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This is totally unasceptable how could you do such to your wife ....Please no man is permitted to lay his hands on a woman
there's no honor in that it ends in shame .....
Run from abusive men and run from provocative women

Mindlog:
Explain the "proper discipline and correction".

Different people have different ways of disciplining someone, some use beatings(using involve whipping), reprehention, take the woman and children away from the man for sometime, seize his property etc.
They can be creative about it and call him to order if proper verbal correction is not heeded.

The whole matter is demonic as to why does a woman marry a man they know they hate just so that they can have kids for that man and be abusing the man after having kids that the man is useless he should go and see his mates. And the mistake some men make is to start hitting such a woman which is satan's plan to destroy the man and the kids.

Better for men not to have kids in a marriage if they want to enjoy that marriage because once kids starts coming in and you are broke or the woman does not fancy you anymore then satan is the one that takes over that marriage.

Advice for men is to not have kids unless you are rich like Dangote and others like him and you are sure you will never be broke again.

Some Women no get sense.


And with thousands news like this, there is still another woman enduring pains and bruises in Marriage in the name of AFRICAN TRADITION.

GreatAchiever1:
Different people have different ways of disciplining someone, some use beatings(using involve whipping), reprehention, take the woman and children away from the man for sometime, seize his property etc.
They can be creative about it and call him to order if proper verbal correction is not heeded.

No one has the legal right to do all you listed.

ogascomax:
It's just a complicated matter sometimes. Some abusive marriage latter became beautiful at the end. My pastor told us today how his sister fought for her marriage. At some point it was truly an abusive marriage that the man even beat her while she was pregnant and almost lost the baby. Fast forward, latter she became born again and so did her husband. They are now living peacefully ever after.
It's a gamble so decide how to play it.

clean your head and hand with better sabbath water for this nonsense you typed in the name of comment.Abuse enablers ..

No man is worth dying for.
No Nigerian man is worth my life
Say I marry you no mean say I go die inside the marriage because of your lack of sense

And that woman who left her husband stranded at the airport, if she did it out of vengeance because of the violence she suffered then yes! I support her.
More women need to be vengeful to demonic men.

[quote author= post=126803764]Update From . COM

A Nigerian Mum of four has died after allegedly being subjected to domestic violence for years, Reports.

A Facebook User, Amarachi Iwuala, who shared the sad story, As Sighted By , alleged that the husband of the deceased over the years subjected her to domestic abuse. She said the husband one time, allegedly beat the wife until she became unconscious.

Amarachi said when advised to leave her marriage, the deceased who was nursing a seven-month-old baby, said she would walk away when her children were grown as they were still little. She said the mother of the deceased even asked her to walk away from the marriage, but she also refused.



Posting On Facebook, Amarachi Wrote;



‘’Another woman gone.

She was married to a man who was viôlent towards her. Not just viôlent, he would lock doors and windows, raise music volume, and then start béating her, so that help won't come for her.

One day he béat her till she was unconscious, the whole compound joined in rushing her to the hospital. After treatment, she came back to the same house.

People advised her to leave, she said her children were still little, she wanted them to grow a bit before she leaves. She wanted them to grow yet she was giving birth to more. She had four children, the last one is just 7 months old.

Two weeks ago, an old woman living in their compound called this lady's mother, asking her to come take her daughter if they still want her alive. The mother replied that the lady said she's not leaving.

This is why it's good to have some weyrey as a mother. Even if she doesn't want to leave, use vawulence and bring her out by force. O dighi apu àra.

Back to the story. Two days ago, that is Thursday 2nd November 2023, they woke up in the morning to hear the man béating the woman as usual.

After the béating, normal life continued. They said that night, the lady went about her normal chores, she stayed up till 11pm wasting and hanging cloths. Neighbors saw her.

They all woke up yesterday morning only to hear that the lady is déad. How?

The husband is saying he slept in the sitting room while she slept in the bedroom, that he only entered the room in the morning and found her dead.

Neighbors said her bed was soaked with water though, and there's still no explanation for that.

The husband is saying she should be buried immediately as he doesn't have money to pay mortuary bills.

The sad part, her father heard the news and had a heart attack, she was his only daughter. He was rushed to hospital, but news has it that he didn't make it.

