At least to avoid problematic situations.

Although it depends on the environment and how people conduct themselves.

okerekingsley90:


Exactly how I am. I mind my business 200% to avoid rubbish. I deal with people outside not within my place

Minding one's business is nice but we're beginning to take it too far to an unhealthy level. I and my husband recently moved into this house of 6flats after we got married. Nobody welcomed us as new neighbours. I noticed the neighbours were cold and some will pass without even greeting. I continued greeting them warmly when I meet them.

Between now and then 2 neighbours have done baby dedication and another's daughter got married. The invitations were sent through the compounds WhatsApp group. We innocently attended all not knowing the invites were just for formality sake. We wondered why other neighbours didn't come.

I gave birth last year and till today none of my neighbours that we all live in the same house together has said "oh madam you don born?" "Congratulations " "thank God for safe delivery ". Even the women amongst them who are mothers too. Even the one's we attended their events.
I'm not even expecting them to come to my apartment bearing gifts for baby but at least an acknowledgement for such an event. They'll see me spreading baby clothes or carrying baby out and not even a simple gesture to acknowledge that your neighbour put to birth. Is this wokeness or what?

I was just thinking about this issue today and wondering how things have changed. My father had a house of 4flats and I remember how everyone were to each other. Brother's keep. The children played together and attended school together etc. Here Nobody relates with each other.

It's strange and disheartening truly.

SeriouslySense:
Well thats sad, for both people, both buyer and seller.

We should do better as people. Maybe we can say, it is transferred trauma or depression.

But you have adjusted, good for you . We all need to be resilient, although it even has it limits.

Exactly. Just today, a Kenyan l met confirmed my hypothesis of similar experiences. And she recommended “Learning to ignore them,” like give them equal measure. I told her I couldn’t agree less.

hizzylife:
Minding one's business is nice but we're beginning to take it too far to an unhealthy level. I and my husband recently moved into this house of 6flats after we got married. Nobody welcomed us as new neighbours. I noticed the neighbours were cold and some will pass without even greeting. I continued greeting them warmly when I meet them.

Between now and then 2 neighbours have done baby dedication and another's daughter got married. The invitations were sent through the compounds WhatsApp group. We innocently attended all not knowing the invites were just for formality sake. We wondered why other neighbours didn't come.

I gave birth last year and till today none of my neighbours that we all live in the same house together has said "oh madam you don born?" "Congratulations " "thank God for safe delivery ". Even the women amongst them who are mothers too. Even the one's we attended their events.
I'm not even expecting them to come to my apartment bearing gifts for baby but at least an acknowledgement for such an event. They'll see me spreading baby clothes or carrying baby out and not even a simple gesture to acknowledge that your neighbour put to birth. Is this wokeness or what?

I was just thinking about this issue today and wondering how things have changed. My father had a house of 4flats and I remember how everyone were to each other. Brother's keep. The children played together and attended school together etc. Here Nobody relates with each other.

It's strange and disheartening truly.

I think this is the reason why mental illnesses like Schizophrenia and Depression are higher in urban settings.

Iamzik:



Pele o Mr/Mrs no greeting. Smh

Kilode ogbeni, You be my neighbour?

Unneighborly acts totally different from the compound I grew up in Calabar. When I visited my sister in Lagos, she told me that over there, tenants operate a "mind your own business mentality." which sort of surprised me because I didnt grow up that way. She invited one of the female security guards to a family wedding but she never showed face which surprised me but didnt surprise her because she said, "I knew she wont come." Growing up, I remember when one of my neighbors gave birth to a baby boy, my parents stopped by, uninvited, to greet them and they were welcomed warmly and I remembered the nursing mother gave us treats, anyway, it was expected because their kids were my childhood friends. To a grown-up living in the compound, if you did not rejoice with your neighbor during such festivities, people would think you had a very wicked heart. Similarly, when my mum gave birth, the whole compound stopped by to help during her Christening/dedication ceremony. It was like a feast. My dad was touched and elaborated on the hands on deck displayed by the neighbors during the ceremony. I think this uncaring attitude displayed by today's neighbor is common only in big cities like Abuja and Lagos and its partly due to crime, insecurity and the high cost of living. At the same time, I am not excusing them. It's sign of the times.

hizzylife:
Minding one's business is nice but we're beginning to take it too far to an unhealthy level. I and my husband recently moved into this house of 6flats after we got married. Nobody welcomed us as new neighbours. I noticed the neighbours were cold and some will pass without even greeting. I continued greeting them warmly when I meet them.

Between now and then 2 neighbours have done baby dedication and another's daughter got married. The invitations were sent through the compounds WhatsApp group. We innocently attended all not knowing the invites were just for formality sake. We wondered why other neighbours didn't come.

