Moving this story for the third time because of people misinterpreting it to mean me missing out in life or envying the other party hence defeating the purpose for which I created it in the first place which is for the younger ones to learn and understand their environments by observing the movement and behavior of people around them and know when to retract. Therefore, I'll keep posting and reposting to achieve my original purpose for this post.
Please nobody should tell me what to post

As usual, I'm unburdening my heart of yet another life's experience that shook me and almost made me lose my sanity and relationship with some men of God due to church politics in marriage affairs . Hmmm... Let me quickly put this out there. I do not regret my actions and how everything went at the end of the day..

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Disclaimer
No one should come here and judge the pastors or even me because I'm not making this post out of regrets or because I'm pained they are now in Yankee like someone down there is already making it seem. Please I'm in good terms with my pastors and still respect everyone involved. So this is not to spite or bring anyone down. Every one acted according to their level of understanding, concerns for their party and emotions then and I do not blame them for this neither is my story intended in any way for that.

Those who have been reading my stories already know by now that I do this ( share my story) all the time just for the fun of it and it has become a ritual for me. Its purpose is to entertain you and not to stir up any negative vibes or reactions. So you either read to lurn one or two and move on or close the post at this juncture to protect your sanity.

A quick throw back about this pastor from the very beginning.
Some time In 2007, we were attending a small parish then. One day a very tall, fair and young handsome pastor visited our Parish and was introduced by our parish pastor as a youth pastor who just finished his service then haven returned from Yankee. All the young girls were admiring the pastor Including me. I was like, how I wish this kind of person would come for me but then I waved it off and said even if he wants to go for any one he would go for those older sisters then cos me I was still very young. He left and I forgot about him.

I didn't get to see him again until I became a worker and started going for programs at our other parishes where he was and other places where we all go to minister. When i saw him again, he looked different. He no longer looked fresh like that time he just came from Yankee. Then I had already erased the thought of him from my head.

In 2014, when I met my last ex, we were assembled in my pastors office after workers prayers one day when she said with excitement, you! we are going to tie big gele this year for your wedding and everyone shouted yay!!!.. I was just looking at her confused because at first I didn't know it was me she was talking to. So I said me? She said yes you!... 😕. Immediately one sister rushed in and said who's that? And the pastor said don't worry. I wasn't excited because I didn't understand what was going on.

Another scenario that got me confused was what my former parish pastor did ( the one that introduced the youth pastor seven years ago). I went for a program in his Parish ( because he was no longer in my parish) and greeted him as usual, this man just frowned and walked past me. He didn't reply my greeting. I was worried but then I shrugged it off. I didn't know what was going on.


Now, take note of this two scenarios. Where the lady rushed in asking who they were cheering in the pastors office and my former pastor that stopped replying my greetings. Wil be making reference to them in the course of my narration and also explain how the female pastor hyping me got wind of the news that made her do what she did. Meanwhile all these happened around October, November.

December came and around December period, pastors are usually transferred. So the female pastor that was hyping me that they will tie my gele was transferred and another one ( Igbo man) who was like a father to me came in. One day he called me and asked if he can he give my number to someone? I thought it was for a job. I said who? He asked me if I've been praying for a life partner.. I said mmmm... He then said, somebody ask him to give him my number that should he go ahead? I said ok. Then I asked him, hope you're not the one recommending me o. He no. That the person came and told him he wants me. I said ok, are you sure it me because we are twins o.. he now said are you not sister so so so?... That he specifically told him the slim one in the choir. I said ok, give him the number.

That evening my phone rang and immediately I heard his American accent, I said haaaa... This guy! He said do you know who's speaking ? I said pastor so so. He laughed and we got talking. He said he would call again and hung up for that day.
Very early the next morning, his call woke me up. We talked again but the conversation was dry because he kept talking about Mandela. That was the year Mandela died. So he just kept talking about the death because as a pastor he was being careful about the things he was discussing with me. It was just boring and me I was like which one is Mandela story again? Wetin concern me and Mandela.?

