I am 32 years old, I am the eldest among my siblings (2 boys, 2 girls), My younger brother (2nd born) just travelled to the U.K as at November last year, my younger sister (3rd born) just graduated from the University and waiting to be mobilized for nysc while our last born is still in school.
@32 I still live with my parents, I lost my job for the past one year, things have really been tough for me to the point where I can’t pay my rent, I have to come back to my parent’s house to stay.

Since I started living with my parent, I get lot of disrespect from my younger sister (3rd born) whom I senior with 9 good years, my parent always take her sides whenever she disrespects me. There are some of her behaviors I can’t even type here. They have suddenly forgotten how much I cared for them when things were going well for me.

Yesterday evening 6pm, I noticed she was cooking noodles for herself in the kitchen and I gently told her since there is soup in the fridge why not make Eba for everyone to eat.. in her response she said: she’s tired o. I kept mute, then I said ok just place the water on the fire I’ll make the Eba myself.
After few minutes she was done eating her noodles I asked her if the water was ready and she said she hasn’t boiled the water as she frowns at me,.. out of anger I landed her 2 hot slaps on her face… she ran to her room, locked the door and started crying, she hurriedly called my younger brother in U.K and started reporting me to him, I could hear her crying loud and telling him many gibberish. Even reported me to our last born who is in school.

She remained in her room until my parent came back from church around 8pm, immediately she heard their voice, she came out from her room, flared up and started crying endlessly, talking down on me, she told my parent I beat her up mercilessly, she said I injured her in her mouth and she has been spitting out blood from her mouth… I remained silent as my parent yells at me.

I regretted hitting her, I have never hit a lady in my life. I wanted to even apologize to her but on a second thought I said No becus she don’t greet me anymore.

Continue beating her like that whenever she disrespects you. With time she'll learn to watch her mouth and give you your space.

Hey heavens!! . Another woman beater at it again

Honestly, Broke and struggling men are really violent in nature. I hate broke men like hell.

Biko, stay away from a relationship in order not to put someone’s daughter in abject poverty and turn her into a punching bag.

Gbadugbakun:
Continue beating her like that whenever she disrespects you. With time she'll learn to watch her mouth and give you your space.

you should be ashamed of yourself!!

Bunch of woman beater and rapist everywhere!!
Shior!

Devise every means possible to leave that house asap and start putting ur life back together again...

AsomStructures:
Devise every means possible to leave that house asap and start putting ur life back together again...

My close friend just got married, he need some privacy, i can’t go stay with him right now.
On the other hand, my younger brother who is in UK promised to send me little money to rent an apartment but I told him not to stress himself beside he just got to the UK and he need to find his feet first.
I am really working tirelessly to leave the house for them. I am trying to link up with some of my old friends.

Rowllland:
My close friend just got married, he need some privacy, i can’t go stay with him right now.
On the other hand, my younger brother who is in UK promised to send me little money to rent an apartment but I told him not to stress himself beside he just got to the UK and he need to find his feet first.
I am really working tirelessly to leave the house for them. I am trying to link up with some of my old friends.

Try and see how you can rally around and get someone you can put up with for the main time. Then get something doing immediately even if it's a meanial job while you wait for a better opportunity...

Don't forget to take praying seriously... All the best

Rowllland:

.. out of anger I landed her 2 hot slaps on her face…

You need to learn to control your anger!

And next time boil your own eba water.

Good it is happening to you when you are unmarried. Don't forget how you were treated when things turn around for the better

If that your sister was a guy would you slap him? You are jobless, yet still got so much pride, what stopped you from boiling the water by yourself? I believe your sister do go on errands at other times, and prepares food for everyone, you should have just ignored her.
No one has mentioned that you were wrong, you may carry same attitude into marriage by beating your wife if she doesn't feel like cooking.
Humble yourself, your sister is not your wife. Help with chores, prepare your food, while waiting for better days.

It like that in most Nigerian homes, the best is to leave home early and come back late eat your own food and sleep, ignore them they only show you love when you have money on you...... African parent are the reasons most youths involve in crime, they compare you with others... Try and move out asap

Leave that house and rent a single room somewhere. This is because the urge and motivation to be creative and proactive on what next to do with your life won't come when you remain in that demeaning comfort zone.

