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2) A woman that makes so much (and likely to be making even more in the future) would not be so desperate to stay with you, neither will her people[/quote]It depends some families still take marriage seriously

Or maybe the guy is really good in the other room

Old story
3rd time I am reading this same copy and paste story.

What is this old story doing here.

advanceDNA:
I never implied anything...u are the one saying what I didn't say and fallaciously claiming it's a male mentality.....


Becos u are too stingy to buy your own sanitary pad out of 600k plus ....how will u leave and start paying rent and bills?? Remember u are the most stingy person the world.??....u will rather take ur chances with the man u know will buy it after forgiving you for ur years of stingyness.....

Even if he doesn't buy the pads and everything...he will still pay rent and other major bills, so u will still save ur money u don't want to spend in the first place

*Politeness*
You implied she can't find another man with the circled below.
Once again, he'd now be thinking of that my 700K salary and at same time seeing me as a liar and monitoring. I will never be DESPERATE for such. A woman with money and her children is never desperate for a man!

Jeon:
Copy and paste .

Remember men hate women doing better than them.
She did well.
And if she was me, I will continue to do it.


Trust me you did make her to be a shadow of herself and lavishing -carrying sidechivks with the money if she did open up about it .

You're such a disgruntled element, sorry to say. At least sometimes you have to pretend and stand by the truth, okay.

Dagger111:
In 2016 she told me her salary was N35,000. And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only N8,000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. N654,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. Her father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?”
I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked him, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”

My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Lastly she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money.
She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all.
She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a separation for a period, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions.

What will you do if you are in my position and feeling deeply hurt??

Some women are like that.they cannot detach with their family n make a new one.u like housemate to her while her parents dem na her true family.its really bad that she could do all this without telling u.she can plan ur funeral 2 years n ahead n u will never know.i cannot advice u to leave her this is a marriage.Bt wat i can advice is take charge.. take ur place as d man of d house n stop being mr Nice guy .Anything she wanna do wit her salary fem henceforth should be approved by u.Continue to pay rent n schl fees as thats ur number 1 responsibility as a man...no let am contribute for that one bt she has to chip in somehow.

I've read this sob story before.

PoliteActivist:
*Politeness*
You implied she can't find another man with the circled below.
Once again, he'd now be thinking of that my 700K salary and at same time seeing me as a liar and monitoring. I will never be DESPERATE for such. A woman with money and her children is never desperate for a man!

I didn't imply anything.....u are the one jumping into conclusions.....
Breaking up will definitely lead to doing it all alone for a while....even if she will find a man later to start parasitizing...


U are speaking from an assuming point ...I am speaking from the context of this very woman....who is a very dangerously stingy woman ....a stingy woman with all the mone in the world, that cant even buy her own sanitary pad will always need a man to parasitize......

Dagger111

First and foremost, thank you for writing in good English and with proper paragraphing! This is refreshing.

You do have a right to be angry. Any man would.

Anyway, no matter what you do, behave like our heavenly father and "chastise only to the proper degree." Do not throw the baby out with the bathwater.

The fact she's asking if you want a divorce indicates she wants the marriage to succeed and might be ready to pay the price for its success.

PoliteActivist:
*Politeness*
Your story sounds authentic but for two things (we know most stories on NL are either embellished or totally made up!):

1) You forgot to say she took offense and formed great outrage that you read her emails
2) A woman that makes so much (and likely to be making even more in the future) would not be so desperate to stay with you, neither will her people

She is the one who offended him. If it was a case of adultery, what you said is true. This on the other hand is the case of a man ready to go overboard to please his wife.

If she leaves, the stingy wife will now be eating into her own money. No more husband to sponge off. She will be the loser, not him

advanceDNA:
First time I saw it....i laugh tire ..

Sharp wife......
Na the man mumu....

He cannot say he didn't see it coming.... Woman that will behave like this will never give u a gift or do team player things with u while dating...the signs are always there....men just ignore and settle for wet pvssy......

marriage ehnnn!.....If you allow love blind your eyes make u nor see red flag.....marriage go open am sharpally

There's a lady I knew when I used to live in Alausa.

This woman can't even spend N50 as dash to her friend's gifts. Extremely stingy

grandstar:
There's a lady I knew when I used to live in Alausa.

This woman can't even spend N50 as dash to her friend's gifts. Extremely stingy

From dating stage....woman wey nor fit buy ordinary bread, or something she knows u like when coming.....collect transport fare for coming and also when going back, never offer to give u the smallest gift....

on her birthday she collect..
On ur birthday, she still collect..
.baba...na werey be that

advanceDNA:
From dating stage....woman wey nor fit buy ordinary bread, or something she knows u like when coming.....collect transport fare for coming and also when going back, never offer to give u the smallest gift....

on her birthday she collect..
On ur birthday, she still collect..
.baba...na werey be that

Thr morning shows the day.

Beware of partners that can’t love you with their money.

That to buy the smallest of things for you from their money is a problem.

I can imagine the guy carrying the whole operating expense of the house on his head, and the woman never thought to ease his burden for even a day.

Inshort just marry your help-mate.

These of set of girls that just want a man to carry heavy load on his head alone, better be preparing for 2050 shiloh. Men are beginning to wise-up

advanceDNA:
From dating stage....woman wey nor fit buy ordinary bread, or something she knows u like when coming.....collect transport fare for coming and also when going back, never offer to give u the smallest gift....

