Tallesty1:
"..........What can we do?"



I don't know why I'm impressed with this her approach.

eniolorunfe:
Not up to 3 weeks relationship and you’re already her “Ademi” … That title doesn’t come cheap you know

advanceDNA:



Obviously that's not he kind of woman u want
..free the babe....otherwise u will soon pay house rent... Some women use relationship to exploit men for every small thing..from cream to pad, to even toothpaste.....they don't see anything wrong or distasteful in it.....

These days ...getting a lady thats decent all round is like winning lottery..... U go Waka small

pansophist:
This is where the saying that ''actions speak louder than words'' becomes applicable. Financial assistance in a relationship, especially a young relationship should be discretionary, not dutiful.

Although if I were him, I would grant some of her requests, and observe. But I won't grant requests that are continuous in nature such as her body creme, transport fare, or recharge card.

I will also try to determine if it is a ''one-way'' relationship, by also asking her for requests, not necessarily financial, and see if she would grant it. All these might span within a period of three months maximum.

Then I will decide if she is worth repairing, or worth dumping. A relationship should be a place where you help the other person grow, so before dumping, I will try to see if she is teachable.

I will tell her that to me, she is the broke man she habitually avoids. It might even happen that she would be the one to break off since what she came into the relationship for is not coming.

All in all, every relationship should be based on truism, honesty, and communication.

Ballzproblem2:
The mentality of billing men has eaten deep into our girls whether they have money or not.

Nigeria girl fit get 300k for account but still want that small 5k you dey manage.

Rilwayne001:
One thing about women is to never take their words at face value, rather their actions.

As she’s billing you, she’s billing 4 other guys.

eniolorunfe:
Not up to 3 weeks relationship and you’re already her “Ademi” … That title doesn’t come cheap you know

Gadafii:
She even said “what can WE do” 🤣😅😅

My bro tell her to buy Vaseline and as for her contributions, make she borrow money from loan apps whe they pay her at place if work make she pay loan app back

Then disengage from that relationship asap

Godoverevery:

For good 2 months me and this lady spoke extremely about the kind of relationship we both want.
I don't need to sit her down and table cos it seems that her mindset.

She clearly know what she is doing cos the last time I actually had a discussion about this act with her.

APOPTOSIS:
Please enough of all these Ladies stuff.
Let's start joining hands in salvaging an already precarious situation for them. IF we don't who will.

For those men who think dey can carter for 2 Ladies in marriage, pls. settle for 2 in countries such is approved
For those Ladies who think they are ripe and groomed for marriage and are ready to settle down, please start making yourselves available to interested men.
Please don't settle for domestic violence for that's a prerequisite for death.

These Ladies are not finding it easy even in diasopra too. It's even worse securing a spouse there as your chances get slimmer in the midst of other races of the world & now most men are afraid of even wooing a lady. They now see women as their established enemies, hence the emergence of toys and barbie dolls.😭😭😭

DaTruths:
Nigerian ladies sees Relationship as a mini marriage no matter how rich they are.

Buy the cream for her if you have the money, there is joy that comes with providing for your woman, even if she's dangote's daughter.

It makes you the Alpha of the relationship.

Me i don't believe in Gender equality, so i will provide for my woman if she's respectful.

Godoverevery:

I don't have an issh with one helping out a lady you dating once in awhile but I believe the relationship must have gotten to a certain stage.

3weeks into a relationship is too early for me to be doing all that.

Last week it was her soap that got finished after so much complaining of not eating all day I sent her money and this week her cream have finished.

Godoverevery:


Another lesson I learnt recently.

Just because she not asking you doesn't mean she isn't asking some other guys.

ItisWell22:


You understand the thing well. 😂

And sometimes, it’s the pressure to feel cared for and “spoilt” by the man in our lives. 🤧

Godoverevery:
Note- this not a post to bash ladies.

A pattern I noticed with most working class ladies have dated from 27yrs old upward.
At the earliest stage, they claim to be tired of relationship, they are fine without a man.
They are doing fine without a man and in fact if not for pressure they don't mind not getting married...(mostly lies)

They say am financially ok without a man, i bought my phone, paid house rent etc without any man and i can never depend on any man hence why they can never be liability since they are working..(mostly lies)

Most claim to be doing fine during the wooing stage but immediately we start dating things turn out differently from what they claim.

Am dating a lady currently who works for a fashion house on the island...During the wooing stage we actually spoke alot for about 2 months and she claimed to be financially ok and doesn't need a man money. Infact she told me how much she paid weekly which is very decent with free accommodation and feeding.

