₦airaland Forum

MrCork:
So u don't like women? are u gay? Why are u gay sir?(no ooofencse)

Kipaji:
I don't have a ready-made solution. As men, we are problem-solvers. When we face a non-satisfying situation in life, we inquire and endeavor to bring solution. This can involve a lot of trial and errors, a lot of frustrations and failures. But it is part of the journey. Our journey as men to liberate ourselves from the fangs of lust. And such a challenge is quite exciting!

That said, here some of the key battles that must be won in this journey:

- Get rid of all lust-based addictions. This means eliminate porn addiction, sex addiction, voyeurism, addiction to sultry pictures online.

- Do not have pussy as the purpose behind our actions. Next time you want to do something, ask yourself: "why am I about to do this?" Is it to quench my lust? To impress females? To emulate what I believe women will like? Is that really why I am about to do this thing?
When you think like this, you will not find yourself scrolling on thirst traps on social media, you will not enter Nairaland trends that use sex to hook men up, you will not allow disrespect from anybody particularly from females. You will also be more discreet in life. You will realize that the reason why most men flaunt their success and achievements is to appeal to pussies. They hope women will see their riches and gravite towards them. I find that pathetic. Next time you want to post that car on your status, ask yourself: "what is real reason I want to do this thing?" In addition, you will be more reluctant to go to bars and nightclubs. The number 1 reason men go there is to get laid. These men are pussy-driven. Next time you think about going to a club/bar, ask yourself: "what is driving me there?" Will I allow that thing to have such a strong hold on me?

- Nourish your soul more than your flesh, so that your mind can stay harder than your penıs. We wake up every day and only thing about satisfying our carnal needs (food, sex, shelter, ...), when was the last time we seriously addressed our spiritual (bonds with ancestors, tradition and culture, spiritual checkup and revamp, our heart and soul, our place in the universe, ...), psychological needs (meditation, mindfulness, addressing past traumas, understanding our mind and improving it, ...)?
This may be one of the reasons why fasting is considered in many African cultures as a spiritual practice. We starve our flesh so as to not have it dominate our soul.

- Be yourself. Stay authentic. Never change for pussy. This is one of the principal reasons most men don't have real personalities these day. They don't want to be themselves, they want to be what they think will attract vagınas.
A prime example of this is the redpill. Redpill guys are trying to be what women will like. They are learning tips, techniques and tactics that will bring them lower to vagınas. But in doing so, they get farther from themselves and from God. These men have given up on their authentic personality and genuine masculinity to become "alphas", "bad boys", "jerks", "sigmas", "players", "thugs", "yahoo boys", all in the hope of getting more sex.
Who you are is more valuable than any pussy in this world. Always be yourself. Even if you have zero chicks always be yourself. Do not lose yourself trying to win some flesh.

- Design for yourself a life that is not centered around pussy. To do this, I believe that you have to understand yourself. Take the time to write your life story. Where do you come from (parents, village, tribe, background, childhood, adolescence, adulthood, key past experiences, ...)? Where are you know (what is the current state of your life—spiritual, mental, and physical health, finances, family, work, issues, current mindset, doubts and fears,... )? From here think deeply about where you want to go and how you want to live from now on. Also, think about the things that brought you the most joy in your life and include those in your life path. You don't want your kids' father to be just one of the many men who can't think beyond their flesh.



The list is not exhaustive. Like scientific researchers, we are constantly investigating the issue, testing ideas and refining solutions.

At the very least we try. I don't want to be a slave of lust. I don't care about how many men have gave up, I don't care about this society that pushes sex everywhere, I don't care about these disrespectful women that don't want us to be carnal-minded so that they can use us, I don't care about my own urges. I just refuse. And that's the bottom line.

Hardy123:
Your point is well noted but the question i ask is this, how does one quench the natural sexual urges without sex or masturbation? Because it's a nature and one can fight it unless you are castrated. That's my question, you just danced around the question.

Kipaji:
First of all, I commend you for acknowledging your situation. It is not easy to accept the truth like you did. And you know what? Acknowledging the problem is the first step of solving it.

The majority of men are in your situation.
I think that the reason why you feel empty and purposeless without lust may be that you never envisioned a life that is not driven by the pursuit of sex. A life that is motivated and nurtured by other things. Try to write some existential essay for yourself in which you explore and discuss the meaning of life. My post is one of such essays. I also dropped a few thoughts on my Monk thread.

Besides, I want to mention that sex is not bad. It was meant for men and women to enjoy, relax, bond and procreate. The problem comes in when it cripples you, dominate your mind, and direct your every little move.