I got to church and my pastor called me into his office and asked me how far? I told him I don't really fancy the guy. He tried convincing me that the guy is rich, he'll take car of me and all that. The wife came and told me, sister do you know what you're playing with? She now told me that many sisters have fought over this guy claiming they saw him in the dream but the pastor refused them to the point that some of the sisters left the church angrily. She said it was a big saga that year. I now told her what if I don't like him. She said I have to like him o. That some senior pastors even brought their own slots ( sister for him) but he turned them down. So I told her I would try and work on my feelings for him then I left. When I got home and was thinking through all my pastors wife told me about slots, it now occurred to me the pastor that stopped replying my greeting. ( The ones I highlighted earlier) was also recommending that sister that walked in and asked who they were cheering.

After they brought their slots and he refused. He went round to all the senior pastors and told them he has seen who he wants and mentioned my name, that was how the female pastor hyping me got to hear because she too was a senior pastor and my pastor at the time ( before she was transferred), so she was informed and aware of the new development. I think it was announced and discussed among them in a meeting because many of them knew about it and that was how that other male pastor got to know about it too and started giving me attitude. Chai the thing pained me ehn? I said in the house of God again? Not like I'm even into the pastor self. So the most Senior pastor among then now gave him the go ahead to meet my Parish pastor and start with the process.

We continued the courtship but it was the most boring courtship because as a pastor, you don't meet in secluded places alone. You only meet in church. You're not to be seen standing too close together. If he wants to give me anything, he'll go and drop it somewhere and tell me to go and pick it there.

One day we attended a program in that angry pastors parish. The youth pastor came and stood near me and was talking to me. This pastor was now passing and squeezed his face like someone who drank lemon. I greeted him, he ignored me. Yay! 😂 😂. I just laughed.

I wasnt feeling this pastor guy because the bond was not there due to our mode of meet up. meanwhile I was bonding seriously with my ex. That one that will carry me on his back and be running on the street and we'll be laughing like jackass. . I just felt no need wasting the pastors time and one day I texted him that I'm no longer interested in this whole thing that he should look for another sister. Though he too was acting stingy that Christmas period after giving him a list of what I needed, he kept posting me today, tomorrow and time for me to travel with the things was getting closer, Christmas was fast approaching and I didn't want Xmas to meet me in Lagos. I now said person wen I no even like self come dey bobo. It was my ex that went and borrowed that money and gave to me to travel. So I sent him the message. my ex was so happy about the news of breaking up with him when I told him after he gave me the money for my travel expenses.

One week after I texted him, news went round and all the youths came after me. Why did you call off the courtship? Bla bla bla.... Every day my ears dey full. They we're now saying they would follow me to go and see that person that made tell pastor off bla bla bla Until I started shunning them and blasting them back to keep off before then leave me o. I was so shocked how everyone got to know about it.

One month after we called it off we went for a program as usual. My twin just returned from a trip then. So we went together. Where we were sitted, the youth pastor came and sat in front of us. my twin now told me that she saw that pastor and his wife pushing that sister ( the ones I talked about earlier) to go and sit near the youth pastor, as she did, the pastor now came and sat in front of us. My twin was now saying this guy still likes you o. I just shunned her and went and stood outside. As I was still watching the drama, the pastors wife gave the lady eyes again saying go and sit near him. Immediately the lady went and sat beside the pastor, he stood up and came and stood beside me where I was standing at the corridor. he looked at me and greeted me. I answered for the second and went downstairs out of sight away from the annoying drama. I just shook my head at the both of them ( pastor and the wife. I made myself scarce for a while and stopped going for programs where he would be.

Las las sha, na the sister he later marry and they both relocated to America.

That was my first experience of church politics. Don't know if anyone has had a Similar experience or experienced church politics as a whole..
Share if you don't mind.

Politics is played everywhere and the church is not an exception.
At least you followed your heart

garriAndsugar:
Politics is played everywhere and the church is not an exception.
At least you followed your heart

Lol.. the heart is overrated in matters of choosing a life partner.. always use your brains, not the heart..
She would be married now if she had used her brain, not her heart.
These story seems like the theme is "regret" and not "church politics" as she earlier said..

