Villa12:
Lagos

ok. Am sure he is very controlling

Onyiiobi7735:

Bro,it shouldn't be giving a technical issue.The most important thing is that she respects your authority, doesn't possess nasty behaviours and loves you.Not being contented with what one has,is one of the biggest life disorganisers people encounter.
Besides, things aren't always what they seem to be.Just overlook the spec thing and focus all your attention and love on the wife you have.

Thanks sir

Onyiiobi7735:

Bro,it is oo! Why not focus on the woman in your life currently and the kids and let them be your priority.
Don't you know that demons appear in beautiful packages? You might take that step and live to regret it.
How sure are you that if you find the so called spec,she would bring peace to your life?
Well if you are really intent on polygamy, better be careful, because it's a very thorny path,not with the kind of olosho mentality girls that abound everywhere.

God bless you bro ...

tonicyril:
bro I am in a situation like you...

Tho yet to tie the knot but hooked already..a no dey feel this girl at all but she's a good girl, just that I am not connected to her both emotionally and sexually despite her bn sexually attractive

YES EXACTLY THIS IS WHAT AM SAYING AND D SUITUATION I MET MYSELF ALTHOUGH SHE IS A WIFFY MATERIAL IF NOT EHN I GO DON SCATTER EVERYTHING SINVE SELF ..

IF SHE DEY GIVE U PEACE SHA AND SHE BE WIFE MATERIAL TOO I WILL ADVISE U TO GIVE IT A TRIAL

tonicyril:
bro did u later marry the girl??

Sure na 😂😆 Abi u don get another wife for me?? 😆

BBIA:

Is it that she is educated/exposed enough, speaks English mixed with English tongues.
Isn't modern enough.
Or she isn't hot and sexy enough to always turn you on?

My brother infact u hitted d nail ...

Exposure and education and d funniest part if that she ain't ready to improve even if am trying to put her on track and it's causing a lot of heart throbs for me ...

That's part of d technical issues .. ☹️☹️🙁

Villa12:
I don't think it has anything to do with unrealistic taste for women. All the girls he has ever dated are way below his class. It was the girl who met and sent her to polytechnic, the girl still dump him for someone below his class. He has anger issue

Love is classless😅
U wil love what u see, heard of, u can't lov what u don't know...
I hv his type, it took my Aunt to marry for him, cause all he ever thought was using money to entice dem. He lacks how to confront a lady, instead he uses money language to win deir heart. U & i knows dat, dat kind of live no dey last or dey pure

Villa12:
I know a man earning close to 2M monthly. He is 41 and still searching for a wife. Most girls only date him but doesn't want to marry him. The girl he sent to school (polytechnic) still dump him for a guy that earn less than him

Did you know Why? His character [/b]If you doubt me, you can send me a DM and i will take you to meet the guy. This is someone that is doing pretty fine for himself but still struggling to get a wife. I only know about men struggling financially having issues getting a wife. [b] i was surprised to see someone doing fine having same issue

Which other explanation do you want if you know the reason to your "suprise"

All I have to say is ... You're not a good friend, if the person you talked about is your friend or sees you as a friend
Otherwise you know what to do to help him.

Tayorshd87:


YES U ARE 100% CORRECT I was also looking for a particular class until I have to choose below my class just to break d curse of my village people of not getting a wife at age 43 😂😆😂
My brother am now a father of two and am happy Abt that just that I didn't marry the kind of spec am willing to and it's giving me a technical issue till date 🙁☹️

Person must nurse something...

nairagenone:
A woman is threatening a man that she will cancel the marriage in 2023 and the man is begging ?
Definitely, your brother will wear the skirt through out the life of that marriage.

For the wife to be to threaten him shows she is not into the marriage and marrying him out of pity. He will suffer in that marriage just like the f.ools before him who have enterred into a marriage without exerting authority and respect.

The lady already sees him as a weak and spineless man, what pains me most is the lady may even have body counts in the double digits.

Men, learn from this story, if a woman cannot respect you just like Sarah did to Abraham, dont put yourself in such bondage.

Go to shiloh, countless single women looking fpr husbands, men learn this, you are the prize.