Her 7month old baby cried the whole day and refused to eat every food that was offered her, she was looking for breast milk. She cried till she started running temperature.

See how many lives have been affected by her choices.

Four children rendered motherless. Only God knows what their fate will be, they'll probably be shared amongst relatives who may/may not treat them well.

I know all these because we have a mutual friend who was at their place yesterday to get first hand info. She was crying bitterly on phone while speaking to me, I told her to stop crying, the lady chose this.

The husband cannot even be held responsible. Police came, asked him questions and left.

We keep writing daily for women to learn, but some are determined to waste their lives.

Someone in an abûsive marriage will read this post and say "it's not my portion", and keep staying in the marriage.

Like I'll always say, we can't help everybody. Keep staying, keep waiting for your children to grow up, keep thinking of what society will say, keep thinking of how you'll survive, keep thinking if you'll find another man, keep thinking the children need a father, keep hoping he'll change. Just keep at it, since you have no value for the life you have.''

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Source: BLOG[/quote]She perhaps stayed in it for the money.

Apus:
There are even bruises allover her from the pics above, yet smiling. I'm sure she's a Christian.
Their God of men would've kept advising her to remain in the physically abusive marriage quoting this and that yet can't stand their own cheating partners for a day.

A Christian should be allowed to leave any marriage that has become physically abusive. Stop pushing these young women to their early graves and leaving their children motherless.

When people realize religion is shit, the better ✅

i think same scenerio happenedin my neighbourhood 2 weeks ago,mowe precisely

these lady do charge her phones at my workshop and very quiet slim in stature

the husband is from delta state,slim also but short tempered

i resumed on monday and heard the guy has killed his wife through beating and took her corpse away midnight

the lady has 3 children for him including twins

he took the kids away 3weeks before the incident,he has absconded from his apartment since that day of the incident

he calledthe caretaker of the houseand confess that his wife has died

my advice：no lady should endure abusive marriage because 90％ ends in graveyard

ridwintin89:
what people don know about domestic violence is that majority of the problem are caused by women,but whenever fight broke out,men would be held responsible.It takes foolishness to live happily with women.They will abuse you, manipulate you,lie against you,cheat on you but still want you to take good care of them.
Is that not madness.Womem are scum

Ladies, on behalf of men with common sense I reject this hater and misogynistic statement above. He, along with his likes, does not reflect the opinion, sentiment and persepctive of men towards women

True men cherish and care for the women knowing that they are incomplete without them. Women are not just wonderfully and beautifully designed, they hold the key to life and joy on earth.

RIP to the lady above. She refused to leave the abusive and wicked husband. Her death has cast a dark cloud over her family.

While in the university, I witnessed a case of a guy and a girl who cohabitated. The guy will lock the girlfriend in a room, beat the girl severely several times and thereafter they make up and make love. It was quite strange to me. I tried interfering the first time I saw them, and I was cautioned by his friends to steer clear.

This continued till they graduated. I can imagine both getting married later on in life. When fight starts, the neighbors may not understand their history.


In life, there is consequence for every action. As adults who have agreed to stay together irrespective of violent relationship, we must be ready to Bear the consequence of our actions.

Mindlog:
No one has the legal right to do all you listed.

Then let us keep folding our arms and allow nonsense to persist as we wait for "legal rights".

And she's not there now to take care of the same children she used as excuse not to leave. This is very sad. Walk away before you become 'Late' women will not hear! Rip to her. She died a MRS.

Hmmm
Now the children you were staying because of they'll be shared among relatives who may likely not treat them as you ought to.
Leave to live.
Marriage is not a do or die affairs.

Eyaaaa! Ndooo!

Anyway, am done typing RIP for Nigerian women who choose marriage over life.


I am sure she thought she has 2 heads so she can't possibly kpai like all the women that have gone to the great beyond due to domestic violence that she hears about everyday.. Even her own mother begged her she no listen. Now she has k!lled her father and left her innocent kids motherless.

Nexxxxxxxxt!!!!!

Magnoliaa:
How some of you have access to the Internet baffles me.

Lol.