Humans are the same everywhere. You didn't handle the situation very well.I'm sure your parent or ur senior elders are not aware of the situation. You shouldn't have lost that golden opportunity, u threw it away urself.If i were a girl ,i would look at so many factors to choose a guy.The guy is well doing, he somehow have the fear of God and his character is moderate for him to be a youth leader.But i wonder wat sone girls think and start saying i dont just have feeling for this guy A or guy B without good reason. Love is more than just catching feelings. Anyways as u reject the guy,he must definitely moves on.So nobody do you any dirty but as i no know u,he still pain me for u.Make una no dey use catching of feelings decides who una wan settle with.May God gives u another opportunity.

Jewessgratitud3:
Moving this story for the third time because of people misinterpreting it to mean me missing out in life or envying the other party hence defeating the purpose for which I created it in the first place which is for the younger ones to learn and understand their environments by observing the movement and behavior of people around them and know when to retract. Therefore, I'll keep posting and reposting to achieve my original purpose for this post.
Please nobody should tell me what to post

As usual, I'm unburdening my heart of yet another life's experience that shook me and almost made me lose my sanity and relationship with some men of God due to church politics in marriage affairs . Hmmm... Let me quickly put this out there. I do not regret my actions and how everything went at the end of the day..

[b][/b]
A quick throw back about this pastor from the very beginning.
Some time In 2007, we were attending a small parish then. One day a very tall, fair and young handsome pastor visited our Parish and was introduced by our parish pastor as a youth pastor who just finished his service then haven returned from Yankee. All the young girls were admiring the pastor Including me. I was like, how I wish this kind of person would come for me but then I waved it off and said even if he wants to go for any one he would go for those older sisters then cos me I was still very young. He left and I forgot about him.

I didn't get to see him again until I became a worker and started going for programs at our other parishes where he was and other places where we all go to minister. When i saw him again, he looked different. He no longer looked fresh like that time he just came from Yankee. Then I had already erased the thought of him from my head.

In 2014, when I met my last ex, we were assembled in my pastors office after workers prayers one day when she said with excitement, you! we are going to tie big gele this year for your wedding and everyone shouted yay!!!.. I was just looking at her confused because at first I didn't know it was me she was talking to. So I said me? She said yes you!... 😕. Immediately one sister rushed in and said who's that? And the pastor said don't worry. I wasn't excited because I didn't understand what was going on.

Another scenario that got me confused was what my former parish pastor did ( the one that introduced the youth pastor seven years ago). I went for a program in his Parish ( because he was no longer in my parish) and greeted him as usual, this man just frowned and walked past me. He didn't reply my greeting. I was worried but then I shrugged it off. I didn't know what was going on.


Now, take note of this two scenarios. Where the lady rushed in asking who they were cheering in the pastors office and my former pastor that stopped replying my greetings. Wil be making reference to them in the course of my narration and also explain how the female pastor hyping me got wind of the news that made her do what she did. Meanwhile all these happened around October, November.

December came and around December period, pastors are usually transferred. So the female pastor that was hyping me that they will tie my gele was transferred and another one ( Igbo man) who was like a father to me came in. One day he called me and asked if he can he give my number to someone? I thought it was for a job. I said who? He asked me if I've been praying for a life partner.. I said mmmm... He then said, somebody ask him to give him my number that should he go ahead? I said ok. Then I asked him, hope you're not the one recommending me o. He no. That the person came and told him he wants me. I said ok, are you sure it me because we are twins o.. he now said are you not sister so so so?... That he specifically told him the slim one in the choir. I said ok, give him the number.

That evening my phone rang and immediately I heard his American accent, I said haaaa... This guy! He said do you know who's speaking ? I said pastor so so. He laughed and we got talking. He said he would call again and hung up for that day.
Very early the next morning, his call woke me up. We talked again but the conversation was dry because he kept talking about Mandela. That was the year Mandela died. So he just kept talking about the death because as a pastor he was being careful about the things he was discussing with me. It was just boring and me I was like which one is Mandela story again? Wetin concern me and Mandela.?

I got to church and my pastor called me into his office and asked me how far? I told him I don't really fancy the guy. He tried convincing me that the guy is rich, he'll take car of me and all that. The wife came and told me, sister do you know what you're playing with? She now told me that many sisters have fought over this guy claiming they saw him in the dream but the pastor refused them to the point that some of the sisters left the church angrily. She said it was a big saga that year. I now told her what if I don't like him. She said I have to like him o. That some senior pastors even brought their own slots ( sister for him) but he turned them down. So I told her I would try and work on my feelings for him then I left. When I got home and was thinking through all my pastors wife told me about slots, it now occurred to me the pastor that stopped replying my greeting. ( The ones I highlighted earlier) was also recommending that sister that walked in and asked who they were cheering.