Stop making a fool of yourselves like the OPs brother.

Omo e Taya my EYE, fool never know say na him be the price it should be the other way round

Tayorshd87:

God bless you bro ...

Don't mention.Am glad I helped.

nairagenone:

Baba I dey feel you, I was almost at your stage but God just favoured me.
Na so I jam a sweet 27 year old virgin babe, with perfect shape and all.
I couldn't believe my luck, she con be SU join, just what I ever dreamt of.

As someone who has lived in multiple continents and dated all races, when you see my fiance you'd think she jazzed me cos the class difference and every other aspect is so wide.

But I love it like that, men are supposed to marry down so has to be able to earn respect from their wives naturally.
If you check this op brother, he either married his own level/class or a woman earning same as him or more.

When they tell you age long truths that as a man, you must marry down to have peace in your own home some of you will think they are talking rubbish.

If woman reach you for money, you don die oooo

Villa12:
he has anger issue. Outside that, he's a good man. He takes good care of his woman

Ok

nairagenone:

In my opinion, the most important thing for a man is peace of mind.
No woman is perfect, so just highlight what is important to you and check if a lady ticks 70 percent, if she does then go for her.

For me, I was looking for -> fidelity, respect, good family orientation(especially her moms personality), godly and loves God , lastly she must not be olosho(very important).

On my journey searching, I saw plenty things because of my requirements I started going after SU looking babes, my brother, wetin my eye see shock me.
Even deeperlife babes some of them I slept with them same day they came to my house... I just dey shake my head.

Las las I met a lady who is SU, and she con be virgin and as I dey follow her talk she con get sense, theres always a level of risk but with this babe I was ready to risk it and since I made that decision I have never regretted it.

She doesnt have money and comes from a very humble background but to me thats a credit, cos many ladies in her shoes would have used that as an excuse to start doing hookup...

Enough of ranting and back to your question... I think you should consider marrying your baby mama, if you think you can't marry her then find a lady who you think has good morals and values, target the SU looking ladies => deeperlife, mfm, cac etc... But in all remember what the bible says, be wise as serpent but gentle as doves...

I wish you goodluck.

Peace of mind be the koko

galileo180:

My brother is in Onitsha and he is the second in Hierarchy in their branch, if it's possible it wouldn't be a problem.

Since they are both in the east...someone should compromise.

They either go to Onitsha after the wedding on Sunday...or you brother travels on Sunday alone...and returns on Tuesday after he has opened the vault, or he remains in the village...then they travel together to Onitsha very early on Tuesday morning...or etc....
The options are many and workable....

They should be wary of these red flags though...two captains in any ship... whether physical or relational...can cause "shipwreck" or lead to a wreck.

...all the best in their marriage if it happens eventually....

Tayorshd87:

Thanks sir

You are welcome.

Villa12:
not all men reason like you guy.

I agree with you my dear.

Mohisah:
Love is classless😅
U wil love what u see, heard of, u can't lov what u don't know...
I hv his type, it took my Aunt to marry for him, cause all he ever thought was using money to entice dem. He lacks how to confront a lady, instead he uses money language to win deir heart. U & i knows dat, dat kind of live no dey last or dey pure

will you dump your car to be trekking because you don't want a girl to know you have a car? Will you vacate your house to live in slum or trenches because you don't want a girl to know? I don't understand how some of you guys mean by you don't use money to lure a woman. Or you mean while dating her you make sure that she doesn't get more than 5k from you? They're leaving him for his character despite his financial security. Will you advise your sister to marry someone with anger issue? At least the girls are honest enough not to marry him because of his money. Some of them might still be single but it is better than marrying a nercist

njelrapheal:
ok. Am sure he is very controlling

being controlling is even an understatement. He has serious anger issue.

Please tell your brother to find me should she call it off. She no well

Kobojunkie:
What has this to do with my response abeg!

2. You are maybe looking for too much financial security and overwhelmed by financial insecurity yet your eyes are on jobless and mostly skillless teenagers? What is this?

Ofcourse there are teenagers out there with low standards who are looking for anyway out of what they assume an already miserable existence. But what has A to do with B abeg or any of what I said?