Sadly this is a red flag most people ignore in their partners.

advanceDNA:
I didn't imply anything.....u are the one jumping into conclusions.....
Breaking up will definitely lead to doing it all alone for a while....even if she will find a man later to start parasitizing...


U are speaking from an assuming point ...I am speaking from the context of this very woman....who is a very dangerously stingy woman ....a stingy woman with all the mone in the world, that cant even buy her own sanitary pad will always need a man to parasitize......

*Politeness*
Lol you are ridiculously stubborn😆. If you say someone will be doing it all alone - it immediately implies she'd not be able to get another helper.
Also, remember, a break-up does not absolve the husband of his responsibilities towards his children.
As for always need a man, this particular man now knows everything, plus has a grudge!

Dagger111:
In 2016 she told me her salary was N35,000. And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only N8,000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. N654,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. Her father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?”
I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked him, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”

My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Lastly she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money.
She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all.
She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a separation for a period, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions.

What will you do if you are in my position and feeling deeply hurt??

its not your story..this is an old story dating back over 3 years.. Nigerians and plagiarism.Learn to quote the original source.

Dagger111:
In 2016 she told me her salary was N35,000. And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only N8,000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. N654,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. Her father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?”
I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked him, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”

My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Lastly she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money.
She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all.
She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a separation for a period, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions.

What will you do if you are in my position and feeling deeply hurt??

You've handled things fairly maturely. You've done well!

From your narration, it's quite clear that your wife and her family has gotten the message. For her parents and brother to have come over to your place to plead with you kinda indicates they really respect you and see you truly as a son-in-law.

Also, considering that your wife too has started adjusting and making changes, it appears she respects and loved you. Not many women who can cater for their own needs would be that humble and sober! It seems she is a good woman who was just influenced to do the things she did. She didn't know the gravity of it...

I think you've starved her your attention enough (that's why she's asking if you'd leave her). Don't let that issue destroy your marriage.

What you can do now is to engage her in a heart-to-heart conversation of how much that revelation breached your trust for her. Let her know you love her, but you are just so hurt! Also forgive her. You both can resolve to not hide anything from each other again... I believe your marriage can get better and your love deeper.

gabbrri:
what your wife did was very bad but still better than her cheating on you... life is indeed a mystery

I just love Nairalander’s

Vinnie2000:
When it comes to Income in Marriage, Deception/Secrecy is the name of the Game for women.

When u Marry, Be Expecting ur Wife to reveal her Salary or true earnings to you.

REAL men mind their Business and don't try to ask or Investigate.

U are probably still a child. When u start earning well and dealing with matured ladies who earn too and not ur usual gimme gimme hoes u will wisen up. For now enjoy and bask in ur ignorance boy!

gabbrri:
what your wife did was very bad but still better than her cheating on you... life is indeed a mystery

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jumokeadele:
i've read this story before , what's going on here

I was about to comment same.

If she is willing to change then give it time and see how it goes from there. Don't be so ready to throw your marriage away. Set some new ground rules but do not forget that you are still a man. Providing food, clothing and shelter for your family is still your responsibility. She was obviously misguided and has a very deep mind. Watch and see how her father will handle the matter and then you will know just how deep the conspiracy is and how to proceed.

How any times will I read this same story on Nairaland??

ednut1:
Read this story 6 years ago Biko

So it is even up to 6 years? I sha know I have read this story on this forum several times in slightly different variations over the years.

Dagger111:
Go to court and file a suit on behalf of the Author.

You can't shame the shameless. Copy copy ole

grandstar:
Dagger111

First and foremost, thank you for writing in good English and with proper paragraphing! This is refreshing.

You do have a right to be angry. Any man would.

Anyway, no matter what you do, behave like our heavenly father and "chastise only to the proper degree." Do not throw the baby out with the bathwater.

The fact she's asking if you want a divorce indicates she wants the marriage to succeed and might be ready to pay the price for its success.

He plagiarized someone else's story

Even if she was earning very little money and she gave you money to help with the car, why would you pay her back for a car that you both own?

You're both supposed to contribute to the marriage. Not just the husband. Your wife lied to you and hid her salary from you. If you're going to forgive her then only forgive her if she transfers 50% of her wages for the entire length of your relationship, to your name and if she puts your name on all the assets she bought during that time along with hers.

If she doesn't agree and you get divorced then speak to the judge about how she was hiding her income all these years and show them proof of her real wages. Judges don't like when one spouse hides their wealth from the other. You may be awarded a large porition of her income and property and may even be given alimony.

Before you do anything though, collect evidence. Her salary, the property she hid from you. Evidence of everything.

MSN1:
The way i run far away from dangerous women is out of this world.

One had the guts to use fake pregnacy to rope me 3 times, i just simply moved ahead amid her tears and a lot beggings
, she even sent more than 5 diff. people to beg me, but MY LIFE AND PEACE OF MIND IS NOT NEGOTIABLE.
There is nothing i fear in life more than women wahala.

I have been opportuned to experience VERY GOOD and BAD women and i must say;
Having a good woman by your side is the sweetest thing that can happen to a man and having a bad one means, you are DOOMED 4 d the rest of your life.

CHOOSING PARTNERS IS THE MOST SERIOUS BUSINESS FOR ADULTS.

Never underlook little things or red flags u can't cope with.

The upper cased words and the last paragraph is just golden..

birth100:
You're such a disgruntled element, sorry to say. At least sometimes you have to pretend and stand by the truth, okay.

am I the only one that scroll past that lady's without even trying to read a word ...


her typos sounds incoherent and it literally has me distorted ...


Una dey try oo

This is an old story.