anochuko01:
Exactly what I'm experiencing with a babe now. Fumbled alot about being independent but wouldn't stop talking about her needs.

Once you call her, there's no end to how badly she needs money.

The last one that broke me was her telling me that her mum requested money from her to buy a refrigerator. You're a student for God's sake!!

Fiscus105:



You too trying to be complaining about Naija economy with lady u re dating, let ur wailing louder than them, let them know how things are not rossy for you at work , infact , be telling them if u see someone to borrow you money that u will appreciate.


Nobody sees ATM during Tinubu time and turns it down oo.


Many of u guys lack basics displined how to go out with woman in term of reckless spending. To make the matter worst you might not be only guy entering her small shop.

MMempire:
Nigerian girls and billing are like 5 and 6.

NonAIWriting:
You will send away all the good wife life is sending in your direction. A man must provide, stop these macho mentality.

Godoverevery:
Note- this not a post to bash ladies.

A pattern I noticed with most working class ladies have dated from 27yrs old upward.
At the earliest stage, they claim to be tired of relationship, they are fine without a man.
They are doing fine without a man and in fact if not for pressure they don't mind not getting married...(mostly lies)

They say am financially ok without a man, i bought my phone, paid house rent etc without any man and i can never depend on any man hence why they can never be liability since they are working..(mostly lies)

Most claim to be doing fine during the wooing stage but immediately we start dating things turn out differently from what they claim.

Am dating a lady currently who works for a fashion house on the island...During the wooing stage we actually spoke alot for about 2 months and she claimed to be financially ok and doesn't need a man money. Infact she told me how much she paid weekly which is very decent with free accommodation and feeding.

We just started dating not up to 3weeks and this lady have been making demands which I find very childish and too disgraceful for an adult working.
She always complaining of money despite earning above minimum wage weekly.

This morning she called and i didn't pick........I chatted her up and she telling me her cream have finished and i replied hmmmm.
This a pattern have noticed with most working class ladies have dated......they tell you am an independent woman during wooing stage but once relationship start it just seems they are working and not earning with the way they demand and still be pressuring you with marriage talks.

(just want to know if am the only experiencing this or is just normal)

Note: this the fourth time this lady is demanding from me in 3 weeks and they are embarrassing to me for someone who earns.

Tallesty1:
"..........What can we do?"



I don't know why I'm impressed with this her approach.

Gadafii:
She even said “what can WE do” 🤣😅😅

My bro tell her to buy Vaseline and as for her contributions, make she borrow money from loan apps whe they pay her at place if work make she pay loan app back

Then disengage from that relationship asap

FRANCISTOWN:

You never shee anything.
You go Chee chomchin

luminouz:

Lol, see this one.

Dem go bill you taya. Which nonsense Alpha you dey claim?

FRANCISTOWN:

You never shee anything.
You go Chee chomchin

Kaido:

Truly, vaseline is ideal. We don enter harmattan

pansophist:


This is where the saying that ''actions speak louder than words'' becomes applicable. Financial assistance in a relationship, especially a young relationship should be discretionary, not dutiful.

Although if I were him, I would grant some of her requests, and observe. But I won't grant requests that are continuous in nature such as her body creme, transport fare, or recharge card.

I will also try to determine if it is a ''one-way'' relationship, by also asking her for requests, not necessarily financial, and see if she would grant it. All these might span within a period of three months maximum.

Then I will decide if she is worth repairing, or worth dumping. A relationship should be a place where you help the other person grow, so before dumping, I will try to see if she is teachable.

I will tell her that to me, she is the broke man she habitually avoids. It might even happen that she would be the one to break off since what she came into the relationship for is not coming.

All in all, every relationship should be based on truism, honesty, and communication.

Skyview01:


She can also buy ude aki

Not too expensive!

Jewessgratitud3:
The mistake she made was to date a Nairalander.

What she asked for is not too much especially if you're sleeping with her. Men outside Nairaland do it and don't see it as anything

Biko make we hear word. If another man give her now you go call am hookup girl.