3. You know what? I refuse to be burdened by your confusion in life. No point!

I only gave you a personal attestation. Men are either too picky or have other reasons unrelated to inability to finding a woman.
You already know this and you’re highlighting your points with bullets 😁

galileo180:
Your honest and sincere opinions are highly needed on this.

My brother is about to get married on Sunday and just today, the girlfriend has been threatening to call off the marriage over a little issue. The issue being my brothers' refusal to travel back to our village with her since he needs to be at work on Tuesday, his reason being that there is no movement on Mondays and he is a Banker and needs to be present to open Vault on Tuesday.

Please in your sincere opinion, is my brother wrong and is it a good reason for the girl to threaten him with calling off the event.

Mods please help a brother, please push to front-page as it needs urgent attention.

This is a sign for your brother to cancel the lady....she is a wicked person...and will render your brother down emotionally

komzy589:

I only gave you a personal attestation. Men are either too picky or have other reasons unrelated to inability to finding a woman.
You already know this and you’re highlighting your points with bullets 😁

Keep twisting yourself up with these lies.

The day una go confess to una self say una no different from aboki wey dey join queue for mass wedding ceremony na that day wisdom go don reach una.

Tayorshd87:


YES U ARE 100% CORRECT I was also looking for a particular class until I have to choose below my class just to break d curse of my village people of not getting a wife at age 43 😂😆😂
My brother am now a father of two and am happy Abt that just that I didn't marry the kind of spec am willing to and it's giving me a technical issue till date 🙁☹️

Forget the technical issue my brother.
Just create the joy and happiness you desire with that woman you got married to.
Yes she might not be sound intellectually,she might not speak good English, she might not be a carrier lady. All that na wash. Your happiness and peace of mind in your home is the most paramount if this woman is giving you just that, please shópé ti é oh.

My colleague a lady is yet to get married at age 45. Ngozi just dey live her life and enjoying her simgleness like there is nothing called marriage in her agenda.

My point is, married or not.
Or getting married to your spec or not Is not the Koko,your peace of mind and personally happiness is supreme.
Forget what the society says.

They won't be there for you to help you go through whatever issue would arise even if you got married to your very specs which might be the society standard too.

Kobojunkie:
Keep twisting yourself up with these lies.

The day una go confess to una self say una no different from aboki wey dey join queue for mass wedding ceremony na that day wisdom go don reach una.

Okay👋
Have a nice day.

Villa12:
I know a man earning close to 2M monthly. He is 41 and still searching for a wife. Most girls only date him but doesn't want to marry him. The girl he sent to school (polytechnic) still dump him for a guy that earn less than him

Did you know Why? His character. If you doubt me, you can send me a DM and i will take you to meet the guy. This is someone that is doing pretty fine for himself but still struggling to get a wife. I only know about men struggling financially having issues getting a wife. I was surprised to see someone doing fine having same issue

For every man there's a woman, and for every woman there's a man. Most likely, the woman DESTINED for him is close by; but he prefers to go far and wide searching for a wife.

galileo180:
Your honest and sincere opinions are highly needed on this.

My brother is about to get married on Sunday and just today, the girlfriend has been threatening to call off the marriage over a little issue. The issue being my brothers' refusal to travel back to our village with her since he needs to be at work on Tuesday, his reason being that there is no movement on Mondays and he is a Banker and needs to be present to open Vault on Tuesday.

Please in your sincere opinion, is my brother wrong and is it a good reason for the girl to threaten him with calling off the event.

Mods please help a brother, please push to front-page as it needs urgent attention.

Your brother himself should call off that wedding by himself to save his head.
He's definitely getting married to a selfish insensitive beast.
The marriage has already failed before it started.
Woman that doesn't care about her husband's job? It's a no no.

galileo180:
Your honest and sincere opinions are highly needed on this.

My brother is about to get married on Sunday and just today, the girlfriend has been threatening to call off the marriage over a little issue. The issue being my brothers' refusal to travel back to our village with her since he needs to be at work on Tuesday, his reason being that there is no movement on Mondays and he is a Banker and needs to be present to open Vault on Tuesday.

