honour7:
Stop flogging your female children in the name of love, that is how she will start associating love to brutality, and that is how domestic violence starts. I have met girls that if u don't beat them, they would say you don't love them this is how it starts.

And lastly why the f....ck are u hugging ur sister, we are Africans sha and such things are alien to us, no go allow devil use u

Your opinion sucks. Any woman that normalizes brutality from her man is sick and it has nothing to do with the beatings she received as a child.

And as for the OP hugging his sister, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. The one with the dirty mind here is you.

We4all:

Your opinion sucks. Any woman that normalizes brutality from her man is sick and it has nothing to do with the beatings she received as a child.

And as for the OP hugging his sister, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. The one with the dirty mind here is you.

I am just telling the Op to be careful, you can see from the write up were the Op said ' you know I love you that is the reason for the beating' he should be careful before before she starts associating beating with love. Women unlike men reason with their emotions/feelings not rationally.

U did well tough love is necessary

jaxxy:
U did well tough love is necessary

What amounts to direct assault is tough love?

DonBenny77:

You are a donkey, having read both threads what opinion do want to hear again.
Don't face your family problems keep having opinions on how others handle theirs.

And what are you doing on the thread? Oga, take out the log in your eyes first.

Kobojunkie:
What amounts to direct assault is tough love?

what is direct assault

jaxxy:
what is direct assault

jamesversion:

The parents have to be an exemplar to their kids, else the actions of the parents is inherently hypocritical.

It is expected that your child should look up to you for good. That is the basis.

I sabi Bible na. I repented when I was 12yrs old. I'm late 30s, e no easy sha as devil no dey gree, especially with women.

That's the summary, the reason why beating isn't the solution.

There's a place of education in the family. The child's chat posted shows she's very informed and no amount of beating will take away that information/knowledge she has. It is in their place to educate her on the ills of engaging in such acts while also trying to get her engaged in productive activities, and teaching her how to select her friends/acquaintances rightly.

didi100:

It seems like you did not read to the end.I know the kind of relationship I have with my sister that is why I told my mum let me do the flogging.I flogged her with my hand and use that same hand to hug her.She knows what she did was wrong and she deserve the flogging.This my sister was gisting with me not long ago.She knows I will never flog her over a slight issue.The swollen part was not necessary though but I got really angry.You can't blame me

Give your father his honour. Don't sweep this under the carpet. Get him informed.
Secondly, change his school to day school. I don't have the strength for explanation

Acidosis:
I will not support the idea of beating/flogging a child until her body gets swollen. Beating, of course, is necessary but not to that extent. If I were you, I'll apologise for going extreme. That way, she can trust you again. Moving on, learn to control your anger so you don't end up in prison.

For every other thing you've done, 👍

We talked about that

GboyegaD:


That's the summary, the reason why beating isn't the solution.

There's a place of education in the family. The child's chat posted shows she's very informed and no amount of beating will take away that information/knowledge she has. It is in their place to educate her on the ills of engaging in such acts while also trying to get her engaged in productive activities, and teaching her how to select her friends/acquaintances rightly.

I agree. We flog the iranu out of her first, and the educate her on these ills you have mentioned, liberally spicing it with brain resetting beating each time she forgets the education

jamesversion:


Dem suppose knack you 2x2 plank for your head.

Hahaha, 2by2 ke, no dull moment on nairaland, l agree with the Koboko flogging of the Op

Ishilove:

I agree. We flog the iranu out of her first, and the educate her on these ills you have mentioned, liberally spicing it with brain resetting beating each time she forgets the education

I'm not sure the beating works in this case. If it did, there wouldn't be teenage pregnancy like we experienced in our time.

You know the worst, they were impregnated by the broses that are shouting reset were responsible.

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