WilsonBright935:


Pray you don't fall victim chief


UK laws, policies etc are crazier than you think.

joebeckz:
Firstly, no amount of magic will give you paper next year. You don't need to exaggerate to get quick solutions cos we have good knowledge of student pathways even for In-demand professions. Except you are switching Visa type to COS or it's like. That being said.

You should double your efforts to make more money at the moment.
Your wife can't do anything now cos the hours she is getting for work won't sustain her should she chase you out of the UK.
She needs you at the moment to survive UK bills but might have plans to deal with you when the time is right. Therefore do not relent also.
Save for that time.
Look for a pathway that will make you independent.
Look for good direct streams of COS.


MUST DO
Get a USA visa
Get a Canadian visa
Get other visas. (NOTE You will be granted these tourist visas easily from UK cos of your status)

Why do you need these Visas?
You will need them should the need arise.
If she decides kicks you out.
Fall back to Canada or USA via student route or other pathways.
All you need to do is fly into these countries with your visa, look for a school and apply for a certificate program of one year and and migrate legitimately using the various streams available for students.
Therefore do these things quietly.
Your kids deserve to have a father who can still send them stuff and stay alive.


Most importantly, Don't forget to be a good husband to your wife. Women are not always the issue.
Some women have seen shege from Nigerian men and when they get to societies that have their interest at heart. The quest for revenge sets in.

OP.
WERE YOU A GOOD HUSBAND BACK IN NIGERIA?

Notfogotten:



So let me lay low for the next 7 months.

Addme:

How many likes can I give this?

jaxxy:
I think men need to know how to address their displeasure with their partners without being offensive or escalating the issues.

How hard is it to have a civil conversation with ur partner or better yet a woman who bore u 3kids?

Why are u afraid she may send u out of the house in future just after a month of joining her?

Most of this is due to ineffective communication skills and then we allow the issue to fester and resentment to grow.

NwaliE01:


May God no allow you stay with a woman abroad that keeps a boyfriend that affords all that she needs that you wouldn't meet.
Some of this women have insaturable quest for an easy life abroad. They don't need you to be evil before kicking one out. Anytime they notice you will block their chances of getting what they want, e don be for you.

May we never meet such evil women. I am abroad, I know what I am saying.

Notfogotten:



So let me lay low for the next 7 months.

Notfogotten:
Please I have a question to ask.

I don't want to go into details so my partner doesn't trace this to me.

My partner came to UK before me, though still on student visa. I joined her with my 3 children one months ago.

I have noticed some red flags which never happened while we where in Nigeria and I was footing the bills alone.

Each red flag, I pretend nothing happened because I don't want to be thrown out like the man I read about on social media.

My visa is dependent on hers and we are still on student visa.

My question, in the event that we get papers to stay permanently in UK and one day she decides to send me packing or I decide move out, will I be asked to return to Nigeria because she is the main applicant?

Please I need urgent answers. I may not play the fool for long. We are very certain of getting papers next year.

drlateef:





Until you get a permanent visa, you are tied together for the 5-10 years depending on the rout your visa extension takes. If you don’t want to be served a poisonous breakfast, better look for alternatives sharp sharp. Look for another woman and if possible impregnate her. If your partner serves you divorce, quickly arrange another marriage with the person. Make sure the other woman has permanent visa or citizenship. Otherwise your visa will cease to be valid and only you will be deported.

Idaytesj29:


Your Mumu is very exemplary. For your mind now , you don help OP.

NwaliE01:


May God no allow you stay with a woman abroad that keeps a boyfriend that affords all that she needs that you wouldn't meet.
Some of this women have insaturable quest for an easy life abroad. They don't need you to be evil before kicking one out. Anytime they notice you will block their chances of getting what they want, e don be for you.

May we never meet such evil women. I am abroad, I know what I am saying.

jaxxy:
I think men need to know how to address their displeasure with their partners without being offensive or escalating the issues.

How hard is it to have a civil conversation with ur partner or better yet a woman who bore u 3kids?

Why are u afraid she may send u out of the house in future just after a month of joining her?


Most of this is due to ineffective communication skills and then we allow the issue to fester and resentment to grow.

luminouz:

You don't love that husband biko. You had to have conversations with the man you married for naija...for what? You married an abusive man or what? Unless you married him from the UK and una never date for naija.

I thank my stars for the redpill. A nurse who got sponsored visa moved heaven and hell to marry me and kept dangling 'i will take you to the UK' before me. I refused and told her NO. She is rude, classless and lousy. Someone who abused her own mother in front of me won't change when she gets to the UK. And I am no woman's bîtch. She is still single as we speak and I am onto better things.