Please in your sincere opinion, is my brother wrong and is it a good reason for the girl to threaten him with calling off the event.

Mods please help a brother, please push to front-page as it needs urgent attention.

Two questions:

1) Did they plan and agree to travel together to the village after their wedding?

If they planned to travel and he later brought up his work as an excuse not to travel with her, then he would be in the wrong.

2) Did your brother communicate to her before now that he would be going back to work on Tuesday after their wedding on Sunday and why?

If he did tell her beforehand and she said she understood but later refused to cooperate, then she would be in the wrong. But if your brother didn't tell her beforehand, and get her to understand and agree to it, then he would be the one in great wrong.

It's not just a "little issue," especially if he didn't communicate properly beforehand, because it shows a big red flag called "lack of communication, " and another one known as "disregard," both of which have led to divorce in so many marriages.

If he did communicate and she agreed, to it but later changed her mind then that would be a serious red flag of "uncooperativeness," "selfishness," and "lack of understanding"

Nb: All of these travel plans and work responsibility issues should have been put into consideration in choosing a wedding date while planning the wedding or wasn't there any wedding planning?

Did they just wake up on Thursday and say "let's get married on Sunday?"

There isn't much that can be given now that would be useful advice in this case because the wedding is less than 24 hours away.

If he backtracks and does as she demands, it could set the tone in their marriage that she could get him to do what she wants by threatening to leave whenever things don't go her way.

If he insists and ignores her complaint, she could go on and call off the wedding like she threatened. And even if she doesn't, it will still create an unnecessary bad blood situation for a newly wedded couple. It's more like a catch 22 situation.

Marriage is a lifetime journey and the vision of the marriage lies with the husband, not the wife. Only go on that journey with a woman who agrees with and fits into your vision and plan, brings you peace, respects you and is willing to adjust to your schedule, especially if you are the bread winner. Anything other than that will make marriage and life miserable for the man.

Tayorshd87:


Sure na 😂😆 Abi u don get another wife for me?? 😆

Tayorshd87:


YES EXACTLY THIS IS WHAT AM SAYING AND D SUITUATION I MET MYSELF ALTHOUGH SHE IS A WIFFY MATERIAL IF NOT EHN I GO DON SCATTER EVERYTHING SINVE SELF ..

IF SHE DEY GIVE U PEACE SHA AND SHE BE WIFE MATERIAL TOO I WILL ADVISE U TO GIVE IT A TRIAL

hmmm

This life sef,

I lose appetite cus if this everyday

theamazonguru:


Forget the technical issue my brother.
Just create the joy and happiness you desire with that woman you got married to.
Yes she might not be sound intellectually,she might not speak good English, she might not be a carrier lady. All that na wash. Your happiness and peace of mind in your home is the most paramount if this woman is giving you just that, please shópé ti é oh.

My colleague a lady is yet to get married at age 45. Ngozi just dey live her life and enjoying her simgleness like there is nothing called marriage in her agenda.

My point is, married or not.
Or getting married to your spec or not Is not the Koko,your peace of mind and personally happiness is supreme.
Forget what the society says.

They won't be there for you to help you go through whatever issue would arise even if you got married to your very specs which might be the society standard too.

How can one get peace of mind when the one u marry is not sexually attractive to you??

galileo180:
Your honest and sincere opinions are highly needed on this.

My brother is about to get married on Sunday and just today, the girlfriend has been threatening to call off the marriage over a little issue. The issue being my brothers' refusal to travel back to our village with her since he needs to be at work on Tuesday, his reason being that there is no movement on Mondays and he is a Banker and needs to be present to open Vault on Tuesday.

Please in your sincere opinion, is my brother wrong and is it a good reason for the girl to threaten him with calling off the event.

Mods please help a brother, please push to front-page as it needs urgent attention.

He gat to do whatever he thinks is the right thing to do.

And she gat to do whatever she thinks is the right thing to do.

Actions gat consequences.

So that, after the consequences of both of their actions,, they can choose to mend things and fix-up future occurences,, or may decide to quit..

But for now,, let them do what their minds think are the best actions.