As soon as you get yourself a room to stay, go out there and find a work to start doing no matter how small the pay and grow from there while still scouting for a better job.

Once you get back on your feet, forget about those your family people and focus on building yourself until you are financially stable before you ever think about giving anything out to anyone of them again.

You slapped her twice because of what? Maybe if you aren't abusive, she would respect you. If she said she hadn't boiled the water, all you had to do was boil it yourself. This situation (nor would any) didn't warrant you slapping her at all. You were in the wrong.

Rowllland:
I am 32 years old, I am the eldest among my siblings (2 boys, 2 girls), My younger brother (2nd born) just travelled to the U.K as at November last year, my younger sister (3rd born) just graduated from the University and waiting to be mobilized for nysc while our last born is still in school.
@32 I still live with my parents, I lost my job for the past one year, things have really been tough for me to the point where I can’t pay my rent, I have to come back to my parent’s house to stay.

Since I started living with my parent, I get lot of disrespect from my younger sister (3rd born) whom I senior with 9 good years, my parent always take her sides whenever she disrespects me. There are some of her behaviors I can’t even type here. They have suddenly forgotten how much I cared for them when things were going well for me.

Yesterday evening 6pm, I noticed she was cooking noodles for herself in the kitchen and I gently told her since there is soup in the fridge why not make Eba for everyone to eat.. in her response she said: she’s tired o. I kept mute, then I said ok just place the water on the fire I’ll make the Eba myself.
After few minutes she was done eating her noodles I asked her if the water was ready and she said she hasn’t boiled the water as she frowns at me,.. out of anger I landed her 2 hot slaps on her face… she ran to her room, locked the door and started crying, she hurriedly called my younger brother in U.K and started reporting me to him, I could hear her crying loud and telling him many gibberish. Even reported me to our last born who is in school.

She remained in her room until my parent came back from church around 8pm, immediately she heard their voice, she came out from her room, flared up and started crying endlessly, talking down on me, she told my parent I beat her up mercilessly, she said I injured her in her mouth and she has been spitting out blood from her mouth… I remained silent as my parent yells at me.

I regretted hitting her, I have never hit a lady in my life. I wanted to even apologize to her but on a second thought I said No becus she don’t greet me anymore.

A lot of things makes a man to have value and respect,

where you don't have upto 50% of those things, respect is gone
That's just where you are

Very soon, you will sleep into depression and they will worsen your case

If you had any savings while working, get a room apartment for yourself pack out and start afresh from there

The only person that you can talk sense with in that family is your mum
But if she is not interested in giving you a listening ear. That's the end

As for your sister, yes you over reacted but then you can still seat her down and let her know that you are passing through some challenges and you are sorry for heating her

I have to give you the above advice on that because she is yet to start with you and she will gang up others against you

You already knows what means

As for your dad, he will definitely face where the wind blows because his wife will want to strike him if he acts funny

Gbadugbakun:
Continue beating her like that whenever she disrespects you. With time she'll learn to watch her mouth and give you your space.

Beating a matured girl like her is worse than any kind of punishment, she may even run away from home because of that and the whole family will blame him

Rowllland:
I am 32 years old, I am the eldest among my siblings (2 boys, 2 girls), My younger brother (2nd born) just travelled to the U.K as at November last year, my younger sister (3rd born) just graduated from the University and waiting to be mobilized for nysc while our last born is still in school.
@32 I still live with my parents, I lost my job for the past one year, things have really been tough for me to the point where I can’t pay my rent, I have to come back to my parent’s house to stay.

Since I started living with my parent, I get lot of disrespect from my younger sister (3rd born) whom I senior with 9 good years, my parent always take her sides whenever she disrespects me. There are some of her behaviors I can’t even type here. They have suddenly forgotten how much I cared for them when things were going well for me.