I gave birth last year and till today none of my neighbours that we all live in the same house together has said "oh madam you don born?" "Congratulations " "thank God for safe delivery ". Even the women amongst them who are mothers too. Even the one's we attended their events.
I'm not even expecting them to come to my apartment bearing gifts for baby but at least an acknowledgement for such an event. They'll see me spreading baby clothes or carrying baby out and not even a simple gesture to acknowledge that your neighbour put to birth. Is this wokeness or what?

I was just thinking about this issue today and wondering how things have changed. My father had a house of 4flats and I remember how everyone were to each other. Brother's keep. The children played together and attended school together etc. Here Nobody relates with each other.

It's strange and disheartening truly.

DeltaBachelor:
I swear babe. I can't wait for my rent to be due so that I leave this wicked environment. The energy and vibes is very negative. The funny thing is they all claim to be " christain" and church-goers. I won't belittle any tribe or religion but I stayed a bit in the North and there are things an hausa man wouldn't do. They are their neighbour's keeper. Over here, it is just unhealthy competition and unnecessary rivalry

Having good neighbours is like finding a good wife. Alot of people may not understand this point of view until they have had a taste of it. Do not renew your rent oh. These species of neighbours (I think I have an idea of their tribe) would never help you even if see you dying. Yet, they are the first people to exit the compound to church on Sunday. They act nice only to their fellow statesman. Others are treated as outcast.


I know someone who suffered a bone injury at night. That person was in distress and wailing in the dead of the night. Certainly the neighbours must have heard this person wail, but nobody came to inquire or help. This person had to lay helpless in the bathroom with a broken bone from past midnight until past 4 A.M before help from another compound came

jaszplus12:

Pointing to where I had in mind... while in Nigeria I tasted all major tribes and I know which ones have the characters you mentioned!

I do too. Please drop a hint so I can be sure I am not paranoid.

Olumighty123:



Lately, they formed the habit of taunting you when they noticed you're yoruba, The diversion from the purpose why you're there to going political can be very annoying. I dey do everything to ignore them.

Look at how the two of you are displaying bigotry on this thread.

Failed parenting at work here. Disgusting twats

Father4all:
The landlord will tell you why didn't you take your key when going out. See, last year I went to Abuja by air, I booked the flight going and coming. The flight was supposed to leave ABJ by 9pm.Unfortunately, it was delayed till 11:30 pm. I arrived my state of residence by 130 Am Took cab to my residence, arrive my residence by 2:15 Am. Open our gate with my own jam keys, enter my house peacefully. What do you think will happen if I didn't have my own personal keys?

What if you misplaced your keys? This thing can happen to anyone and one cannot be completely careful. Best thing is to imbue to culture of being our brothers' keeper.

mediclife1987:
■ I think this is the reason why mental illnesses like Schizophrenia and Depression is higher

That one na lie!

diamond68:
But wait ooo I don’t understand this topic ooo, so you mean you live in an apartment with no gateman you all pay and you are expecting some neighbor to come out of his house to open gate for you ? Awon werey. If you can’t afford to pay a gateman it means it’s a poor low income place and as such everyone has a valid reason to be suspicious of their neighbor. You can open gate now your neighbor done set you up for kidnap for money ritual lol. It’s like you are all looking at each other suspiciously and apprehensively and rightfully so

Nowadays, a gateman is a security threat...jam key is the best....

Mumben:
I saw a post on Facebook days back talking about experiences of people living in some neighborhood especially some estates in Abuja and everybody's I don't care attitude towards their neighbor and I thought to bring the topic here for your contributions.

A particular guys experience made me feel bad. He said he escorted his girlfriend who had come to visit him to the bus stop to board a taxi home. On getting to his compound gate, he knocked and knocked but no one came to open the gate even though he could see them through the small opening on the gate. Unfortunately for him, his phone was in his apartment and his girlfriend's family were calling him to inform him that the girl had an accident on her way home.

Las Las, he had to pass the night at a friend's place with only boxers and singlet he was putting on. On getting to his house Early the next morning, he saw a lot of mixed calls from the girls family, he called back and tried to explain but they didn't want to hear. He packed out of the compound one week later as he couldn't come to terms with the fact that his neighbours could be so mean.

Personally, I can't relate because some years ago in our former compound, I was in labour and my husband was not around, he called our landlord and he drove me in his car to the hospital. May God continue to bless him, he is such a good man


Share your experiences with I Don't Care kind of neighbours

They wanted to try that "I don't care" stuff with me, Omo, I almost broke the gate lock, them run come out, and I faced all of them accordingly....I hate rubbish.

