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Statistically money causes quarrels a lot in marriage. It starts from how you manage yourselves and relationships at the beginning.

To be alive costs money. Don't play with the course of money as it encompasses your whole life.

Mixing love and money without understanding them will cause explosion.

Talk to each other to know what each other's dreams are and agree.

Do an exercise asking - if you get 100 million what will you and your wife do?

Now Answer these questions
1. Top 3 things you do when money is given to you?

2. Who does the money belong to in a marriage? Husband, wife or both of you?

3. In a home, who determines how money is spent in the family?

4. If for any reason the other parties income stops, what would you do for that person?

Would you; (a) Give them money? (b) Wait to be asked? (c) Spend your own together? (d) Give them a monthly allowance?

5. What's your view on how your partner spends money?

6. Who is more financially prudent in your relationship?

7. While dating, who pays the bills? When you get married who should pay them?

8. When you are to give away money who decides where it should be given, who to give, and how much?

9. Do you want to have a joint account? (Hint: if there's no joint account, there should be joint accountability in your marriage)

The answer to all the questions above is that you and your partner must be on the same page regarding all of them.

Pick someone that has good financial habits from the beginning

Mindsets
#1 God is my source - don't marry someone because you think that they are the key to your financial breakthrough (Romans 10:12). Aim to be rich yourself

#2 Every human being must work - God blesses the works of our hands. Both male and female should work (business, employee, self-employed or investor). 2Thess 3:10. Don't go into marriage with the mindset that someone else will pay all your bills and you will just relax. You are expected to bring something to the table. Don't have an entitlement mentality.

A woman that can't pay her own bills and transportation shouldn't be thinking of marriage.

If you are acquired like furniture, you will be treated like furniture in the marriage. How many men when going out of the house tell their chair that they will be right back?

#3 Not only men should provide in the family - it's not biblical, but more cultural, to think that men should be the main provider in the house.

Nowadays, men and women are working and a woman may even be earning more than a man.

Thinking men should be the main provider is what is leading to marriage crashing in societies where there is a lot of equality.

A woman needs to know how to make money as well to prevent dependency, and crisis if the marriage ends due to death or some other reason.

#4 Finances in marriage is not 50:50 - having the mindset that it is will make you become resentful after a while.

It should be done by love not by law, it is about generosity not responsibility (nobody falls in love with their business partner).

You should be struggling to give to each other. This applies to every area including sex, prayer, etc.

Both parties should bring 100:100 and 2 are better than 1 but when one falls the other helps them up.

What husband and wife should be tussling about in a marriage is what who should do for who not what who should receive from who.

Once you start dividing things issues will come up

#5 Marriage is a covenant Gen2:24 - nothing should separate you. No more my in the marriage but our own.

If you can't trust someone with your money it means you can't trust them with your life.

#6 When it comes to finances you must be responsible - don't be a wasteful person or a deadweight in the relationship.

Don't be lazy, if you lose your job as the man or woman, be useful in some other ways (market runs, school runs, cooking, cleaning).

Everybody needs to be responsible as the habit you are forming now will affect you in marriage.

#7 Whoever is more financially prudent should manage the family finances

#8 Be on the same page about your financial goals

How to deal with a financially reckless partner

- If you are dating, know you can and should walk away if things don't change after communicating with them

- Pray for wisdom about the situation and that the person will be receptive to your concerns

- Have conversations about it. Don't make the conversation emotional. Confront lovingly, don't attack the person.

- Protect yourself by saving a portion of the money you both earn. Have an emergency savings fund.

- If the account is a joint one, put it as both to sign not either to sign.

- Make sure you plan your income, don't leave idle money around.

- Put aside flexing money for them.

- Be assertive in putting your foot down to decline unreasonable requests but do so respectfully

- Make sure you start correcting the faults you are seeing in your partner, in your children, so they don't repeat same when older.

- Demonstrate the benefits of good financial habits to your partner

- War never proves who is right only who is left. Fight not to win the argument but to win the agreement.

Which mindsets do you have

How you think about money is crucial

Number 3 is a table shaker

Get your finances in order with your partner and the union will have a good chance

Which of these mindsets is difficult to agree with

Women need to understand that they also have a financial part to play in any relationship

Good points

Have the right mindset to avoid issues such as the current one trending virally globally

Get the right mindset before getting a partner

Persephone1:

Hope it helps

Wisdom is required

Money causes so many arguments. This should not be so with enough knowledge and planning

Happy Sunday

Cash is king

Couples need to know these things during these unique times we find ourselves in

How are you coping as a couple in these austere times?

Highly necessary to agree with your partner during these times we are in

Money controls a lot

Love EACHOTHER (@ least 50% from both side)
MATURITY IN WAY OF UNDERSTANDING.
MONEY.

The must come from as listed above.

anointedlinks:
Number 3 is a table shaker

Table shaker how?,....I guess u re not be delusion about what people saying on social media or boyfriend/girlfriend of a thing.
We are talking of Marriage proper.

Go and do ur findings very well, 95% of home today are joint spending on their family ok.

Infact, in many homes wives contributing higher.

They suppose wipe this man oraimo cord

Fiscus105:
Table shaker how?,....I guess u re not be delusion about what people saying on social media or boyfriend/girlfriend of a thing.
We are talking of Marriage proper.

Go and do ur findings very well, 95% of home today are joint spending on their family ok.

Infact, in many homes wives contributing higher.

In the sense that despite your assertions (which are true by the way), a very large segment of society does not see it as normal in any way