gunners160:
The topic and the message are two different things. Mama this and mama that , please don't blame the children completely. We are in a busy world right now were verybody is struggling to survive.
You wi have 500k today and next week you are looking for a friend to borrow you 5k to buy food. We all pay bills everyday..The only fault the children had was not getting r a house help..

Good point
Life is highly unprudictable
The way things appear to u may not really be true pictures of things.

This kind question makes one admire couples who marry, refuse to reproduce, work hard, save for retirement and their burial, too. Selfish Abi?

Which kind question be this?

So people get married, give birth and use all their resources to bring up their children and you are asking this question?

FuckingMachine:
This poverty mentality is why Nigeria is a mess.
Poor man has 7 children contributing nothing to society.

You are supposed to make enough money in your youth to retire on.

You are deeply stupid.

What a shortsighted conclusion.

You have something against JAPA and that's why you are blind to see that the woman's death had nothing to do with Japa.

Nigeria is not North Korea where those abroad cannot send money home.

diamond68:
its JAPA that destroyed the cohesive unit of that family . plain and simple. THE CURSE OF JAPA

Figger:
Old age can be scary, to those praying to leave long, life can be so miserable at that stage. Me I want to go at 75, nothing dey this life.

Hahaha, funny enough me no even mind 60 make I dey go. I don tire I swear, coupled with the kind country one find himself

Yes it is not a retirement benefits. But for me it's a must for any child that his well taken care of by the parent. Too bad for the children.

Darevofpeace:

I am so sick to my stomach!

*A 73-year old woman's statistics:*

She was a UNTH nurse and retired since 2007.

1. Widowed in 1999.
2. Gave birth to 6 children with 5 surviving *_(4 boys and a girl)_*
3. Her husband was a retired Principal
4. Her only daughter lives in Lagos *_( in a bad marriage since her husband doesn't allow her to bring her mum over)_*
5. Her three sons live abroad. The only son in Nigeria lives in Enugu and his wife pays her a visit on Sundays but stopped for reasons not revealed.
6. Her only sister, who is older than her but still strong in health, visited and found her in a bad state and decided to take her with her to her Umuahia home.

She had signs of dementia. She also suffers from diabetes and weak bladder. So, the urine smell complained by people is well understood.

Her only elder sister took care of her since her arrival till her sister's son had accident in Abuja and was left for neighbours to attend to her.
The sister's neighbour left her and travelled.

*_Mama was found dead close to an open fridge. Her corpse has been deposited in a morgue this morning._*

Her first son is a medical doctor in America, married to a Brazilian and only called once in a while after her mum was moved to Umuahia by her sister and kids.
___________
ANALYSIS::

Mama is not childless.

She raised all her kids and they're all professionals.

Money was not an issue. Her husband, though a principal, built a bungalow where Mama and her kids lived till her death.

Mama's sister said her only daughter has only called twice since she came to Enugu and picked her younger sister with her.

Mama's senior sister wants to bury her Junior sister on her own and mourn her quietly !!

*_Her kids are now back crying and saying they will give their mother a befitting burial._*

I wanted to call them out & curse them.

I am in pains.
___________

My heart is heavy.

*_A woman that raised five children should not have suffered like this._*

While you're popping kids, remember that one day......

- The bones and muscles will be WEAK..
- The eyes might lose their functions
- The bladder might be weak and you cannot control your urine.
- Cash flow will cease.
- Your legs won't be able to carry your weight.
- Your hands might not hold things due to parkinson or rheumatism or any of the other numerous infirmities
- Your mouth may be smelling because you cannot brush it well.
- Your brain might stop functioning.
- Dementia and loss of memory can set in.
- *_You may not even be able to take care of your personal hygiene..._*

It is called OLD AGE characteristics.

*_Life can be harsh and your children may be too busy with their lives that your care will be relegated to STRANGERS._*

*Children are NOT retirement benefits.*

*_Old age is a reality !_*
*Prepare for that time.*
*Take care of your health.*

*Be armed !*

*_Learn this big lesson Today !_*

Thank you.

