Sometimes i wonder how is it that some ladies will decide to be in a never ending relationship that leads to nowhere!

Ten good years cuddling a pole of a man with no direction!

What a monumental waste of time!

Why is the sister always broke?

Your sister has collected a lot of 'akamu' from this man.
Imagine 10 years of accumulated cum!

That man better marries her or the next man he will hand her over to would be fvcking mere shaft because the juice has been compromised!

The relationship is sexual got me

Will the relationship be asexual?

This one na big thing oooo, those two already see themselves as husband and wife and it's going to be difficult to put them apart. Finance is a huge thing in marriage, unfortunately both of them seems broke to sustain a married life.

The moment you sponsor their marriage you are in for a long ride, they will still fall back to you if their finances are still not together as it should be. If they can't improve their finances they better think through on what they really want as a couple.

Don't put too much pressure on them else they just the blame on you for their marital misfortune. They both should work on their finances because this is the only reason they are not getting married.

Did you mean that during the ten (10) years she did not conceive.

How did you want someone to settle down with such a woman, probably the man have another bani that have children outside, he's only using your sister as ATM and to satisfy her sexual pleasure.

lacapine:
Please house help me. My sister has been in a relationship with a guy for the past 10 years and the relationship is sexual. The boy is 37 while she is 34. The boy keeps claiming he doesn't have money to marry her, my sister will say why am I pushing marriage,will I give them money to sustain the home? I have called the guy and asked him questions and he said if I have 100k, I should give him, so they can marry. Abeg how do I handle this issue?

My sister works but she is always broke. The guy is an artist who does art work but sales is poor. Not that I ever knew when sales was good.

How should I handle it?

Tell her not to marry wrong.

100k for marriage,tell your sister to run for her dear life before is too late…

Jewessgratitud3:
Your sister is an adult and should know when to quit if a relationship is not leading anywhere. It's not you doing the calculations and taking decisions for her.

If the man is not financially ready at that age it's a bit disturbing, and looking at her own age too it's not advisable to continue waiting for him because the way this economy is going I don't think he will even be encouraged to do anything now. So, If she sees another man who's ready in all ramification let her go.

I'm not totally writing off her guy because anything can happen in just a twinkle of an eye but again, it may not happen so soon and your sisters age is climbing.. except she doesn't see who she likes because me na wetin still keep me at 42 I never see who I really like like my ex. I don't pray for hers to delay like mine.

If after trying to talk her out of the relationship she doesn't listen, let her be. Dem no dey tell blind man say run don start..

Omo you don old o 😳

Tell your sister to evaluate the relationship & make the needed decisions.
2. If she gets pregnant that she should not abort it let that be what came out of the relationship even if the guy marries her or not

Men generally put stumbling blocks when they do not want to marry a woman. So they would waste her time, give excuses while they can't move things forward, etc.

Marriage should make two people's lives easy if they have sense and mean well to each other. If they are both earning and paying rent, then how is coming together to do it together (which makes it cheaper) difficult?

If students share the same room, cook together, and do things to cut costs, how much more is a supposed couple that loves each other?

Doing court marriage in the registry is very cheap, not sure if it's up to 50k (wild guess), then optionally, both families can have a dinner and in the face of God and man, they are officially married.

Anyway, just don't give him any money. You do not want to bless your sister with the tag of someone that her family paid for her bride price.

MrBrownJay1:


keep your money, as 100k is never gonna solve this problem, you will just lose your money!

here is a simple clue: for 10 long years this man has been mounting your sista scott free, and subsequently this is solely a sexual r/ship. the day he finds what he is truly looking for in a woman, he will do the needful (but that woman definitely aint your sista). this man has NOTHING to prove to your sister/you or anyone out there. what is "getting married" gonna change to their lives?! is 100k gonna miraculously turn that sexual r/ship into a "lets get married and spend the rest of our lives together" type of r/ship?! better yet, your sista is always broke, that man is always broke too, and you think that giving them 100k to WASTE on some yeye wedding is the solution to their problem?

as the saying goes:"why buy the cow when this dude's been getting the milk for free FOR 10 LONG YEARS?



your sister doesnt seem to mind, so why should you?! let them live the life they deserve for themselves, as they have more important issues to solve in their lives than "wedding"

Perfect Answer. Whatever that man is doing to your sister, it's strong. 34yrs old and not worried? Thank means they started dating when she was 24yrs old and for 10yrs, the man had made no attempt to even meet you for help on how to marry your sister?

Things dey sub sha. One thing is certain though... if that man marry another lady, lol..

lacapine:
Please house help me. My sister has been in a relationship with a guy for the past 10 years and the relationship is sexual. The boy is 37 while she is 34. The boy keeps claiming he doesn't have money to marry her, my sister will say why am I pushing marriage,will I give them money to sustain the home? I have called the guy and asked him questions and he said if I have 100k, I should give him, so they can marry. Abeg how do I handle this issue?

My sister works but she is always broke. The guy is an artist who does art work but sales is poor. Not that I ever knew when sales was good.

How should I handle it?

Honestly if you have the 100k give him to get married to her

But be prepared to keep assisting them when they get broke

Have you find out from your sister if she will marry such a man who kept her for a whole 10yrs with no marriage commitments

Its even too late for her to leave him now because he has taken the good part of her life and wasted it just like that

Support them of you have the ability and let them get settled

Some life lessons are meant to be taught through pain, regrets, no matter how hard you were warned before it strikes.

Nothing can be done here, dear op.


I pray the consequences turns out a bit fair for her.

Tradepunter2:
That guy will dump your sister for a younger lady..... Its a shame your sister is too weak to cut that dead weight from her life..... It's a shame

She has nothing to cut. She's 34 with nothing to her name. Where's she going to start from?
Na to just hold the guy tight make he no dump her

Parrot69:

Must every relationship lead to marriage??
You should be happy the guy is helping oil your sisters Cuntus! Hello?
Your job is to be telling the guy not to expand it too much.

Thank you all for responding. I really appreciate. Work mode has kept me away from this. How do I save my sister? This guy can insult every member of my family and my sister will still go back to him

lacapine:
Thank you all for responding. I really appreciate. Work mode has kept me away from this. How do I save my sister? This guy can insult every member of my family and my sister will still go back to him

You can only save a person who wishes to be saved. All you can do is be there for her for when she has had enough or she is abandoned or whatever comes next.