Take food for example. Food is amazing. Without food we cannot live. But do you think about food 24/7? Do you make your life about the pursuit of food? Does food dictates your every thought, your every move? Does food determines your life aspiration? As much as we need food to survive, do you think that we were brought on this Earth just to eat food and then die? Clearly no.
Maybe start to see sex a little bit like food. It is a good thing that we can enjoy and procreate with, but ultimately it's not something to tailor our lives around, the same way we don't plan our life around food (and food is more important than sex).

Kipaji:
No, Luminouz. As you know, I used to be a redpiller myself. I know all the talking points of the redpill. I went through the whole of redpill forum many times, used to be an important contributor, read the pieces of guys like ubụnja, pansophıst, CaveAdulłam, Glycolysis, Capṣlock, heartofcıty12and even yourself.

But I eventually understood that the redpill is fake and, in a sense, female worship. Going Monk mode for five months and a half revealed that to me. And I left the movement.

Gudiza:
^^6. Exercise - This, especially intense workout sessions where your body begins to pain you literarily cures you of lust..

Rukevwe999:
monk mode itself is a tenet of the redpill/manosphere. You're just an highly evolved redpiller, that's all.

mekus15:
I also feel that one other way to handle sexual urges is to redirect our energy to something more worthwhile, like writing, arts, music, sports, setting up New goal and pursuing them, among others.

Kipaji:
Since the beginning of time, men have been handicapped by their overwhelming lust. Because of lust, men have been manipulated by women and society, lost their lives, sacrificied their masculinity, pulled away from God and their ancestors, messed their life up and never achieved their potential.

We see it every day in society. These men who walk like zombies with only vagına in their minds. These men whose entire life—studying, working, making money—is mostly aimed at fuckıng. Men who could have gone on to achieve their full potential but ended up miserable because of porn addiction, useless girlfriends, the pursuit of sex. Men who are baited by society and corporations with sex and fall right in the trap. Men who gave up on their masculinity and act like boys and criminals just to attract women. Men who sacrificied their true self and became "bad boys" just to make vagınas wet. Men who are mercilessly exploited by women because their penıs is harder than their mind. It is a sad picture.


But for how long are we going to accept defeat? For how long will lust dictate our lives? For how long will we be at the mercy of women's lust-based manipulation? For how long, men, are we not going to live our lives the way our mind intends? For how long are going to stay in the ranks of pussy-driven men? The struggle and pain we endure in this life is that all for cheap pussy? Is that the reason God keeps us alive? Is this what God put us on this Earth for? And our parents, is this why they parents sacrificed so much for us? Is this why our vailant ancestors fought for us? Is that the meaning of their sacrifice? Just a piece of flesh? Absolutely not!

It is up to us to give meaning to their sacrifices! God. Our ancestors. Our family. Our parents. All their effort were not for us being directed by lust and pussy. Our ancestors did not go through slavery for us to end up being slaves to lust and pussy. We are not raising our boys for them to become slaves to lust and flesh. Enough is enough!

As men we must embrace our manhood take back our power, and aim at higher things in this life.

Men, rise! Men, achieve! Men, free yourself!

Kipaji:
Since the beginning of time, men have been handicapped by their overwhelming lust. Because of lust, men have been manipulated by women and society, lost their lives, sacrificied their masculinity, pulled away from God and their ancestors, messed their life up and never achieved their potential.

We see it every day in society. These men who walk like zombies with only vagına in their minds. These men whose entire life—studying, working, making money—is mostly aimed at fuckıng. Men who could have gone on to achieve their full potential but ended up miserable because of porn addiction, useless girlfriends, the pursuit of sex. Men who are baited by society and corporations with sex and fall right in the trap. Men who gave up on their masculinity and act like boys and criminals just to attract women. Men who sacrificied their true self and became "bad boys" just to make vagınas wet. Men who are mercilessly exploited by women because their penıs is harder than their mind. It is a sad picture.


But for how long are we going to accept defeat? For how long will lust dictate our lives? For how long will we be at the mercy of women's lust-based manipulation? For how long, men, are we not going to live our lives the way our mind intends? For how long are going to stay in the ranks of pussy-driven men? The struggle and pain we endure in this life is that all for cheap pussy? Is that the reason God keeps us alive? Is this what God put us on this Earth for? And our parents, is this why they parents sacrificed so much for us? Is this why our vailant ancestors fought for us? Is that the meaning of their sacrifice? Just a piece of flesh? Absolutely not!

It is up to us to give meaning to their sacrifices! God. Our ancestors. Our family. Our parents. All their effort were not for us being directed by lust and pussy. Our ancestors did not go through slavery for us to end up being slaves to lust and pussy. We are not raising our boys for them to become slaves to lust and flesh. Enough is enough!

As men we must embrace our manhood take back our power, and aim at higher things in this life.

Men, rise! Men, achieve! Men, free yourself!