DonBenny77:
I won't marry a lady that can't afford her body cream.
Most ladies do contribution without earnings from any job.
Pure magic!

Godoverevery:
Note- this not a post to bash ladies.

A pattern I noticed with most working class ladies have dated from 27yrs old upward.
At the earliest stage, they claim to be tired of relationship, they are fine without a man.
They are doing fine without a man and in fact if not for pressure they don't mind not getting married...(mostly lies)

They say am financially ok without a man, i bought my phone, paid house rent etc without any man and i can never depend on any man hence why they can never be liability since they are working..(mostly lies)

Most claim to be doing fine during the wooing stage but immediately we start dating things turn out differently from what they claim.

Am dating a lady currently who works for a fashion house on the island...During the wooing stage we actually spoke alot for about 2 months and she claimed to be financially ok and doesn't need a man money. Infact she told me how much she paid weekly which is very decent with free accommodation and feeding.

We just started dating not up to 3weeks and this lady have been making demands which I find very childish and too disgraceful for an adult working.
She always complaining of money despite earning above minimum wage weekly.

This morning she called and i didn't pick........I chatted her up and she telling me her cream have finished and i replied hmmmm.
This a pattern have noticed with most working class ladies have dated......they tell you am an independent woman during wooing stage but once relationship start it just seems they are working and not earning with the way they demand and still be pressuring you with marriage talks.

(just want to know if am the only experiencing this or is just normal)

Note: this the fourth time this lady is demanding from me in 3 weeks and they are embarrassing to me for someone who earns.

Kaido:

One almost billed me this night, but she couldn't. I was even persistent & even encouraged her but she no fit.

She knows my reply gon be "No"

eniolorunfe:
Not up to 3 weeks relationship and you’re already her “Ademi” … That title doesn’t come cheap you know

Sparrk007:
All women are the same.

Know this and know peace.

NonAIWriting:
You will send away all the good wife life is sending in your direction. A man must provide, stop these macho mentality.

Evolutionism:


I experienced a scenario similar to yours recently. But the difference is she is an ENP and still look sultry. She has also rendered some help to me. Too sweet for such age. This is someone who dress posh and lives comfortably.

The reason why i responded to her billings was that she Respect me a lot and she didn't even billed me directly and has never billed me. I just noticed her countenance when she visited me and i asked what's wrong. All she was saying was i'm okay. Meanwhile, Initially she informed me she was having a rough time.

I willingly did what i can to put smile on her face. She is just all over me and wants to advance things between us. Na me just dey calm her down. Very sweet lady.

If you are an entitled beech, I won't even look at your face talkless of having a convo with you. Most importantly, I don't do broke bitches. I usually maintain a very long distance from broke entitled eediots these day.

Gerrard59:
The truth is: men are naturally the spenders in a relationship. Due to women's hypergamy, they gravitate towards men who have more money than they (women) do. Most men would/do not have a problem with this. However, when women exhibit traits of Ndi feminism and macho-ness in themselves, it becomes an issue. You cannot be displaying traits of masculinity as a woman, yet demand/desire feminine treatment. It does not work that way.

So, how was she coping with her beauty and bathing products before you both started dating? That said, I am yet to see the benefits in getting into a relationship, at least in Nigeria. Honestly, from your chats and responses, what benefit do you get? I am yet to see one.

Magnoliaa:
You must be the male version of Mercy chen at this point.


Na only una don date all the people for this life finish.

Karleb:


He gets to say "I get babe"

Gerrard59:


No be say I dey criticise men wey dey date, but I am yet to see the financial benefit or any benefit whatsoever. He is now spending for two whereas before, he was spending for one. To what end? No be Nigerian men dey faithful sef, they still chook neck and preek outside. So, what is the gain in having a girlfriend?

Gerrard59:


No be say I dey criticise men wey dey date, but I am yet to see the financial benefit or any benefit whatsoever. He is now spending for two whereas before, he was spending for one. To what end? No be Nigerian men dey faithful sef, they still chook neck and preek outside. So, what is the gain in having a girlfriend?