you guys are the cause, from childhood you guys left him to act feminine now you want a miraculous change

Mayeldah:


Leave that matter, being born with some elements of feminine traits shouldn't make anyone think he is gay. There are men with no beards, there are ladies with hairy chests and so on. nature sometimes bring about these things.

The young guy is only pandering to this devilish gay thing because the society thought him so. Let him continue his life as a man and have a girl friend. His body will adjust as he grows.

Homosexuality is sin, it is an abomination here in Africa and the Nigerian laws forbids it

Keep your religious views to yourself law-abiding citizen.

santaclaws:


Everything you said about sexuality and nature is complete---🗑️!

IT IS AN ABNORMALITY FOR A BOY TO BEHAVE LIKE A GIRL AND MUST BE CORRECTED AT AN EARLY AGE...

Anybody with a brain knows that a boy with feminine characteristics or a girl with masculine characteristics does not automatically determine their sexuality. There are feminine men and masculine women that are completely heterosexual.

Also, i see no reason why you will try to force someone to be something other than themselves, other than to protect them from vicious acts of ignorant hypocrites pretending to be holier than the Jesus in public.

sonofthunder:



He's not gay, nobody is gay. Most so called Gays are hypocrites and beta simps. The rest were conditioned by their environment.

Let’s be realistic- they exist. Even as far back as 1999 when I was an undergrad at Unilag . A certain someone thought I was symPathetic when I defended him. Didn’t really understand what he was saying then but later realized.
A friend of mine who was effiminate drown in a pool all of a sudden.
You can say what it wants but most of the issue starts with the breakage of the family unit . The man runs away after 3 kids and leaving the mum to handle the family. The boy with no role model does the same things his sister does. The girls grow up seeking men love for sex.

You cannot do anything about it, support him and advice him about his safety, you cannot change a man's sexuality.

santaclaws:


What steps did you guys take to help him develop masculine traits as a child? You see a boy acting like a little girl, y'all should have made sure he did more manly things like playing sports with males and generally reminding him that he's a boy. You don't allow a boy play with dolls, it's very wrong.

It may be a bit late now but there is nothing God cannot do. You all just need to pray for him cos if he's already having gay intercourse, then it's a serious issue... Nevertheless, God can change anyone.

Most gay people are actually masculine, athletic or heavily built, many are family men, it changes nothing.

Scholace:
I guess you claimed only poverty can make a masculine guy indulge in gay right? And i said you're wrong

There are lots of masculine guys that are gays irrespective of their financial status.

Toor!

It is easy to just say something. So, give us other reasons masculine Naija kids will turn to gay.

sonofthunder:



It's not just the comment that's ignorant and immature. At least, 22 people have clicked like. The OP and parents especially didn't do anything to correct the poor behaviour in their child, now he's claiming he was born that way.


Same way thieves and rapists are born that way right?

Okay, hold on. The girl's comment is ignorant, yeah and the same can be said for yours.

Educate yourself on sexuality, it's obvious you know nothing about it.

Hathor5:


Keep your religious views to yourself law-abiding citizen.

Every same mind abhors it, not only religious people

It is only depraved minds like you that encourages it. If your parents towed that line, will you be here typing this?

Westerhoffe:



Deuteronomy 4 (KJV)
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¹⁵ Take ye therefore good heed unto yourselves; for ye saw no manner of similitude on the day that the LORD spake unto you in Horeb out of the midst of the fire:
¹⁶ Lest ye corrupt yourselves, and make you a graven image, the similitude of any figure, the likeness of male or female,
¹⁷ The likeness of any beast that is on the earth, the likeness of any winged fowl that flieth in the air,
¹⁸ The likeness of any thing that creepeth on the ground, the likeness of any fish that is in the waters beneath the earth:
¹⁹ And lest thou lift up thine eyes unto heaven, and when thou seest the sun, and the moon, and the stars, even all the host of heaven, shouldest be driven to worship them, and serve them , which the LORD thy God hath divided unto all nations under the whole heaven.
²⁰ But the LORD hath taken you, and brought you forth out of the iron furnace, even out of Egypt, to be unto him a people of inheritance, as ye are this day.

You need to throw that your corrupted version of the Bible into the fireplace.
And in response to your quoting Deuteronomy 32,

GOD said: Isaiah 56 (KJV)
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³ Neither let the son of the stranger, that hath joined himself to the LORD, speak, saying, The LORD hath utterly separated me from his people: neither let the eunuch say, Behold, I am a dry tree.

…
⁶ Also the sons of the stranger, that join themselves to the LORD, to serve him, and to love the name of the LORD, to be his servants, every one that keepeth the sabbath from polluting it, and taketh hold of my covenant;
⁷ Even them will I bring to my holy mountain, and make them joyful in my house of prayer: their burnt offerings and their sacrifices shall be accepted upon mine altar; for mine house shall be called an house of prayer for all people.

And then, JESUS CHRIST said:

Matthew 28 (KJV)
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¹⁸ And Jesus came and spake unto them, saying, All power is given unto me in heaven and in earth.
¹⁹ Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost:
²⁰ Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you alway, even unto the end of the world. Amen.

