sukkot:
i totally feel you bro. western world is where you make money through labor banking on the exchange rate. but entrepreneurs ? the world is your oyster . many can only labor so they like the west

Hehehe, l like your choice of words, Labor aka Slaving it under Egyptian taskmasters equals to the West, Harvest, Reaping bountifully via Entrepreneurship the world is your oyster,

Lonely at the top

AngelicBeing:
Hehehe, l like your choice of words, Labor aka Slaving it under Egyptian taskmasters equals to the West, Harvest, Reaping bountifully via Entrepreneurship the world is your oyster,

you garrit brosky

AirBay:
Most Nigerians are the same everywhere, they always have something to complain about. If canada is loud and bursting, I am sure these girls would come online and cry foul about how the environment is unlivable. Compared to our lives in Nigeria, most people in the western world mind their business and live peacefully. Undoubtedly canada seems to be boring at first but on the other hand, it is not.

For introverts, they may experience another level of loneliness in canada but for extros, canada should not be boring. There are countless numbers of clubs and events to attend on a daily basis. Also married individuals seems to acclimatise better into the system.

Personally, I go out with my family every weekend, also I watch movies a lot and my online business keeps me busy as well. Also I have teamed up with a friend that does photography, when he gets gigs we go the the events together. I still find it funny that at Nigeria events, people still look down on us shouting foto foto around. Sometimes I wish I could slap them. Some of them don't earn what I earn but Nigerians are Nigerians.

Canada is not lonely but because of lack of people to show off to, oppress, no instant 2k, It becomes boring for our girls. Our girls are naturally proud forming canadain accent around town. You meet a naija guy, named Tayo, your name is Ayomide yet you're forming Canadian accent...This is where the problem lies, until our girls learn to be reasonable, they will continue in their abject loneliness. Your name is chibuzor and you met Chindinma yet you dy speak Canadian English...isalright

PS: I have never seen a Naija guy come online to complain that Canada is lonely.

As I grow older, I learn to appreciate peace and quiet. What some people refer to as loneliness is peace and quiet to me.

The first thing you want to do when you come to a country like Canada is to go back to school and get a good career. It will give you enough time and self-esteem to socialize and mingle in the long run.

It's not boring for me and If I were not married, I would have easily dated from any tribe I wanted. You have to be willing to step out of yourself and show yourself as friendly and most Nigerians I meet here take themselves way too seriously or try to dig into your private life hence I avoid them as much as I can.

I enjoy friendships with other cultures than with fellow Nigerians abroad and I avoid them to be honest. I ride bike in the summer, I play table tennis, and once placed a free ad on Kijiji for a tennis partner, lots of people responded and I ended up with a very close table tennis acquaintance. I am learning to fly a drone and I just got back from Nigeria and also a member of the local library where I borrow tons of books both online and offline.

I am planning to volunteer at the Center for Newcomers and the CCIC which will present an endless opportunity to meet more people for my personal and business interests.

I need to point out that I was very lonely in Lagos before coming to Canada and don't get me wrong, I always had people around me but found the connections to be selfish and superficial, people always coming around for their own selfish interests and things like that.

I was in Lagos last week and lodged at a very good hotel, there were fellow Nigerians lodged at the same hotel. Some of the Nigerians would always do room service and never come down to the cafeteria for their food and drinks, when they eventually came down, they would either be on the phone for hours talking with existing friends thereby missing new friendship opportunities.

For me, I would always be down in the cafeteria striking up a conversation with the hotel staff, commenting about the service and the food, and asking how their day was going.

I became friendly with the aboki across the street, the old woman selling stuff beside the hotel, always asking about the welfare of everybody around me, became friendly with my barber, and so on.

Most people around me never made any attempt to be friendly, and would always be talking endlessly on the phone, especially the Nigerian ladies, and would later would complain of loneliness.

You have to get out of your shell, stop that long talk on your phone when in public places, and show yourself as available for friendship before you can have friends.

Social rules are different from culture to culture and you should educate yourself about the social rules of your environment.

Abroad, the average Nigerian style of friendship involves long talks on the phone, unplanned visitations, and encroaching into each other's private lives, always asking for help, or trying to take advantage of one another. That style does not work for me.