Yesterday evening 6pm, I noticed she was cooking noodles for herself in the kitchen and I gently told her since there is soup in the fridge why not make Eba for everyone to eat.. in her response she said: she’s tired o. I kept mute, then I said ok just place the water on the fire I’ll make the Eba myself.
After few minutes she was done eating her noodles I asked her if the water was ready and she said she hasn’t boiled the water as she frowns at me,.. out of anger I landed her 2 hot slaps on her face… she ran to her room, locked the door and started crying, she hurriedly called my younger brother in U.K and started reporting me to him, I could hear her crying loud and telling him many gibberish. Even reported me to our last born who is in school.

She remained in her room until my parent came back from church around 8pm, immediately she heard their voice, she came out from her room, flared up and started crying endlessly, talking down on me, she told my parent I beat her up mercilessly, she said I injured her in her mouth and she has been spitting out blood from her mouth… I remained silent as my parent yells at me.

I regretted hitting her, I have never hit a lady in my life. I wanted to even apologize to her but on a second thought I said No becus she don’t greet me anymore.

I stopped reading ur fiction when I got to where you said @ 32 U still leaving with parents.


Meanwhile, anybody (male or female) who still leaving with parents at 32, should expect disrespect not only from younger ones, but also parents, friends and neighbours.

If you're not yet married, it doesn't stop you not to get a room and leave alone, if you want to earned respect from people.

Rowllland:
My close friend just got married, he need some privacy, i can’t go stay with him right now.
On the other hand, my younger brother who is in UK promised to send me little money to rent an apartment but I told him not to stress himself beside he just got to the UK and he need to find his feet first.
I am really working tirelessly to leave the house for them. I am trying to link up with some of my old friends.

Putting up with friends will make you a liability and no one wants such

Continue your good relationship with your brother if he cab raise money for you, get a room, even if uts face me I face you house

Stay alone and reason with yourself on where to start from

When your friends are tired, they will invite their girlfriend to pack in and once that is done, you will be given a short time to pack out

So where do you intend to pack to, to your parents or what

Rowllland:
I am 32 years old, I am the eldest among my siblings (2 boys, 2 girls), My younger brother (2nd born) just travelled to the U.K as at November last year, my younger sister (3rd born) just graduated from the University and waiting to be mobilized for nysc while our last born is still in school.
@32 I still live with my parents, I lost my job for the past one year, things have really been tough for me to the point where I can’t pay my rent, I have to come back to my parent’s house to stay.

Since I started living with my parent, I get lot of disrespect from my younger sister (3rd born) whom I senior with 9 good years, my parent always take her sides whenever she disrespects me. There are some of her behaviors I can’t even type here. They have suddenly forgotten how much I cared for them when things were going well for me.

Yesterday evening 6pm, I noticed she was cooking noodles for herself in the kitchen and I gently told her since there is soup in the fridge why not make Eba for everyone to eat.. in her response she said: she’s tired o. I kept mute, then I said ok just place the water on the fire I’ll make the Eba myself.
After few minutes she was done eating her noodles I asked her if the water was ready and she said she hasn’t boiled the water as she frowns at me,.. out of anger I landed her 2 hot slaps on her face… she ran to her room, locked the door and started crying, she hurriedly called my younger brother in U.K and started reporting me to him, I could hear her crying loud and telling him many gibberish. Even reported me to our last born who is in school.

She remained in her room until my parent came back from church around 8pm, immediately she heard their voice, she came out from her room, flared up and started crying endlessly, talking down on me, she told my parent I beat her up mercilessly, she said I injured her in her mouth and she has been spitting out blood from her mouth… I remained silent as my parent yells at me.

I regretted hitting her, I have never hit a lady in my life. I wanted to even apologize to her but on a second thought I said No becus she don’t greet me anymore.

u mumu o.your sister frown you beat am.guy guy guy.na wa for you o.

Maybe because you smile too much also.no be by wether you dey stay with your parents or not.when I dey Naija I stayed with my parents after relocating from Abuja to my state.i still got my massive respect as the first son.My junior ones cannot disrespect me.never

Op please do the following, I was once in your shoes & I came to a logical conclusion that family only exists when there is money.
1. Do not leave your parents house. You will be a burden to the person you will be staying with if you have no job.
2. Focus on getting your job. Ignore all these tantrums from your younger ones.
3. Plead with your father or mother if they can assist you with stipend for Internet subscription that will help you get a job if you cannot afford one. You always have to be online.
4. Be committed to God and the interest of His kingdom. You can sometimes go to church & seek God's face privately. Trust me, you need God more this period.
5. PATIENCE & MORE PATIENCE...
Remember, it is a phase & it will surely pass. Mine was for 2yrs, but I have long overcome.
May God see you through.