*Copied*

samuelson06:


See how you can plan to make meaning out of your own life. Your parents lived their life and bowed out. Don't use the excuse of your parents not living so long on earth to live recklessly.

Dad didn't live recklessly, same with mom....but they left rather too early.
There's no guarantee to long life

RepoMan007:
You are deeply stupid.

Poor man with 7 children spotted.

Retirement benefits for uneducated, ignorant, poverty stricken, shallow minded African parents.
When you're mates were hustling, what were you doing?
Innocent kids have now turned to try& luck; if one no enter another one go enter.
Kids with no education, no exposure are those rascals at Oshodi shouting Owomida with their smelly gutter mouth.
Their chief inspector MC Oluomo is in their headquarters in Oshodi while their Oga kpata-kpata is inside aso rock with his Oluwole forged certificates.

Enemyofpeace:
you plan to go at 75 because you no get money. If you're rich and wealthy like us, you won't like to die self. Death no go hungry you at all.

No matter the billions wey you get. After a certain age there is a limit to what you can do with all that money. For example after 75 wey be our reference number, can you still go sky diving, eat whatever you want, womanize or drink however you like etc. The answer is no, even with all your money

Absuchat:

Dad didn't live recklessly, same with mom....but they left rather too early.
There's no guarantee to long life

Nothing is guaranteed in life. However, as long as you are here, you've got to live it good and leave the things you can't control to nature.

Above all, take your mind off your parents. They are gone for good and there's nothing you can do about it. At least, they lived their life.

The race of life is a lone game. Focus on your life and make no excuses regarding your parents. There's nothing they can do for you right now and you can still succeed big because your life or success doesn't depend on them.

All you need to do is to build up yourself; get yourself ready for life, and the lines will fall in place for you.

Lasgidi90:

No matter the billions wey you get. After a certain age there is a limit to what you can do with all that money. For example after 75 wey be our reference number, can you still go sky diving, eat whatever you want, womanize or drink however you like etc. The answer is no, even with all your money

the answer is yes jo




You will be sitting alone thinking about your life, Someone will just pass with strong body odor and wipe your memories away 😉

From the way people sound, you know their level of thinking
But I won't join issues with you.
There are people who do not have more than a child, but things are very difficult for them still. Just thank God for your life, and stop thinking those that has not made it are lazy, or stupid. Life can happen to anyone. Stop being proud. Cos we've seen those that where up yesterday stay down today. Lastly pride goeth before a fall. Use this information however you deemed fit

jmoore:

If you like go and born six and be struggling. Born the one you fit take care without burden.
Taking care of a child should not deprive the parents from having a good life.

It's like most didn't read the post only the title.

The poster said money was not the problem for the woman.

The problem is the children didn't make adequate preparation for old aged care for their mum while they are scattered all over the world. That's quite terrible if you ask me.

Old age can come with sickness of its own, old people need people around. If you are out of the country or out of town make provision for all these things, they need companions they need care. Even if you have the money, you can't cook for yourself take care of your self.

A child nearby can make all the difference, visiting them can make the difference.

Everyone will grow old someday and will need support from family.

simplepee:
You guys don’t get tired of this topic, year in year out.

There’s nothing wrong when a parent suffered to raise their kids, birth them, cloth them, train them and do everything to see them attain the point of independence and then expect to be taken care of by these children. It doesn’t even have to be your parents, it is proper to show gratitude to whoever took care of you.

It is only a demonic child that will have and not give to the people that sacrificed their comfort for his/her well being.

Well said

It is in our culture to look after our aged ones.
“Ti Okete ba dagba, Omu omo re ni o maa mu”.
It’s a Yoruba saying that when you grow old, you fall back to your children.
Mama’s children are sadly useless.
No form of civilization should make us abandon our parents. We don’t have good care system for our elderly ones as we see in other climes. I blv it’s our responsibility.
I look after my frail dad, even though I haven’t seen him in about 1 year now.
I have a live-in carer on my payroll and he attend his clinic every week.
It cost me about 200k monthly to achieve this. I’m fine with it. He’s frail now, can’t stand on his feet anymore.
I feel bad myself as I had promised him that I’ll personally take care of him myself, which I’m now doing by proxy.
I can’t afford to give him this level of care if I had stayed back in Nigeria, where I can barely earn the amount I spend on him monthly.