After they brought their slots and he refused. He went round to all the senior pastors and told them he has seen who he wants and mentioned my name, that was how the female pastor hyping me got to hear because she too was a senior pastor and my pastor at the time ( before she was transferred), so she was informed and aware of the new development. I think it was announced and discussed among them in a meeting because many of them knew about it and that was how that other male pastor got to know about it too and started giving me attitude. Chai the thing pained me ehn? I said in the house of God again? Not like I'm even into the pastor self. So the most Senior pastor among then now gave him the go ahead to meet my Parish pastor and start with the process.

We continued the courtship but it was the most boring courtship because as a pastor, you don't meet in secluded places alone. You only meet in church. You're not to be seen standing too close together. If he wants to give me anything, he'll go and drop it somewhere and tell me to go and pick it there.

One day we attended a program in that angry pastors parish. The youth pastor came and stood near me and was talking to me. This pastor was now passing and squeezed his face like someone who drank lemon. I greeted him, he ignored me. Yay! 😂 😂. I just laughed.

I wasnt feeling this pastor guy because the bond was not there due to our mode of meet up. meanwhile I was bonding seriously with my ex. That one that will carry me on his back and be running on the street and we'll be laughing like jackass. . I just felt no need wasting the pastors time and one day I texted him that I'm no longer interested in this whole thing that he should look for another sister. Though he too was acting stingy that Christmas period after giving him a list of what I needed, he kept posting me today, tomorrow and time for me to travel with the things was getting closer, Christmas was fast approaching and I didn't want Xmas to meet me in Lagos. I now said person wen I no even like self come dey bobo. It was my ex that went and borrowed that money and gave to me to travel. So I sent him the message. my ex was so happy about the news of breaking up with him when I told him after he gave me the money for my travel expenses.

One week after I texted him, news went round and all the youths came after me. Why did you call off the courtship? Bla bla bla.... Every day my ears dey full. They we're now saying they would follow me to go and see that person that made tell pastor off bla bla bla Until I started shunning them and blasting them back to keep off before then leave me o. I was so shocked how everyone got to know about it.

One month after we called it off we went for a program as usual. My twin just returned from a trip then. So we went together. Where we were sitted, the youth pastor came and sat in front of us. my twin now told me that she saw that pastor and his wife pushing that sister ( the ones I talked about earlier) to go and sit near the youth pastor, as she did, the pastor now came and sat in front of us. My twin was now saying this guy still likes you o. I just shunned her and went and stood outside. As I was still watching the drama, the pastors wife gave the lady eyes again saying go and sit near him. Immediately the lady went and sat beside the pastor, he stood up and came and stood beside me where I was standing at the corridor. he looked at me and greeted me. I answered for the second and went downstairs out of sight away from the annoying drama. I just shook my head at the both of them ( pastor and the wife. I made myself scarce for a while and stopped going for programs where he would be.

Las las sha, na the sister he later marry and they both relocated to America.

That was my first experience of church politics. Don't know if anyone has had a Similar experience or experienced church politics as a whole..
Share if you don't mind.

Geesanni:
Humans are the same everywhere. You didn't handle the situation very well.I'm sure your parent or ur senior elders are not aware of the situation. You shouldn't have lost that golden opportunity, u threw it away urself.If i were a girl ,i would look at so many factors to choose a guy.The guy is well doing, he somehow have the fear of God and his character is moderate for him to be a youth leader.But i wonder wat sone girls think and start saying i dont just have feeling for this guy A or guy B without good reason. Love is more than just catching feelings. Anyways as u reject the guy,he must definitely moves on.So nobody do you any dirty but as i no know u,he still pain me for u.Make una no dey use catching of feelings decides who una wan settle with.May God gives u another opportunity.

You people are not getting it.. maybe because of the caption I used for this story that is why everyone is seeing it as a lamentation story. I'did love the pastor and there was no way I could have agreed to marry him. So I don't see it as missing any golden opportunity. Huh!