The point is, if you can't be submissive to your husband even while in the UK and expect him to do what's right by you, that marriage has failed already.

Thastie:


One of the failed students of Ubunja.
You have an anger addiction and you are not enlightened. What married folks do not have conversations time to time? What married people do not have ongoing issues or new ones that they need to talk about?
You don’t know the context of the conversation I had with MY OWN husband before and when I traveled so we won’t be among the statistics of people who got here and divorced and you’re here spewing nonsense.

Why’s that women start acting like they don’t need a man when they start earning


Well, I have always had money. I have never been in a relationship where I wasn’t earning more or equally. It’s not only men that make money in Naija, that narrative needs to stop

Amumaigwe:


Discussing suspicion of infidelity with his wife will send him out of the house quicker than a wink. You cannot bust a woman's illicit affair and expect your life to remain the same.

godwon01:
You have got a better chance to live in the UK. Don't worry, God will take control. It might not be what you thought of her.

BloomingDale:


As if the man hold body for Nigeria. Abeg make we hear word. Gossiping like a market woman.

ValCon888:
I'm interested in the red flags, please do tell.
It's possible that you left her totô like a stream.

But when you got to the UK it was wider than the Atlantic ocean and deeper than the Kola Superdeep Borehole.

DaddyJapan:


Are you sure you read his question at all?



Once he gets his ILR, his continued stay in the UK would no longer be contingent on his wife's status.


Source: https://www.wardhadaway.com/insights/updates/divorce-immigration-does-divorce-affect-your-right-to-remain-in-the-uk

Notfogotten:



So let me lay low for the next 7 months.

Ahmed0336:
I was discussing with my wife the other day and she brought the issue of relocating.
I told her I don't have plans to leave so she can go ahead. But as for the kids, they'd definitely leave this country when the time is right.
No be me woman go show shege for another man's land

luminouz:

Exactly why I quoted you. You are high on your own octane. No woman who married her husband with love will ever need to 'seriously talk with my husband before bringing him to the UK' it shows your pride and ego, telling us you brought him ON YOUR OWN TERMS and even after being in the UK, you still are having issues. Shioor.

Exactly why I also posted my story of the nurse. You are both sisters!!

Thastie:


I actually wanted to put context to the “concerns” but like my husband had told me before we were married “Never discuss our issues with family or friends, whatever we going through and we can’t resolve it between us then that means there’s no solution “


Not to talk of you a known nonentity on here. You lack insight plus intelligence. To just assume that things are black and white and put label on situations or just a version of what you read shows you do not understand how relationships or the world work.

I’m not interested in engaging you. You’re not worth it. Direct your preconceived anger towards women elsewhere

adieora:
The answer is no, however you won't be getting PR in the next 5 to 7years because she is on a student visa. She has to get a work/care visa to be eligible for PR which takes about 5 years to get. If you are concerned, you should aim to get a care worker or a skilled worker visa,that way you are independent of her visa.

Notfogotten:


When I say we are getting permanent resident status, I mean it.

It's a done deal. By August next year, I will snap it and post it here.

Good to know that I won't be deported aftw4 the papers.
Na to lay low like tortoise

Notfogotten:
Please I have a question to ask.

I don't want to go into details so my partner doesn't trace this to me.

My partner came to UK before me, though still on student visa. I joined her with my 3 children one months ago.

I have noticed some red flags which never happened while we where in Nigeria and I was footing the bills alone.

Each red flag, I pretend nothing happened because I don't want to be thrown out like the man I read about on social media.

My visa is dependent on hers and we are still on student visa.

My question, in the event that we get papers to stay permanently in UK and one day she decides to send me packing or I decide move out, will I be asked to return to Nigeria because she is the main applicant?

Please I need urgent answers. I may not play the fool for long. We are very certain of getting papers next year.

Notfogotten:
I purposely did not want to tell the whole story.

The woman in question is in this forum. She will decode its me if I do.

So when I say paper is coming, it is coming.

Notfogotten:
Please I have a question to ask.

I don't want to go into details so my partner doesn't trace this to me.

My partner came to UK before me, though still on student visa. I joined her with my 3 children one months ago.

I have noticed some red flags which never happened while we where in Nigeria and I was footing the bills alone.

Each red flag, I pretend nothing happened because I don't want to be thrown out like the man I read about on social media.

My visa is dependent on hers and we are still on student visa.

My question, in the event that we get papers to stay permanently in UK and one day she decides to send me packing or I decide move out, will I be asked to return to Nigeria because she is the main applicant?

Please I need urgent answers. I may not play the fool for long. We are very certain of getting papers next year.

chris51:



You will not be sent back but if it's based on domestic violence, you will be dealt with. Be very careful and live in harmony with your spouse.