Darevofpeace:

I am so sick to my stomach!

*A 73-year old woman's statistics:*

She was a UNTH nurse and retired since 2007.

1. Widowed in 1999.
2. Gave birth to 6 children with 5 surviving *_(4 boys and a girl)_*
3. Her husband was a retired Principal
4. Her only daughter lives in Lagos *_( in a bad marriage since her husband doesn't allow her to bring her mum over)_*
5. Her three sons live abroad. The only son in Nigeria lives in Enugu and his wife pays her a visit on Sundays but stopped for reasons not revealed.
6. Her only sister, who is older than her but still strong in health, visited and found her in a bad state and decided to take her with her to her Umuahia home.

She had signs of dementia. She also suffers from diabetes and weak bladder. So, the urine smell complained by people is well understood.

Her only elder sister took care of her since her arrival till her sister's son had accident in Abuja and was left for neighbours to attend to her.
The sister's neighbour left her and travelled.

*_Mama was found dead close to an open fridge. Her corpse has been deposited in a morgue this morning._*

Her first son is a medical doctor in America, married to a Brazilian and only called once in a while after her mum was moved to Umuahia by her sister and kids.
___________
ANALYSIS::

Mama is not childless.

She raised all her kids and they're all professionals.

Money was not an issue. Her husband, though a principal, built a bungalow where Mama and her kids lived till her death.

Mama's sister said her only daughter has only called twice since she came to Enugu and picked her younger sister with her.

Mama's senior sister wants to bury her Junior sister on her own and mourn her quietly !!

*_Her kids are now back crying and saying they will give their mother a befitting burial._*

I wanted to call them out & curse them.

I am in pains.
___________

My heart is heavy.

*_A woman that raised five children should not have suffered like this._*

While you're popping kids, remember that one day......

- The bones and muscles will be WEAK..
- The eyes might lose their functions
- The bladder might be weak and you cannot control your urine.
- Cash flow will cease.
- Your legs won't be able to carry your weight.
- Your hands might not hold things due to parkinson or rheumatism or any of the other numerous infirmities
- Your mouth may be smelling because you cannot brush it well.
- Your brain might stop functioning.
- Dementia and loss of memory can set in.
- *_You may not even be able to take care of your personal hygiene..._*

It is called OLD AGE characteristics.

*_Life can be harsh and your children may be too busy with their lives that your care will be relegated to STRANGERS._*

*Children are NOT retirement benefits.*

*_Old age is a reality !_*
*Prepare for that time.*
*Take care of your health.*

*Be armed !*

*_Learn this big lesson Today !_*

Thank you.

*Copied*

*Children are NOT retirement benefits.*

I've learnt something new today.

simplepee:
You guys don’t get tired of this topic, year in year out.

There’s nothing wrong when a parent suffered to raise their kids, birth them, cloth them, train them and do everything to see them attain the point of independence and then expect to be taken care of by these children. It doesn’t even have to be your parents, it is proper to show gratitude to whoever took care of you.

It is only a demonic child that will have and not give to the people that sacrificed their comfort for his/her well being.

The whites don't have this mentality.

Who is this goat of an op. You are saying that you want to call the children out and curse them and yet still saying children are not retirement benefits.

Darevofpeace:

I am so sick to my stomach!

*A 73-year old woman's statistics:*

She was a UNTH nurse and retired since 2007.

1. Widowed in 1999.
2. Gave birth to 6 children with 5 surviving *_(4 boys and a girl)_*
3. Her husband was a retired Principal
4. Her only daughter lives in Lagos *_( in a bad marriage since her husband doesn't allow her to bring her mum over)_*
5. Her three sons live abroad. The only son in Nigeria lives in Enugu and his wife pays her a visit on Sundays but stopped for reasons not revealed.
6. Her only sister, who is older than her but still strong in health, visited and found her in a bad state and decided to take her with her to her Umuahia home.

