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Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by lacapine: 1:28am On Feb 27 |
Please house help me. My sister has been in a relationship with a guy for the past 10 years and the relationship is sexual. The boy is 37 while she is 34. The boy keeps claiming he doesn't have money to marry her, my sister will say why am I pushing marriage,will I give them money to sustain the home? I have called the guy and asked him questions and he said if I have 100k, I should give him, so they can marry. Abeg how do I handle this issue? My sister works but she is always broke. The guy is an artist who does art work but sales is poor. Not that I ever knew when sales was good. How should I handle it? 36 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by MrBrownJay1(m): 1:49am On Feb 27 |
lacapine: keep your money, as 100k is never gonna solve this problem, you will just lose your money! here is a simple clue: for 10 long years this man has been mounting your sista scott free, and subsequently this is solely a sexual r/ship. the day he finds what he is truly looking for in a woman, he will do the needful (but that woman definitely aint your sista). this man has NOTHING to prove to your sister/you or anyone out there. what is "getting married" gonna change to their lives?! is 100k gonna miraculously turn that sexual r/ship into a "lets get married and spend the rest of our lives together" type of r/ship?! better yet, your sista is always broke, that man is always broke too, and you think that giving them 100k to WASTE on some yeye wedding is the solution to their problem? as the saying goes:"why buy the cow when this dude's been getting the milk for free FOR 10 LONG YEARS? How should I handle it? your sister doesnt seem to mind, so why should you?! let them live the life they deserve for themselves, as they have more important issues to solve in their lives than "wedding" 208 Likes 11 Shares |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by PastorOlokonla: 2:20am On Feb 27 |
lacapine: You call a 37 year old dimkpa with a greying aji ike a boy? You, your sister and the "boy" are not serious! 235 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by libertyfather(m): 2:49am On Feb 27 |
breakfast coming soon, watch out!!! 33 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by Babamide(m): 2:55am On Feb 27 |
Your sister at 34 no get anywhere to go. Just pray the heartbreak does not kill her. 149 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by TheWinterBird(f): 3:34am On Feb 27 |
Your sister is a big, big fool. And the man (a 37-year old male is a man, not a boy; I hope you don't address him as "a boy" to his face because that's likely enabling him to continue being lazy) who had the audacity to ask you to give him 100k to marry her is a chronic loser and moocher. I wonder why you didn't chase him away with a stick after he said that. You seem like a mumu for a big brother. Moreover, if you say your sister works but she's always broke, it's likely because she's giving him money. You need to find a way to talk some sense into her frontal lobe so she can leave him before she wastes another 10-years with him and continues being his atm. She's still young at 34 and should leave him now but the decision is hers to make. 103 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by Caramia2020(m): 3:38am On Feb 27 |
The guy is a man while your sister is approaching evening newspaper, please I mean no offense. I pray the guy won't dump her after years of sexual relationship because at 34, your sister is now a woman not a girl anymore. Please keep your money. 50 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by Jewessgratitud3: 5:22am On Feb 27 |
Your sister is an adult and should know when to quit if a relationship is not leading anywhere. It's not you doing the calculations and taking decisions for her. If the man is not financially ready at that age it's a bit disturbing, and looking at her own age too it's not advisable to continue waiting for him because the way this economy is going I don't think he will even be encouraged to do anything now. So, If she sees another man who's ready in all ramification let her go. I'm not totally writing off her guy because anything can happen in just a twinkle of an eye but again, it may not happen so soon and your sisters age is climbing.. except she doesn't see who she likes because me na wetin still keep me at 42 I never see who I really like like my ex. I don't pray for hers to delay like mine. If after trying to talk her out of the relationship she doesn't listen, let her be. Dem no dey tell blind man say run don start.. 27 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by ValCon888: 5:25am On Feb 27 |
Your sister is broke and the "man" is always poor. Marriage is not an option for now, particularly in this present dispensation. On the flip side, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? That guy has been drinking your sister's milk and eating her bush meat for the past decade, I'm sure she has even done like five abortions in that period. Bottom line is, there is no incentive for him to marry your sister. 23 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by Yashita: 5:39am On Feb 27 |
lacapine: At 34, your sister is a grown @ss adult with a well developed brain and long life experiences. She has chosen her destiny, you should bother less about her and handle nothing about her. Even money, don’t give her/them. Let her work with her hands to survive. She’s not a kid. 19 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by mrblessed(m): 5:55am On Feb 27 |
Support your in-law-to-be if he merits it. Plus, age isn't on the side of your sis. 9 Likes |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by Gerrard59(m): 8:26am On Feb 27 |
Yashita: Finish! I was not trained to be responsible for another person's irresponsibility. I am not good at thinking for others. Everyone has a brain. It should be used just as I use mine. 24 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by AngelicBeing: 8:59am On Feb 27 |