I don't know why I suddenly felt the urge to put this particular story out this period. I don't know if its because everything happened around this same December period some 9 Years ago but definitely not due to regrets cos me I moved on the very day I texted him.

Anyways thanks for your input and words of encouragement.

Coldplay007:


Lol.. the heart is overrated in matters of choosing a life partner.. always use your brains, not the heart..
She would be married now if she had used her brain, not her heart.
These story seems like the theme is "regret" and not "church politics" has she earlier said..

Me regret?
Ok

I don't know how to convince or argue with narrow minded people. So stick to your opinion.

Jewessgratitud3:


Me regret?
Ok

I don't know how to convince or argue with narrow minded people. So stick to your opinion.

This is exactly the problem. Regrets would mean you already identified the reason why you have such disappointments and you are ready to make amends.

Coldplay007:


This is exactly the problem. Regrets would mean you already identified the reason why you have such disappointments and you are ready to make amends.

Na me you wan explain "regret" give for this old abi?
Na wa!

Summary.


A young pastor asked you out. You rejected him because you weren't feeling him.

He moved on married another sister and They relocated To america. And Here you are writIng long epistle.

You Didnt fancy him but you gave him list of Things You needed.

You are not regretting but you have written long epistle for the third time.

Madam there is nothing like church politics here, yes the pastors made recommendations, its normal but he chose you.

Yes he chose you out of so many other sisters that were recommended,But you weren't Into him. He moved on.

I dont know why women hate to see us move on.
You ask them out, they act like they aint interested you move on they start acting funny, you continue chasing them they see you as fool.

Its over a decade now. Possibly he has grown up kids.

Xup your ex you went back to.


Madam learn the lessons. Be smart next time. Get your priorities right.

Nobody is interested in this crap story.

Jewessgratitud3:
Moving this story for the third time because of people misinterpreting it to mean me missing out in life or envying the other party hence defeating the purpose for which I created it in the first place which is for the younger ones to learn and understand their environments by observing the movement and behavior of people around them and know when to retract. Therefore, I'll keep posting and reposting to achieve my original purpose for this post.
Please nobody should tell me what to post

As usual, I'm unburdening my heart of yet another life's experience that shook me and almost made me lose my sanity and relationship with some men of God due to church politics in marriage affairs . Hmmm... Let me quickly put this out there. I do not regret my actions and how everything went at the end of the day..

[b][/b]
A quick throw back about this pastor from the very beginning.
Some time In 2007, we were attending a small parish then. One day a very tall, fair and young handsome pastor visited our Parish and was introduced by our parish pastor as a youth pastor who just finished his service then haven returned from Yankee. All the young girls were admiring the pastor Including me. I was like, how I wish this kind of person would come for me but then I waved it off and said even if he wants to go for any one he would go for those older sisters then cos me I was still very young. He left and I forgot about him.

I didn't get to see him again until I became a worker and started going for programs at our other parishes where he was and other places where we all go to minister. When i saw him again, he looked different. He no longer looked fresh like that time he just came from Yankee. Then I had already erased the thought of him from my head.

In 2014, when I met my last ex, we were assembled in my pastors office after workers prayers one day when she said with excitement, you! we are going to tie big gele this year for your wedding and everyone shouted yay!!!.. I was just looking at her confused because at first I didn't know it was me she was talking to. So I said me? She said yes you!... 😕. Immediately one sister rushed in and said who's that? And the pastor said don't worry. I wasn't excited because I didn't understand what was going on.

Another scenario that got me confused was what my former parish pastor did ( the one that introduced the youth pastor seven years ago). I went for a program in his Parish ( because he was no longer in my parish) and greeted him as usual, this man just frowned and walked past me. He didn't reply my greeting. I was worried but then I shrugged it off. I didn't know what was going on.


Now, take note of this two scenarios. Where the lady rushed in asking who they were cheering in the pastors office and my former pastor that stopped replying my greetings. Wil be making reference to them in the course of my narration and also explain how the female pastor hyping me got wind of the news that made her do what she did. Meanwhile all these happened around October, November.