She had signs of dementia. She also suffers from diabetes and weak bladder. So, the urine smell complained by people is well understood.

Her only elder sister took care of her since her arrival till her sister's son had accident in Abuja and was left for neighbours to attend to her.
The sister's neighbour left her and travelled.

*_Mama was found dead close to an open fridge. Her corpse has been deposited in a morgue this morning._*

Her first son is a medical doctor in America, married to a Brazilian and only called once in a while after her mum was moved to Umuahia by her sister and kids.
___________
ANALYSIS::

Mama is not childless.

She raised all her kids and they're all professionals.

Money was not an issue. Her husband, though a principal, built a bungalow where Mama and her kids lived till her death.

Mama's sister said her only daughter has only called twice since she came to Enugu and picked her younger sister with her.

Mama's senior sister wants to bury her Junior sister on her own and mourn her quietly !!

*_Her kids are now back crying and saying they will give their mother a befitting burial._*

I wanted to call them out & curse them.

I am in pains.
___________

My heart is heavy.

*_A woman that raised five children should not have suffered like this._*

While you're popping kids, remember that one day......

- The bones and muscles will be WEAK..
- The eyes might lose their functions
- The bladder might be weak and you cannot control your urine.
- Cash flow will cease.
- Your legs won't be able to carry your weight.
- Your hands might not hold things due to parkinson or rheumatism or any of the other numerous infirmities
- Your mouth may be smelling because you cannot brush it well.
- Your brain might stop functioning.
- Dementia and loss of memory can set in.
- *_You may not even be able to take care of your personal hygiene..._*

It is called OLD AGE characteristics.

*_Life can be harsh and your children may be too busy with their lives that your care will be relegated to STRANGERS._*

*Children are NOT retirement benefits.*

*_Old age is a reality !_*
*Prepare for that time.*
*Take care of your health.*

*Be armed !*

*_Learn this big lesson Today !_*

Thank you.

*Copied*

The day you realize children are trained by you for themselves and not for yourself that is when you have peace. In other words, plan your retirement out of your children.assume they never exist in the first place

Thank you! We opted for the resident carer option for my parents. The company sends them on 3 months rotation and they live comfortably in house with the old folks. The carers are mostly fresh graduates trying to raise some money while looking for better job. They are all well screened by the company. Just do your research as I'm sure there are many of such companies growing across Nigeria.

Nigerians need to start embracing these options. For serious investors, it's also a good growing market in Nigeria and it solves a major problem especially for those in diaspora or too busy in the big cities in Nigeria.

In fact no matter how small, people should explore ways to start saving towards their own carer cost while still young so you are not fully dependent on anyone.

delpee:
Sometimes, a child's circumstances makes it difficult to give adequate attention to parents. However, there are social welfare organisations now that manage the elderly. You can have resident carers or opt for a well managed old people's home. Most parents (if not too lonely) are happier and do better being cared for at home by trained carers. Not random househelps please.

In addition, health insurance takes care of medical matters. All they need is to jointly arrive at the best option and raise funds to carry out their plan.

A good child who is unable to visit regularly or accommodate a parent can opt for this. Good parents sacrifice a lot to look after their children. Abandoning them in old age isn't fair. Even if they're rich, being in touch with them and providing meaningful advice helps them to live a good life notwithstanding old age challenges.

As a Nigerian, I can relate with your comment but how come most other cultures don't have this type of mentality?

simplepee:
You guys don’t get tired of this topic, year in year out.

There’s nothing wrong when a parent suffered to raise their kids, birth them, cloth them, train them and do everything to see them attain the point of independence and then expect to be taken care of by these children. It doesn’t even have to be your parents, it is proper to show gratitude to whoever took care of you.

It is only a demonic child that will have and not give to the people that sacrificed their comfort for his/her well being.

samuelson06:
I don't really have a problem with children being their parent's retirement plan. The design is that children should take care of their aged parents and I don't see anything wrong with that. Where I seriously have a problem is when parents don't invest in their children to become successful in life and simply focus on making more children and by God's grace one of the children escapes poverty with little or no contribution from the parents, then you see them coming to lay claims of the child and complaining to the world how the child has abandoned them.