Firstly as it was advised leave that house ASAP.
Next, you're very wrong to hit your sister. She's not a little girl anymore. She's a full adult fit to have a family of her own. The time of trying to discipline your siblings is over. You're a 30 year old man and should exercise self-control. If she irritates you, look the other way. Pray your wife is nothing close to your sister make you no kill person.

TheWinterBird:
You slapped her twice because of what? Maybe if you aren't abusive, she would respect you. If she said she hadn't boiled the water, all you had to do was boil it yourself. This situation (nor would any) didn't warrant you slapping her at all. You were in the wrong.

Abi oo. An adult for that matter.

It seems you are not welcome into that house because the way your parents were behind her, you bro want to raise you . you said no I believe if he doesn't have to money he wouldn't have mentioned it.leave that house to earn your respect back

Ill advise you mind your lane for now cos they see you as an intruder and expect you to go get your own place. In fact they are tired of your stay in that house. So don't go and be forming seniority since they don't respect you cos it won't work but will rather make them more fed up of you and want you out of the house sooner than you expected. See finish don enter your matter like this so avoid them at all cost and work hard towards getting a place of your own before they send you parking because that may be the next thing they'll want to do.

You can only exercise control over someone in your own house...pipe low until you get what you want.

We now have mad people everywhere and I just came to the conclusion that some ladies on this NL are nothing but a piece of animal dung.

Animal dung better pass them sef. Jeez! What the? From the first female who commented, one can sense a closer relation with madness.
Hia! Back in the days. My friend had an elder sister who was married. But along the line something went bad for them and they had to return to the wife's parent's house with the husband.
Regardless that they had nothing on them. They were treated with so much love and respect. My friend used to fetch their bathing water to ensure that they had the best comfort.
They were there for almost a year before they left. And I can tell you that my friend never complained about their presence.

When they left, the husband got appointed a ward councilor (twice) and later became a senator (twice as well). They are drippin in wealth as I speak to you.

The problem you are having is that, your parents are the ones indulging your sister. That's the truth, your parents do not rate you at all. Regardless of the situation, where I'm from. Parents don't allow disrespectful behaviours from the younger ones towards their elderly ones.

My father would let you know that if someone is one day your senior, you should respect that person.

My best advice for you is to leave that house, it's better to sleep in the gutters or under the bridge than stay where you are not wanted.

To all those idiots saying why did you slap your younger sister. Excuse you, if someone is being disrespectful, are they not suppose to be straightened?

Just that if it were me, I would have handled the case differently.

Instead of slapping her, I go just nod my head. Wetin I go do dey inside me, I no dey too follow person reason.

Pikin wey no get home training, na from outside them go take train them come. Na why I dey always tell people say, for this life. You gats dey capable of doing evil or else, people no go fear you.
I go just make her realize say na this world she meet me.

Them no born any of my younger ones well even as them dey married. If I talk, them no dey talk put (when them no wan mad)

I hate disrespect die. Na why I dey move solo.

FRANCISTOWN:
We now have mad people everywhere and I just came to the conclusion that some ladies on this NL are nothing but a piece of animal dung.

Animal dung better pass them sef. Jeez! What the? From the first female who commented, one can sense a closer relation with madness.
Hia! Back in the days. My friend had an elder sister who was married. But along the line something went bad for them and they had to return to the wife's parent's house with the husband.
Regardless that they had nothing on them. They were treated with so much love and respect. My friend used to fetch their bathing water to ensure that they had the best comfort.
They were there for almost a year before they left. And I can tell you that my friend never complained about their presence.

When they left, the husband got appointed a ward councilor (twice) and later became a senator (twice as well). They are drippin in wealth as I speak to you.

The problem you are having is that, your parents are the ones indulging your sister. That's the truth, your parents do not rate you at all. Regardless of the situation, where I'm from. Parents don't allow disrespectful behaviours from the younger ones towards their elderly ones.