I had such an experience too. It happen I think 4 or 5 years ago and till now if I remember this event I dey boil inside.
It happen on Dec 31 cross over night and u know that night till daybreak, people hardly sleep and the compound entrance is left open for those that went to church or gone out.
I went out to greet my street neighbors just outside my compound which have no gate and the useless and evil neighbor of mine close the door immediately I went out. After a while gisting with my street guys, I decided to retire to my abode only to notice the door is lock. I knock for several minutes up to thirty minutes and this particular neighbor was inside his apartment playing church song on sound system and ironing his clothes.
The most painful part is that his apartment is the first went u enter the building. He heard the knocks but refuse to open the door.
It was another neighbor at the back who came out that time heard the knocking and calling that open the door for me.
This evil neighbor of mine is a lord chosen church member and an elder in that church. If u see how this fellow carry church for head eh , u will think he is a saint. Since that time I no longer regard him ever again. Those lord chosen people, I fear them!

DeltaBachelor:
I swear babe. I can't wait for my rent to be due so that I leave this wicked environment. The energy and vibes is very negative. The funny thing is they all claim to be " christain" and church-goers. I won't belittle any tribe or religion but I stayed a bit in the North and there are things an hausa man wouldn't do. They are their neighbour's keeper. Over here, it is just unhealthy competition and unnecessary rivalry

Those ones are the worst. I stay very far away from them because their brand of Christianity is worse than witchcraft

Aragon001:
I had such an experience too. It happen I think 4 or 5 years ago and till now if I remember this event I dey boil inside.
It happen on Dec 31 cross over night and u know that night till daybreak, people hardly sleep and the compound entrance is left open for those that went to church or gone out.
I went out to greet my street neighbors just outside my compound which have no gate and the useless and evil neighbor of mine close the door immediately I went out. After a while gisting with my street guys, I decided to retire to my abode only to notice the door is lock. I knock for several minutes up to thirty minutes and this particular neighbor was inside his apartment playing church song on sound system and ironing his clothes.
The most painful part is that his apartment is the first went u enter the building. He heard the knocks but refuse to open the door.
It was another neighbor at the back who came out that time heard the knocking and calling that open the door for me.
This evil neighbor of mine is a lord chosen church member and an elder in that church. If u see how this fellow carry church for head eh , u will think he is a saint. Since that time I no longer regard him ever again. Those lord chosen people, I fear them!

And these neighbor of my and his fellow tribal cronies in my compound don't want another tenant from other tribes to move in to that compound and if u were living there they will frustrate u to leave and try getting the landlady to throw u out by using every means necessary to see to that.
You can guess the tribe am talking about that are the most members of lord chosen.

NotGej:



You are at fault by all you listed. Always take care of yourself and not hope on others. No one is anyone’s slave. People have their lives to live

Omo the way some of you reason ehh
What has slave got to do with what he wrote?

Zonefree:



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What specie of human wears singlet and boxers to the bus stop?

It's good he packed out. He should relocate to the village, city life ain't for him.

Singlet and boxers ... maybe to escort her to the washroom.... or as far as the kitchen ... but to the bus stop?... escorting his gf? I agree ... he needs to be tied up and taken back to the village.

@ topic ... went to a friend living on the second floor of a six storey building. The music in the apartment was sooo loud and heavy ... guess was a Sound System ... the ones that play in clubs and pool parties ... had to be like shouting ... the walls were vibrating ... things rattling ... so I said don't they know you live here?... how can they be so inconsiderate? It was then he told me it wasn't the people above him.... it was an apartment on the 5th floor. I was speechless.

Originalsly:
∆ Singlet and boxers ... maybe to escort her to the washroom.... or as far as the kitchen ... but to the bus stop?... escorting his gf? I agree ... he needs to be tied up and taken back to the village..

In. 2024? Na asylum straight abeg!

.[One very reason i prefer a house with a gateman.]I secretly spoilt my compound jam lock and threw the padlock inside bush as revenge. I knocked for 2 hours and I could see someone peeping through there curtain oo, I use stone knock for gate tire, my so called neighbours no come open door, after a while another tenant came back use phone call him wife, she came out and opened the door, she was like she never knew someone was knocking oo. I said no wahala, I didn't even act as if e pain me or said any bad word, I just keep am for mind. After some weeks them begin find padlock, lo and behold jamlock sef done spoil. One of the neighbours said they should ask me, I might know about it. If them born Una papa well come ask me useless question. Na so we take contribute another money for padlock and jamlock. Nonsense people [/quote]

The comments shock me.o

Even my rich former landlord with 21 tenants (min 1 bed rm), who spends more time in Texas than Naija, parks his modern tundra, walks outside with singlet to conduct short distance business. Na im first live for the street, over 25 yrs ago. Highly respected man.

My neighbour whatsapp status reads "his wife has given birth", He is not mobile. Called, congratulated and offered my car so he drives them home. very good Yoruba guy.