For God's sake, this is a child that suffered so much and alone to become successful and instead of you allowing the child to begin investing in their future and family and stamp out poverty in their own lineage, you are coming to complain about negligence. Must everyone be poor in the family?

From my observation in Nigeria, poor parents don't care about their children. They don't even pray for them to succeed. All they are interested about is what they can get from the children because they feel it's the children's responsibility to take care of them. They don't care about lifting even one to escape poverty in the family so in future, that one can also save others. They care only about themselves. They don't care about the endemic poverty in the family.

You're obviously a kid!!

Who took care of you from infancy, feeding and clothing you to even age 10 deserves anything from you.
Do you know what it means to feed, cloth and house someone for 10 good years??

Even if that's the only thing your father did for you, he has tried!

Darevofpeace:

I am so sick to my stomach!

*A 73-year old woman's statistics:*

She was a UNTH nurse and retired since 2007.

1. Widowed in 1999.
2. Gave birth to 6 children with 5 surviving *_(4 boys and a girl)_*
3. Her husband was a retired Principal
4. Her only daughter lives in Lagos *_( in a bad marriage since her husband doesn't allow her to bring her mum over)_*
5. Her three sons live abroad. The only son in Nigeria lives in Enugu and his wife pays her a visit on Sundays but stopped for reasons not revealed.
6. Her only sister, who is older than her but still strong in health, visited and found her in a bad state and decided to take her with her to her Umuahia home.

She had signs of dementia. She also suffers from diabetes and weak bladder. So, the urine smell complained by people is well understood.

Her only elder sister took care of her since her arrival till her sister's son had accident in Abuja and was left for neighbours to attend to her.
The sister's neighbour left her and travelled.

*_Mama was found dead close to an open fridge. Her corpse has been deposited in a morgue this morning._*

Her first son is a medical doctor in America, married to a Brazilian and only called once in a while after her mum was moved to Umuahia by her sister and kids.
___________
ANALYSIS::

Mama is not childless.

She raised all her kids and they're all professionals.

Money was not an issue. Her husband, though a principal, built a bungalow where Mama and her kids lived till her death.

Mama's sister said her only daughter has only called twice since she came to Enugu and picked her younger sister with her.

Mama's senior sister wants to bury her Junior sister on her own and mourn her quietly !!

*_Her kids are now back crying and saying they will give their mother a befitting burial._*

I wanted to call them out & curse them.

I am in pains.
___________

My heart is heavy.

*_A woman that raised five children should not have suffered like this._*

While you're popping kids, remember that one day......

- The bones and muscles will be WEAK..
- The eyes might lose their functions
- The bladder might be weak and you cannot control your urine.
- Cash flow will cease.
- Your legs won't be able to carry your weight.
- Your hands might not hold things due to parkinson or rheumatism or any of the other numerous infirmities
- Your mouth may be smelling because you cannot brush it well.
- Your brain might stop functioning.
- Dementia and loss of memory can set in.
- *_You may not even be able to take care of your personal hygiene..._*

It is called OLD AGE characteristics.

*_Life can be harsh and your children may be too busy with their lives that your care will be relegated to STRANGERS._*

*Children are NOT retirement benefits.*

*_Old age is a reality !_*
*Prepare for that time.*
*Take care of your health.*

*Be armed !*

*_Learn this big lesson Today !_*

Thank you.

*Copied*

NO

Beolly:

The whites don't have this mentality.

Are you white? Woke generation

Deepspirituals:
You can bring up Interesting Stories Up ..

As Nairaland dey pay me salary.

In America, they work so hard to retire early or late. Some of dem have individual retirement acct or govt retirement acct but in naija na children be their retirement acct numbers. Wtf

Darevofpeace:

I am so sick to my stomach!

*A 73-year old woman's statistics:*

She was a UNTH nurse and retired since 2007.

