I am a single man and never been married before with no kids, but I met a lady on a particular singles group, and we started talk around last year august she is from Kogi state and I am from akwa Ibom State, but happens to be a disabled on wheel chair, this we have not seen before but I have talked with some of her family on phone via WhatsApp video call, but and she has also talked with some of my family too..but just my sisters cause my parents are late, but the issue now is this lady has been nice to me, I have to be honest here, she helped me financially not once nit twice, but now my sister are now telling me not to bring that kind of person to them o bla bla that when she starts having child how will she cope, how will she cook for me and do the house chores, so honestly i am really confused and I don't know how to tell her all this, because it will just be as if am taking advantage of her by collecting money from her.. please I just need your advice on what do.
Thank you

Sunnyrado:
I am a single man and never been married before with no kids, but I met a lady on a particular singles group, and we started talk around last year august she is from Kogi state and I am from akwa Ibom State, but happens to be a disabled on wheel chair, this we have not seen before but I have talked with some of her family on phone via WhatsApp video call, but and she has also talked with some of my family too..but just my sisters cause my parents are late, but the issue now is this lady has been nice to me, I have to be honest here, she helped me financially not once nit twice, but now my sister are now telling me not to bring that kind of person to them o bla bla that when she starts having child how will she cope, how will she cook for me and do the house chores, so honestly i am really confused and I don't know how to tell her all this, because it will just be as if am taking advantage of her by collecting money from her.. please I just need your advice on what do.
Thank you

Marry her if you love her.

Thank you....

Of course you took advantage of her condition knowing she's looking for a partner; that it will be difficult to find someone and your presence in her life will only lift her hopes of getting married and willing to pay you any amount to be her Mr right plus you going ahead to collect the money.

First of all, it's a shame to collect money from a woman especially one in that condition. As in.. to what end are you taking money from her?

Now you're confused but you weren't confused when you were collecting the money. If you really cared about her what your sisters think won't matter to you let alone making you confused.

Life is very very short abeg marry who makes you happy and who you love

Did you decide who your sisters married? Why decide for you

Peace of mind over everything....
If you feel she can give you that or gives you that, go ahead and be with her....kpere...

Op pls can I insult you first before I advice you?

Weirdo said "No Insults", NL over to una.
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We knew you will still beg her money again.



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muller101:
Op pls can I insult you first before I advice you?

Disable na him dey support abled body man with money

He needs 50 strokes of cane first.

Why repost on education section. Are you okay at all

DivinegiftofGod:
Of course you took advantage of her condition knowing she's looking for a partner; that it will be difficult to find someone and your presence in her life will only lift her hopes of getting married and willing to pay you any amount to be her Mr right plus you going ahead to collect the money.

First of all, it's a shame to collect money from a woman especially one in that condition. As in.. to what end are you taking money from her?

Now you're confused but you weren't confused when you were collecting the money. If you really cared about her what your sisters think won't matter to you let alone making you confused.

But it's cute for a woman to collect from a man
We don spoil our women finish

Sunnyrado:
I am a single man and never been married before with no kids, but I met a lady on a particular singles group, and we started talk around last year august she is from Kogi state and I am from akwa Ibom State, but happens to be a disabled on wheel chair, this we have not seen before but I have talked with some of her family on phone via WhatsApp video call, but and she has also talked with some of my family too..but just my sisters cause my parents are late, but the issue now is this lady has been nice to me, I have to be honest here, she helped me financially not once nit twice, but now my sister are now telling me not to bring that kind of person to them o bla bla that when she starts having child how will she cope, how will she cook for me and do the house chores, so honestly i am really confused and I don't know how to tell her all this, because it will just be as if am taking advantage of her by collecting money from her.. please I just need your advice on what do.
Thank you

Guy, calculate all the money she gave you and pay her.
Just don't talk anything about marriage with her.
Pls don't collect money from women in this part of the world as a lady pointed here, me too have learnt

If l tell u not to marry her now.... u will still go back nd beg her 4 money 💰....

