don't please anyone bro , your own is to buy suite and make your wife buy wedding dress. as for the food , all family will cook their own food, you can use plan ground or rent a school. just buy suite and buy shoe. you can even use your old shoe if its still okay. Tell everybody that want to come or that plan to invite people to come with their own food. Your wife family will cook , your own family will cook too . na so wedding be.

sholikay:
wow..2.5m?...God will definitely make provision come through for you and I....

I have been hoping and praying..I am posting this here,hopefully God can send a helper from here...

Its not a pleasant thing for me to wash my dirty linen here,but it is what it is...

I'm grateful anyway..

Borrow from Newcredit and Fairmoney. They won't disturb ur contacts

Why not have a small budget wedding that you can afford?

It's never good to get into a marriage with many debts because in order to sustain the marriage after the wedding, you'll also need money... Next thing you'll start being suicidal because of many debts.

You can even do a civil/court wedding only, when your financials are looking good, you can then proceed to doing traditional and white wedding.

sholikay:
My wedding is slated for next month 25th,I need fund to buy some necessary things..I have sorted some i could get with money saved,but inflation didnt help and isn't helping with purchasing of some items...

I'm a structural decorator(house painter)..contract job isn't coming like I envisaged,due to the season..December is our peak season.

I need helpers that could help me achieve this wedding..I don't wish to.postpone it,due to the fear of uncertainty..(more inflation)

I have tried cut out so many things,but there are still important things to get,with funds not being available for now...

I would appreciate your help,nairalanders...

I have to summon courage to come do this here,because of those that would want to query my inability to fund my wedding and provide for my family when married..

I'm not a lazy guy,I'm just building my own Painting business,because I am not comfortable with salary jobs..
Painting brings money and leisure time for me than office job...
My dad taught me the job,I want/wish to build it with my academic knowledge,instead of slaving for someone else..



I don't mind getting loans with lower interest...please help me,naira landers..
Thank you..

TheBTCinvestor:



Borrow from Newcredit and Fairmoney. They won't disturb ur contacts

new credit isn't giving me loan the last time I tried...fair money,the line I registered it with got lost,and I can't use another line to register with my bvn. I tried resetting my log in to fair money by mailing them,but they said no solution,except I get back the line...

Samantha124:
Why not have a small budget wedding that you can afford?

It's never good to get into a marriage with many debts because in order to sustain the marriage after the wedding, you'll also need money... Next thing you'll start being suicidal because of many debts.

You can even do a civil/court wedding only, when your financials are looking good, you can then proceed to doing traditional and white wedding.

thank you milady...we had thought to do the registry and traditional...I have sorted out the registry payment,just waiting for the day..the traditional is the major,because of the items needed to present to bride family...

Cost of things are on the high side...

I literally have cut many cost,but the necessary ones are what I'm trying to get..
I do not wish to postpone anything due to the uncertainty of the country..

If you keep having negative thoughts of uncertain things happening in your life if you postpone the wedding, then uncertain things will happen... You need to be positive.

If you can't afford the wedding now, how will you afford the marriage afterwards?

sholikay:
thank you milady...we had thought to do the registry and traditional...I have sorted out the registry payment,just waiting for the day..the traditional is the major,because of the items needed to present to bride family...

Cost of things are on the high side...

I literally have cut many cost,but the necessary ones are what I'm trying to get..
I do not wish to postpone anything due to the uncertainty of the country..

Samantha124:
If you keep having negative thoughts of uncertain things happening in your life if you postpone the wedding, then uncertain things will happen... You need to be positive.

If you can't afford the wedding now, how will you afford the marriage afterwards?

thank you for your highlight..
I wasn't pessimistic nor optimistic about the country...I was just being uncertain..
I have set my hands on the plough already,and getting to the end is what really matters now...

The wedding ceremony is the larger chunk..fending for my wife is not an issue,as we have mapped out how we going to manage ourselves and resources...bearing of child (ren) isn't a priority after the marriage..

Believe me it was just the season for me..I fend for myself comfortably before this..

Thank you all the way.

sholikay:
I bought the rice for my bride list..though I am cutting out some other quantity of the list..I can't reduce for the rice,but reducing in other things,like yam,drinks,vegetable oil...other requirement...
The iv done,was soft copies..no hard copies,and a friend did it for me free..
Thank you for your advise so far..

well,I will not advise you to take loans for the celebration.

Hacks4dummies:
Don't be stupid. If you won't help him, simply ignore. If na woman Una go nearly kill unaselves ontop her matter. Bloody hypocrites.

Have you helped me, or is this all you could offer? 🥱

Map1:
My brother there's live after marriage,why buying a bag of rice when you can buy half?why printing IV when you can get few of your family members together? you have no excuse to allow people to dictate how to manage your affairs even you parents has no rights to tell you what to do, they can only advise you.

OP, I sincerely wish you follow these advice/comments by @Map1 to the latter.
When it comes to marriage, you don't please to displease...by this I mean you don't please one day (wedding day) and displease the staying married days!!!
I would rather I made my bride understand that it is better I displease her through delay gratification on wedding day and please her during the journey of staying married!
Let no one pressure you. Yes your would be wife is unique, important etc. with some reason best known to you, directly fueling this struggling process.
Hope you know internet never forgets with respect to what you just dropped here...wedding invite for the wrong reason (not for invite but for go fund me on the same wedding invite).

Be careful not kill the baby sitter, that your baby has become so acclimatized to.
peace!

Map1:
well,I will not advise you to take loans for the celebration.

Noted with thanks..
I'm grateful.

gly:


OP, I sincerely wish you follow these advice/comments by @Map1 to the latter.
When it comes to marriage, you don't please to displease...by this I mean you don't please one day (wedding day) and displease the staying married days!!!
I would rather I made my bride understand that it is better I displease her through delay gratification on wedding day and please her during the journey of staying married!
Let no one pressure you. Yes your would be wife is unique, important etc. with some reason best known to you, directly fueling this struggling process.
Hope you know internet never forgets with respect to what you just dropped here...wedding invite for the wrong reason (not for invite but for go fund me on the same wedding invite).

Be careful not kill the baby sitter, that your baby has become so acclimatized to.
peace!

I understood how this could be to our private life...

Good afternoon everyone,thanks for your input so far..
This thread was created because I was so overwhelmed and thought coming here to pour out my heart is the best thing,which I haven't gotten the requested support,save some advice and bashing...

For the sake of my fiancé privacy,which may come to haunt us in the long run..I wish to discontinue this request and sort things out myself..

I learnt Deleting this thread won't work out,but if anyone has a way I can go about it,you can please help me out...

Thank you for your contribution so far...

sholikay:
Good afternoon everyone,thanks for your input so far..
This thread was created because I was so overwhelmed and thought coming here to pour out my heart is the best thing,which I haven't gotten the requested support,save some advice and bashing...

For the sake of my fiancé privacy,which may come to haunt us in the long run..I wish to discontinue this request and sort things out myself..

I learnt Deleting this thread won't work out,but if anyone has a way I can go about it,you can please help me out...

Thank you for your contribution so far...

I will suggest you take down the invite for a start.
My opinion though

gly:


I will suggest you take down the invite for a start.
My opinion though

I have done that..thank you

sholikay:
I have done that..thank you

okay bro.
congratulations in advance and all the best in you new home