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emmaodet:
Bro, you are going to be one of the few happy people in this world.
What you have found is called YOUR PURPOSE
When a man’s dreams, vision and plans aligns with his spiritual soul, he meets his PURPOSE on earth and from that moment on, Life would become meaningful to him.
Many people think making money, having a good paying job etc are what makes a PURPOSE but they are far from it.
Many people are rich… agreed but didn’t get that Purpose.
Many won’t understand you nor understand what I am writing because only few we get to that point in life.
It is only meant for selected few

Kelvinnnn:
bro I'm still in regrets till now,cos no girl, i repeat no girl has shown me such love till date.

Rrchrd:
To Opened a laundary shop in a street that about two boys were doing it @home unknowingly to me

emmaodet:
Hmmmmmmm
Do you have a business plan? How much are you earning presently? Where is your location? I don’t know, your comment touched me and I am thinking of how I can be of help to you.

aidameoryou:
You didn't make sales or what?
I am also contemplating opening a laundry shop here in owerri

Tzar:
The red flags for me may not be for you. Every individual has different tolerance to these things. For me, below are the things I experienced but overlooked
1. Her mum was an aggressive, possessive, once divorced drunk. She wasn’t any of those while we dated, so I felt I can’t judge her by her mum. I was wrong, she ended up making most of the same mistakes her mum made. If you want a snapshot of how you fiancée will turn out as a wife, check the mum. This is accurate 60-70% of the time. I didn’t believe it until it happened to me.
2. Never rush into marriage just because a woman got pregnant for you. She can keep the baby if you want, take care of the child, but never let it be a yardstick for marriage. Immediately she got pregnant, I rushed into marriage thinking that was the best response, it was not.
3. Watch her relationship with your family dispassionately. She always avoided my family while we dated, especially my mum & sisters. She ended up making them enemies throughout our marriage.
4. I never saw her being homely and domestic in their home, but she was like a cleaning machine in my house. All na wash! When we got married, I realized I married a lazy and dirty woman who expects a housemaid to do everything.
5. I always caught her with small lies while we dated. Those lies became huge unforgivable lies in marriage.
6. While I did everything to make her comfortable while dating, she NEVER spent a kobo on me. I was ok with that until I had financial challenges in marriage. She never worked & I was giving a pocket money from where she saved money that ran into over 200k. While I was crying on how to raise 50k for feeding the home she hid this savings from me until I found out. NEVER MARRY A WOMAN WHO IS NOT FINANCIALLY COMMITTED TO YOU.
7. She and her mum were always physically fighting her step siblings. She wanted to bring all that into our marriage. She even begged me to beat her up once saying it strengthens love, can you imagine? Any girl that got close to me then will get into a brawl with her behind my back. After two slaps from her in marriage & many other things she did that you can only see in nollywood movies, I divorced her ass before she made me a murderer.

Tzar:
The red flags for me may not be for you. Every individual has different tolerance to these things. For me, below are the things I experienced but overlooked
1. Her mum was an aggressive, possessive, once divorced drunk. She wasn’t any of those while we dated, so I felt I can’t judge her by her mum. I was wrong, she ended up making most of the same mistakes her mum made. If you want a snapshot of how you fiancée will turn out as a wife, check the mum. This is accurate 60-70% of the time. I didn’t believe it until it happened to me.
2. Never rush into marriage just because a woman got pregnant for you. She can keep the baby if you want, take care of the child, but never let it be a yardstick for marriage. Immediately she got pregnant, I rushed into marriage thinking that was the best response, it was not.
3. Watch her relationship with your family dispassionately. She always avoided my family while we dated, especially my mum & sisters. She ended up making them enemies throughout our marriage.
4. I never saw her being homely and domestic in their home, but she was like a cleaning machine in my house. All na wash! When we got married, I realized I married a lazy and dirty woman who expects a housemaid to do everything.
5. I always caught her with small lies while we dated. Those lies became huge unforgivable lies in marriage.
6. While I did everything to make her comfortable while dating, she NEVER spent a kobo on me. I was ok with that until I had financial challenges in marriage. She never worked & I was giving a pocket money from where she saved money that ran into over 200k. While I was crying on how to raise 50k for feeding the home she hid this savings from me until I found out. NEVER MARRY A WOMAN WHO IS NOT FINANCIALLY COMMITTED TO YOU.
7. She and her mum were always physically fighting her step siblings. She wanted to bring all that into our marriage. She even begged me to beat her up once saying it strengthens love, can you imagine? Any girl that got close to me then will get into a brawl with her behind my back. After two slaps from her in marriage & many other things she did that you can only see in nollywood movies, I divorced her ass before she made me a murderer.

seanwilliam:
Sent you an email .. sir

Brushstrokes20:
1. Dating an ogbanje...i narrowly escaped untimely
grave! (the consequences are better IMAGINED than EXPERIENCED ) lucky to be alive!