My father would let you know that if someone is one day your senior, you should respect that person.

My best advice for you is to leave that house, it's better to sleep in the gutters or under the bridge than stay where you are not wanted.

To all those idiots saying why did you slap your younger sister. Excuse you, if someone is being disrespectful, are they not suppose to be straightened?

Just that if it were me, I would have handled the case differently.

Instead of slapping her, I go just nod my head. Wetin I go do dey inside me, I no dey too follow person reason.

Pikin wey no get home training, na from outside them go take train them come. Na why I dey always tell people say, for this life. You gats dey capable of doing evil or else, people no go fear you.
I go just make her realize say na this world she meet me.

Them no born any of my younger ones well even as them dey married. If I talk, them no dey talk put (when them no wan mad)

I hate disrespect die. Na why I dey move solo.

I feel sorry for your partner. She must be living in bondage.

Forget my brother just travel to the UK ask him for that money and look for a single room to stay and try comot shame and start allover again and forget that your 6sta everything will bounce back normal normal then you'll decide how to handle them all

We4all:


I feel sorry for your partner. She must be living in bondage.

Everywhere good now. If you like, make your younger ones dey drag you for blockos.

Na the OP cause am. Na why I no dey follow person shine teeth.

Na too much teeth wey him dey follow him sister shine cause that see finish.

FRANCISTOWN:


Na the OP cause am. Na why I no dey follow person shine teeth.

Na too much teeth wey him dey follow him sister shine cause that see finish.

💯 Correct

FRANCISTOWN:
We now have mad people everywhere and I just came to the conclusion that some ladies on this NL are nothing but a piece of animal dung.

Animal dung better pass them sef. Jeez! What the? From the first female who commented, one can sense a closer relation with madness.
Hia! Back in the days. My friend had an elder sister who was married. But along the line something went bad for them and they had to return to the wife's parent's house with the husband.
Regardless that they had nothing on them. They were treated with so much love and respect. My friend used to fetch their bathing water to ensure that they had the best comfort.
They were there for almost a year before they left. And I can tell you that my friend never complained about their presence.

When they left, the husband got appointed a ward councilor (twice) and later became a senator (twice as well). They are drippin in wealth as I speak to you.

The problem you are having is that, your parents are the ones indulging your sister. That's the truth, your parents do not rate you at all. Regardless of the situation, where I'm from. Parents don't allow disrespectful behaviours from the younger ones towards their elderly ones.

My father would let you know that if someone is one day your senior, you should respect that person.

My best advice for you is to leave that house, it's better to sleep in the gutters or under the bridge than stay where you are not wanted.

To all those idiots saying why did you slap your younger sister. Excuse you, if someone is being disrespectful, are they not suppose to be straightened?

Just that if it were me, I would have handled the case differently.

Instead of slapping her, I go just nod my head. Wetin I go do dey inside me, I no dey too follow person reason.

Pikin wey no get home training, na from outside them go take train them come. Na why I dey always tell people say, for this life. You gats dey capable of doing evil or else, people no go fear you.
I go just make her realize say na this world she meet me.

Them no born any of my younger ones well even as them dey married. If I talk, them no dey talk put (when them no wan mad)

I hate disrespect die. Na why I dey move solo.

Make we hear word. Na where your power end na there another person own start. You think because you're older than someone or your younger ones in age then that automatically can make you do and undo? Let me tell you something guy. If you're the firstborn and una last botn get money pass you den forget it. He/she can do you just anything and he/she go use money close your family member mouth. Money is Power and it really stop nonesense. Shey u no know say with money anybody go lick your feet? Dey there dey form.

I am not in anyway supporting OP sister's behavior but OP is absolutely wrong for hitting her. Like who does that? You see why if some of these girls said BROKE men are violence by nature una go think say they no just like broke men. But they're actually right. No comfortable or Rich guys will do such. I really pity the woman that will end up with OP I'm sorry to say. Ordinary cook, i no cook do not warrant such attack abeg. I guess OP also took advantage of her being a female. I'm sure he can't try such to his younger brother. That one go break him head as man to man.