Na neighbour (highly educated, rich and my senior) handle relocation logistics for me. I needed the help but didn't request directly or indirectly. like the guy follow carry heavy load. He started live as a mechanic. I called him when the truck broke at red light. Igbo guy.

When our families or visitors we know look for help, nobody hesitates. But no visiting anybody's house.o, we talk outside and drink together on weekends.

In short, even where I'm living now, neighbours don't call anyhow, any call from them is always very important.

Abuja neighbours lack humanity in them.

Well,I'm touched by a few pathetic experiences above but with full pleasure, may I announce that I'm a big member of the "I don't care neighbors" union. Before I moved into the present tenement I'm residing, a mini estate of one bedroom flats,some 2 bedroom flats and a few self contained, when i went to inspect painting after I had paid,with d agent,I noticed this group of about 5 or 6 married women sitting round with stretched legs discussing lazily on a Monday morning,when they saw me they started hailing.."new tenant welcome oooo....u go bring our drinks oooo..at that point I knew dat wahala must surely there......
After I moved in with my family, I observed that the ladies had this attitude of dis going to dat to collect gas cooker from dis one,the other going to collect sumul pepper and magi,dis going to collect pot to cook..one had the liver to jam my protector to demand #1500 for garri, say soup there.....that was how I voluntarily turn I don't care....morning wen I wan go work na boning I take greet or collect the greeting..I reduce smile, I tell anyone that asks for money that my wife won't find it funny that I'm giving women money...gbam na so some don't greet me till tomorrow ...

He must have done the same thing to his neighbours or he's the arrogant type. I hope the girlfriend did not die

Not everyone will be a good neighbour. They more I don't care neighbours the more one becomes too careful and less entertaining.
My ATM is not working
My salt just poured away
My phone is not charging
Toothpaste ran out, I wash bathing my soap slipped into the toilet.
My electric iron got burnt
My car Battery is dead blah blah

Lol i am team mind your business.

At this point, Nigerians are such a people if you show care they either want to take advantage or start thinking na you do pass.

Besides the needy neighbors are always the careless ones as someone right put it. Biko, if your salt has finished; go and buy salt.

The main reason i hate being “available” to i neighbor is that at a point they start to know your movement, they know when you are in the house, when you are not in the house.

It is a security issue and dangerous situation.

Babaibeji2020:
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Trust me it is better, best sef. If you continue giving trust them to continue asking. They would even think you are rich, if they want to rob anybody guess who would be atop the list.

If i were the one i would move out of such neighborhood. One thing I noticed my mother hated so much while growing up was people just hanging around the neighborhood doing nothing.

You go out and come back you see them on the street on benches playing draft, gisting, doing absolutely nothing whiling away time. That is the no-future gang, in a couple of years people are making progress they would be wandering why they are still on the same level. Discourage your family members from mixing with them.

Aragon001:
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The truth is that Some of you are too careless. In my apartment building it has been said times without number as you are going out close the gate!

Cuz you want to go for 5 minutes the security of the whole building should now be at risk faa. If anything was stolen you should be held responsible and made to refund.

Oga learn, as you are going out carry your key and close your house gate, biko!

I am sure you have been told severally, the Lord Chosen man is not wicked. You are just a careless human being, i take security seriously. If i were him I would pray for heavy rain to wash away your carelessness that day cuz it seems you haven’t learnt any lessons yet.

Nobody will open gate for someone who goes to a bus stop with a girlfriend with boxers and singlet.

Nemesis0147:
We are used to it here oh…
That’s why I’m always having my keys on me 247 because my neighbors won’t even answer your greetings talk more of greeting you back and I love it that way!

Then why stay in such a toxic environment? Hope you are not planning of starting your family there?

Zonefree:



What specie of human wears singlet and boxers to the bus stop?

It's good he packed out. He should relocate to the village, city life ain't for him.

unfortunately you are very correct..... I don't know if it's general but in military you must be prepared at all times...... you must have a phone, cash and house keys when stepping out..... this must be the natural programming of everybody......

iichidodo:
I prefer "i don't care attitude" than the busy body attitude. In some climes, it's the difference between peace of mind or unnecessary stress..

You must be one of the wicked neighbors who wouldn't open the gate for his neighbor, people like you are something else in that Abuja.

Human beings sef ! If they have nosy neighbors, them go Dey scream. Now, God blessed you with “I don’t care neighbors” una still Dey lament. Na wa for una. @OP, you no well at all…. You saw off your gf with boxers and singlet. You must be high on colo. That was a total disrespect … I am sure your gf came with underwear to pay you a visit. Bunch of irresponsible children

spencekat:
'I don't care attitude'does not mean wickedness oo.

It leads to wickedness.

Abeg as Una Dey talk about neighbors stil tak about I don't care family