2. Defying all odds to help so called FRIENDS out of DIFFICULTIES only for them to turn blind eyes when I needed their help.

TheRealOwner:
How can I identify an ogbanje lady? Serious question please. I no wan enter wetin go show me shege

Brushstrokes20:
No specific identity, but most are fair and promiscuous.... Tends to slow down on the promiscuity when they finally fall in love with you.
But at this juncture, you dare not attempt to withdraw from the relationship cos they'll go all out to eliminate you.
There are some deeper details I don't want to delve into though.

Homeandaway:
I helped a colleague at work. housed and fed her because her residence was far and commuting to and fro work daily was difficult and costly for her. She robbed me blind. My laptop, Iphone and money. Laptop had all my lifeswork, manuscripts, soundtracKs, screenplays, travel documents and saved passwords. She claimed to be ill on a workday, so she stayed home while i went to work. The rest is history.

Never take a work colleague, stranger, acquaintance, church member or even friend to your house. it never ends well.

Keep your relationships at arms length. Trust NOBODY

seanwilliam:
1. I made a mistake of not buying btc when it was around 8k instead I invested the money on other thing which in 10 years it might not yield the percentage by which btc grow within a year .
2. Not buying shiba and doge last year, I bought btc instead, buying shiba last year would have made me the richest youth in my state..
3. I started getting serious with my life just about two years ago, wish i had taken my life so serious 5 years ago. Note:it is not that I was being lazy five years ago, but I was just wasting my life away doing jobs, husling that was not going to take me anywhere.
If I had known what I know as at today 14th of December , I would have also be the richest under 30 in my state se..

4. Sleeping with many girls ( these days , i look back and discover I gained nothing except maybe having plenty booty counts).
5. Finally Not mingling with some guys with correct updates when I first gained admission to poly. I was forming the boy is good until they left me behind, all those guys Dey Germany , turkey, Dubai and Canada now. They’re doing extremely well, guess what , the ones not into business have gone back to educational lines in those countries.
Naturally , people always want to be my friend cos I have a loving and funny personality, but due to parental warning before I gained admission and due to the person I lived it as a room mate( he was a chronic church goer ) I no quick see road lol ..


Greatest decisions that I thank God for
1. Not joining cultism
2.Not going back to do hnd immediately ( this really really really changed my life around ).
3. Swallowing the redpill




Buyin all kinds of gift cards and funds, Amazing rates, check my siggy 100% tested and trusted

seanwilliam:
And today , my life is better x50

A305:
Trust me man. She is still yours.

What you succeeded in doing in the past were 2 things;

1- Ingraining your footprint in her life when you disvirgined her.

2 - Robbed her of her whole self esteem by treating her like trash (she allowed it).

Following those two reasons, she will never forget about you in this life and will always have a place in her heart for you.

Her forthcoming marriage is mere formality to cementing her feminine success, I can bet my last, she loves you far more than who she is getting married to. Otherwise, you would have never gotten a dime from her but she continues to do it willingly without asking — what does that tells you? You still have a subliminal effect on her.

Get your life in order with the money she is sending you and be ready to go into an e-affair/long distance affair with her if you two still keep in touch after she finally married.

Then if you level up financially in the future, trust me, she would come back to Nigeria to always spend time with you.

Women are predictable creatures.

ParkleElegant:
So sorry to hear that

cutecommend:
Hello guys, I will mention two mistakes that cost me alot in life, though I finally overcame them by God's grace....

One of the mistakes was visiting a fake church whose pastor looked "anointed" and profitable. That stuff ruined my life so much, but I recovered again and am wise..

Another mistake was my continued dating of a girl my spirit rejected.. This caused me terrible emotional stuff, but I am pretty fine now by God's grace.

Double0h7:
My mistakes were all lessons that helped in my growth and journey. I made so many mistakes that I'm one of the wisest people you'll ever know