Op should learn to stay on his on and prepare whatever you feel like eating by yourself. Just for peace to reign. But if she prepare food for the family to eat fine and if she doesn't so be it. Enter kitchen and prepare what you'd eat. You're there just for the mean time.

.. @Op, sorry. Abeg , which advice do you need ? Before I opened this thread, I have envisioned the exact senerio you wrote out.

..na common sense advice you need ( I'm not being rude here). It's because you are under the same roof with her , with your parents. Sorry about the negative turn of events on your path but you should know that progress attracts family and friends to you, I won't mention the other part because you've not failed.

Because you are down today doesn't mean you have failed. No.

That's why many times in life, when you are down, dont go stay with family members instead look for friends and hang out with and keep pushing and strategizing . Even a stranger that is not related to you will reason well with you during your trying period.

... please, leave seniority matter, yes, you are and still remain the Diokpa (senior) of the house but to regain your respect, leave the house.

When jungle mature, na that your younger sister go dey find how to reach out to you with Apologies.

Rowllland:
I am 32 years old, I am the eldest among my siblings (2 boys, 2 girls), My younger brother (2nd born) just travelled to the U.K as at November last year, my younger sister (3rd born) just graduated from the University and waiting to be mobilized for nysc while our last born is still in school.
@32 I still live with my parents, I lost my job for the past one year, things have really been tough for me to the point where I can’t pay my rent, I have to come back to my parent’s house to stay.

Since I started living with my parent, I get lot of disrespect from my younger sister (3rd born) whom I senior with 9 good years, my parent always take her sides whenever she disrespects me. There are some of her behaviors I can’t even type here. They have suddenly forgotten how much I cared for them when things were going well for me.

Yesterday evening 6pm, I noticed she was cooking noodles for herself in the kitchen and I gently told her since there is soup in the fridge why not make Eba for everyone to eat.. in her response she said: she’s tired o. I kept mute, then I said ok just place the water on the fire I’ll make the Eba myself.
After few minutes she was done eating her noodles I asked her if the water was ready and she said she hasn’t boiled the water as she frowns at me,.. out of anger I landed her 2 hot slaps on her face… she ran to her room, locked the door and started crying, she hurriedly called my younger brother in U.K and started reporting me to him, I could hear her crying loud and telling him many gibberish. Even reported me to our last born who is in school.

She remained in her room until my parent came back from church around 8pm, immediately she heard their voice, she came out from her room, flared up and started crying endlessly, talking down on me, she told my parent I beat her up mercilessly, she said I injured her in her mouth and she has been spitting out blood from her mouth… I remained silent as my parent yells at me.

I regretted hitting her, I have never hit a lady in my life. I wanted to even apologize to her but on a second thought I said No becus she don’t greet me anymore.

i do not support disrespectful from anyone be it senior or junior. You fvckup hitting your sister. She's not your maid nor your wife. I wonder how you will do if you eventually settle down and have your own wife. You will cut off your wife head if she told you to your face that she isn't cooking right?

Villa12:
Make we hear word. Na where your power end na there another person own start. You think because you're older than someone or your younger ones in age then that automatically can make you do and undo? Let me tell you something guy. If you're the firstborn and una last botn get money pass you den forget it. He/she can do you just anything and he/she go use money close your family member mouth. Money is Power and it really stop nonesense. Shey u no know say with money anybody go lick your feet? Dey there dey form.

I am not in anyway supporting OP sister's behavior but OP is absolutely wrong for hitting her. Like who does that? You see why if some of these girls said BROKE men are violence by nature una go think say they no just like broke men. But they're actually right. No comfortable or Rich guys will do such. I really pity the woman that will end up with OP I'm sorry to say. Ordinary cook, i no cook do not warrant such attack abeg. I guess OP also took advantage of her being a female. I'm sure he can't try such to his younger brother. That one go break him head as man to man.


Op should learn to stay on his on and prepare whatever you feel like eating by yourself. Just for peace to reign. But if she prepare food for the family to eat fine and if she doesn't so be it. Enter kitchen and prepare what you'd eat. You're there just for the mean time.

I understand that there are different families but I'm talking about my own family where responsible and wise parents didn't raise rude brats.