If tell u wetin dey my nairaland.com will ban me 4 life ....

Naa waa ooo.... hearts of men re wicked

Me I no fit collect money from any woman Sha.

I'd rather go join union.

I think you are a silent crook.
Why didn't you seek for advice before collecting her money?
When you were collecting the money, your sisters didn't think to advice you against it, since they won't be accepting her?

Just get out, and leave the lady alone to find love in a human being.

marsup:
I think you are a silent crook.
Why didn't you seek for advice before collecting her money?
When you were collecting the money, your sisters didn't think to advice you against it, since they won't be accepting her?

Just get out, and leave the lady alone to find love in a human being.

Chai! There is God o!

He said no insults but this your own na both insults and outsults.

However, he deserves it because it appears he will rather go with what his sisters are saying to him. If he was not considering it he wouldn't have brought it here.

Chai , op you wicked no be small.

Upon that, you no come get shame at all at all... You open your mouth and ask a disabled woman on a wheelchair for financial support Ah!

Well, you don't give a dog bad name just to kill it. Address don pass letter... Go and pay her bride price if you know what is good for you.

I don hia

Sunnyrado:
I am a single man and never been married before with no kids, but I met a lady on a particular singles group, and we started talk around last year august she is from Kogi state and I am from akwa Ibom State, but happens to be a disabled on wheel chair, this we have not seen before but I have talked with some of her family on phone via WhatsApp video call, but and she has also talked with some of my family too..but just my sisters cause my parents are late, but the issue now is this lady has been nice to me, I have to be honest here, she helped me financially not once nit twice, but now my sister are now telling me not to bring that kind of person to them o bla bla that when she starts having child how will she cope, how will she cook for me and do the house chores, so honestly i am really confused and I don't know how to tell her all this, because it will just be as if am taking advantage of her by collecting money from her.. please I just need your advice on what do.
Thank you

You're what dey call efulefu... And I think it means a dubious and lazy person. How will you be collecting money from a woman who is disabled and expecting you to marry her meanwhile you have no such plans?

You're now deceiving yourself by trying to hide behind what your sisters are saying

Before you receive a curve that will damage your destiny permanently, carry pen and paper and calculate all the money you have received from her. Ask for her account number and send the total money to her.

Then the following day, explain that you don't have plans to marry her and you realised it was inappropriate to be receiving money from her.

You just a lazy fool though.

If u love her don't let anyone pressure u, marry her, peace of mind anytime any day, you self go live long, marry a problematic woman, you will not live long as God has destined, she go carry wahala kee u before your time

The only advice I've for you is that if you know you won't marry her pls refund all the money you collected from her bc isnt good to be unfair to disable person as well as a widow

You are not marrying for your sisters.

However, the only way I can advise you to go ahead and marry this angel God/life is sending your way in a "small pack" is only if you are willing, ready, and able to protect her from not just your sisters but everyone else who might want to abuse, dehumanize, or disrespect her.

My brother, (True) big things often come in small unrecognizable, or appealing forms/shapes/sizes.


Think this through in a deep way, and be sure your feelings and love for her are genuine and not from the material support she's been offering you so you don't end up getting entangled out of pity and start resenting her in the future.

If she send money to those your sisters dem no go get problem to chop am oh. Greedy, selfish, and discriminatory sisters you have.

To even think that they are acting this way towards a fellow woman makes it even more nauseating.

Do they really think and believe they have all their life fashioned out and immuned to any occurrences in the future that could land them even in a worse condition?

Person wey never live life finish no suppose to dey laugh or mock person wey get one eye because the person fit lose him own two eyes at a go within the blink of an eyelid.

Good luck with your decisions.

JOACHINpedro:

But it's cute for a woman to collect from a man
We don spoil our women finish

No mind them

Don't marry out of pity....

Werin Ur sisters talk na true...

No b u b d first guy to collect money from woman...

When you dey collect her money your sisters no advise you? Stop taking advantage of that lady, If you really love her you won't even start asking these kinda questions.