1. Widowed in 1999.
2. Gave birth to 6 children with 5 surviving *_(4 boys and a girl)_*
3. Her husband was a retired Principal
4. Her only daughter lives in Lagos *_( in a bad marriage since her husband doesn't allow her to bring her mum over)_*
5. Her three sons live abroad. The only son in Nigeria lives in Enugu and his wife pays her a visit on Sundays but stopped for reasons not revealed.
6. Her only sister, who is older than her but still strong in health, visited and found her in a bad state and decided to take her with her to her Umuahia home.

She had signs of dementia. She also suffers from diabetes and weak bladder. So, the urine smell complained by people is well understood.

Her only elder sister took care of her since her arrival till her sister's son had accident in Abuja and was left for neighbours to attend to her.
The sister's neighbour left her and travelled.

*_Mama was found dead close to an open fridge. Her corpse has been deposited in a morgue this morning._*

Her first son is a medical doctor in America, married to a Brazilian and only called once in a while after her mum was moved to Umuahia by her sister and kids.
___________
ANALYSIS::

Mama is not childless.

She raised all her kids and they're all professionals.

Money was not an issue. Her husband, though a principal, built a bungalow where Mama and her kids lived till her death.

Mama's sister said her only daughter has only called twice since she came to Enugu and picked her younger sister with her.

Mama's senior sister wants to bury her Junior sister on her own and mourn her quietly !!

*_Her kids are now back crying and saying they will give their mother a befitting burial._*

I wanted to call them out & curse them.

I am in pains.
___________

My heart is heavy.

*_A woman that raised five children should not have suffered like this._*

While you're popping kids, remember that one day......

- The bones and muscles will be WEAK..
- The eyes might lose their functions
- The bladder might be weak and you cannot control your urine.
- Cash flow will cease.
- Your legs won't be able to carry your weight.
- Your hands might not hold things due to parkinson or rheumatism or any of the other numerous infirmities
- Your mouth may be smelling because you cannot brush it well.
- Your brain might stop functioning.
- Dementia and loss of memory can set in.
- *_You may not even be able to take care of your personal hygiene..._*

It is called OLD AGE characteristics.

*_Life can be harsh and your children may be too busy with their lives that your care will be relegated to STRANGERS._*

*Children are NOT retirement benefits.*

*_Old age is a reality !_*
*Prepare for that time.*
*Take care of your health.*

*Be armed !*

*_Learn this big lesson Today !_*

Thank you.

*Copied*

Then parents should not train their children, let them save the money for their retirement

samuelson06:
I don't really have a problem with children being their parent's retirement plan. The design is that children should take care of their aged parents and I don't see anything wrong with that. Where I seriously have a problem is when parents don't invest in their children to become successful in life and simply focus on making more children and by God's grace one of the children escapes poverty with little or no contribution from the parents, then you see them coming to lay claims of the child and complaining to the world how the child has abandoned them.

For God's sake, this is a child that suffered so much and alone to become successful and instead of you allowing the child to begin investing in their future and family and stamp out poverty in their own lineage, you are coming to complain about negligence. Must everyone be poor in the family?

From my observation in Nigeria, poor parents don't care about their children. They don't even pray for them to succeed. All they are interested about is what they can get from the children because they feel it's the children's responsibility to take care of them. They don't care about lifting even one to escape poverty in the family so in future, that one can also save others. They care only about themselves. They don't care about the endemic poverty in the family.

Very well said 👏 👍 👌 🙌

Qatar2022:
■ Then parents should not train their children, let them save the money for their retirement

Such parents shouldn't even bother having children? I am certain the kids wouldn't complain if they weren't born.

onadana:
It's a product of life style and environment.In western countries people live up to 90years they stay alone and still drive themselves...if need be they check into an old people's home But here in Nigeria, entitlement mentality reins supreme.

It's the state of the economy here, it's relatively easy to navigate the economic weather their unlike what's obtainable here in Africa. This is the one the reasons fueling japa too, your children can even graduate here and still have no reasonable job not to talk of taking care of their parents.

Some westerners decided not to even have kids not to talk of using them as a retirement plan.