Skyview01:
■ As I grow older, I learn to appreciate peace and quiet. What some people refer to as loneliness is peace and quiet to me.
The first thing you want to do when you come to a country like Canada is to go back to school and get a good career. It will give you enough time and self-esteem to socialize and mingle in the long run.
It's not boring for me and If I were not married, I would have easily dated from any tribe I wanted. You have to be willing to step out of yourself and show yourself as friendly and most Nigerians I meet here take themselves way too seriously or try to dig into your private life hence I avoid them as much as I can.
I enjoy friendships with other cultures than with fellow Nigerians abroad and I avoid them to be honest. I ride bike in the summer, I play table tennis, and once placed a free ad on Kijiji for a tennis partner, lots of people responded and I ended up with a very close table tennis acquaintance. I am learning to fly a drone and I just got back from Nigeria and also a member of the local library and I borrow tons of books both online and offline.
I am planning to volunteer at the Center for Newcomers and the CCIC which will present an endless opportunity to meet more people for my personal and business interests.
I need to point out that I was very lonely in Lagos before coming to Canada and don't get me wrong, I always had people around me but found the connections to be selfish and superficial, people always coming around for their own selfish interests and things like that.
I was in Lagos last week and lodged at a very good hotel, there were fellow Nigerians lodged at the same hotel. Some of the Nigerians would always do room service and never come down to the cafeteria for their food and drinks, when they eventually came down, they would either be on the phone for hours talking with existing friends thereby missing new friendship opportunities.
For me, I would always be down in the cafeteria striking up a conversation with the hotel staff, commenting about the service and the food, and asking how their day was going.
I became friendly with the aboki across the street, the old woman selling stuff beside the hotel, always asking about the welfare of everybody around me, became friendly with my barber, and so on.
Most people around me never made any attempt to be friendly, and would always be talking endlessly on the phone, especially the Nigerian ladies, and would later would complain of loneliness.
You have to get out of your shell, stop that long talk on your phone when in public places, and show yourself as available for friendship before you can have friends.
Social rules are different from culture to culture and you should educate yourself about the social rules of your environment.

Exactly!

There ought to be threads created to help Japa folks realize that they need to abandoned a lot of their faulty socialization behavior back in Nigeria if they wish to get integrated and making friends here.

Kobojunkie:
So they are having a hard time integrating and the solution should be for them to hurdle up with others who are equallly struggling to integrate??

Nigerians no dey like to solve problems at all. So instead of suggesting she learn to step out of her Nigerianess, your suggestion is that she find other Nigerians struggling with loneliness to hide away with in their churches, etc? The same hoodoo that is Nigeria where racism seems the order of the day?

You misconstrued the intention of the message.

Have you observed how Indians, Lebanese, Chinese provide support system to their fellow countrymen?

She will eventually integrate. In fact the Nigerian community might be the place where she finds the needed connection.

officialwdhtv:
I feel so lonely. I feel so sad- Nigerian lady residing in Canada weeps as she recounts her life after relocating

#wetindeyhappentv


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mWSftpQCZO4

Lonely at the top

Iamzik:
■ You misconstrued the intention of the message. Have you observed how Indians, Lebanese, Chinese provide support system to their fellow countrymen?
■ She will eventually integrate. In fact the Nigerian community might be the place where she finds the needed connection.

Is your goal to become like the Indians, Chinese or Lebanese--- many of whom battle the same problems of loneliness---, or is your goal to beat loneliness and socialize, which one?

2. Stop lying! There are Nigerians who have been here 20, 30 years and still unable to integrate past their relationship with other Nigerians particularly in their churches.

officialwdhtv:
I feel so lonely. I feel so sad- Nigerian lady residing in Canada weeps as she recounts her life after relocating

#wetindeyhappentv


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mWSftpQCZO4

come back naa

Kobojunkie:
Is your goal to become like the Indians, Chinese or Lebanese--- many of whom battle the same problems of loneliness---, or is your goal to beat loneliness and socialize, which one?

2. Stop lying! There are Nigerians who have been here 20, 30 years and still unable to integrate past their relationship with other Nigerians particularly in their churches.

Easy bro. It not that deep.
Apologies for quoting you sir.

Have a pleasant day ☺️

Omo see advice flying around lol
Never ever bring your problem online
Happy Sunday guys

sukkot:
you garrit brosky

Another word you used few weeks ago was >> Mortgage = Mor. tuary = Mo. rtician = Slave all your life paying mortgage and be morti. fied / die , hahaha, what an analogy from you and l agree with you as well

cc: sukkot

AngelicBeing:
Another word you used few weeks ago was >> Mortgage = Mor. tuary = Mo. rtician = Slave all your life paying mortgage and be morti. fied / die , hahaha, what an analogy from you and l agree with you as well

cc: sukkot

it is what it is brosky. the universe drops us hints with names. another example is RENT. in the bible RENT means heavy suffering

sukkot:
it is what it is brosky. the universe drops us hints with names. another example is RENT. in the bible RENT means heavy suffering

Hahaha, can you explain if you have time, the full meaning of RENT

claremont:


That dude you replied to is trying to be [/b]whiter than the white man.[b] We know these kind of Africans in the west. The people born and raised in Canada are saying that the winter is depressing, an African migrant is saying something different.

😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣😅😅 God abeg o , the bolded enter

Kobojunkie:
You lied about western culture being isolated. It is far from that. The problem is the African upbringing does not readily train people to mingle easily with people from other cultures and races. Yes, there is a racist aspect to the average Nigerian that hinders socialization with people of other nations and races. And that is highly likely why this woman, though surrounded by so many people, believes she has to cry in silence and alone.

You're the one lying. African upbringing doesn't train people mingle easily.. is thay an assumption or view you hold to sound convincing.
African culture is communnal and the communal nature of African culture affects Africans language, interaction and relationship. So, you want us to believe that a communnal culture weakens sociability while European individualistic culture strengthen it. Just dey play

AngelicBeing:
Hahaha, can you explain if you have time, the full meaning of RENT

rent2
/rɛnt/
noun
noun: rent; plural noun: rents
a large tear in a piece of fabric.

so torn fabric. a wretched suffering state

malcom1X:


Oyinbo men no dey date black women that much, them no too trip for them like that, them get stereotypes. I dey one white people group on telegram and you fit believe say all these guys think say we dey suffer from diseases and AIDS and alm that, if to say no be communication these guys no for even like to shake our hands, them for dey use pole to shake our hands

you fit share me the group

sukkot:


rent2
/rɛnt/
noun
noun: rent; plural noun: rents
a large tear in a piece of fabric.

so torn fabric. a wretched suffering state

Chai

ufotunang:
....but nigeria men plenty for Canada

Yes o dem plenty, but them no go hustle japa come canada then come dey look for Nigerian girls na

Human can't be satisfied with things around them, imagine, after struggling to japa, now that your prayer was answered, the next thing is to start complaining. Honestly, human are the most complicated animal on this earth

But wait o , this one everyone dropping comments have been saying "Over Here" ,"when I first came here" , "in some places here " "Here, here ,here ,here".
So Una mean say , many Nairalanders here actually de inside Canada as I de type this ?
Ehennn , and we don de yab and attack ourselves since , thinking say na all of us de inside this renewed Tinubu shege ,, God abeg o , make e no be say once upon a time I don insult my future helper o .😂😂😂😂😂

babtoundey:
■ You're the one lying. African upbringing doesn't train people mingle easily.. is thay an assumption or view you hold to sound convincing.
■ African culture is communnal and the communal nature of African culture affects Africans language, interaction and relationship.
■ So, you want us to believe that a communnal culture weakens sociability while European individualistic culture strengthen it. Just dey play

It ain't an assumption at all as it is made pretty clear by the tribal aka racist approach to Nigerian living right there in Nigeria. Do you somehow expect that deep-seated racism to vanish when the same Nigerians hit foreign shores?

2. In your dreams. Maybe in parts of your village it is communal but is general, what you said is trash and I am certain you know you.

3. Here's another way to think about what you said. If you are so communnal, how come when you lot get abroad you close up to the point that you don't even bother to learn who your next-door neighbors are or even invite them over to hang out with you every chance you can. Now do you go fishing to excuse to somehow justify your refusing to reach out to them.

When are you coming back

You don't need to do all these since you don't like there

ashawopikin:
Yes o dem plenty, but them no go hustle japa come canada then come dey look for Nigerian girls na

.. nawaoooo..too much hustle no dey give them chance to do that thing 🙄

She never talk wetin dey hungry am

Osgilliat:
People keep saying she needs to socialize more. How can you socialize more when you have to work all the time to keep up with bills. Even the socializing cost $$$.

Africans should build Africa... no na Wetin oyinbo fix dem wan go perch...

TheGift:


Such a hateful and ignorant comment.

Tarh get out.

Acidosis:


Why haven't you gone back to your village despite the hardship in Lagos, Abuja, and Port Harcourt?

Person wey stupid .. like say the money she spend go he wan return am give her

checkmatez:
Okay no problem
When you dey come back?

U dey mind the idiot. Everybody won trend

huptin:
Once you japa for Nigeria, anything wey you dey go through na your problem o, nobody send you. And please don't come back o, Just stay there.

Nigeria no need am ... make oyinbo dey sort am there... thanks to her for reducing our population