December came and around December period, pastors are usually transferred. So the female pastor that was hyping me that they will tie my gele was transferred and another one ( Igbo man) who was like a father to me came in. One day he called me and asked if he can he give my number to someone? I thought it was for a job. I said who? He asked me if I've been praying for a life partner.. I said mmmm... He then said, somebody ask him to give him my number that should he go ahead? I said ok. Then I asked him, hope you're not the one recommending me o. He no. That the person came and told him he wants me. I said ok, are you sure it me because we are twins o.. he now said are you not sister so so so?... That he specifically told him the slim one in the choir. I said ok, give him the number.

That evening my phone rang and immediately I heard his American accent, I said haaaa... This guy! He said do you know who's speaking ? I said pastor so so. He laughed and we got talking. He said he would call again and hung up for that day.
Very early the next morning, his call woke me up. We talked again but the conversation was dry because he kept talking about Mandela. That was the year Mandela died. So he just kept talking about the death because as a pastor he was being careful about the things he was discussing with me. It was just boring and me I was like which one is Mandela story again? Wetin concern me and Mandela.?

I got to church and my pastor called me into his office and asked me how far? I told him I don't really fancy the guy. He tried convincing me that the guy is rich, he'll take car of me and all that. The wife came and told me, sister do you know what you're playing with? She now told me that many sisters have fought over this guy claiming they saw him in the dream but the pastor refused them to the point that some of the sisters left the church angrily. She said it was a big saga that year. I now told her what if I don't like him. She said I have to like him o. That some senior pastors even brought their own slots ( sister for him) but he turned them down. So I told her I would try and work on my feelings for him then I left. When I got home and was thinking through all my pastors wife told me about slots, it now occurred to me the pastor that stopped replying my greeting. ( The ones I highlighted earlier) was also recommending that sister that walked in and asked who they were cheering.

After they brought their slots and he refused. He went round to all the senior pastors and told them he has seen who he wants and mentioned my name, that was how the female pastor hyping me got to hear because she too was a senior pastor and my pastor at the time ( before she was transferred), so she was informed and aware of the new development. I think it was announced and discussed among them in a meeting because many of them knew about it and that was how that other male pastor got to know about it too and started giving me attitude. Chai the thing pained me ehn? I said in the house of God again? Not like I'm even into the pastor self. So the most Senior pastor among then now gave him the go ahead to meet my Parish pastor and start with the process.

We continued the courtship but it was the most boring courtship because as a pastor, you don't meet in secluded places alone. You only meet in church. You're not to be seen standing too close together. If he wants to give me anything, he'll go and drop it somewhere and tell me to go and pick it there.

One day we attended a program in that angry pastors parish. The youth pastor came and stood near me and was talking to me. This pastor was now passing and squeezed his face like someone who drank lemon. I greeted him, he ignored me. Yay! 😂 😂. I just laughed.

I wasnt feeling this pastor guy because the bond was not there due to our mode of meet up. meanwhile I was bonding seriously with my ex. That one that will carry me on his back and be running on the street and we'll be laughing like jackass. . I just felt no need wasting the pastors time and one day I texted him that I'm no longer interested in this whole thing that he should look for another sister. Though he too was acting stingy that Christmas period after giving him a list of what I needed, he kept posting me today, tomorrow and time for me to travel with the things was getting closer, Christmas was fast approaching and I didn't want Xmas to meet me in Lagos. I now said person wen I no even like self come dey bobo. It was my ex that went and borrowed that money and gave to me to travel. So I sent him the message. my ex was so happy about the news of breaking up with him when I told him after he gave me the money for my travel expenses.

One week after I texted him, news went round and all the youths came after me. Why did you call off the courtship? Bla bla bla.... Every day my ears dey full. They we're now saying they would follow me to go and see that person that made tell pastor off bla bla bla Until I started shunning them and blasting them back to keep off before then leave me o. I was so shocked how everyone got to know about it.