Gerrard59: Gbamsulotely, and someone says that , God has given us brain 🧠 to think,so that we can allow him to rest, next news jare 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by Sirqt5(m): 9:39am On Feb 27 |
10 yrs ? . Imagine all d abortions . No wonder she no wan leave am , where will still start from after she don abort for him gazillion times on top givin him all her money . At dis point ur sister is wat's called placeholder. Eventually it go end in her getting dumped . He's jus fuckin her , na cum bucket she be while he's toasting another woman wit her money or searching for another woman he will marry 29 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by Bullfallo(m): 4:56pm On Feb 27 |
Is it that the marriage is the issue? Or the both of them cant just live together? They can assume the role of a marriage partner and planned together. It look like your sister doesn’t have any options and that’s why he is still with the guy. Forget about the marriage ceremony and if it bothered you so much advice they live together 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by Foodqueen(f): 5:09pm On Feb 27 |
Even if you give that guy that money, he won't plan any marriage with your sis. He would rather use it for something else, then wait for you to do your worse. Leave them both alone, them go soon depart. It's only a matter of time. 3 Likes |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by Klass99(f): 6:59pm On Feb 27 |
lacapine: You handle it by mostly minding your business and saying your piece once in a while. Hopefully your sister may start acting like she has the sense God gave her at some point. I hope she gets there sooner rather than later. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by austine4real(m): 9:05pm On Feb 27 |
Should we will tell her?? He is just enjoying your pusi free of charge He will not marry you 3 Likes
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Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by talk2hb1(m): 9:13pm On Feb 27 |
lacapine:Why Buy The Cow, when you can get the milk free. 1 Like |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by NoToPile: 9:16pm On Feb 27 |
10years O olagbara ooo 1 Like |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by minasu190: 9:32pm On Feb 28 |
Maybe your sister and the guy are not compatible, spirituality should be involved. 1 Like |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by Kobojunkie: 3:43am On Feb 29 |
lacapine:Handle what issue? Marriage may be your dream and goal but not your sister's at this point in time so why force your particular desires on her? Forcing two grown individuals into marriage is like planting a time bomb that may go off at anytime and possibly devastate even you. Let them be. 2 Likes |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by brain54(m): 5:21pm On Feb 29 |
I am not against you supporting their marriage... If you can. But After you give them the 100k for the wedding What then happens when they move in together and start birthing kids. Will you start feeding them? Be ready to finish anything you start! 8 Likes |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by StPete: 5:34pm On Feb 29 |
Do you realize you will be the center of mockery if you give that useless boy the 100k? Imagine him being with his friends and saying things like “them dey beg me to marry that useless girl, then use money to beg me”. He then goes ahead to show the alert he received from you as proof that he’s been begged to marry your sister. If he even manages to marry her, your sister will be so ridiculed in the marriage by him, his friends and his family. It won’t end there. Whenever she gives birth, he will come for more money for hospital bills. After all, na u force am to marry your sister 42 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by Yashita: 5:55pm On Feb 29 |
StPete:Truth! Begging a man to marry your sister like there are no more men in the world 🤮 11 Likes |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by 1Sharon(f): 10:25pm On Feb 29 |
Nah, he aint gonna marry your sis. 2 Likes |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by Double0h7(f): 10:43pm On Feb 29 |
To OTHER young ladies with sense; when a man acts a fool and treats you like shi, he is trying to get you to leave him because men don’t have it in them to walk away from a warm hole connected to a woman that doesn’t stress him, and who takes his barest minimum as love. So, when he is not doing right by you, you better dump yourself, block yourself, and chase yourself away, or else you will be telling stories that touch the gallbladder. 10 Likes |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by Olachase(m): 12:35pm On Mar 01 |
10 years |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by bigdammyj: 12:36pm On Mar 01 |
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Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by TOPCRUISE(m): 12:36pm On Mar 01 |
Is it wise for a man to marry in poverty because of age and because the Bible says he who finds a good wife finds a good thing. |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by bestman09(m): 12:37pm On Mar 01 |
10 years is too much for a relationship that is leading nowhere. Your sister is not a kid and definitely know more than you as far as the affair is concerned. But If truly you are really concerned about the issue, have a meeting with him and your sister and give him the N100,000 he requested in the presence of your sister to know how serious he is. It will not be the first nor the last time an in-law will be helping out for a successful wedding. 1 Like |
Re: Is He Serious Or Just Playing With My Emotions by gift2xl: 12:37pm On Mar 01 |
This is 10yrs dating anniversary Dude a good dick can keep a woman in a relationship forever. 3 Likes |
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