You aren't alone in wondering how these sorts of people masquerade as humans and integrate into the society.

ogascomax:
It's just a complicated matter sometimes. Some abusive marriage latter became beautiful at the end. My pastor told us today how his sister fought for her marriage. At some point it was truly an abusive marriage that the man even beat her while she was pregnant and almost lost the baby. Fast forward, latter she became born again and so did her husband. They are now living peacefully ever after.
It's a gamble so decide how to play it.

Later become beautiful at the end?

What is the name of this pastor of yours and his church abeg? Wetin be the address and wetin him preach today?

DKM123:
Eyaaaa! Ndooo!

Anyway, am done typing RIP for Nigerian women who choose marriage over life.


I am sure she thought she has 2 heads so she can't possibly kpai like all the women that have gone to the great beyond due to domestic violence that she hears about everyday.. Even her own mother begged her she no listen. Now she has k!lled her father and left her innocent kids motherless.

Nexxxxxxxxt!!!!!

Osinachi 2.0

It's like they think there's some fat reward for suffering through their marriage and it's even better if they die as "submissive" women. After conditioning by their patriarchy, many of them can't think.

Solofresh2:
When a woman stays in an abusive marriage I want to believe there is a reason why she remains there which she makes her priority
Women are loyal to their feelings
R.I.P to the dead

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ogascomax:
It's just a complicated matter sometimes. Some abusive marriage latter became beautiful at the end. My pastor told us today how his sister fought for her marriage. At some point it was truly an abusive marriage that the man even beat her while she was pregnant and almost lost the baby. Fast forward, latter she became born again and so did her husband. They are now living peacefully ever after.
It's a gamble so decide how to play it.

Some of you are really....

Kobojunkie:
Later become beautiful at the end?

Yes, you just read that. Another advocate for women to war room and die in it

Kobojunkie:
.... Some of you are really....

Shut up please!

Nazgul:
Most women who remain in abusive marriages do so because they have no where to go.

This is why I'm of the opinion that a woman should sort out herself financially before getting married. That way she can easily walk out if her husband is the abusive type and still be able to fend for herself and her kids.

They have nowhere to go? Where did they come from before they were married?
Did they fall from the sky?

GreatAchiever1:
Then let us keep folding our arms and allow nonsense to persist as we wait for "legal rights".

That is why our social service system should be effective, to take care of such mess ups.

Kobojunkie:
Later become beautiful at the end?

What is the name of this pastor of yours and his church abeg? Wetin be the address and wetin him preach today?

E shock you abi?


Na so e shock me too.

BRATISLAVA:
Lol.

You aren't alone in wondering how these sorts of people masquerade as humans and integrate into the society.

It stuns the mind, my dear

Image123:
Hmmm. Don't ever let a disagreement deteriorate to this extent. Sorry, please, thank you will help avert this. But claiming right is usually a problem.
If you must claim right, claim it from a safe place. It is well.

shut that gutter u call a mouth

No evidence
You go explain tire

ogascomax:
It's just a complicated matter sometimes. Some abusive marriage latter became beautiful at the end. My pastor told us today how his sister fought for her marriage. At some point it was truly an abusive marriage that the man even beat her while she was pregnant and almost lost the baby. Fast forward, latter she became born again and so did her husband. They are now living peacefully ever after.
It's a gamble so decide how to play it.

Am an igbo man though a Christian, this kind of abuse is common among the igbos, why
I nearly arrest one living very close to me, should I called him a neighbor, my wife wake me up to come and intervein, this guy said he will kill the woman with two children and cult her in pieces park her in a gana must go bag and dump her in a Cana.
Can you imagine and this woman still have the gut to still leave with that beast till now.

A million ways to die, number three hundred and fifty-eight.

ogascomax:
It's just a complicated matter sometimes. Some abusive marriage latter became beautiful at the end. My pastor told us today how his sister fought for her marriage. At some point it was truly an abusive marriage that the man even beat her while she was pregnant and almost lost the baby. Fast forward, latter she became born again and so did her husband. They are now living peacefully ever after.
It's a gamble so decide how to play it.

Did your pastor tell you the reason why the husband abuses the wife? In that may lie the magic of their new found bliss. Leave born again, it is neither here nor there.