“And other sheep I have, which are not of this fold: them also I must bring, and they shall hear my voice; and there shall be one fold, and one shepherd.”
— John 10:16 (KJV)

And furthermore:

“And in that day there shall be a root of Jesse, which shall stand for an ensign of the people; to it shall the Gentiles seek: and his rest shall be glorious.”
— Isaiah 11:10 (KJV)

Na because of all this biblical arguments, that's why dem wan edit the bible

allthingsgood:


Anybody with a brain knows that a boy with feminine characteristics or a girl with masculine characteristics does not automatically determine their sexuality. There are feminine men and masculine women that are completely heterosexual.

Also, i see no reason why you will try to force someone to be something other than themselves, other than to protect them from vicious acts of ignorant hypocrites pretending to be holier than the Jesus in public.

Yea, typical. Adults who don't want their children to grow up as homosexuals are "hypocrites"... This is a very typical statement from groomers who want to mislead other people's kids.

If you give birth to yours, you can train them to be lesbians and homosexuals, your choice!

Scholace:
I hope you say this to those so called mysoginist men hating women?

Abi Your eye no dey see that one

Women have lost value by thinking they can compete with men in the society. You guys are just working hard to make yourselves less attractive by trying to act like men. Keep allowing the mainstream media distort your virtues

YourGFsnatcher:

Women have lost value by thinking they can compete with men in the society. You guys are just working hard to make yourselves less attractive by trying to act like men. Keep allowing the mainstream media distort your virtues

prove that women has lost value by keeping to yourself without asking any of them out. I will take you serious by then

Btw, i am a man not a woman.

Colson:
The hate campaign/misogyny against women wey we dey see all over nairaland, You no dey call out that one. Selective blindness.

So u want to compete with men in doing bad? Tht is where most women get it fvckd. You always want to compete with men in doing the wrong things. A man cheats, women are encouraging each other to also cheat, man wakes up late, women are encouraging each other to also wake up late. What the people that are deceiving you to beat your chests like men are not telling you is that men nd women have different value standards. Keep trying to be like men and watch how anytime u do it ur value keeps dropping. We are not the same. STOP COMPETING WITH MEN! Know your value and don't compare your value standard to that of a man

epainos:

Toor!

It is easy to just say something. So, give us other reasons masculine Naija kids will turn to gay.

most gays are masculine

Scholace:
Interesting

You even prefer someone to be notorious criminal like Yahoo Yahoo, armed robbery, kidnapper, ritualist, rapist et al than being gay

Show me where I said that? Abeg shift

Scholace:
prove that women has lost value by keeping to yourself without asking any of them out. I will take you serious by then

Great. Seems like we are about to have a reasonable conversation..

Have women gained maritial value or not? Looking at women from the past and the value they have before marriage, will you say that modern women that want to be like men have more marital values? Do you think modern women are more desirable by men with these attitudes than women in the past? Give your reasons

Mayeldah:


Every same mind abhors it, not only religious people

It is only depraved minds like you that encourages it. If your parents towed that line, will you be here typing this?

If my parents did, I wouldn`t be here to know. Logic.

Op. If I suggest this, I wonder if you would heed.

I suggest a very drastic therapy. Set him up to get loccked up under gun-threat with a female for like 2weeks.
There should also be constant supply of food.

If he has good sex with a female, I bet you he would get cleansed and reformatted to default settings.

MisterGrace:


Show me where I said that? Abeg shift

Why don't you prefer them over gay? If you prefer HIV over gay, then you should be able to chose those ones too over gay

Hathor5:


I am not woke since I have never been asleep. Good night!

U still dey disguise...

YourGFsnatcher:

Great. Seems like we are about to have a reasonable conversation..

Have women gained maritial value or not? Looking at women from the past and the value they have before marriage, will you say that modern women that want to be like men have more marital values? Do you think modern women are more desirable by men with these attitudes than women in the past? Give your reasons

You're just confusing yourself. Every Saturday wedding ceremony take place in Nigeria. Yet, people like you keep saying women has lost value. Be a priest, gay or practice chastity before anyone will take your view about women serious

nairamaniac:
Op. If I suggest this, I wonder if you would heed.

I suggest a very drastic therapy. Set him up to get loccked up under gun-threat with a female for like 2weeks.
There should also be constant supply of food.

If he has good sex with a female, I bet you he would get cleansed and reformatted to default settings.

how would he have sex with famale when he doesn't get attracted or arouse?

YourGFsnatcher:

So u want to compete with men in doing bad? Tht is where most women get it fvckd. You always want to compete with men in doing the wrong things. A man cheats, women are encouraging each other to also cheat, man wakes up late, women are encouraging each other to also wake up late. What the people that are deceiving you to beat your chests like men are not telling you is that men nd women have different value standards. Keep trying to be like men and watch how anytime u do it ur value keeps dropping. We are not the same. STOP COMPETING WITH MEN! Know your value and don't compare your value standard to that of a man

Lmao. Dumbass.. so in your pov, a man is allowed to be toxic and a woman not? A man is allowed is to be an idiot and a woman not? A man can be useless and a woman can't? You see how stupid you made yourself sound? You're creating morality standards differently for both genders to suit your narrative. If you like continue being atrocious all your life, when you eventually die, na Hell you go still land.