We just started dating not up to 3weeks and this lady have been making demands which I find very childish and too disgraceful for an adult working.
She always complaining of money despite earning above minimum wage weekly.

This morning she called and i didn't pick........I chatted her up and she telling me her cream have finished and i replied hmmmm.
This a pattern have noticed with most working class ladies have dated......they tell you am an independent woman during wooing stage but once relationship start it just seems they are working and not earning with the way they demand and still be pressuring you with marriage talks.

(just want to know if am the only experiencing this or is just normal)

Note: this the fourth time this lady is demanding from me in 3 weeks and they are embarrassing to me for someone who earns.

Magnoliaa:


You're very right with the bolded sha.

There are some things that you should "mould" a significant other on, initially. There's how you'd set the tone and basis for how you want to be treated or what you expect, and how you'd also behave yourself with them knowing what they'll take and won't take. It has nothing do to with pretending or changing in yourself just to please them. But there should be extent to where you mutually try to please each other, and put forward the best impression.


The rest of everything you've written, OP, I hope you will pick some points. I am already.

Godoverevery:

I don't have an issh with one helping out a lady you dating once in awhile but I believe the relationship must have gotten to a certain stage.

3weeks into a relationship is too early for me to be doing all that.

Last week it was her soap that got finished after so much complaining of not eating all day I sent her money and this week her cream have finished.

Ballzproblem2:
na you be that for your profile ? I go like your mouth on my sweet cock

Magnoliaa:


I knew your sense was not more than an ant's when you were dragging Izzò.u the other day, acting like a normal human being, and defending Hilda Baci.


I am not surprised. It doesn't take too long for your kind to shed the pretend skin and reveal their true colors.

It's nice to see you living up to your moniker and its corruption on the EPL thread - a brainless dog of a sexual harasser, and nothing more. That's what you are.

drnoel:


Sit down and table the issue. That you are dating someone doesn't mean you have to be their bank.
Remind her what her words were before the relationship and make her understand how it has changed during the relationship.
Let her know you also have your expenses and would prefer she handles her money matters without disturbing you about it. It's that simple.
If then you care to give her something on the side, that's your own wish to do so and not your obligation.
I don't know why men shy to make their stance surgically clear on this issue.

Gadafii:
She even said “what can WE do” 🤣😅😅

My bro tell her to buy Vaseline and as for her contributions, make she borrow money from loan apps whe they pay her at place if work make she pay loan app back

Then disengage from that relationship asap

UptownVibes:
You can be working in the same place with a lady,earning same amount.. But because you are in a relationship with her,she will still want you to spend all your earnings on her. When you broke,she will move on and call you broke ass.

For this reason,never you spend money you can't afford to let go on a woman who is not your daughter, or mother..

Godoverevery:
Note- this not a post to bash ladies.

A pattern I noticed with most working class ladies have dated from 27yrs old upward.
At the earliest stage, they claim to be tired of relationship, they are fine without a man.
They are doing fine without a man and in fact if not for pressure they don't mind not getting married...(mostly lies)

They say am financially ok without a man, i bought my phone, paid house rent etc without any man and i can never depend on any man hence why they can never be liability since they are working..(mostly lies)

Most claim to be doing fine during the wooing stage but immediately we start dating things turn out differently from what they claim.

Am dating a lady currently who works for a fashion house on the island...During the wooing stage we actually spoke alot for about 2 months and she claimed to be financially ok and doesn't need a man money. Infact she told me how much she paid weekly which is very decent with free accommodation and feeding.

We just started dating not up to 3weeks and this lady have been making demands which I find very childish and too disgraceful for an adult working.
She always complaining of money despite earning above minimum wage weekly.

This morning she called and i didn't pick........I chatted her up and she telling me her cream have finished and i replied hmmmm.
This a pattern have noticed with most working class ladies have dated......they tell you am an independent woman during wooing stage but once relationship start it just seems they are working and not earning with the way they demand and still be pressuring you with marriage talks.

(just want to know if am the only experiencing this or is just normal)

Note: this the fourth time this lady is demanding from me in 3 weeks and they are embarrassing to me for someone who earns.

ednut1:
it’s funny that women earning same salary as you in the same company mostly dont see men as their equal and tag you broke. They believe their class is the senior managers and other ogas. 5 years later when they clock 32 they will now be trying to get back with you🤣