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Nemesis0147:
We are used to it here oh…
That’s why I’m always having my keys on me 247 because my neighbors won’t even answer your greetings talk more of greeting you back and I love it that way!

Mumben:
@Deltabachelor, your experience is not a good one at all. Chai, people can be so mean

harsysky:


To bore you not, my neighbors and I are like families. I pray for everyone of them like they are truly the family I have where I live. God bless my neighbors!

LordIsaac:
I thought I loved it that way until I see it in its extreme form😊

SeriouslySense:
So you dont want to be a hermit anymore (joking). At least moderation is the key, at least greeting a neighbour is adequate.

Me i greet everyone around me, and mind my business, and sometimes i try to show kindness to strangers.

Zonefree:



What specie of human wears singlet and boxers to the bus stop?

It's good he packed out. He should relocate to the village, city life ain't for him.

LordIsaac:
You feel bad (no matter how you shrug it off) when they just stare at you and look away without answering. But I’m getting used to ignoring them too.

JaySmart4422:
Here are some of the reasons why some neighbours show this I don't care attitude

Some had bad experience with neighbours in the past

Some are avoiding unnecessary envy mostly if you are doing well and the neighbour is not doing so well.

Some are running away from gossip
cos most times going close or building a relationship with a neighbor can expose u to a lot of gossip.

Lastly we are in the last days where many seek spiritual help from different religious places

So don't be surprise if you neighbor sees you as a witch that is blocking his progress.

We all can testify that a lot of religious or prayer houses have done a serious damage by making their followers n believers feel that almost everyone around them is evil and should be avoided.

Let me share one of my many experience.
I had this mentality that it is not good to stay in a compound without having at least one person you can call when emergency arise.

So I connect with my neighbor unknown to me that that neighbor is a bitter soul who sees nothing good in anyone n very envious.

I didn't know that she n her husband have fought every tenant in the compound for this reason no tenant wants to get close to anyone in the compound.

To cut story short
I renovated my flat and this people could not hide their envy immediately they stopped greeting and started avoiding me .

Too many reasons dey for one to mind his business

Cti28:
What if you are involved in an accident, and people just stood by watching you languishing in pain. Suffice to say, there is nothing wrong with that, since you didn't pay them to aid you.

JaySmart4422:
Here are some of the reasons why some neighbours show this I don't care attitude

Some had bad experience with neighbours in the past

Some are avoiding unnecessary envy mostly if you are doing well and the neighbour is not doing so well.

Some are running away from gossip
cos most times going close or building a relationship with a neighbor can expose u to a lot of gossip.

Lastly we are in the last days where many seek spiritual help from different religious places

So don't be surprise if you neighbor sees you as a witch that is blocking his progress.

We all can testify that a lot of religious or prayer houses have done a serious damage by making their followers n believers feel that almost everyone around them is evil and should be avoided.

Let me share one of my many experience.
I had this mentality that it is not good to stay in a compound without having at least one person you can call when emergency arise.

So I connect with my neighbor unknown to me that that neighbor is a bitter soul who sees nothing good in anyone n very envious.

I didn't know that she n her husband have fought every tenant in the compound for this reason no tenant wants to get close to anyone in the compound.

To cut story short
I renovated my flat and this people could not hide their envy immediately they stopped greeting and started avoiding me .

Too many reasons dey for one to mind his business

Nemesis0147:
We are used to it here oh…
That’s why I’m always having my keys on me 247 because my neighbors won’t even answer your greetings talk more of greeting you back and I love it that way!

akyus:
In this case it wasn't an accident.

Offpoint1:
Neighbors are your closest family, that's what some of y'all don't know. If there's an emergency, neighbors are the first responders. Nigeria is not US where you get ambulance in 5 minutes.

2 years ago, I blackout in my bathroom because I wasn't feeling fine... Next thing I opened my eyes I found myself in the hospital. Thanks to a neighbor who said heard usual sound of someone falling, he ran to my door to check and no response, he had to break the door... Imagine if I was the type of I don't care neighbor.

Offpoint1:
Neighbors are your closest family, that's what some of y'all don't know. If there's an emergency, neighbors are the first responders. Nigeria is not US where you get ambulance in 5 minutes.

