
Who is going to take care of her kids if she yield to your advice and leave her kids to him?
It's not right o.
Advice her to rent an apartment and take her kids and ignore the lazy soul alone until he pull himself together.

deavicky:
from what u said so far, you just hate the young man. The man that paysrent, pays children fees and feed them occasionally is rying. You problem is that u see him sleeping all the time. Have u asked urself where he gets money to take care of some of the bills.
He has also looked for a place to stay instead of u to advise his wife to go with him, u are suggesting different thing for them. Good luck to u. I just hope u are married too.

You won't understand and I'm not ready to say more than I've already said no matter how hard you guys push me to.

Believe what you want

Coolgent:
Let me be very brief...
Who is going to take care of her kids if she yield to your advice and leave her kids to him?
It's not right o.
Advice her to rent an apartment and take her kids and ignore the lazy soul alone until he pull himself together.

Thats why I came to ask what she should do

are you male or female?

why can't your sister divorce the guy?

Jewessgratitud3:
You won't understand and I'm not ready to say more than I've already said no matter how hard you guys push me to.

Believe what you want

I only drew my analysis from what you wrote.

Kingcalls:
It's certain that u are an angry woman...its certain that u are in ur 30s and u know getting married for u now is a dead dream... so now u want to feel happy with urself by thinking that all married women are unhappy... ... keep on deceiving urself.... ur sister is in a way better position than u... she already has kids and a husband... be forming what i don't know... IVF is very expensive these days

Don't mind her

Naso one aunty, like this one here go pluck out her blood sister 7year pikin (daughter) eyes with her bare hands !!! Very evil!

When the pikin now blind grow up, she turned out very pretty. But it was too late, the damage has already been done.

She saw those red flags and she still insisted on marrying him. God help us all.

Jewessgratitud3:
Thats why I came to ask what she should do

She should take her kids and keep hustling to cater for them, as for her lazy husband she shouldn't allow him to leave with her until he wake up from slumber.
You can mention their current state of residence in case Nairalanders has any job which she can handle.