One month after we called it off we went for a program as usual. My twin just returned from a trip then. So we went together. Where we were sitted, the youth pastor came and sat in front of us. my twin now told me that she saw that pastor and his wife pushing that sister ( the ones I talked about earlier) to go and sit near the youth pastor, as she did, the pastor now came and sat in front of us. My twin was now saying this guy still likes you o. I just shunned her and went and stood outside. As I was still watching the drama, the pastors wife gave the lady eyes again saying go and sit near him. Immediately the lady went and sat beside the pastor, he stood up and came and stood beside me where I was standing at the corridor. he looked at me and greeted me. I answered for the second and went downstairs out of sight away from the annoying drama. I just shook my head at the both of them ( pastor and the wife. I made myself scarce for a while and stopped going for programs where he would be.

Las las sha, na the sister he later marry and they both relocated to America.

That was my first experience of church politics. Don't know if anyone has had a Similar experience or experienced church politics as a whole..
Share if you don't mind.

You used to sing in the choir, right?
I believe you attend church.
While I am not here to castigate anyone, can you tell me what gave you the moral justification for this:

Though he too was acting stingy that Christmas period after giving him a list of what I needed....

You knew you did not like this guy, why give him a list of items you want to travel with?

The people you're taking those items on your list to would praise you, while you in turn will call the guy "mumu pastor."

Also, the guy not buying whatever you have on the list does not make him stingy. You even confirmed he married the other lady and they travelled abroad together.

In my opinion, I see the guy had a better use for his money.

tundebasic:
You used to sing in the choir, right?
I believe you attend church.
While I am not here to castigate anyone, can you tell me what gave you the moral justification for this:

Though he too was acting stingy that Christmas period after giving him a list of what I needed....

You knew you did not like this guy, why give him a list of items you want to travel with?

The people you're taking those items on your list to would praise you, while you in turn will call the guy "mumu pastor."

Also, the guy not buying whatever you have on the list does not make him stingy. You even confirmed he married the other lady and they travelled abroad together.

In my opinion, I see the guy had a better use for his money.

What's all these ones saying? Before won't be get married after I rejected him? Or what exactly are you crying about?

Biko excuse me.

Jewessgratitud3:


What's all these ones saying? Before won't be get married after I rejected him? Or what exactly are you crying about?

Biko excuse me.

I'm not referring to how you rejected him. I'm only letting you see that the guy was boxed up enough to spend money on his marriage and travel, you confirmed he was not broke.

So, he wasn't stingy. He only wanted to be sure where he's putting his money.

Next time, don't use a list of items you want a man to purchase for you to determine your likeness for him.

tundebasic:

I'm not referring to how you rejected him. I'm only letting you see that the guy was boxed up enough to spend money on his marriage and travel, you confirmed he was not broke.

So, he wasn't stingy. He only wanted to be sure where he's putting his money.

Next time, don't use a list of items you want a man to purchase for you to determine your likeness for him.

Determine whether I like him? Abeg how old are you?
Did you not understand from the word go I said I didn't like him or which part did you not understand?

Go and learn comprehension skills. Until then stop reading my posts.

Thank you

Jewessgratitud3:



Determine whether I like him? Abeg how old are you?
Did you not understand from the word go I said I didn't like him or which part did you not understand?

Go and learn comprehension skills. Until then stop reading my posts.

Thank you

Okay, I hear you. But, we are still saying the same thing. I think you are the one who needs to sharpen her comprehension skills.

You don't like a guy, but you can give him a list that mandates him to give you gifts/material things? You've not even told him you don't like him yet?!

Don't do that again. It's not christianly. Bye.

tundebasic:
Okay, I hear you. But, we are still saying the same thing. I think you are the one who needs to sharpen her comprehension skills.

You don't like a guy, but you can give him a list that mandates him to give you gifts/material things? You've not even told him you don't like him yet?!

Don't do that again. It's not christianly. Bye.

Still not making sense

And this lady is now in her forties and still single, the ex that she was in love with has long dumped her, while the pastor is happily married to the other lady. Menopause is just around the corner. No child. And should I add that fertility greatly diminishes when a woman's menopause is near. 😢

What a story of massive regrets. I just like the way the Op is sharing the regrets in her life so that young ladies can learn. You won't be young, fresh and beautiful for long.

You would be proud, arrogant and conceited, cos you feel you're fresh and beautiful, but once that beauty and freshness is gone on account of you becoming old, no man would look your way anymore, except maybe widowers in their 70s. Then you'd start regretting why you were too selective and cocky when different men were coming for your hand in marriage.

Pity. 🥺