2 years ago, I blackout in my bathroom because I wasn't feeling fine... Next thing I opened my eyes I found myself in the hospital. Thanks to a neighbor who said heard usual sound of someone falling, he ran to my door to check and no response, he had to break the door... Imagine if I was the type of I don't care neighbor.

SeriouslySense:
That neighbour is a hero, you are blessed.

okerekingsley90:
Yes now exactly how i put it he is fortunate to have a good neighbor so you don't blame people who mind their business or have i don't care attitude ooo. People experience in life are different

Olumighty123:
This sort of thing had happened to me severally, mainly at alaba and arena market, they'd look you like shit, I wonder why? I almost fought one in the process but i had to let it slide

DeltaBachelor:
Trust me, you have a very good landlord. May God continue to bless him. I can't forget in a hurry one of the most horrific experiences I had.

A friend of mine ( of blessed memory)who travelled abroad came back and needed a place to stay. As bachelor wey I be, I accommodated him because I felt it would be a waste of money for him to lodge in a hotel for like 2 months. On that fateful day, I went to see my parents and called this my friend that I may come back late, so he should please be on the lookout in case the gate is locked.

Unfortunately for me, my phone ba3 died and unknowing to me, this my friend had gone out but put my key somewhere for me because according to him, he had been trying to reach out to me, but my phone was off. To cut the long story short, I came back around 10pm and was knocking and knocking at the gate for like 3 hours and no one came to open. Around 1am or so, I had to scale the fence because I didn't have any friend close by and I didn't want to go back home to my parents because it was very dangerous at that time of the day with robbery incidents and all and also because I was a bit drunk due to "several issues "I was facing at the time.

So back to my story, na so I scale fence o and slept in front of my door because I didn't know that my friend kept the key for me. I thought he mistakenly took it with him. Around 3am or so, that was how I felt a sharp pain on my back . I didn't know my neighbours or landlord had gone to call OPC vigilante and also the police that a thief broke into the compound. Na so them start to molest me o. Honestly, I cried that day, not because of the pain, but because of the denial and embarrassment I got.

I vowed never to give birth in that compound even if I marry because it made me to realise the kind of people I was living with. Imagine coming at 10pm and nobody responds at all despite using force and even stones to hit the gate to get attention. See ehn, I DONT CARE neighbours are in abundance. They just only care about themselves and I learnt a very big lesson that day.

Suffice to say the police that came were reasonable and very understanding and never molested me, but the OPC vigilante people that used the side of cutlass to be flogging me. I had my revenge on the perpetrators exactly a year after and they also pleaded with me and we settled, but that's a story for another day !

SeriouslySense:
That is true, some people have very negative experience, so they become very protective and avoid situations, that can produce those negative experiences. While others still persisted and preferred to create more positive experiences, despites the risks.

okerekingsley90:
Oga your case is different while others are different too. There are good and bad neighbors in your own case you have a good neighbor and like someone pointed out you should try to study the kind of people.living with you. My point is not everyone is good so one has to be very careful

Cti28:
Yes, it is not an accident, but you see this I don't care attitude, it is very bad.

Offpoint1:
You can't know who is good or bad if you don't get close to them. In reality it's more dangerous not to get close to people than to get close to them.

I get close to people, know who they truly are and know how to deal with them.

Offpoint1:
You can't know who is good or bad if you don't get close to them. In reality it's more dangerous not to get close to people than to get close to them.

I get close to people, know who they truly are and know how to deal with them.

okerekingsley90:
Exactly how I am. I mind my business 200% to avoid rubbish. I deal with people outside not within my place

diamond68:
I hate to bring tribe into this but I have found Igbo people to be very cold and hostile. Perfect example, I went to this shop to buy phone cover but the guy was not in his shop so I saw two Igbo guys in next shop and I asked them if they had seen the guy, they just kept looking at me and didn’t answer and had like a snarl on their faces. This has happened to me over 30 times so I know it’s no coincidence. They just look at you in anger with pure hatred as if you are disturbing them by being in their presence. I don’t understand Igbo people.

Ahmed0336:
These types of neighbours full Abuja.

You'd live in a compound where you wouldn't know your next door neighbour's name or what he does for a living.

Sometimes it can be as bad as not greeting/ talking to each other and no be say Una dey quarrel oo.

I no know who introduced this Yankee bs here.