Ikanium:
He's my parents last child, he's 19 now. I feel he was born gay because right from when he was a child, he acts like a woman. He'll prefer to play with dolls, he'll tie wrapper all the time, we felt this was just a small kid thing and that he was going to change when he's all grown. Unfortunately for us, i think he's gay now completely. I'm just devasted right now really don't know how to go about this.

I returned home for Christmas last year i couldn't believe what i saw my brother doing. I have had a discussion with my parents we really don't know what to do right now.

Any advice in the right direction will help please. Thank you.

Please what did you SAW him doing?

We need to know, so we know how deep he has sunk into the system.

Scholace:
You're just confusing yourself. Every Saturday wedding ceremony take place in Nigeria. Yet, people like you keep saying women has lost value. Be a priest, gay or practice chastity before anyone will take your view about women serious

Your response doesn't even make sense. You just sound iike An angry lady who was forced to be a feminist due a bitter ex relationship.
Compared to the population how many people are getting married? U must be blind or deaf if u think men these days are motivated to get married. How can u even use one wedding In 7 Saturdays as a counter that men are happy with modern women? It's like saying Nigerians are richer now in current economy because a lot of people eat 3 time a day. Does it make sense to yoi? I thought u even had a strong argument rather than using Saturday weddings that men are happier with modern women. That's delusional

Badguy77:
What was he doing when you came back from the village.. Make una no dey write half half story abeg this one na new year.

Lol.. wetin u wan hear? 😂😂

Colson:
Lmao. Dumbass.. so in your pov, a man is allowed to be toxic and a woman not? A man is allowed is to be an idiot and a woman not? A man can be useless and a woman can't? You see how stupid you made yourself sound? You're creating morality standards differently for both genders to suit your narrative. If you like continue being atrocious all your life, when you eventually die, na Hell you go still land.

You stwwpi3d HO. I'm not the source of your anger. Your ex fvckd u and dumped u and want to hate every man ...we get that. But u cannot even read and understand because his cnt is still Blocking your head. Go fvck yourself. Na wonder you are not married and no wonder ur husband will keep degrading. You are so valueless. You lack manners and that says a lot about you. Small advice and truth and u turn it into a fight. Are u okay? Do I look like ur brothers? Don't come to me with your dumb, irritating, classless, wack and tacky attitude. It's nauseating to see a dumb girl

YourGFsnatcher:

You stwwpi3d HO. I'm not the source of your anger. Your ex fvckd u and dumped u and want to hate every man ...we get that. But u cannot even read and understand because his cnt is still Blocking your head. Go fvck yourself. Na wonder you are not married and no wonder ur husband will keep degrading. You are so valueless. You lack manners and that says a lot about you. Small advice and truth and u turn it into a fight. Are u okay? Do I look like ur brothers? Don't come to me with your dumb, irritating, classless, wack and tacky attitude. It's nauseating to see a dumb girl

Lol wahala 😂😂😂...

Henix:


U and ur parents noticed such traits in him during his childhood, yet U allowed him to grow up with the feminine traits. U couldn't correct him at early age, it's now that he is an adult and sexually active that u want to correct him. If you want to see his sexual activities, go check his WhatsApp and Facebook inbox.

There is nothing much you people can do now, other than teaching him abstinence and safe sex, before he gets infected with Hiv and other deadly diseases that are common in gay community.

Also try and draw him closer to God

Exactly it was his Facebook chats i saw. He sends naked photos of himself to other gaymen plus 80% of his friends are exactly the way he is.

Sonnobax15:

Wtf . Nyash man?

Una catch anybody wey dey wipe him nyash?

Chaiiii . Op,una fvck up cha......Cuz you guys should have tamed him earlier as a kid when you started noticing the gay traits in him .

Right now, E go hard to tame am . 19 years old gay na senior man now for the nyash wiping business

Scholace:
most gays are masculine

Wow! So, the reason a masculine gay kid turns to gay is that most gays are masculine. Wow! Wow!! Wow!!! Says you or from which statistics?

Oga! Masculine men and gay men are two parallel lines. You don't even know the characteristics of gay. Very funny. I don't even need to argue this. The gay gene they say has some opposite sex attributes...so how can masculine in men be gay? That's not gay. But that masculine guy is poking a man's anus or releasing his anus cos he wants money. Period. Being masculine as a kid means there is no gay gene. Get that into your head. Any masculine person in it is cos of sapa/greediness. Period!

What you need to do: prove beyond reasonable doubt that the gay gene is not having the opposite-sex trait. Guess what? You will have to go against scientists who say the gay gene is being like the opposite sex.

Oga, you no go kill me jare. Go better school oooo. How can you say masculine in males is gay?